Non Binary Quotes

“At some point during my research, I came across the term "gender fluid." Reading those words was a revelation. It was like someone tore a layer of gauze off the mirror, and I could see myself clearly for the first time. There was a name for what I was. It was a thing. Gender fluid.

Sitting there in front of my computer--like I am right now--I knew I would never be the same. I could never go back to seeing it the old way; I could never go back to not knowing what I was.

But did that glorious moment of revelation really change anything? I don't know. Sometimes, I don't think so. I may have a name for what I am now--but I'm just as confused and out of place as I was before. And if today is any indication, I'm still playing out that scene in the toy store--trying to pick the thing that will cause the least amount of drama. And not having much success.”
― Jeff Garvin, Symptoms of Being Human

“How are you supposed to be believed about the harm that you experience when people don't even believe that you exist?

The assumption is that being a masculine man or a feminine woman is normal, and that being "us" is an accessory. Like if you remove our clothing, our makeup, and our pronouns, underneath the surface we are just men and women playing dress-up.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“The scrutiny on our bodies distracts us from what's really going on here: control. The emphasis on our appearance distracts us from the real focus: power.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“The truth is, that we are in a state of emergency. In the past few years, we have seen an onslaught of legislation... targeting gender non-conforming people...

Our communities are under attack. Regardless of whether these pieces of legislation pass, the fact that they're even being considered suggests just how disposable we are considered to be.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“There are many different ways to perform gender, and we should be open and encouraging of them.”
― Nevo Zisin, Finding Nevo

“I don't identify with the words female or male. They are not my words. The space in which I have felt gendered female and transitioned to gendered male has been in the ways people have treated me.”
― Nevo Zisin, Finding Nevo

“There are some questions that have no answers. How do you express pain when you can't even locate the wound? It's like when you let a balloon loose into the sky. You don't know where it goes, but you know it went somewhere far away.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“At a fundamental level, we are still having to argue for the very ability to exist. The truth is, I still cannot go outside without being afraid for my safety. There are few spaces where I do not experience harassment for the way I look.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“It's a surreal experience to have your personhood be reduced to a prop.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“The days that I feel most beautiful are the days that I am most afraid.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“It's like being handed over a scantron sheet and demanded to paint a self-portrait on it. It's possible, of course, but why even bother when a canvas is within our reach? Is it really a choice, when you don't get to select the options you are given to begin with?”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“The Soviet Union never ended. It reformed itself as the Woke West, a totalitarian liberal, rather than communist, nightmare. Big Brother became Non-Binary Elder Sibling.”
― David Sinclair, Without the Mob, There Is No Circus

“I feel like my body is in a waiting room.”
― Aimee Herman, Everything Grows

“A lot more airtime is given to other people's use of us, rather than our own experiences. Our existence is made into a matter of opinion, as if our genders are debatable and not just who we are. In other words, there's been a lot of talk about us, but very little engagement with us.”
― Alok Vaid-Menon, Beyond the Gender Binary

“Computers are binary, not people. All people are non-binary, for life is non-binary.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Heart Force One: Need No Gun to Defend Society

“If I'm not wearing makeup or something androgynous, they see me as a boy. If I do dress more feminine or androgynous, they see a boy but a boy wearing eyeshadow or nail polish. It's easier for people to see what's on the outside than what's on the inside....You know how most people hear a song and only remember the thumping piano melody? I'm more than just that one instrument or one key. I exist in between notes, with backing vocals and lush harmonies.”
― Steven Salvatore, Can't Take That Away

“Binary paths belong in bygone past, all things civilized are non-binary.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Handcrafted Humanity: 100 Sonnets For A Blunderful World

“I can't help it, it's what I feel. And I can't change it, nor can I explain it. I was just naïve enough to believe that the people closest to me would get it. I don't understand how a biological condition can end up defining how we are supposed to live - what kind of work we should do, how we should dress, how we should feel, whom to love? How to walk! It seems like the only way I can exist is if the world can decode me according to a gender. Anything else makes people uncomfortable and my existence becomes a freak show.”
― Nandita Basu, Rain Must Fall

