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The Power Moves pioneered “power dynamics” as a novel approach to social skills,
self-development, and life success.

Why Power?
One might ask:

Why do you need power dynamics, or “Machiavellian” skills?

Isn’t that “bad”?

No, it’s not.

Self-development without power dynamics, strategies, and Machiavellianism is

not enough.

We live in a world where the cream doesn’t naturally and necessarily rise to the
top.
And working hard, providing value or “getting better” also don’t guarantee your
success. We call that approach “naive self-help” here.

And that’s where power dynamics, (dark) psychology, and Machiavellianism enter
the picture.
It’s the necessary other side of the coin, it’s the “street smarts” on top of the “book
smarts”.

If self-development means “growing in your personal value and ability to give”,

then this other side of the coin includes foundational steps such as:

�. Knowing who to give value to (character assessment)

�. How to get value back (setting up win-win)
�. How to get the biggest bang for the buck (strategies)

Heaven & Hell Are Other People

This website is built on the belief that both halves of this statement are true:

Hell is other people.

And heaven is other people.

-The Power Moves

They’re both true at the same time.

Sometimes -or even often- within the same person.

You must deal with both, without letting either half get the best of you.

The first part of the sentence alone is over-cynicism. Not good.

The second part alone is naive. Also not good.

Power intelligence is what allows you to reduce -or eliminate- the “hell” part while
expanding the “heaven” part.
On this website we show that whether you get more hell or more heaven, it’s
largely up to you.

That’s the mindset of becoming an effective human being, achieving goals,

developing great win-win relationships, and generally getting the most out of
people -and life-.
And for the skills that complement the mindset, that’s what the rest of this website
is for.
 Contents

Why Power?
1. Social Skills / Power Dynamics
2. Dating & Seduction
3. Business / Career Strategies
4. Influence & Persuasion
5. Manipulation
6. Self-Empowerment
7. Leadership
8. Case Studies
9. Reviews
10. The Social Strategist: Our Introductory Book
The Power Moves Values
Power starts by choosing never to be a victim
Seek growth, rather than help
Learn to navigate the darkness, but never lose sight of the light
You’re only as free as your personal and mental power allows you to be
You’re only as virtuous as your personal power allows you to be
Don’t necessarily fight authority, but it’s your duty to assess it and question it
Empower yourself to effectively question authority & leadership
Before you join any group, walk and grow as an individual
Fighting and war is a serious endeavor. Make that decision very carefully
Fly higher than the turkeys and their petty games
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About The Author(s)

The main training grounds of this website include:

1. Social Skills / Power Dynamics

Mastering social skills requires learning power dynamics

Most people-related resources shy away from power.

The Power Moves instead believes that you can’t be socially skilled without
learning and understanding power dynamics.

Becoming a high-value individual also entails mastering power dynamics.

It’s a contradiction in terms to think one can be high-value without being powerful,
in one way or another.

• Social power dynamics: the overview

• Start here: how to acquire power-IQ
• Overview of the most important articles on power
• The fundamental laws of power
• Best books on power

2. Dating & Seduction

Everything is about sex. Except for sex. Sex is about power

Women
The dating advice for women is, on average, very poor.
Check these posts to upgrade your dating skills:

• Start here
 • Why successful women fail at dating (& how to fix it)

Men
The non-mainstream dating advice for men is much better than the one for
women.
When it comes to game and techniques, today there are many good resources for
men.

What’s lacking is a good, evidence-based overview of dating psychology, and

dating power dynamics.
And that’s what I focused on so far.

Start here:

• Dating for men overview

• Sexual Marketplace: an overview
• Sexual Market Value: an overview

Both are shortened versions of corresponding chapters in “Dating Power

Dynamics”.

2.2. Relationships
I know, I know what some will be thinking:

“relationships are not about power, they’re about love!”

The mistake there is in thinking that it’s a question of either/or, or that the two are
in antithesis.
But they’re not.
A good understanding of power dynamics preempts abuse and does promote
healthy and successful relationships.

