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Mental Health

Moving through anxiety

Liked Anxiety by James James (jamesg.blog)

Why do I feel this way?

Deep down, I knew something was amiss. My mind raced when I went outdoors, imagining unrealistic scenarios that, in hindsight, were a symptom. I was hyper-aware of the people around, wondering if they were watching, almost all the time.

I worried when people looked at me. Were they about to say something mean to me? Approaching people to ask questions – no matter how common – scared me. I didn’t want to take up space. No, I didn’t deserve to take up space.

…I didn’t want to hear about all of the work that I would need to do to help my mind relax. I wanted an easy solution.

My anxiety has ebbed and flowed over the years, but never disappeared entirely. It’s usually correct in telling me something is wrong, but it may not be directly expressed. I’ve learned ways to manage and mitigate it, and I’m getting better at interpreting what’s upsetting me. I also made the most progress when I honored what I was feeling instead of rejecting it, decided that my needs were important, and acknowledged I needed to make a major change.

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Art and Design Meta

Defining constraints for a new creative project

Much of my free time is oriented around reading — on my phone, on my kindle, in a paper book — and I’ve been feeling like it’s been too long since I made something. Blogging is a great outlet for thoughts, but writing is my default response, and there are so many other formats I’d like to play with — I just need to remember to do them. As part of my recovery process to bring down my elevated cortisol levels, my therapist has also encouraged me to do more tactile and immersive activities.

I’m working on multiple long-running projects that take a huge upfront time investment before they’re ready to share with others. It’s hard to measure my progress in much besides hours invested. It would be nice to finish some things. (That’s something I like about blogging; the format encourages me to finish and publish.)

I find it challenging to create visual art for the sake of creating. I suspect I am more a designer than an artist at heart. Blogging works well for me because there are endless prompts to think about. I have way more ideas for fiction than I’ll ever have time to write. But visual art? Inventing something pretty to draw feels kind of meaningless — purely aesthetic — but I’m not sure how to translate what I can do with writing into the visual arts.

In the past, identifying themed projects for myself has unlocked a ton of creative energy for design and other types of work that aren’t my first instinct to turn to. Time-based art challenges like MerMay and Inktober spurred me to draw more, but the daily pressure to create was too intense and the prompts felt hollow since I didn’t pick them. A more enjoyable — and meaningful — project was making daily comics during a vacation.

I’d like to give myself a creative focus, a new project to orient my art around this fall, so I’m starting by brainstorming the boundaries of what I want out of it. Constraints make a project. If I draw a bunch of random shit, it’s a sketchbook; if the drawings have a theme, it’s a collection 😎

Although waiting for an organic idea for a project sounds more natural, thinking back, I’ve always had a goal that served as a constraint at the core of each project idea: I made vacation comics because I’d always wanted to do hourly comic day but missed it again right before I was leaving on vacation; I created my Sense Memory project because I wanted to experiment with a newsletter format and revisit old photos; I created an online t-shirt shop for my political satire project because I wanted to critique capitalism through capitalism.

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Lifestyle Mental Health

The ease of filling time

Liked Self Care by James GJames G (jamesg.blog)

I have been thinking a lot lately how easy it is to fill time.

I like to think about the next thing. What can I do next? How can I feel that feeling I get when I look back and say “today I did this!” That feeling really is delightful… I know, deep down, that feeling is unsustainable: one can’t be creative every day.

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Activism Featured Future Building Health

Extending my understanding of self-care: IndieWeb Carnival October 2023

This is in response to Pablo’s prompt of self-care as a blogging topic for the October 2023 IndieWeb blog carnival.

These days I’m thinking of myself more as part of a bigger whole, where yes, it’s important to take care of my mind and body, but also recognizing that our health is linked with others through our society and communities. It’s empowering both directions: I can help take care of my community by taking care of myself, and I can take care of myself through helping my community.

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Health

Embodied, embedded, extended and enactivistic self-care

Liked IndieWeb Carnival October 2023: Using 4 E of Cognition to Conceptualise Self-Care by Sara Jakša (sarajaksa.eu)

Still, in the spirit of the carnival, I am going to go through how I think about my self-care. In order to give it a bit more structure, I am going to structure it in the 4 E of cognition: embodied, embedded, extended, and enactivistic. That was the main thread of the cognitive science program I attended and I think it is a good way (but not the only way) of conceptualising how we think and act. The same principles can also be adapted to self-care.

