ays: When a person intends to send a proposal for marriage, he , praise Allah and recite the following invocation:
hir Rah'maanir Rah'eem. n atazawwaja faqaddirli minannisaa-e- a-'affahunna farjawn ha wa maali wa aw sa-a'-hunna li rizqan wa a'-z'amahunna li aali anna atroko faqaddirli minha waladan t'ayyaban taj-a'lahu ati wa ba'da mauti.
f Allah the Beneficent, the Merciful. Therefore destine for me the most chaste of women and one uard herself and my property. Who shall be most auspicious and bounties. Then from her womb bestow a pure son who scence in my life and after my death.
hose intending to marry in the near future or the newly rt Handbook we have tried to put things in a nutshell. It is led reading of other books on Marriage, references of which book.
w the rules? lim to follow the Islamic laws not only in matters of prayers is actions. Islam has well defined rules about marriage and ollow Islam fully, then you must know the Islamic rules and ried life. Islam has never repressed the natural feelings of rules, which are divine.
ou to be faithful to your religion but would also shield you erature that portrays this natural instinct as one that must be sexual morality permits many things that are prohibited in rohibition of certain actions is not to act as an infringement but because Islam is concerned not only with your physical iritual enhancement. Moreover, we can see the degradation exual freedom prevails.
ook. ew life takes place through marriage. If Islamic rules are hild born will be chaste. Insha Allah, our progeny can then be Prophet (s.a.w.) and his holy Ahlul-Bayt (a.s.) followers.
MARRIAGE IN ISLAM: marry those among you who are single and those who are fit
nd your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing. (Surah Nur
h the words Wa Ankehoo (And marry ...) The imperative mplies that either it is obligatory or highly recommended. ugh marriage is a highly recommended act, it becomes chance of falling into sin.
se has been built in Islam more beloved in the sight of Allah
ophet (s.a.w.) said: "The best people of my nation (Ummat) and have chosen their wives, and the worst people of my kept away from marriage and are passing their lives as
Marry, because marriage is the tradition of the Prophet." The "Whosoever likes to follow my tradition, then he should m my tradition."
arriage. stricted to a platonic relationship between husband and wife, ion. The Islamic term for marriage, "Nikah" literally means has Islam provided extensive rules and regulation regarding m has fully understood that sexual instincts cannot and must only be regulated for the well being of human beings in this the hereafter.
n openly recommended in Qur'an, "When they [i.e., the selves [after menstruation], you go into them as Allah has rah 2:222)
rge. and the Holy Imams (a.s.) also encouraged their followers to xual urges in lawful ways as can be seen. The Holy Prophet g men! I recommend marriage to you."
ree things are from the traditions of the messengers of God: he [excessive] hair and visiting one's wife."
sm is Forbidden. monasticism and celibacy. Uthman bin Maz'un was a close One day his wife came to the Prophet and complained, "O n fasts during the day and stands for prayers during the
meant to say that her husband was avoiding sexual relations the day. The Prophet was angered. He did not even wait to nt to Uthman's house and found him praying. When Uthman rned towards the Prophet, he said, "O Uthman! Allah did not ather He sent me with a simple and straight [Shariah]. I fast, e relations with my wife. So whosoever likes my tradition, nd marriage is one of my traditions."
Married Life. married people remain healthier, physically and mentally. ed that marriage is beneficial for us in many ways.
e as a way to acquire spiritual perfection. The Prophet (s.a.w.) s already guarded half of his religion, therefore he should f." How true! A person who fulfills his sexual urges lawfully in spiritual pursuits.
value of prayers. "Two rak 'ats (cycles) prayed by a married person are better fast of a single person." A woman came to the Prophet ad tried everything to attract her husband but in vain; he does pay any attention to her. The Prophet (s.a.w.) told her to he reward of sexual intercourse, which he described as roaches his wife, he is guarded by two angels and [at that he is like a warrior fighting for the cause of Allah. When he s sins fall like the leaves of the tree [in fall season]. When he n, he is cleansed from sins."
enance. remarked, "Give spouses to your single ones, because Allah (improves it) (under the shadow of marriage) and expands ses their generosity (human values)."
