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The Christian Counselor'S Manual
Biblical Guidance for Effective Counseling Practices
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About the book
In "The Christian Counselor's Manual," Jay E. Adams presents
a practical guide designed to complement his earlier work,
"Competent to Counsel." This manual introduces the concept
of nouthetic counseling, a biblical approach to counseling that
emphasizes the importance of scripture as a foundation for
guidance and healing. Dr. Adams offers insights and tools for
counselors seeking to integrate their faith with effective
counseling practices.

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About the author
Jay E. Adams is a prominent Reformed Christian author
known for his extensive contributions to literature, having
published over 100 books in sixteen languages. He holds a
Bachelor of Divinity from Reformed Episcopal Seminary, a
Bachelor of Arts in Classics from Johns Hopkins University, a
Master of Sacred Theology from Temple University, and a
PhD in Speech from the University of Missouri. Adams is
credited with launching the nouthetic counseling movement
through his influential book "Competent to Counsel," which
emphasizes strictly biblical counseling methods. He is also the
founder of the Institute for Nouthetic Studies.

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Summary Content List
Chapter 1 : THE PERSONS INVOLVED IN COUNSELING

Chapter 2 : THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE PRINCIPAL

PERSON

Chapter 3 : THE HUMAN COUNSELOR

Chapter 4 : THE COUNSELEE

Chapter 5 : PRESUPPOSITIONS AND PRINCIPLES

BASIC TO COUNSELING

Chapter 6 : HOPE

Chapter 7 : PRAYER: THE BASE FOR CHRISTIAN

COUNSELING

Chapter 8 : THE RECONCILIATION/DISCIPLINE

DYNAMIC

Chapter 9 : RECONCILIATION

Chapter 10 : PRESUPPOSITIONS AND METHODOLOGY

Chapter 11 : TECHNIQUE

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Chapter 12 : THE LANGUAGE OF COUNSELING

Chapter 13 : THE LANGUAGE OF EMOTION AND

ACTION

Chapter 14 : SIN IS THE PROBLEM

Chapter 15 : LOVE IN COUNSELING

Chapter 16 : SUPPORT, SYMPATHY, AND EMPATHY

Chapter 17 : THE MOTIVATION FOR CHANGE

Chapter 18 : EFFECTING BIBLICAL CHANGE

Chapter 19 : ELEMENTS OF DEHABITUATION AND

REHABITUATION

Chapter 20 : GETTING STARTED

Chapter 21 : GOALS AND TERMINAL DATES

Chapter 22 : THE COMMITMENT OF THE COUNSELEE

Chapter 23 : IS THERE A PROBLEM?

Chapter 24 : TWO BASIC APPROACHES

Chapter 25 : WAYS OF GATHERING DATA

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Chapter 26 : ASKING QUESTIONS

Chapter 27 : HELPING THROUGH HOMEWORK

Chapter 28 : AN ANALYSIS OF HOMEWORK

Chapter 29 : WAYS OF USING HOMEWORK

Chapter 30 : GIFTS THAT DIFFER

Chapter 31 : HOW TO HANDLE ANGER

Chapter 32 : DEALING WITH ENVY, BROODING,

FRETTING, AND SELF-PITY

Chapter 33 : HELPING DEPRESSED PERSONS

Chapter 34 : HELPING THE “SCHIZOPHRENIC”

Chapter 35 : RESOLVING SEXUAL DIFFICULTIES

Chapter 36 : HELPING THOSE WHO FEAR

Chapter 37 : COUNSELING THOSE WHO FEAR THAT

THEY HAVE COMMITTED THE UNPARDONABLE SIN

Chapter 38 : Appendix A

Chapter 39 : Appendix C

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Chapter 40 : Appendix F

Chapter 41 : Reference 1

Chapter 42 : Reference 4

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 Chapter 1 Summary : THE PERSONS
INVOLVED IN COUNSELING

Section Summary

Title Chapter One: The Persons Involved in Counseling

Always Jay E. Adams emphasizes that counseling involves more than just the pastor and counselee. He critiques the idea by
More highlighting external influences, such as family or past relations, that affect the counseling context. He stresses
Than personal responsibility in Christian counseling, supported by scripture that emphasizes accountability for one's
Two actions, irrespective of external factors.

At Adams argues that the biblical counseling context includes at least three participants: the counselor, the counselee,
Least and Jesus Christ, who acts as a divine Counselor. The inclusion of Christ shapes the counseling process, as His
Three presence is expected when discussions occur in His name.

