Speed Seduction®
Introductory Course
Transcript:
Language
Patterns Basics
Part 5
Created By
Ross Jeffries
The “Guru of Getting Some”
www.Seduction.com
For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying, begging, buying, B.S, booze
or biceps, in his seduction of women.
Copyright © 1988-present Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author.
Disclaimer
Speed Seduction® courses may contain viewpoints that may be considered
controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for self-
respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by
default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve.
I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or Seduction.com (or any of our other
websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions,
and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party.
You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact
on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only.
While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are
recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this
product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that
the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for
which they may be used.
Ross: One of the ways I notice they’re responsive is to see if they’re
matching me. It’s amazing to see it. Sometimes I’ll point it out. I’ll
say, “Hey, can I ask you something? I know it’s going to be
something strange. Don’t move. Don’t change anything. Look at
how you’re sitting and look at how I’m sitting. Wow, there must be
something going on here because we’re completely matched.” I
play with the response.
I have to tell you the truth. Oftentimes women will just say to me,
“What do you do for a living?” I tell them, and then they get really,
really intrigued by it. My situation is a little bit different than the
person down the street. Curious, curious, etc.
From there, you have to watch for responsiveness and notice
what’s going on. How responsive are they? Are they a little
responsive? Are they very responsive? What’s going on in the
situation?
One of the things I’m testing for is once I see that they’re involved
in the conversation, I’ll very slightly begin to alter the pace at which
I speak and just see what happens. If they really start to like it, then
I know I can do more, but if not, I back up.
I also want you to practice touch. I want you to practice friendly
touch and a little bit of the dominant touch. Then practice a little bit
of a sexual touch. It’s depending on the response you see. If you’re
seeing very little response, then move on.
1
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Let’s say you’re in the situation where you’re enjoying talking to
each other, but you don’t have any more time and you have to go.
I’ll say, “Look, I know we haven’t had that much time to talk. You
obviously have to get going, and I’m very busy, too. I’ve got to get
going.” There are different things you can say. I’ll say, “Look, if
you’re not with someone who’s with you in the way you truly want
them to be, maybe we owe it to each other to hang out a little bit.”
I’ll be that strong about it.
Or “If you’re not with someone who’s ringing all your bells, maybe
you and I should hang out a little bit and just see what happens.”
That’s one thing to practice. Or you could say, “I know we haven’t
had that much time to talk. I’ve got to get going. You’ve got to get
going. What steps can we take to make sure we get to talk again?”
That’s another one. Or “Why don’t we just exchange information?”
But I don’t have a lot of time to waste. I’ll just say directly, “I don’t
know what your social situation is, but if you’re not with someone
who’s ringing all your bells, maybe you owe it to yourself to spend a
little time with me.”
“I don’t know what your social situation is.” That’s a pacing
statement, because it’s true. If I say to a woman I’ve only spoken
with for 20 or 30 minutes, “I don’t know what your social situation
is,” am I telling the truth? Yes.
2
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
“I don’t know what your social situation is, but if you’re not with
someone who’s ringing all your bells, maybe you owe it to yourself
to spend a little time with me and see what you might be missing.”
Hear the suggestion? “You might be missing.” “Maybe you owe it to
yourself to spend a little time with me and see what you might be
missing.”
It also depends on the age of the girl. If she’s 20 or 30 years
younger, I’m not going to say anything like that. I’m going to say,
“Look, we’re obviously way too far apart in age to do any kind of
dating or anything like that, but you seem like a cool, fun person to
talk with. Why don’t we hang out sometime and see if we can just
enjoy talking again?” It really depends.
Practice two of those. Practice two ways of asking for more time. It
depends on the situation. If you’re in a situation where you’re
obviously getting along, you also want to have at least one thing to
say to get her to leave with you.
If that’s happening, I’ll say, “Why don’t we go somewhere a little
more quiet where we can really relax and focus in?”
Practice at least two ways, if you know you’re not going to have
more time, to get some kind of information and practice two things
you could say to get her to leave with you. “You know what? Let’s
get out of here and go somewhere else.” Or “Why don’t we go
somewhere a little quieter where we can relax and focus in?”
3
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
I don’t like the idea of “making your move” or any of that. For me,
my standard thing to do is say, “I’ll be right back. I’ve got to visit the
little boy’s room,” and rub the back of the neck and see how they
respond.