MARRY?
marrying is when the individual reaches sexual as well as aturity may mean the capability of establishing a cordial o fulfill rights of family members.
amily is a natural and instinctive need, which Allah through human beings and is awakened at its particular time and and. If it is answered on time and its requirement fulfilled, it and makes the person perfect. If it is delayed or answered in mode, it deviates from its natural course, and in surges and
es corrupt itself, but also corrupts the man.
e for taking a woman's hand in marriage, Islam has several ng to Islamic laws, when a boy attains the age of fifteen, or e is Baligh, and has attained puberty. But this is not enough of marriage.
d to puberty, there is a concept of Rushd which can be a sensible conduct' or maturity. A husband has to be Rashid at the responsibilities of married life are sensibly discharged. be referred for exact details on physical and mental maturity.
y Marriage. an early marriage. Even those who feel they would not be f family are urged to repose faith in Allah, as He is the Giver go for an early marriage.
OUSE:
w much importance Islam has accorded to marriage and haps ask, "How do we select a spouse? What are the m in this regard? Do we look for some particular o get the best from the worldly point of view?"
ecessary? : "The notion that a man and a woman must 'know' each other y, so that they may then be able to live happily together is an y element of truth and validity in this, the divorce and s, which practice it, would not have shown a steady rise. hich take place without such pre-marital contacts would not ppily."
tended spouses to see each other for the purpose of selection d giving opinions if asked (without it being considered as ditions). We should never resort to deceive the opposite party the selection process. Such things can have serious ter marriage.
.s.) has not left us to follow our whims and fancies. We have d of selecting a suitable spouse. The most important criterion
or of Youth and Spouse Selection says, "The person who
s not have anything."
Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) to seek guidance for selecting a spouse. ing upon you to have a religious spouse."
ness for beauty and wealth, the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.) ho marries a woman for the sake of her wealth, Allah leaves and one who marries her (only) for her beauty, will find in her (unpleasing manners) and Allah will gather up all these things r the sake of her faith (religiousness)."
a (a.s.) wrote in reply to a person who had asked him if it was ghter to a person known for his ill nature, "If he is ill-natured y your daughter to him." The same will apply where the ature. Such a woman, though she may be beautiful and rich, husband miserable. She can never be patient in the rried life.
y Prophet (s.a.w.) gave no recognition to class distinction, but on compatibility. The marrying partners must be Kufw of e no unnecessary misgivings later. It is better for a religious to laws and principles to marry a man like herself.
phet of Islam (s.a.w.), "Whom must we marry?" matches)." hes?" nded, "Some of the faithful are match for others."
n intelligent and wise woman must not be matched except "
ssenger of Allah (s.a.w.) has given great emphasis on taking amily background when we intend to marry.
of a decent family, since the semen and the genes have
also said, "Look very carefully and minutely as to where you use genes and hereditary qualities are transferred in a al way and have their effect."
er of the Faithful, Imam Ali (a.s.) strongly forbade marrying a "Avoid marrying a stupid woman, since her company is a dren too get wasted."
alth: Though religiousness and piety are most important, it lly disregard the physical appearance and beauty of the
says, "When one intends to marry a woman, he should ask ks about her face (beauty), since the hair is one of the two
"Islamic law has placed certain restrictions on the choice of on blood relationships and religious affiliations." Maulana has summarized these laws in a beautiful way:
elationship
ations, which are considered Haraam for you as far as a general rule, anyone who is your Mahram is forbidden to of such relatives is given in the Qur'an as follows:
, paternal aunt, maternal aunt, niece, foster-mother, fosterdaughter, daughter-in-law, all married women, sister-in-law ur'an, ch. 4, verse 23-24)
aternal uncle, maternal uncle, nephew, foster-mother's ther-in-law, stepson, son-in-law.
Religion
marry: a Shi'ah Muslim woman and a non-Shi'ah Muslim is danger of being misled, then it is Haraam.
h or Christian woman in mut'a only. But he cannot marry a
an marry: a Shi'ah Muslim man or a non-Shi'ah Muslim man, do so; and if there is danger of being misled, then it is arry a non-Muslim man.