Chapter One: The Persons Involved in Counseling

Always More Than Two

The individuals involved in pastoral counseling are often

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perceived merely as the parishioner and pastor, or counselor
and counselee. However, the author, Jay E. Adams,
challenges this notion, emphasizing the importance of
understanding the counseling dynamic beyond just these two
roles. He critiques the inclusion of external influences, such
as family or past figures, that may complicate the counseling
context. Adams insists that personal responsibility is central
in Christian counseling, supported by scriptural teachings
that hold individuals accountable for their actions, regardless
of external factors.

At Least Three

Adams posits that the counseling context, especially within a

biblical framework, involves at least three persons. This
includes the counselor, the counselee, and the presence of
Jesus Christ, who serves as a divine Counselor. By gathering
in His name, the counselor and counselee can expect Christ’s
presence during their discussions, which fundamentally
shapes the counseling process.

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Example
Key Point:Understanding Counseling Dynamics
Example:Recognize that counseling involves more than
just you and your counselor; it's part of a larger spiritual
context.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The Counseling Dynamic Involves More
Than Two Participants.
Critical Interpretation:Adams emphasizes that
counseling should not only focus on the counselor and
the counselee but also recognize the significant
influence of Christ's presence in the process. This
perspective invites readers to consider how this triadic
relationship impacts the development of counseling
outcomes and accountability within a Christian context.
However, it's essential to critique this viewpoint, as it
may overlook the nuanced realities often presented in
secular counseling practices where multiple dynamics,
such as social structures and psychological principles,
also play crucial roles. Competing paradigms in
psychotherapy, including humanistic or
cognitive-behavioral models, suggest that exclusive
reliance on spiritual elements might not adequately
address all the complexities of human behavior and
relationships. Alternative views can be explored through
works like "The Handbook of Psychotherapy and
Religious Diversity" by Edward P. Shafranske,
illustrating the multifaceted nature of counseling.

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 Chapter 2 Summary : THE HOLY
SPIRIT IS THE PRINCIPAL PERSON

Section Summary

Introduction to the Holy Spirit's The Holy Spirit is the "another Counselor" sent by the Father to continue Jesus' ministry
Role of guidance and teaching within the church.

The Nature and Work of the Holy The Holy Spirit is the source of holiness essential for believers' sanctification, and His
Spirit work must be integrated with Scripture for effective counseling.

The Continuity of Jesus’ Counsel The Holy Spirit enables disciples to perform greater works than Jesus during His physical
through the Holy Spirit presence, as He is omnipresent with all believers.

The Ongoing Work of the Holy The Holy Spirit continues to counsel beyond the apostles' time, guiding believers through
Spirit in Counseling Scripture in understanding and living God's will.

Conclusion All true believers receive the Holy Spirit's counsel at regeneration, which aids in their
spiritual growth through Scripture's teachings.

Chapter Two: The Holy Spirit is the Principal

Person

Introduction to the Holy Spirit's Role

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Jesus Christ now dwells in His church through the Holy
Spirit, who is referred to as the "another Counselor" that the
Father would send. The term "another" signifies a
counterpart of the same kind, indicating that the Holy Spirit
will continue Jesus’ ministry of guidance and teaching.

The Nature and Work of the Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit is distinct from other spirits, and He is the

source of all holiness. This holiness is essential for the
sanctification of believers, which is His main role in
counseling. The "fruit" produced by the Holy Spirit is a
direct result of His work within individuals. Effective
counseling must involve the Holy Spirit and Scripture; to
ignore either is to rebel against God's design.

The Continuity of Jesus’ Counsel through the Holy

Spirit

Jesus promised that His disciples would do greater works

through the Holy Spirit, who would guide them in their
mission. Unlike Jesus’ limited physical presence, the Holy
Spirit can be with all believers everywhere, providing

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counsel and support until the end of the age.

The Ongoing Work of the Holy Spirit in Counseling

While the Holy Spirit uniquely counseled the apostles during

the formation of the New Testament, this work continues in a
broader sense today. He operates through the Scriptures,
assisting in regeneration and faith, helping believers
understand and live according to God's will. The Holy
Spirit's counsel is given through apostolic writings and
enables the church to hear and apply this guidance.

