‘Was It a Bad Idea to Work for My Friend?’Esther Perel helps this week’s caller navigate the boundaries between professional and personal relationships in the workplace.
Exactly Why Are Friendship Breakups So Brutal?What psychology can tell us about this particularly haunting sort of heartbreak — and why I still dream about friends I lost 16 years ago.
The Famous Friend in My HeadI see him all the time: We’re two dads sharing a Brooklyn neighborhood and a routine. Shouldn’t we be friends?
ByMatthew Schnipper
advice
‘I Don’t Want My Straight Friends at Pride’Ah, yes, Pride season — a time for us to come together as a community and argue about “spaces” and who or what is acceptable in them.
ByJ.P. Brammer
relationships
Where Have All My Guy Friends Gone?As we get older and couple off, it feels harder and harder for men and women to remain platonically close. But what if we made it easier?
‘Am I Too Online?’I’m sorry to report that this is one of those “if you have to ask” questions.
ByJ.P. Brammer
advice
How to Keep a Conversation GoingTalking is hard! And while small talk is valuable, it only goes so far. Here are 12 tips and tricks to get past the awkward silences.
‘How Do I Make Friends As an Adult?’Here it is, the ¡Hola Papi! friendship field guide for people whose backs are just starting to make alarming noises.
‘Can I Cut My New ‘Friend’ Off?’Our time and attention are precious resources, and if it feels like someone isn’t honoring yours, you should nip that in the bud.
‘I’m Losing My Best Friend to Her New Fiancé’Curiosity, Esther Perel says in this “Esther Calling,” about a friend’s life now is essential if a childhood friendship is to survive adulthood.
The Essay That Started It AllNatalie Beach reckons with her decision to write about her relationship with Caroline Calloway and everything that came next.
The Lonely BirderI was embarrassed to admit how much I love birds. Then I found my people.
ByLili Taylor
¡hola papi!
‘I Feel Abandoned by My Friend’Hopefully the two of you can have a productive conversation that leaves you both in a healthier place.
ByJ.P. Brammer
the bigger picture
‘I Make the Place, I Am the Place’Photographers and friends Genesis Báez and Jennifer Calivas explore the permeability of bodies, place, and pleasure in their two-person exhibition.
Reuniting With Romy and MicheleIt’s the kind of friendship found in the buddy rom-com classic — which turns 25 this week — that makes high school worth it.