orbid marriage between first cousins, but there are opinions ainly due to a probable risk of the offspring inheriting genetic
EREMONY:
Does not qualify the future spouses to go out together, even and woman become permissible for each other only after the
ystem of demanding and accepting dowry must be avoided at make any expense incumbent on the bride/bride's parents. s, it is recommended to be borne by the bridegroom. ng whatever she wants of her free will, and it will always
ms: Many other unislamic customs have crept into the e Muslims. These customs are either borrowed from none because they are established in past generations. One must nst the Shariah, even if some people are displeased. Other of coconut etc. also do not feature among the Islamic rituals. which show disrespect to Islam or weaken the importance of
he rituals in marriage ceremonies are absolutely Haraam like also Haraam for ladies to go for mixed gatherings without nvite divine wrath and take away the blessings of this Islamic Law, marriage is an Aqd, a contract. The t are as follows:
process of proposal by a man to a woman for her hand in , to her family, is encouraged. Islam considers this natural, ct of respectability and dignity for women.
ng husband is asked to offer a Mahr to the bride. The Quran r Mahr as a free gift, but if they of themselves be pleased to it, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result.
orthy of consideration:
on by the marrying partners themselves, not by parents. ch her husband remains indebted. er price.
nd or non-material (like training or teaching something). It be in form of promise to pay upon demands decided prior to age. Moajjal (immediate), Muwajjal and Indat-talab (on uch recommended to pay it before or at the time of Nikah
According to Shariah, the wife-to-be says, 'An Kah'tu om'. ("I have given away myself in Nikah to you, on the
degroom) says, 'Qabiltun Nikaha'. ("I have accepted the
s, they become husband and wife.
e not able to recite the formula in Arabic, one or two persons d authorized to officiate. One who represents the bride would ent to officiate on her behalf, and so would the other who acts turally, there would be a slight variation in the he persons reciting them are appointees. A person who initiate by saying, "Ankah'tu muwakkilati muwakkilaka a'lal away in Nikah the woman who has thus appointed and who has authorized you, on an agreed Mahr.")
would respond, "Qabiltunnikaaha limuwakkili a'lal mah'ril ikah on behalf of the one who has appointed me, on the
rief discourse or Khutba before the Nikah formula is Allah is praised for His Wisdom in regulating the lawful then the traditions from the Prophet (s.a.w.) are also recited.
emony: Though basically marriage is allowed at all times, ich marriage is not recommended; some of these are based on al, historical reasons.
ze these days into three: (a) There are some ahadith which ecommended) to have a marriage ceremony on the days when ation of Scorpio (this is known as al-qamar fil aqrab or qamar wo or three days of the lunar months, and on Wednesdays. of the Islamic calendar, which have become associated with mic history; for example, the 10th of Muharram is the day of at Karbala or the day of the Prophet's death in Safar, etc. emorated by the Muslims as days of mourning, it is socially ously not recommended to have a marriage ceremony on such
elver Shias), especially in India and Pakistan, rarely perform n the 1st of Muharram and the 8th of Rabi al-Awwal as this ng days of Muharram culminating in the martyrdom of Imam
al-Awwal is celebrated as Eid-e-Zahra. Nikah, can be performed at any time.
e-to-be/Father: The girl's consent is necessary and has to be , directly.
the father's or the grandfather's permission is also necessary. is unreasonably withheld under some conditions or the girl dfather it is not necessary. However, a woman who is not a y permission in case of remarriage.
ma is highly recommended on the groom. The relatives, be invited for Valima. However, lavish spending is not the same money can be used effectively by the couple.
GHT:
hat the wedding should take place at night. The hadith says, home during the night." When the bride enters the room, the take off her shoes and wash her feet (in a washbowl) and then he room. Then he should perform wuzu and pray two-rak'at te the following du'a:
wa wuddaha wa riz"aaha bi; warz"ini biha, wa-ajma' baynana asi i-tilafin; fa innaka tuh'ibbul h'alaala wa tukrihul h'araam.
r affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me us together in the best form of a union and in absolute awful things and dislike unlawful things.
de to do wuzu and pray two-rak'at sunnat prayer.
to bed, the groom should put his hand on the bride's forehead a while facing the Qiblah.
akhadhtuha wa bi kalimaatika is-tah'laltuha. Fa in qaz"ayta li mubaarakan taqiyyan min Shi'ati Aal-i Muh'ammad (s'al-lalsallam) wa laa taj-'al lish Shayt'aani fihi shirkan wa laa
as Your trust and have made her lawful for myself by Your ave decreed for me a child from her, then make him/her ong the followers of the Family of Muhammad [peace be
o not let Satan have any part in him/her.
ual intercourse on the very first night after the wedding or can Shariah is concerned, it is neither obligatory nor forbidden ht. It is a private decision between the newly wed couple; it ers.