Conclusion

All true believers access the Holy Spirit's counsel upon

regeneration, which empowers them to grow in faith and
obedience through the teachings contained in Scripture.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The central role of the Holy Spirit in
counseling is not universally accepted.
Critical Interpretation:While Jay E. Adams emphasizes
the Holy Spirit as the key figure in counseling and
spiritual growth, it is crucial to recognize that
interpretations of the Holy Spirit’s role can vary widely
among different theological perspectives. Critics may
argue that the reliance on the Holy Spirit, as described,
could undermine practical counseling techniques that
draw from psychology and human behavior, which can
also lead to beneficial outcomes. Furthermore, some
scholars highlight that personal experiences and
scripture can be interpreted in diverse ways, deviating
from a strict reliance on the Holy Spirit. For instance,
authors like Kenneth G. Davis in 'Christian Counseling:
A Comprehensive Guide' suggest a more integrative
approach that respects both spiritual guidance and
secular insights. Thus, while Adams presents a
compelling case for the Holy Spirit's role, it is wise to
consider other viewpoints and the wider context of
counseling practices.

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 Chapter 3 Summary : THE HUMAN
COUNSELOR
Section Summary

Who Should All Christians are called to counsel, but the primary role belongs to pastors. Personal issues arise from
Counsel? demonic activity, personal sin, and organic illness. Psychiatry is not biblically supported as a separate
discipline; collaboration with psychiatrists is vital for addressing spiritual and physical needs.

Counseling Is The pastor ministers to individuals suffering from sin, engaging in preaching and counseling. Effective
Ministerial counseling requires strong biblical and theological training, making seminary education important.

Qualifications Counselors need ministerial qualifications, including understanding Scripture, divine wisdom, and goodwill.
for These align with nouthetic confrontation, which involves recognizing wrongdoing and applying scriptural
Counseling knowledge with care for others.

Authority in Biblical counseling is based on Scripture, guiding counselors to ensure their advice aligns with biblical
Counseling principles. Counselors must respect authority boundaries and differentiate between commands and personal
advice.

Counselors Biblical counseling is directive, focusing on providing guidance from Scripture rather than just listening. A
Must Be counselor's authority comes from God, requiring adherence to biblical principles.
Directive

The A counselor's personality should not dictate methods; biblical authority must prevail. The Holy Spirit
Personality of transforms counselors, enabling effective delivery of God's message with conviction.
the Counselor

Conclusion Effective biblical counselors allow God to work through them, fostering personal transformation and helping
others find hope and change.

Chapter Three: The Human Counselor

Who Should Counsel?

All Christians are called to counsel one another, but the

special role of counseling is primarily assigned to pastors.
The Bible outlines three sources of personal issues: demonic

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activity, personal sin, and organic illness. There is no
scriptural basis for psychiatry as a distinct discipline. The
pastor’s role is to return to counseling as a biblical restorative
practice, while psychiatrists should focus on organic medical
issues. Collaboration between psychiatrists and Christian
counselors is important for addressing both physical and
spiritual needs.

Counseling Is Ministerial

The pastor's responsibility is to minister to individuals

enduring personal suffering due to sin. His role involves
preaching and counseling, reflecting God's love and directing
congregants in their spiritual growth. Although all Christians
can provide informal counsel, a life-calling in counseling
aligns with being set apart as a minister. Strong biblical and
theological training is essential for effective counseling,
making seminary education the best preparation.

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 Chapter 4 Summary : THE
COUNSELEE
Section Summary

Chapter Four: The A focus on the relationship between counselor and counselee, emphasizing common human
Counselee experiences and the counselor's role.

You Already Know a Lot Counselors use basic questions about daily life to gather insights into counselees' experiences.

Sources of Knowledge Christian counselors rely on the Scriptures, counseling experience, and personal sinful nature to
guide their practice.

No Surprises Necessary All problems are rooted in common human experiences, enabling counselors to recognize
underlying themes of sin.

Solutions for Every Biblical solutions exist for every issue, as Jesus addressed all human challenges in a sinless
Problem manner.

What the Counselor Needs Counselors should identify specific issues, applicable biblical principles, and necessary actions
to Know before the session.

How Prior Knowledge The case study of Sylvia illustrates the benefits of prior knowledge from family, aiding in
Helps therapeutic progress.

Counselees Can Change Belief in the potential for change is vital; profound transformations are possible through the Holy
Spirit and conversion.

Overall Emphasis Highlights the significance of biblical truths, shared human experiences, and hope for change in
effective counseling.