See:
 • How to maintain attraction and mutual respect in LTRs
• The stages of power in intimate relationships
• How women control most relationships
• Relationships overview

3. Business / Career Strategies

Being good at your job is 1/3 of the battle.

The other 2/3 are being good at selling it and being good with the people
that matter.

Money and resources confer power.

That’s why office power dynamics and career strategies are also one of the major
topics of this website.

Start here:

• Career strategies overview

For external resources, see:

• Best career strategies book

• Best business and career strategies books for women

4. Influence & Persuasion

The highest form of power is making people want to do it

In the free world we live in, power is exercised less with coercion, and more with
persuasion and influence.

Start here:

• The judge role: it’s those who assess others who also influence and control
others
• Soft-power: the invisible power dynamics of socialization
• Best resources on influence and persuasion

5. Manipulation

Everyone manipulates.
But some do it more. And some always fall for it.

Learning how manipulation works make sure you’re not part of the second group.

Plus, there is tremendous overlap between persuasion and manipulation, so you

can hardly learn one without the other.

What’s manipulation: Manipulation is persuasion that either harms the victim,

blinds the victim to better alternatives, or makes the victim feel good while actually
disempowering them.

These posts will give a good idea on how manipulation works (and how pervasive it
is):

• Manipulation overview: a bit of a lengthier post, but manipulation is crucial to

understand power dynamics
• Dark psychology: an overview of how psychology can be applied for
manipulative and potentially harmful ends
 • Machiavellianism: an overview of the Machiavellian personality with pros, cons,
and strategies
• Machiavellian Life Strategies: the forum side of manipulation
• Corporate manipulation: warning, you might start looking differently at your
employer
• Best resources on manipulation

6. Self-Empowerment

Power without freedom is like a Ferrari without a steering wheel

This section overlaps most with general self-help, focusing on personal freedom,
mental resilience, and self-development.

The most important from a TPM’s perspective into life and self-empowerment:

• Enlightened Individualism

And some other important articles:

• The anti-fragile ego

• Overcoming entitlement mentality

Business & Entrepreneurship

Business and entrepreneurship are not “core” to TPM as they’re not strictly part of
people and human exchanges.

But they are also important building blocks of a good life, empowering you with
money, freedom, and, ideally, a life’s purpose.

So I also often share information about the business side of ThePowerMoves.

One of the motivators that got me started on this website was anger -anger
towards gratuitous abuse and the world’s injustices-, coupled with a desire to
empower people to stand up for themselves.
And the second is a burning desire for freedom and independence.

Entrepreneurship can combine the two with a financially viable business. You can
read more about the values behind The Power Moves:

• The laws of a values-based business

• Protecting your business (and your time) against free-riders

And me sharing decisions, results, and lessons learned in the forums:

• The business side of The Power Moves

7. Leadership

An enlightened leader is a value-adding leader driven by values,

tempered with real-world knowledge of power dynamics

Leadership is the tip of the pyramid in our self-empowerment efforts.

The ultimate goal of learning power dynamics on this website is to make you an
enlightened leader.
That’s the final stage on your path of self-development.

Funny enough, once you correctly follow the steps of self-empowerment,

leadership is also the natural consequence.
And if you also add the personal growth and value-adding concepts that this
website espouses, then great leadership is also the natural consequence.
You won’t need to convince anyone.
People will want you to take that leadership.

The most important articles:

• Leadership intro
• Leadership Power Dynamics
• Leadership “How To” Guide (grounded in social-psychology)

Plus:

• Forums: here you can see short-format examples of leadership and real-life
case studies
• Recognizing toxic employees: good leadership means knowing who should not
stay in your team -or around you-
• Best leadership books

8. Case Studies
This website is built on the “internalized knowledge” concept:

Knowledge that changes lives is knowledge that must be simple to

understand, internalize, and apply.

And for that, I am convinced that text alone can’t do it. And people delivering
information standing in front of a camera, or a classroom, can’t do it.