FOR SEX:
? intercourse during menstruation. The Qur'an says: They ask ay: "Menstruation is a discomfort (for women). Do not with them during the menses and do not approach them tops. Then when they have cleansed themselves, you go into ded you." (Surah Baqarah 2:222)
he duration of the monthly period is between three to ten or less than three days, it is not menstruation; if it is for more nstruation for the regular number of days and istehadha for ing which sex is permitted.
ng the periods is limited strictly to sexual intercourse; other exception of the vagina and anus) is allowed. However, it is body between the navel and the knees. If a person who is rse with his wife discovers that her period has begun, then he aw from her.
entioned above (until the blood stops) that once the blood has mes lawful even if the woman has not performed the major t mujtahids say that it is better to refrain from intercourse till at least, washes her private parts.
not allowed during the post-natal bleeding called nifas g daytime in the month of Ramadan, and when a person is in e to Mecca. At all other times, sexual intercourse is allowed.
ourse is Makruh:
occurrences, e.g., eclipse, hurricane, earthquake; b;
lunar months; y lunar month;
d Times for Sex. which say that it is better to have sexual intercourse at these
nts to have sex.
o have Sex? sex with his wife at least once in every four months; this is njugal rights of the wife. This obligation stays in force unless he wife waives her right.
UES:
es and laws either in foreplay or in intercourse. The only laws hed by the lovers by mutual and often unspoken s pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and the wife is ever is mutually displeasing is wrong. The only limitation to any Shariah rule, which goes against the wishes of the
ommended: lay. Imam Ali says, "When you intend to have sex with your he woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled)." Sex equated to cruelty. The Prophet (s.a.w.) said, "Three people s sex with his wife before foreplay."
without foreplay to animal behavior: "When anyone of you he should not go to her like birds; instead he should be slow
in sexual foreplay, the Imams have praised a wife who is with her husband. Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (a.s.) says, ou is the one who discards the armor of shyness when she and puts on the armor of shyness when she dresses up and chastity in public is the hallmark of a Muslim lady.
w that the husband and the wife should feel completely free
mutual stimulation, which is known as foreplay. There is o Islam, for a woman to be active and responsive during sex. all the mujtahids are unanimous in saying that the act of mustahab (recommended). Likewise, it is recommended not urse. The operative word is mutual pleasure and satisfaction.
: utual stimulation in foreplay are concerned, the Shariah wife to see, kiss, touch, smell and stimulate any part of each al sex, as it is known, is allowed. Imam Musa al-Kazim (a.s.) rson kiss his wife's vagina?" The Imam said, "No problem."
no foreign object should be used. The restriction on the use on the following hadith. Ubaydullah bin Zurarah says that he wned a young slave-girl. Because of his old age, he could not e-girl during sexual intercourse. She would therefore ask him vagina, as she liked it. The old man complied with her wishes e this idea. So he requested Ubaydullah to ask Imam Ali arUbaydullah asked the Imam about it, the Imam said, "There e uses any part of his own body upon her, but he should not body on her."
self-stimulation of one's own sexual organ till emission of owed, in the case of married persons, there is no problem if band's penis till the emission of semen or the husband a till orgasm. This is allowed because it does not come under mulation by a lawful partner.
tion for sexual intercourse, which is forbidden in Islam? No! ositions are concerned, there are no restrictions. The term otes the positions known as the man above, face to face, side position, face to face; rear-entry position in which the ina from the rear. Actually, the Shariah has left it on the plore and experiment as they wish. However, it is makruh to or to face the Qiblah or keep it on the backside during the to refrain from the acrobatic positions given by some the West, which might even cause physical harm.
s mutual pleasure and flexibility. If one partner does not like he other should yield to his or her feelings. It is highly mmencement of intercourse the partners should recite ah'eem (In the name of Allah the Beneficent, the Merciful).
hids vary on the permissibility of anal intercourse. The ahids have derived two conclusions: (1) that anal intercourse disliked (karahatan shadidah) provided the wife agrees to it. ee to it, then all mujtahids say that it is precautionarily wajib
ecade of his life, Ayatullah al-Khu'i departed from the e ruling that it was precautionarily wajib to abstain from anal her the wife agrees to it or not.
ad Rizvi says, "I would strongly advise against anal e saying of Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq and Imam Ali ar-Reza (a.s.) oman is a means of your pleasure, therefore do not harm her."
artners may first wipe their genitals with clean pieces of cloth. same cloth/towel must not be used by both of them.