Chapter Four: The Counselee

You Already Know a Lot

The initial interactions between a counselor and counselee

reveal a significant understanding of common human
experiences. Counselors use common questions about

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everyday life, such as household tasks, to gain insights,
gaining knowledge from what may seem elementary.

Sources of Knowledge

Christian counselors draw on three primary sources of

information:
1.
The Scriptures
- The foundational source for presuppositions and principles.

2.
Counseling Experience
- Insights gained from practice and observing others.
3.
Personal Sinful Nature
- Understanding of one’s own heart contributes to
counseling.
The Scriptures inform foundational principles, while
experiences and personal insights help counselors relate to
their counselees effectively.

No Surprises Necessary

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The Scriptures imply that all human experiences are
common, which means no problem faced in counseling is
entirely unique. Understanding common themes of sin can
empower counselors, reinforcing that problems may appear
unique due to superficial features but derive from the same
core issues.

Solutions for Every Problem

Counselors are assured that biblical solutions exist for every

problem since Jesus addressed all human challenges without
sin. The Scriptures provide comprehensive guidance for life's
situations, equipping counselors to assist counselees in facing
their struggles.

What the Counselor Needs to Know

Before the counseling session, a counselor is aware of the

fundamental problems faced by counselees. The key
questions revolve around identifying specific issues,
applicable biblical principles, and the necessary actions to
address these concerns. The focus is on recognizing known
problems rather than unique cases.

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How Prior Knowledge Helps

The case of Sylvia, a 20-year-old daughter of missionary

parents, illustrates the usefulness of prior knowledge. Despite
her silence, counselors gathered information from her
parents, leading to key insights regarding her resentment
from years of separation. Understanding these dynamics
facilitated therapeutic breakthroughs and reconciliation.

Counselees Can Change

The belief in the potential for significant change is crucial in

Christian counseling. Acknowledging that individuals,
regardless of their past, can experience profound
transformations is foundational. The Scriptures highlight the
possibility of radical change through conversion, supported
by the Holy Spirit, reinforcing the counselor's hope for
counselees to grow and change positively.
Overall, the chapter emphasizes the importance of biblical
truths, shared human experiences, and the hope for change in
effective Christian counseling.

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Example
Key Point:The Power of Prior Knowledge in
Counseling
Example:As a counselor, imagine your first session with
a counselee who seems closed off, sharing little about
their struggles. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by their
silence, you reflect on what you already know about
common human challenges. Drawing upon insights
from previous counseling experiences and the wisdom
of Scriptures, you gently ask about their family
dynamics. You discover that they come from a
missionary background, allowing you to connect deeper
by understanding potential feelings of abandonment or
resentment due to their upbringing. By tapping into
these prior knowledge sources, you create an
environment of trust and openness, ultimately
facilitating their journey towards healing and
transformation.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The reliance on biblical principles and
shared human experiences in counseling
Critical Interpretation:This chapter stresses that
Christian counselors derive significant knowledge from
Scriptures and common life experiences, suggesting that
solutions exist for every problem based on religious
doctrine. However, it's crucial to critically assess this
viewpoint; not all counseling perspectives embrace a
singular, scriptural approach, and the efficacy of
psychological interventions could equally play a
transformative role in an individual's journey. For
broader insights on counseling methodologies, one
might consider examining works like "The Gift of
Therapy" by Irvin D. Yalom, which advocates for
diverse therapeutic approaches beyond a strictly biblical
context.

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 Chapter 5 Summary :
PRESUPPOSITIONS AND
PRINCIPLES BASIC TO
COUNSELING
Section Summary

Presuppositions Counseling should be rooted in biblical principles, emphasizing theological training over psychological
and Principles backgrounds. Current Christian counselors may misinterpret human nature due to a lack of depth in
theology. The author advocates for limiting principles to those that are theologically sound and relevant to
counseling.

Life Must Have Meaning and purpose are essential for a fulfilling life, as highlighted in Ecclesiastes. Temporary
Meaning achievements lack depth without a relationship with God. Counselors should guide individuals to discover
overarching purpose through Christ, especially those facing crises of meaning. Evangelistic elements in
counseling are crucial for addressing deeper needs and building hope, reminding even Christian counselees
of God's promises.

Chapter Five: Presuppositions and Principles Basic

to Counseling

A Limited Number of Presuppositions and

Principles

Counseling is deeply rooted in biblical principles, as the

subject matter aligns closely with Scripture. Therefore, a
counselor's grounding in the Word of God is essential,
prioritizing theological and biblical training over

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psychological backgrounds. Many current Christian
counselors lack this depth in theology, often resulting in
misinterpretations of human nature and solutions to
problems. The author emphasizes the importance of limiting
the principles discussed in this chapter to maintain focus,
based on common theological assumptions and those
principles directly relevant to counseling practice.