For that, we need a mix of all mediums. And we need clear examples from real life.
That’s why my articles and products have so many videos, charts, screenshots with
notes, and “mock dialogues”.

And that’s why there is a whole section of “real-life case studies”, where we
analyze and break down the social and power dynamics of real-world interactions.

Some of the most popular include:

• Elon Musk analysis (abusive relationship & low EQ)

• Tai Lopez sales techniques (manipulation techniques)
• Ben Shapiro (debate techniques)

9. Reviews

Wisdom seekers who combine thirst for wisdom with an acute allergy for
BS

The Power Moves also offers one of the web’s largest selections of free book
summaries and reviews, and some of the very best courses’ summaries and
reviews.

As you might have noticed, I’m not one of those reviewers who sees the positives
in everything he reads.
I believe that poor information is not “just” poor information, but it’s actively
harmful. Not only it wastes time, the most limited resource we possess, but it also
actively hampers your progress.

In my view, bad content also speaks badly about their creators.

I believe it’s a moral duty and a moral obligation for every author to fact-check
their content with as much evidence, science, and logic as they can muster.

And when I see some authors doing everything but, I see it as a slight to every one
of us.
So on this website, you get very straightforward reviews and summaries.
See these two fundamental articles that apply to all self-help literature:

• Naive self-help, to turn you into a smart learner

• The law of optimum balance

The Law of Optimum Balance

The law of optimum balance states that many traits are beneficial at certain doses but
turn bad, ineffective, or harmful at extreme levels of total … Continue reading

Power Dynamics™

Then you can go to:

• Best resources: start here to go straight to the best of the best

• Book reviews: all reviews on one page, ordered by rating

10. The Social Strategist: Our Introductory Book

The Social Strategist is our first official book and it provides a simple introductory
tool to some of the most important TPM’s foundational wisdom.

The Power Moves Values

These are the values underpinning this website’s approach to self-empowerment:

Power starts by choosing never to be a victim

There is no shame in being a victim when you didn’t know any better or couldn’t
have done anything about it.

But it is immoral staying a victim when you know you are one and when you have
the power to change.

You might not always have the power to change right here and now, but it’s your
duty to look for a way as hard as you can. Even if it might take you a lifetime of
looking (and you will almost always find a way much sooner).

Sometimes choosing not to be a victim is about emotional pain and wounds.

Then it’s less about fighting it, and more about self-love and letting go.
And that’s also empowerment.

Yes, it was painful and you got all my sympathy. Truly. But it comes a time
when you must say “f*ck your sympathy” and get going.

Seek growth, rather than help

Ask for all the help you need. But work on yourself while you do it.

It’s immoral to expect others to help when you aren’t also at least trying to help
yourself first.
Plus, it doesn’t work.
Sure, sometimes someone will rescue you. Just don’t bank on it.
Instead, seek to help yourself first.

Ask for a fish, and you’re back begging the next day for another. Learn to
 fish, and you can even help others.

• The best way to stop abuse is power dynamics and self-empowerment

And it starts with you.

Thugs actively seek the easiest victim looking at how they walk. Manipulators seek
the most gullible people. Abusers pair up with partners who are easy to control.
And even good people can sometimes push your boundaries to see if you will
stand.

Powerlnesslenss leaves you open to abuse.

Power instead allows you to enter value-adding social exchanges.

A world where more people seek self-empowerment is a world with less abuse,
and a world where more well-meaning people can reach the top.

So do your part, and stay on your self-empowerment path.

You don’t want to be a lamb hoping to be in a lamb-friendly world.

Because it’s not.
Plus, there are a great many wolves who target naive lambs.
Remember the mantra: there can be no good without mastering evil.

TPM & Ali Scarlett

• The best bet for a better world is learning power dynamics

Learning power dynamics and effective life-strategies is good for you, and for the
world.

That’s because the cream doesn’t naturally rise to the top.

