Paul Chernyak, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
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Co-authored Articles (34)
How to Control Sexual Urges
''Keep urges and temptations at bay with this educational guide''Feeling the urge to have sex is a normal part of human nature. However, these feelings can sometimes interfere with daily life and relationships, sometimes...
How to
Cope when Your Partner Does Not Defend You to Family
When you’re in a relationship with someone, it’s important to work as a team. But when your partner struggles to balance their loyalties to you and to their family, you might feel anything but united. It’s common t...
How to
Tell Your Parents You Have a Boyfriend
Maybe you're a teenager with your first boyfriend, or maybe you're already a little older but have always struggled whenever you have to share news of a relationship with your strict folks. Maybe you're a guy yourself, s...
Is He Obsessed with Sex? Differentiating Normal Needs & Signs of Addiction
It sometimes seems like all guys think about is sex, but some of them can take this to the extreme. They may act like the only thing they can focus on is sex. You can tell if a guy is sex obsessed if you start by identif...
How to
Deal With Sexual Frustration
Sexual frustration happens to most people at some point or another, and it can have an impact on your personal life and relationships. However, you can channel your frustration into healthy outlets like art or exercise. ...
How to Test Your IQ: Finding the Right Assessment for You
Plus, how to understand your score & how it compares to othersThe best way to test your IQ is to take an assessment administered by a professional (like a psychologist or trained administrator). Although IQ tests are usu...
How to
Avoid Smiling at Inappropriate Times
There are many reasons that people smile or laugh. Usually, people smile because they feel happy or comfortable. However, sometimes they smile when it's actually inappropriate. This is usually caused by nervousness and n...
How to
Reconnect with People You Unfollowed on Facebook
In years past, your Facebook news feed was out of your control. Since the introduction of the “Follow” and “Unfollow” feature, you can remain friends with someone and still decide whether or not to see their post...
How to
Maintain a Low Profile
Are you shy? Are you entering a new environment and are not sure what to do? Do you simply want to go unnoticed for whatever reason? Keeping a low profile can help you navigate these situations and feel more comfortable....
How to Flirt with Girls like an Alpha
Highlight your confidence and charm with our helpful tipsBeing an “alpha male,” means being a dominant, self-confident, and strong man. It means knowing, and getting, what you want. Alpha men seem to always get what ...
How to
Win over Your Boyfriend's Mum
You want your boyfriend’s mother to like you just as much as you want to like her. Maybe you are meeting her for the first time and are nervous about impressing her. Or maybe you’ve already met her, and need to try a...
How to
Make People Feel Comfortable Around You
Do people tend to fall quiet when you walk into the room? If you're giving off a tense, uptight vibe, you might be making people uncomfortable. Minimizing awkward moments and getting rid of your shy demeanor can help. Wi...
How to
Define a Problem
You may encounter problems often in your personal life, in your professional life, and in your community. Any sort of problem can be daunting, but taking time to define a problem may help make it easier to find solutions...
How to
Act Serious
There are situations in life where it may benefit you to act serious. At a business negotiation, for example, you may want to maintain the appearance of seriousness. Cultivating a serious mentality at work can also help ...
How to
Daydream
Daydreaming is one of the best ways to engage your imagination for both inspiration and creative solutions. When you give your mind time to wander, you'll be amazed at how creative you can be. Daydreaming about achieving...
How to
Deal with an Existential Crisis
An existential crisis can strike suddenly, or it can be the product of much anguish. If you start to wonder about the meaning of life and to question where you fit in, then you are likely experiencing an existential cris...
How to
Not Cry
Crying is a natural response to tragedy, sadness, frustration, and other feelings. However, you may feel self-conscious or embarrassed about crying in certain situations. Luckily, there are several different techniques y...
How to
Not Have a Big Ego
Do you often bump heads with coworkers, relatives, or even dates because they say you act so full of yourself? Do you have trouble working in teams? Does asking someone else for help seem ridiculous and unnecessary to yo...
How to
Ask Permission from a Girl's Father to Date Her
If you know a girl's parents are strict, you may decide you need to ask her father for permission to date her. Alternatively, your girlfriend may ask you to do it to smooth things over with her parents. Either way, it ca...
How to
Be Wise
Confucius once said that there were three ways to learn wisdom: "First, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest." Gaining wisdom, the most ...