“Perhaps the most fundamental step you can take as a parent seeking to support your transgender or non-binary teen is to examine your own gender history. Everyone has a gender. Every one of us has been raised with particular ideas about gender instilled in us from the time we were born (and maybe even before!). Your experiences with gender impact your perceptions of your teen’s gender journey.”
― Stephanie Brill, The Transgender Teen: A Handbook for Parents and Professionals Supporting Transgender and Non-Binary Teens

“Pero ¿quién era yo ahora, un hombre o una mujer? Había luchado muy duro durante mucho tiempo para que me considerasen una mujer como las demás, pero siempre me había sentido excluida por mis diferencias. Nunca habría pensado que el passing iba a esconderme. Creía que me iba a permitir expresar la parte de mi ser que no parecía propia de una mujer. Sin embargo, no había podido explorar cómo era ser alguien que no estaba en un lado ni en otro. Simplemente me había convertido en un tío, en un hombre sin pasado.
¿Quién era yo ahora, un hombre o una mujer? Nunca tendría una respuesta mientras esas fuesen las dos únicas opciones; mientras me siguieran haciendo esa pregunta. (p. 374)”
― Leslie Feinberg, Stone Butch Blues

“A year might not feel like a long time, but years add up. Every single one has bought me closer to the person I am now.”
― A.J. Sass, Being an Ally

“Humans are more than a gender. Humans can be genderless.”
― Humanityisdiversity.org

“Women are always under attack; and the majority of those women are in lala land, snoring, ”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“Women are always under attack; and the majority of those women are in lala land, snoring,... On the contrary, the boys are working overtime, making sure that they're winning the race no matter what, even if they have to disguise themselves as females.

It's always been a power struggle, and putting the female gender as second in importance. And the boys finally found a clever strategy to advance their gender while having females cheer for them from the sidelinWho promotes female impersonation the most? Female celebrities. Who protects the rights of female impersonators the most? Female politicians and leaders.

The boys hired the best empowered females in the world to vouch for them. They got them to fight ...not for other females but for the boys disguised as females. Now, that's chess.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“Women are always under attack; and the majority of those women are in lala land, snoring,... On the contrary, the boys are working overtime, making sure that they're winning the race no matter what, even if they have to disguise themselves as females.

It's always been a power struggle, and putting the female gender as second in importance. And the boys finally found a clever strategy to advance their gender while having females cheer for them from the sidelines.

Who promotes female impersonation the most? Female celebrities. Who protects the rights of female impersonators the most? Female politicians and leaders.

The boys hired the best empowered females in the world to vouch for them. They got them to fight ...not for other females but for the boys disguised as females. Now, that's chess.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“Who promotes female impersonation the most? Female celebrities. Who protects the rights of female impersonators the most? Female politicians and leaders.

The boys hired the best empowered females in the world to vouch for them. They got them to fight ...not for other females but for the boys disguised as females. Now, that's chess.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“Less to burn in the event a rogue gender-fluid camper decides to go on a flaming crusade against the binary, I guess”
― Ryan La Sala, The Honeys

“She got the feeling that she might drown in gender fluids if she stepped inside, or that her own gender, not all that solid to begin with, might deliquesce like fungi and stain the pink counter stool, but that it might be good for her, just what she needed. She stared at the bright fruit painted on the side of the building and wondered if she should cut her bangs.”
― Jen Beagin, Big Swiss

“Affirming your gender can be joyful and safe! If your current binding method isn't doing it for you, experiment with other methods. There is a better one out there for you.”
― Maia Kobabe, Breathe: Journeys to Healthy Binding

“As if I’ve never held dear my feminist rage, never thought about how I feel so politically aligned with womanhood and yet hate inhabiting it, hate it when my body is read as such.”
― Lamya H., Hijab Butch Blues