I’ve had women say to me, “I wasn’t that into you. I was going to
blow you off. But when you rubbed the back of my neck, I thought
‘take me.’” I’m not kidding.
Just have two ways to resume physical contact or initiate it when
you’re alone together and two ways of handling whatever
resistance that may come up. Just make it simple. Have no more
than two of each. Just practice two different types of locations
where you can do this. Don’t try night clubs, bars, coffee places.
Just get good at two.
And get coaching. I have my coaching program. You get to talk to
me. We add it in. I used to do four video modules every month, but
after 23 years, I’m repeating myself and people stopped asking
questions. Now instead of just getting to talk to me twice a month,
we have three call-in days. We have a phone bridge. We have
office hours once a month where you can call me on my private cell
and talk to me for 10 minutes, and then we do a video meeting. We
do something called Mega Meeting where we can talk to each
other. Get coaching. The first month is $1, and if you don’t like it,
quit.
4
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant: Wouldn’t it be difficult to get coaching because you have so many
students?
Ross: On the phone bridge, it can handle 200 people. Not that many
people call in. Or find a sarging buddy that you’re accountable to.
Participant: I have a question about the calls. I can see them being really good
learning tools, but I can see it being a crutch.
Ross: He can see them being useful, but he can also see them being like
a crutch. What do you mean by that? I think I understand, but let’s
unpack that. What do you mean?
Participant: I’m a beginning. I consider myself a beginning at this. I can see
learning a few patterns, trying them out and a bit of experience, but
they’re not really my experience. For example, Discovery Channel
pattern.
Ross: What you’re saying is you really did not watch a show on TV about
the Discovery Channel and you feel somehow that’s being
deceptive talking about.
Participant: Not deceptive. I’m just saying it’s more natural if it’s from my own
experience.
Ross: I get it. How do you take an experience of yours and turn it into a
pattern that relates to something that really could excite a woman?
5
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant: Also, a way of structuring a pattern. In seduction, I can see it’s
brilliant. The examples are fantastic. But in other areas of social life,
even in writing – for example, copywriting and art.
Ross: I have a course on how to do this in copywriting and articles – mind
frame persuasion. He asked a brilliant question. How do you come
up with a pattern that reflect your own experience? First of all, you
want to pick an experience that has to do with good feelings. You
don’t want to say, “Have you ever been really, really sick? I was in
the hospital. First of all, imagine that feeling where you have to
strain just to get any air because there’s fluid in your lungs. I don’t
know if you can picture this as I describe it, but every muscle
begins to twitch with agony. Then inside your mind, you begin to
visualize pictures of yourself slowly shrinking away. Not only that,
but I don’t know if you fear needles, but do you ever see a needle
and when you’re really afraid a needle this long actually looks like
THIS? That went on for day after day.”
You don’t want that. Pick an experience that’s real that relates to a
theme that might be exciting to women. For example, peak
experiences or connecting with something really beautiful. I just
want to give you an example for me. One of the most touching,
amazing, and beautiful experiences that I’ve ever had in my life is a
long time ago, I went with girlfriend at the time to Alaska. A student
invited us.
The first thing we noticed – I don’t know if you can remember the
feeling (hear the command?) of seeing something so unexpectedly
6
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
beautiful that it just took your breath away. But if you can really tune
into that feeling for a moment as I’m describing it, just so you can
understand my experience, Debbie, if you could really tune into that
feeling just or a minute so you can understand my experience, we
went to meet our friend who was doing some work in a residential
neighborhood. I looked up in the tree, and at first I thought it was a
big pigeon. It was a bald eagle. I couldn’t believe it. I don’t know
about you, but for me, there’s something so remarkably beautiful
about that bird. It’s so majestic, so graceful, and so powerful all at
the same time.
Many animals are powerful. Many animals are graceful. But when
power and grace come together, you could be feeling so-so, but
when you see a beautiful animal like that, I don’t know about you,
but for me, the feelings just move in a new direction.
I’m not making this up, by the way. This is a true story. Everywhere
we looked, there were bald eagles in the trees. It was completely
unexpected. Then we figure let’s do something fun that we normally
would never do. We went salmon fishing. I have no clue about
doing any of this, so basically the guide set the hook and basically
they were the ones who reeled the fish and we got to bring it onto
the boat.