In truth, the scum, power-driven and with no moral qualms, is more likely to reach
the top than the cream is.

That means that for a better world, we need a more power-aware cream to reach
the top.
That’s the bottom mission of this website: equipping value-adding leaders to reach
the top.

Cream and scum rise together.

Power-aware cream rises the highest.

–Stef

Learn to navigate the darkness, but never lose sight

of the light
TPM is about learning both the “cold” and calculative side of social exchanges, as
well as the “dark” side of socialization and life strategies.

Things like manipulation, Machiavellianism, cynicism, aggression, Psychopathic

behavior, social climbing, cheating, amoral strategies and, of course, power
dynamics.

When learning the darker side of socialization some people can either lose their
moral compass, or become so cynical and disillusioned, that they fail to appreciate
the full beauty of human interaction, and the possibility of win-win.

However, the goal of this website is to move beyond the dichotomy and combine
both: the dark side, and the light. The dark side is there to empower the light.

In more practical socializing terms, TPM combines both with the “high-power,
high-warmth” approach.
Skills can be used to become a better human being, or a better dickhead. TPM is for
the former.

Two quotes are relevant here:

He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a
monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into
you.

Nietzsche

And:

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of
life is when men are afraid of the light.”

Plato

You’re only as free as your personal and mental

power allows you to be
Freedom is both a mental and pragmatic achievement.

Practically, you can’t be free if you are overly dependent on someone to keep you in
their group -or on the payroll-.

Emotionally, you can’t be free if you’re overly dependent on someone to approve

of you, or make you happy.
 Freedom start with personal empowerment.

• To be truly free you must understand your genetic programming: what’s

good for the selfish genes is seldom good for you -or for those around you-.
You cannot be free unless you first learn how your unconscious drives are
pushing you around.

Let us understand what our own selfish genes are up to, because we may
then at least have the chance to upset their designs
-Richard Dawkins, “The Selfish Gene“

You’re only as virtuous as your personal power

allows you to be
This is something that Jordan Peterson often says and that we wholeheartedly
agree with.

Peterson says that a harmless man can’t be virtuous.

It’s the power of choosing your favorite course of actions that underpins virtue.
Individuals without the power and strength of making their own decisions cannot
be virtuous.

Kindness and “yeses” are only virtuous if have the power of saying “f*ck
you”.
There can be no good, without mastering evil.
Don’t necessarily fight authority, but it’s your duty
to assess it and question it
With power doesn’t come virtue.

Many individuals in power will want you to do and believe what benefits them, not
you or the greater good.

In business, the world’s narcissists and sociopaths are counting on you to close
your eyes to their moral failures and to exchange your freedom for their success.
At the extreme, organized evil is only possible thanks to followers’ acquiescent
execution.

The worst cases of “following orders” without questioning authority

slaughtered millions.
The best cases, only killed their souls.

Read this foundational article,

 Civilization is GREAT. And various groups CAN be great. But to accept it you must first
question it

Empower yourself to effectively question authority

& leadership
Power requires checks and balances to make sure it stays fair.

Those checks and balances are only possible with the followers’ own
empowerment.

It’s your duty to analyze and correctly assess the quality of your superiors.
The world will only go slower and worse if the quality of your superior is lacking
and if you keep following unworthy leaders.

And if you find your leader unworthy, it’s your duty to find a way out (or vote them
out, or overthrow them).

Practical quote:
 Let’s be honest: if your boss is a piece of shit, what does that say about
you when you’re still calling a POS, “boss”?
You don’t have the right to call him a POS if you’re not seeking a way out.

Higher-level quote:

A poor leaders’ dream is a disempowered and naive follower.

Before you join any group, walk and grow as an

individual
Similar as above:

A poor leaders’ dream is a disempowered and naive follower.

To empower yourself, you may have to walk alone -as an individual- before joining
any group.

Evade social policing, seek your answers from the most disparate sources, and
escape any ideology-based group.

It’s more difficult, of course. And that’s the whole point.