NCY: has taught the following dua:
ma laa tadharni fardanw wa anta khairul waaretheen ayaqs'uroo a'n tafakkori bal habli a'afiyata s'idqin aanaso behim minal wah'shate wa askuno ilaihim minal da tamaame ne'matin yaa wahhaabo yaa a'zeemo yaa moee kulle a'afiyatin shukran h'atta tabloghani minha deethe adaaail amaanate wa waqaaain bil 'ahde
ot keep me solitary though You are the best of Inheritors. I oneliness. This worry has reduced my thankfulness to You. So ness and give me female and male children so that by their ror of loneliness. By which my loneliness is cured. So that on nty I can thank You. O the greatest Giver, O the Greatest, O after this bestows me with tawfeeq that I thank You for every e Your kindness by thankfulness, by speaking the truth, by illing oaths. AND ABORTION:
h, family planning as a private measure to space or regulate r economic reasons is permissible. Neither is there any ainst birth control, nor is it wajib to have children in
VE METHODS: e most commonly used contraceptive methods and determine le in Islam or not. It must be mentioned that we are studying methods from the Shariah point of view only. For the medical y or any side effects of these methods, the reader must n. Further each individual needs to check additional ly as per his Marja'a.
conception by inhibiting ovulation. Since all such pills inhibit ly no problem in using them. However, the individual must t possible side effects.
-after' and RU486 may be taken after the intercourse BUT not at pregnancy has already occurred.
ly like the pills, but instead of taking it orally it is injected This and other similar contraceptive methods by injection are
D): bjects, in a variety of shapes that are implanted inside the gnancy begins at implantation, there is no problem in using ce.
the sperm from entering the uterus. This is done by sheathing r by covering the cervix with a diaphragm, cervical cap, or spermicidal substances, which kill the sperm before reaching device. There is absolutely no problem in using these
le Period: dures to predict ovulation so that sexual intercourse can be mately six days of a woman's most fertile monthly phase. follows:
woman learns to recognize the fertile time by checking the on of the cervical mucus discharge. The cervical mucus y fertile period; and thus avoiding sex during the fertile days
thod similar to the first, but it depends on observing the
e year to determine the fertile days.
ethod, besides keeping a calendar record of her cycle, a perature daily to detect ovulation. She can know her ovulation emperature increases.
rrupts): thdrawing the penis just before ejaculation. This was the irth control before the invention of modern devices. nd Abdur Rahman bin Abi Abdillah Maymun asked Imam withdrawal. The Imam said, "It is up to the man; he may spill ed on this hadith, the majority of our mujtahids believe that but Makruh without the wife's consent.
ove do not involve surgical operation and they are also an) using these methods can stop using them at anytime in
n involves surgical operation: n as vasectomy, means the severing or blocking of the tube in . This tube or duct passes sperm from the testes to the ctive organs.
own as tubal ligation, involves the blocking or severing of the sport the ovum.
ization depends on whether or not it is reversible.
Birth Control: he use of contraceptives even without the approval of her ould not use a method, which may come in the way of her For example, she cannot force him to use condom or practice is based upon the principle that the extent of the husband's fe is just that she should be sexually available, responsive, does not extend to that of bearing children for him. Bearing l decision of the woman; and therefore, she may use ey do not come in the way of her husband's conjugal rights.
ue of birth control and abortion is very balanced. It allows cy but forbids them to terminate it. Abortion after the ed ovum in the womb is absolutely forbidden and is the law of God, and the fetus.
TION (GHUSL JANABAT):
nabat" is a ritual impurity caused by the discharge of semen nd the person on whom ghusl janabat becomes wajib is r'an says:
t go near prayers (salat) when you are... junub until you have Nisa 4:43) O you who believe! When you stand up for re junub, then purify (yourselves). (Surah Maidah 5:6)
USL JANABAT (There are two causes of janabat): oes not make any difference whether this discharge is while light or profuse, intentionally or otherwise, in lawful way or n). In all these cases ghusl janabat becomes obligatory
a man and he does not know whether or not it is semen, then owing three signs: (1) emission with passion; (2) spurting ed after the discharge. If these signs are found together on er the liquid as semen, otherwise not.