But we heard that the whales were running, and my girlfriend at the
time started crying. She said, “Come on, just bribe the captain.
Let’s see whales.” So I gave him some money and we’re cruising
around and we got within 20 feet of a humpback whale. You may
7
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
not think whales are anything special. I understand. But I am telling
you, this was an unbelievably beautiful creature.
Then we got a surprise. She rolled to one side and lifted her flipper
and she had a baby nursing. I looked at my girlfriend and she
looked at me and we went, “WhoaJ” I don’t know how you’re
relating to this, I don’t know if you can imagine this feeling as I
describe it, but it was a feeling of just absolute wonder and being
totally absorbed.
But that is not the whole of the story. I don’t know how this is
possible. She actually somehow – that mother whale – ponged the
boat with her song. We could hear it. It bounced off the boat.
I looked at my girlfriend and she looked at me and there was
something about the power and beauty of that moment, and
somehow that beauty wrapped itself around us and we just gave
each other the most beautiful, amazing kiss. I can still really feel it,
Debbie, even as I describe this story.”
Do you hear it? “Really feel it, Debbie, even as I describe this
story.”
Here are the elements. First of all, pick an experience for you that
really moved you in some way, that relates to a positive theme. I
want you to write the story out and put in some sensory rich
descriptions. Not “We saw eagles.” Wow!
8
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant: Colorful.
Ross: Not necessarily. Colorful implies visual imagery, which is fine. You
want to include visual imagery, but you also want to describe what
it felt like – the flow of feel in the body. You want to add in little
suggestions like, “Look, I know this wasn’t your experience and I
don’t know if you can imagine this as I describe it (hear the
command?). I don’t know if you can feel this as I describe it,
Debbie, butJ”
At some point, you also want to add in, if you can, some kind of
sexual metaphor. I’m kind of spinning this as I go along. “I don’t
know about you, but for me, eagles are so majestic and powerful,
and at the same time, they’re so graceful. Many animals are very,
very powerful and many are really, really graceful in the movements
that they make. But to find power and grace in one place,
sometimes it just moves your feelings in an amazing new direction.”
When I say “new direction” I’m picturing in my mind what I want her
to see. I’m going into a tiny bit of a sexual stage. When I say an
ambiguity like “new direction” I’m picturing in my mind a nude
erection. If she’s in rapport and following along with me and getting
into the feelings, when I say “new direction” and picturing that, it’s
likely – if not merely possible – that’s what she’ll see.
It should contain sensory rich description, some commands to
imagine this, feel this. “I don’t know if you can imagine this as I
describe it,” “I don’t know if you can imagine being able to feel this,”
9
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
“I don’t know if you can feel it as I’m describing it, because I realize
it’s not your experience.” It should contain sexual metaphor like
“nude erection” or “feel your opening”.
The more you see nonverbal signs that she’s really into the story,
the more you can subtly slow the pace at which you speak – just
subtly. You should speak slowly enough that she can picture what
you’re describing. Some people need more time.
It should include the possibility of her wanting to participate. If she
says, “Oh, my God, yes, one time I wasJ” Incorporate her
responses back into the story. If you hear her say, “Oh, my God,
you must have been feeling an amazing vibe,” or something about
karma, say, “Yeah.” Incorporate her responses back.
The Discovery Channel, I watched the show. I didn’t actually go on
the roller coasters. I hate them.
Participant: Would another way of doing it is if you’re having a discussion and
experience which actually allows itself, from the target’s point of
view.
Ross: I don’t like the word target. Don’t ever say that to me again.
Participant: Sorry about that. The other person’s point of view, that they talk
about maybe they went traveling and they saw some great things in
their own experience as well.
10
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Ross: You’re saying they start talking about traveling.
Participant: Or say I saw something great and you can ask how they think
about it.
Ross: What you say is, “What was your favorite part of that? Tell me your
favorite part of that.”
Participant: Before, you were talking about having your e-mails tangled up. Is
there any exercise we can do to help with that.
Ross: Emotional detangling. I have one in the most recent Magick
seminar we did. My suggestion is get Shinzen Young’s “Break
Through Difficult Emotions”. Shinzen has a CD series, but you can
get it as an mp3 download.