If you don’t, you can rest assured that someone will try to make you walk their
path. And again, that’s not always the path that better serves your interests.

Then, once you found yourself, join others to increase your leverage.
 You will never find your unique voice if all you do is singing on someone
else’s tune

• Be wary of groups and ideologies. When in doubt, revert to enlightened

individualism:

Groups are great and can allow us to multiply our power, and flourish.

But group psychology also lends itself to easy manipulation to bring out the worst
of human nature.
The worst of humankind originated from power-hungry sociopaths, bullies, and
megalomaniacs, leading people who surrendered the self to join the group.

And your average Internet group probably takes way too much of your time.

Join any group you like.

Just be wary if it’s trying to override your independent thinking, and if it’s taking
too much time away from your individual pursuits.

Ideologies is where weak egos go to hide.

 That’s enlightened individualism

Fighting and war is a serious endeavor. Make that

decision very carefully
And do it based on enlightened individualism first.

That will help you avoid the dark calls for inter-group hatred.
Many of us have it inside of them, especially men.
It’s a natural drive to form bands, take up arms, and fight “the other”.

If you’re a man, this is a reality of our nature. I know it is for me, too. Denying that
drive is pointless, and even harmful.
Plus, that drive can be a good thing.

But it’s your duty to make sure that the causes you fight for are valid.

What would you take up arms, and risk your life for?

Doing it to defend your beloved ones might be a duty.

Fighting for people’s basic freedoms might also be worth it.
But for a flag, or in a war for oil, it might be not.
 Anybody can call for war -that is easy-.
But to wage war at the right time, for the right cause, and while
maintaining our basic humanity, that is difficult. And that is what you are
called for.

Fly higher than the turkeys and their petty games

The eagle of this website represents the final stage of a high-quality, effective,
power-aware man/woman.

When you first enter into power dynamics, you start seeing lots of games and
power moves.
And it’s easy to get caught up in them, feel slighted, angry, wanting to get your
revenge and “show them”.

And that’s totally fair.

However, eventually, you want to reach a point where you start seeing the game
“from above”.

What TPM generally moves towards is an approach that is “superior” and “above”
to the “little shit” the turkeys play -hence the “eagle”-.

You see the games, but you’re not overly worried and bothered by all the games.
If anything, you’re disappointed by the person who does it.

Of course, you WILL intervene if it’s truly disempowering you -that’s part of being
an effective man-.

But otherwise, you go through life that all those games are like water off a duck’s
back.

You see that game, but you look at the turkey and think “what a turkey”.
You may want to kill the turkey, and potentially (figuratively) plot to kill the turkey
-that’s totally fair and sometimes exactly what you gotta do-.

But ideally, never to the point that it pollutes your mind and life.

Even after a scrap that gets you emotionally, you want to soar back higher.

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The Power Moves offers the following fast-track learning options:

Power University
There are over a thousand articles and reviews here.

Power University, the course, ties it all together.

It’s the quickest way to learn real-life social skills, upgrade your emotional
intelligence and, of course, learn and apply power dynamics to empower yourself.

Seduction University
Power dynamics and best strategies in the service of both:

• Effective dating to find a partner(s) in the quickest and most reliable way
possible
• Seducing people’s minds and hearts

About The Author(s)

Lucio Buffalmano is a social scientist on a mission.

The mission is to codify and teach the power dynamics and strategies that are
going to allow tomorrow’s high-quality, value-adding leaders and eagles to reach
their goals, reach the top of their chosen professions, and change the world for the
better.

• Here Lucio shares what he’s working on (+ whereabouts)

As time went by, several people supported TPM’s mission.
TPM, power dynamics as a discipline and the products that apply those concepts
into real-life strategies have become a collaborative endeavor.

Some of the people who advanced the discipline and mission include:

• Ali (his journal here and his website here)

• Matthew
• John
• Transitioned / Kevin (his journal here)
• Stef
• Incognito
• Bel
• Leader of Fun

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