from a woman, then it is precautionary wajib for her to do ame with sexual passion and she felt relaxed after it. But if ut the sexual passion or without the feeling of relaxation after najis and therefore ghusl is not wajib upon her.
es not make any difference whether the intercourse was th or without discharge of semen. In Islamic laws, sexual e penetration of the glens into the vagina or anus of the anabat to become wajib it is not necessary that full semen should take place. In case of sexual intercourse, ghusl both the man and the woman. FOR A JUNUB (The following 4 acts are Haraam before
the Qur'an, the names and attributes of Allah, the names of d Fatimah (the daughter of the Prophet).
e Qur'an in which sajdah (prostration) is wajib. These verses ; verse 38 of chapter 41; verse 62 of chapter 53; and verse 19 ot to recite even a single verse from these chapters.
e mosque. The Qur'an says, "O you who believe!...Nor (are asjid) if you are junub until you have washed yourself except Nisa 4:43) Based on this verse and relevant ahadith, the
that a junub is totally forbidden from staying in the mosque.
s, one can pass through the mosques (by entering from one other). However, this exception of passing through does not es: the Masjidul-Haraam (the Sacred Mosque at Mecca) ue of the Prophet at Medina), and shrines of the Imams. A ough them. taking it out from a mosque.
DISLIKED) FOR THE JUNUB: makruh for a junub except after doing wuzu or gargling or
n verses from the Qur'an. This applies to other than the four mentioned above.
he Qur'an.
wuzu.
ALIDITY DEPEND ON GHUSL JANABAT: latul-mayyit (the prayer for a dead Muslim), which can be e of janabat.
ambulation of the Ka'bah in hajj).
wingly remains junub until dawn in Ramadan, his fasting will
RMING GHUSL: volves washing of the whole body. There are two methods of nown as ghusl tartibi, and the other is known as ghusl ordinal bath, performed in three stages.
jasat (e.g., semen or blood) from the body and after niyyat, in three stages: First, head down to the neck; then the right houlder down to the foot; and lastly, the left side of the body.
d thoroughly in such a way that the water reaches the skin. en while washing the head; the hair should be combed (e.g., water reaches the hair-roots. While washing the right side of left side must be washed too, and also, while washing the left
of the right side must be washed.
bath involving immersion of the whole body in the water. It a ghusl can only be done in a body of water, e.g., a pool,
men or blood from the body and after niyyat, the whole body ersed in the water all at once, not gradually. One has to make all parts of the body, including hair and the skin under it.
referred to ghusl irtimasi.
ACTS OF GHUSL (These recommendable acts are five): o the elbows three times before the ghusl. whole body to ensure that every part has been thoroughly
he fingers to ensure that the water reaches the hair-roots. tibra before ghusl janabat. Istibra, in the present context, nefit of istibra: If a liquid comes out of one's penis after he doubts whether it is semen or urine, then should he repeat done istibra before the ghusl, then he can assume that the ave to repeat the ghusl; he just has to do wuzu for his salat. e had not done istibra before the ghusl, then he has to assume men and he will have to do the ghusl again.
AND BEHAVIOUR:
as just left her loved ones. She might be new to this place. So and a chance to adjust herself in the new environment.
ni in his book, Al Waafi in the chapter of "A Woman's right hat it is narrated from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) that some egarding the rights of a wife over her husband. He (s.a.w.) look her minor faults and if she commits a major mistake "
es that I asked Imam Sadiq (a.s.) concerning the rights of a He (a.s.) answered, "He should fulfill all her basic necessities by getting angry time and again. i.e. after fulfilling her needs, wards her, then I swear by Allah, he has fulfilled his wife's
ng the rights of a wife can be gauged from the hadith of the ) wherein he says, "The best among you is the one who
wife in the best possible way and I am the best among you to ives."
ing one's wife at home
Allah (s.a.w.) paid a visit to the house of Imam Ali and t Imam Ali (a.s.) was sieving the pulses and Fatemah (s.a.) erving this Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) remarked, "O Ali, I do not led to me. Anyone who helps his wife in her domestic affairs ar of worship equal to the amount of hair on his body. This if he has fasted during its days and prayed during its nights. al to the reward of all the patient ones, Hazrat Dawood (a.s.)
avior with the Family
ery man should strive to make his wife and children is capacity for if he is strict and unkind to them and because ved they will desire his death."