Let’s talk about sexual metaphor and accelerating things. I’ll give
the masturbating on the phone pattern. It’s kind of vulgar. You can
use this on the phone, but you can use this with anything you’re
doing.
Let’s say you’re doing something – maybe it’s rubbing the back of
her neck or doing a joke, poem, or story. I like to use this if I’m
doing some kind of demonstration. I only do this with women who
overtly tell me that they like hypnotic stuff. I’ll say, “What if I could
show you something you could do with your feelings that would
11
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
help you feel really, really good? Would you be the kind of person
who’s interested in seeing that?”
Let me get to the point of showing you. I call it focus commands. I
remember doing this once with a girl on the phone. She wanted to
have a little demonstration of trance on the phone. I said, “I’ll tell
you what. Let me read you a little trance poem that I wrote. But I’ll
give you fair warning: it’s pretty arousing.”
She said, “Okay.”
I don’t pretend it’s something other than what it is. If they give their
consent to something like that, it’s not being creepy. You just say, “I
like exploring trance and erotic stories and I wrote something that’s
pretty exciting. It may be too strong for you.”
But if they say, “No, it’s not; I want to hear it,” then I have
permission. If you ask a girl and she says, “Yes, I want it,” then
you’re not doing anything creepy. She’s giving you permission.
Verbal consent. I’ll do the story or poem.
Sometimes I’ll do a demo. Have you ever seen me do the energy
ball demonstration? Breathe in, it gets bigger; breathe out, it gets
smaller. It’s in the footage collection.
12
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
I’ll say something like, “Now, I invite you to notice how just by taking
a deep breathJand letting it outJyou can really, really tune into
those feelings.
With this girl I was playing with on the phone, I read her a poem
about fascination. She said she wanted it. In that case, I said,
“Notice how just by taking a deep breath and letting it out, all the
best feelings and all the best images from that story can come
flooding through you again.”
You can use this if you’re giving that massage. Let’s say I’m sitting
back at my place. She already has shown me through her
nonverbals that she likes the way I touch her. Let’s say I rub the
back of her neck and she shivers and sighs, I’ll say, “On a scale of
1-10, how good does that feel?” Why am I asking that?
Asking people to measure things, creates the idea in their mind that
it’s real. We don’t measure imaginary things. “On a scale of 1-10,
how good does that feel?” She’ll tell me and I’ll say, “If and only if
you want even better feelings, say more please.” You’d be
surprised. They actually will say, “More please.”
Understand I’m not going to walk up and say, “Hey, Debbie, I’m an
erotic hypnotist. Would you like to be hypnotized so you get so
sexually turned on that we fuck?” This is in context. She’s already
shown nonverbally that she really likes the way that I’m touching
her.
13
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Frankly, I like building sexual tension. I like that tension. Women
understand this more than men. Not every woman can remember
what it’s like and imagine it for herself. Sometimes there’s that
tension between you and a guy. You know there’s an attraction.
You know it’s there. There’s that tension of something is about to
happen. I like building that. That feels good and exciting to me. Not
everyone really likes the feeling of sexual tension beginning to
build, but some people really do.
I’ll say, “If and only if you want better feelings, say more please.”
When she says “more please” – they always do. Sometimes I have
them say, “More.” I’ll say. “No. More, please.”
Then I’ll say, “Open your eyes and look at me,” in a commanding
tone of voice. I really want them now to start getting into the fact
that I’m really strongly leading them. Many women, in the right
context, find that very exciting. I’m not saying tell women what to do
in a relationship. I’m really not saying that, because I think it’s
beastly and boring – and it’s too much work.
Once she says, “More please,” I’ll say, “It doesn’t matter whether
you focus in.” I want you to underline the word “focus in”. That’s the
command: to focus their attention inward. Essentially, it’s a
suggestion to go into trance. One definition of trance is an inward
focus of attention.
14
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
“It doesn’t matter whether you focus in on where you feel that
feeling flowing firstJ.” What’s the implication of that? That the
feeling is flowing – it’s not just sitting there.
“Or whether you focus in on where you feel it flowing next or
whether you focus in on your opening or where you really want to
feel it go right now.”
What do I mean by opening? “Or whether you focus in on your
opening for where you want to feel it flowing now.”
