Anger Management
Cause and Resolution
Presented by
Harsharan K Randhawa & Meghna Singh
PEACEOFMIND COUNSELING SERVICES
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IT IS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL TO BE
‘ANGRY’
Symptoms that tells you are Angry
• Physical Symptoms • Psychological Symptoms
• Racing heartbeat • Distorted Thoughts
• Sweating • Loss of clarity
• Clenched fists • Emotional Outbursts
• Eyes Glowing • Loss and or lack of decision making
• Redness on face • Intolerant
• Heating up
• Crying
• Trembling, Shivering
• Shouting, Screaming
• Headache
• Stomach Ache
Symptoms of Anger
BEHAVIORAL EMOTIONAL
• Getting sarcastic
• Losing your sense of humor • Stress
• Acting in an abusive or abrasive manner (Violent) • like you want to get away from the situation or
• Banging doors, throwing things, hitting pets challenges
• Craving a drink, a smoke or other substances that relax you • Irritated
• Raising your voice, beginning to yell, scream, or cry • Sad or depressed
• Argumentative • Guilty
• Bullying/Teasing • Resentful
• Lack of interest in studies, Low Performance • Anxious
• Disobedience • like striking out verbally or physically
• Low Confidence • Procrastination
• Lack of social participation
• Blaming others
• Running away from responsibilities
Examples of Anger Situations
An individual is faced with Anger Situations at two levels
• Himself/Herself getting angry
Or
• Faces anger of some other individual e.g. teachers, parents, friends, relatives,
neighbours, social media
Role Play Anger Situations
• You’re playing a video game or watching TV. Your mom gets home from work. She
turns off the power and tells you to get going on homework—even though you don’t
have any. All your progress in the game is lost. What would you do?
• You are being bullied or teased by a senior in the bus. Other friends on the bus are
not supporting you. You feel insulted. What would you do?
• Lately your parents have been fighting a lot. They are getting angry with you at very
Peer Teasing small things. What would you do?
Parents not giving you the latest gaming console
The teacher scolded you in front of the whole class even when you were not at fault
Triggers/Probable causes of Anger
• Physical Changes in young children (Age 10 to 18)
• Impatience, too much of pampering,
• Stress/Frustration
• Lack of confidence
• Insecurities
• Lack of love and affection
• Dissatisfaction (e.g. due to immediate gratification)
• Prolonged illness
Cycle of Anger
How to manage yourself when Angry?
• Become Self-aware: what, who, why and how you get angry
• Calm yourself: When calm write about your feelings
• Talk and share with your parents or friends
• Recognize the physical and emotional symptoms just when you get angry
example raised heart beat, stress, procrastination
• Try to reason out the anger situation e.g. If mother took away your mobile
time then think about the chores you did not finish that you promised, or
that you did not finish your school work
How to calm yourself when angry?
Take Deep breaths
Get away from the anger situation
Do back-counting i.e. 100, 99, 98, 97, 96……..
Vent out your anger on a pillow or boxing log etc.
If too angry then channelize the negative energy into positive activities like a sports,
running, exercises, yoga, painting, playing an instrument, calling a dear friend and chat etc.
Think about the anger situation realistically and reason out. E.g. if your father comes home
angry after work and screams at you for no reason, then reason out maybe your father
had a bad day at office.
Allow the situation and the people involved to cool down, then talk about it and try to
analyse it.
HOPE THAT YOU WILL UNDERSTAND YOUR ANGER, THE SITUATION AND BECOME
MORE
SELF-AWARE, SO THAT YOU CAN MANAGE ANGER BETTER AND MAYBE GET LESS
ANGRY!!
So SMILE more than CRIB!
Feel HAPPY for what you
have and not SAD for what
you don’t
Show RESPONSIBILITY IN
your WORDS & ACTIONS
WISH YOU ALL LOADS OF
HAPPINESS AND ACHIEVEMENT
Thank You!