great companion of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) expired, he d in the funeral procession and shouldered his bier quite a e respect. Then he laid it in the grave and buried him with his zeal of the Prophet (s.a.w.), the mother of Saad cried, n on gaining paradise." On hearing this the Messenger of ot make haste in divine affairs. Your son is in great agony ." When the people inquired about the reason for this ed, "He behaved very badly with his family members."
ording to Imam Sajjad (a.s.) that you should know that Allah has made her for you a worry), and a friend and shield (against sins).
ent upon both of you to thank Allah for your partner and to grace of Allah upon you. And it is obligatory to have good of Allah (i.e. wife), and to respect her and be kind to her, her are greater and her obedience to you is final in all your s it is not a sin. So she has the right of love and fellowship, house) so that natural desires may be fulfilled, and this in here is no strength but by Allah."
is Wife
er his wife are numerous. The most important among them is
relationship with her. The duty of a wife is to submit herself and. This right of the husband i.e. of having a physical as and when he wants, is obviously a reciprocation of her husband the duties of the wife include the protection of his espect. She must not spend his wealth without his permission rets. Rather she should be his closest confidante.
nside the house without his permission in his absence. For, t of misunderstandings, which would have drastic d contract of marriage. She must value his ideas, plans and ared for her and other family members and obey him under t not disobey him come what may nor must she do any such Rather she must try her best to attract his attention towards em can lead a life of harmony.
once a lady inquired from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) and enjoys over his wife. He (s.a.w.) said, "First and foremost m and refrain from disobedience. She must not donate ithout his permission nor can she keep recommended fasts must NEVER deny him his physical rights nor deprive him of ut of the house without his permission, the angels of the rath and mercy, curse her till she returns to her house."
ing one's Husband
a group of people paid a visit to the Messenger of Islam and we have seen such people who prostrate before each other." answered, "If at all I could permit prostration before anyone I would have ordered the wives to prostrate before their
is also reported to have said, "A wife who gives her husband ward of one year of worship, a year whose nights were passed ng. In exchange of one drop of water which she provides for lt in paradise for her and sins of sixty years are forgiven."
Akhlaq narrates on the authority of Imam Muhammad Baqir en is to be patient while facing the difficulties of life with
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said, "Any woman who converses indignantly with her is sentiments, none of her deeds either obligatory or pted from her until and unless her husband does not express
ven if this woman fasts during the days, prays during the tes the best of horses in the way of Allah, she will be first to ar will be the fate of the husband who usurps the rights of his
Rights
Marriage and Family Ethics, Professor Ibrahim Amini has he duties of husband and wives, often quoting incidents to
ies of Women: According to the author the purpose of ves with her husband. She must be kind and should respect complain unnecessarily. She must have a pleasant comfort for her husband and appreciate him. She must not She must observe Islamic Hijab. She must forgive her ust learn to cope with her husband's relatives. She must help ess. She must not be unduly suspicious.
ties of Men: The man is the guardian of the family. He should e loving towards her. He must respect her and be well ot complain unnecessarily. He should overlook her mistakes. s about her. He should be clean at home also. He must help d assist in bringing up children. FAMILY MEMBERS:
should also know that the time and attention of the newly ed and previous expectations may have to be changed to suit t families, the NaMehram ladies must observe hijab if they house with their husbands.
s have emphasized that when you engage in sexual no child (or, for that matter, any other person) sees you or es Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq (a.s.) as follows, "Be careful not to hile a child can see you. The Prophet used to dislike this a child sees and hears the parents engaged in sexual rough a shocking psychological experience. It might also n adult life. Islam has laid down clear guidelines about the
ollowing rules about privacy within the family circles:
a day: night, early morning and afternoon, which are acy.
ld be taught that during times of privacy they are not allowed ir parents or adults without first asking their permission.
ren are free to come and go into the bedroom of their parents rmission. In retrospect, this means that the parents should be ther times.
en and adults, the Holy Qur'an is clear that they may enter the r other adults at all times only after asking their permission.
ay of life not only assures happiness and satisfaction of an s a whole benefits by implementing the laws of Shariah. of families and families come into being by matrimonial y that this basic unit of society is properly understood and atens its existence.
AMIC TERMS:
hibited. ionary wajib. H: permitted, allowed, lawful, legal. high-ranking mujtahid. disliked, discouraged. l. FUQAHA): a jurist. B: recommended, desirable, better. ary, incumbent.
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