By the way, have you ever used any of this focus in language and
have it work? How well did it work?
Participant: It was incredible sex afterwards.
Ross: It really got her going. It sounds like nonsense. It sounds like
there’s no way this shit could work.
Participant: For me, what I was doing is, while we were actually having sex, I
was still saying it.
Ross: Let me tell you something. This part of the stuff is great for
enhancing the sex that you’re having.
15
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant: I was saying I’m going to stop, but when I continue, it’s going to be
twice as good or twice as better.
Ross: She’s probably a good responder.
“Whether you focus in on your opening for where it feels
absolutelyJ”
Or “Whether you focus in on your opening for where you feel it
flowing now.”
“What really matters is for you to open your eyes and see
something you really, really want.” Then when she opens her eyes,
that’s when you go.
I have to tell you something. This is really laying it on thick. I want
you to understand women love being sexual. You don’t need to do
this much. It’s fun to do this much. I have to confess. One of my
kinkier things I like to do – this is just one of my fetishes – is if I’m
massaging a girl’s neck a little bit, sometimes rather than making
out with her, I’ll say, “Why don’t I get my table out and I’ll give you a
little massage.” Then as I’m doing it, I’ll say, “On a scale of 1-10,
how good does this feel?” What I’ll do is massage the sacrum and
I’m hearing the moan and they’ll say, “10.” I’ll say, “Do you want it
even better?” They’ll say, “Yes.”
16
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
I’ll say, “You may be surprised to find there’s a color to this feeling.
What’s the color?” They’ll tell me and I’ll say, “I wouldn’t want you to
imagine that my hands are dipped in that color, so everywhere and
everywhere I touch, you can feel it flowing.” It’s really playing with
them. It’s a power trip. I shouldn’t do it and I pretty much have
stopped doing it, but that’s taking it into the level of feeding your
ego where it starts getting dangerous.
Participant: Can you point me to a resource to learn these massages and the
touch stuff?
Ross: I think that’s in the power pack. The Speed Seduction 3.0 Power
Pack includes the erotic touch.
When you join the coaching program, there’s currently something
like close to 200 videos in there, and one of the videos in there
shows me giving this demonstration on this unbelievable Swedish
girl. God, she was beautiful. Scandinavian drives me up a wall.
Sir, you used this kind of language before sex?
Participant: Before and during.
Ross: When you were using it before sex, what were you amplifying? How
were you creating the initial feeling?
17
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant: I thought I would just get talking. I was just laying some of these
patterns on just to enhance the feeling. It felt like having a normal
conversation and I wanted to sexualize and start seeing some
results.
Ross: So you saw that she was having some feeling and you said, “It
doesn’t matter whether you focus inJ”
Participant: Yeah.
Ross: Then did you see a visible change in how excited she was?
Participant: You could easily see that she was a bit more turned on.
Ross: Yeah. All of these tools can be used to enhance once you’re
involved with someone. But once you’re involved with someone, I
want to make sure it’s consensual. In a sense, it’s consensual
anyway. They’re there because they’re enjoying it. It’s not like
you’re saying, “Debbie, go to sleep,” and snap and then you say,
“Open your eyes but stay asleep,” and then you have sex with her
and give you a command to forget it. This is a fantasy that doesn’t
exist in reality. First of all, I wouldn’t do it. Even if it were possible,
it’s sick. But I’m telling you it’s impossible to do in any case. It’s all
myth.
18
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
When you’re doing this with women, they’re participating. They’re
enjoying it. The minute they stop enjoying it, guess what? Exit
stage left. They leave.
Participant: I took this class a year ago and when I first heard about all the
sexual metaphor, it was a little bit difficult to believe that it works.
Ross: So you took this class in London a year ago, and when you heard
it, you didn’t believe it worked.
Participant: No. I was skeptical about it. I decided to try it out and I was really
shocked at how much it works.
Ross: What kind of sexual metaphors would you use?
Participant: Any conversation I would have, I’d just insert some kind of sexual
metaphor.
Ross: Like what, like new direction, feel your opening.
Participant: Yeah, and I’d point to my cock a lot and everything. But it was very
subtle. It’s unbelievable how many women react to it and they don’t
get it because girls that were also friends of mine would bring their
girlfriends over, so I’d be hitting on their girlfriends.