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Art and Design Learning

Attended The 5 Secrets to Designing a Joyful Home

RSVPed Attending 5 Secrets to Designing a Joyful Home Free Workshop Registration Page

Key notes:

  • What kinds of moments do I want more of in my life?
  • Where specifically do those happen?
  • How can I change my house to create opportunity for more of those moments?
  • What would feel different about my life if my home supported me and was a place I loved?

It’s always a crapshoot what proportion of these free workshops is the upsell, this one was mostly content till almost an hour in. I’m interested in learning more, but more like $150 interested than $350 interested 🤷‍♀️

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Mental Health

Read How to Be Fine

Read How to Be Fine

A humorous and insightful look into what advice works, what doesn’t, and what it means to transform yourself.

I liked their format, starting with a list of “lessons” they liked from several books, then several things that didn’t work for them, then their “wishlist” of things that were missing from the oevre, which were all good ideas and ways to treat yourself kinder. That said, the chapters mostly felt too short to really reflect on the topics, and this book wound up feeling like a book report. There were some repeat offenders of bad books I now know never to pick up (most of those were titles you probably already have on that mental list), and a few new ones that sounded potentially worthwhile, but in all this was less than the sum of its parts. I’m not a podcast listener so I went into this cold.

Highlights:

On social events: “I call it my seventy-five-minute rule, and it’s based on the idea that staying at an event for an hour is polite, but staying for just over an hour is better, because it looks less obviously like a time limit.”

Life has a lot of hard parts that can’t be compartmentalized or broken down. Some things just have to be done slow and steady all the time, or ignored for a while and then done all at once.

“My “looking-forward” list also reminded me of the importance of novelty. When we’re living our day-in, day-out lives, it’s easy to fall into a rut. That rut can feel comfortable. But it can also keep us from growing, being challenged, and experiencing a genuine sense of surprise in the world… As I see it, it doesn’t even matter if we do most of the things on our looking-forward lists. It’s fine if we do just a few. More important is that we’re engaging with our fantasies and keeping an eye out for new things to dream about.”

What’s empowered me most in life has been speaking out and standing up. What’s made me feel less afraid and more in control is being anything but quiet. And what’s made me feel more connected with each moment has been getting out of my head and more into the world around me.

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Humor Mental Health Personal Growth Self Care

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Mental Health Personal Growth

Listened to Routines and Ruts Podcast with Sarah Wilson

Listened Sarah Wilson on showing up, going to your edge, and living an enlarged life by Madeleine Dore from Routines and Ruts

Best-selling author and activist Sarah Wilson on using routine to bookend your days, tilting rather than abiding by strict rules, cool aloneness as an antidote to loneliness, and showing up to our appointment in life – in our own way.

Like the idea of bookending days with a morning and evening routine. I appreciate her comments about the process being non-negotiable because she feels better when she does it. It’s nice to hear from someone else who struggles with sleep and mental health.

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Mental Health

Indulging in I Don’t Wanna

Quoted Honestly, to Hell With Self-Care Right Now by Jess Zimmerman (Slate)

“For an adult, the big, difficult feelings are expressed a little more quietly… Instead, we backslide on our smoking, spend too much money, eat potato chips even though they give us gas. We let the dishes pile up, stop washing our faces, cycle through the same three grungy outfits day after day. It’s not just laziness, or self-indulgence, or fatigue. It’s self-expression and protest: I will act miserable because I am miserable and I want to act the way I feel, and I don’t need to act like I feel better and you can’t make me. It’s a way of externalizing feelings that may be too big to communicate or contemplate on their own: maybe I can’t deal head on with the void of the future, but by god I can sit here refusing to get up until I need to pee REALLY bad. It is, in its own way, a kind of self-care.”

Jess Zimmerman

I have had moments in my life which I don’t look back on kindly where I just balked hard and refused what was on offer.  But maybe I shouldn’t beat myself up for those moments of listening to myself and admitting I don’t wanna, even if they didn’t turn out well.

Related:

https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/are-you-suffering-2020-election-burnout-you-re-not-alone-n1245586

“‘All my coping strategies are failing,’ one person told me recently. ‘I am coming undone.'”

“What’s changed is that our surge capacity — the body’s ability to process stress — was depleted months ago. We have so much grief and nowhere to put it. When you can’t process something, it builds up, like bile. And no matter how creatively or diligently you try to ignore it, it’s still there, slowly festering. At some point your body begins to betray your best compartmentalization strategies. Our dreams have become vivid and terrifying because sleep is one of the places we allow ourselves to confront our sadness and fear.

This sort of chronic instability, and the burnout and exhaustion that accompany it, fundamentally changes us.

— Anne Helen Petersen