19
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Even my friends, the girlfriends would have a huge smile on their
face. At first I thought they were “catching” me, and then I would
ask them. They just enjoyed it. They never caught onto it, but there
was this subtleness that was in their subconscious that really came
out. It was really shocking.
Ross: I know it seems impossible. Never underestimate the power of what
seems absurd and ridiculous to actually give you some amazing
results. Outside of the context of understanding how they work, it
looks ridiculous. But when you understand how they work and you
have someone who’s participating with you, they’re showing you
they enjoy it through their verbal and nonverbal. If they don’t enjoy
it, they’re not going to be there. They’re going to leave.
People make accusations. Someone wrote in some blog, “You’re
promoting rape culture.” I wrote back, “To trivialize a brutal, violent,
criminal act by comparing it to what I’m doing just so you can score
rhetorical points is really disgraceful. What you’re saying is wrong.”
I am in no way advocating. I’m not advocating bullying, begging,
booze or any of that. I’m simply saying use language and touch and
metaphor and story to be fascinating, to be intriguing?
Then the question comes up: “How do I know she really loves me
for me?” We’re not talking about love in this context. We’re talking
about desire and attraction. Maybe she won’t love you. I don’t
know. I can’t deal with that. I don’t have any answers to those
questions.
20
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Many of you really don’t need as much of this as you think. I’m
giving it to you because it’s fun and it works. See how little you can
do and still get results. First practice all of them, but then start
leaving stuff out and see how much you can leave out and still get
results.
Participant: What happens when they want to meet Debbie?
Ross: Have you ever had that happen? I’ve never had that happen.
Participant: It’s like the conversation was, “She sounds really interesting.”
Ross: I’ve never, ever in my life had a woman want to meet Debbie. So
don’t use it and say, “I have this friend who used to say,” or “My
best friend’s girlfriend’s neighbor’s aunt used to say.” Stack the
reality.
Bandler and Grinder came up with this. If you stack reality, people
can’t tell who you’re referring to. If I say, “I had a friend whose next
door neighbor had an aunt who always used to sayJ” they’re like,
“UmJokayJ” And in it slides.
Participant: I tried a couple of things yesterday. Particularly I wanted to try the
“Wouldn’t you really want to cut loose?” routine. I didn’t get very far.
Ross: You tried the “Cut Loose” routine and didn’t get very far.
21
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant: A friend of mine is in a band and he wants to get photos of people
wearing his t-shirt in front of public locations, so he got this t-shirt
and went to Buckingham Palace and Big Ben. This Russian girl
came past. I told her what he was doing and said, “Can you pose in
this t-shirt?”
She said, “That’s very weird,” but she did it anyway.
Then we just had a little chat about what she’s doing in her life.
Then I – probably too abruptly – said, “I just want to ask you,
because I’m curious, when you really want to cut loose and just
escape and let go, what do you like to do?”
Then she thought and said, “That’s a very weird question. I don’t
know.”
At that time, I had run out of material and I just said, “Think about it.
I hope you enjoy your stay in London.” I left it at that.
Then I was on the train, a young woman sat down beside me and I
was thinking, “When I talk to her, what do I say?”
After a while, I said, “Is this the right train for Hammersmith?”
knowing it was. Then I got into a bit of a chat about what I’m doing
in London and what she’s doing. Then I did, “When you want to cut
looseJ”
22
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
She said, “Well, I’d really love to try skydiving.” It’s hypothetical.
She hadn’t done it. I said, “Do you remember the moment when
you realize that you really wanted to do this?”
She was a bit vague about it. She heard about some people doing
it and it sounded really fun. I didn’t really progress it any particular
way.
What I find difficult is really sexualizing the context. I can get a nice
chat.
Ross: There’s example after example. When you do the Twin Brothers
thing, just start to sexualize it that way through offering
suggestions. You’re reporting something else. You’re reporting you
tried it twice and you didn’t get good responses to it. They didn’t
respond very well to your question, “When you really want to cut
loose, what do you do?”
Well, two tests is not enough to determine anything. Try it ten times
and see what happens.
23
Speed Seduction® Introductory Course
"Language Patterns Basics, Part 5" Transcript
Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Website – http://www.seduction.com