Life Must Have Meaning

Meaning and purpose are fundamental to a fulfilling life.

While day-to-day activities can provide temporary
satisfaction, they fail to address deeper existential needs. The
book of Ecclesiastes illustrates this notion, conveying that
without a relationship to God, all temporary pursuits
ultimately lack meaning. The biblical view contrasts
short-term goals with long-term significance, leading to a
more meaningful life when rooted in God.
Counselors should guide individuals—especially those
disillusioned by short-term living—towards recognizing the
overarching purpose in their lives through Christ. Many who
experience a so-called "nervous breakdown" are actually
facing a crisis of meaning caused by reliance on short-term
objectives. When individuals come to counseling, often

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feeling despair, it is crucial to lead them to the gospel, which
can provide the meaning they lack.
Counseling devoid of evangelistic elements tends to be
ineffective, as individuals often realize these methods do not
adequately address their needs. Building hope becomes a
critical step in counseling, as individuals may struggle with
the fear of renewed disappointment. Even Christian
counselees can benefit from a reminder of God's promises,
thus reframing their perspective on hope and future goals.

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Example
Key Point:The Importance of Meaning in Counseling
Example:As a counselor, you often encounter clients
burdened by despair and a sense of purposelessness.
During these sessions, you might notice them focusing
on immediate problems or frustrations, losing sight of a
bigger picture. You guide them to explore deeper
questions of meaning, encouraging them to connect
their struggles with a relationship to God. This shift
helps them realize that their lives can have profound
significance beyond daily activities, ultimately offering
them a renewed hope rooted in their faith. By bringing
biblical principles into these discussions, you provide
them a pathway not merely to cope, but to thrive with
purpose.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:Emphasis on Biblical Principles in
Counseling
Critical Interpretation:Adams argues for a counseling
framework deeply embedded in biblical principles,
asserting that true counseling effectiveness stems from a
solid theological foundation rather than psychological
theories. This perspective, while popular among some
Christian communities, may overlook the complexities
of human psychology as explored by secular theories,
which often provide valuable insights into mental health
and counseling practices. Critics, such as Carl Rogers
and Aaron Beck, suggest that relying solely on biblical
teachings might constrain counselors from utilizing
diverse methodologies that could better accommodate
the varied needs of clients, emphasizing the necessity
for an integrative approach to counseling.

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 Chapter 6 Summary : HOPE
Section Key Points

Chapter Six: HOPE

Hope of Change Hope is crucial for counselees during difficulties. It is a confident expectation based on God's promises.
Counselors should embody optimism to help restore hope.

Who Needs Hope? Each counselee may need hope due to sin's oppressive effects leading to doubt and despair, including:

1. Long-standing Hope is vital to believe in change for individuals with prolonged struggles.
Problems

2. Peculiarly Complex issues require reassurance of hope through Scripture.

Difficult Problems

3. Misunderstood Clarifying misdiagnoses helps restore hope.

Problems

4. Fear Overcoming fear needs the stronger power of love.

5. Repeated Continuous setbacks may breed distrust in future hope.

Disappointments

6. Past Failures Understanding past failures is crucial for guiding towards the right path.

7. Older Persons Aging individuals need reassurance of their capacity for change.

8. Depressed Engagement and addressing sin can renew hope.

Persons

9. Suicidal Acknowledging their situation is necessary for exploring hope in Christ.

Individuals

10. Life-Shattering Grief from losses requires support and restoration of hope.
Experiences

11. Without Christ Non-believers have no hope without embracing the gospel.

How to Give Hope Counselors should:

1. Emphasize God's promises in Scripture.

2. Encourage honest expression of emotions.

3. Validate efforts for change, especially after failures.

4. Provide assignments for genuine repentance.

5. Encourage positive actions to motivate continued efforts.

Conclusion Counselors must prioritize fostering hope and meaning from the beginning of the counseling process.

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Chapter Six: HOPE

Hope of Change

Hope is a key concept in the Scriptures, highlighted

alongside love and faith. It is essential for counselees,
especially during times of difficulty and failure. Biblical
hope is defined as a confident expectation, unlike the
uncertain connotation of hope in English. Counselors must
embody optimism rooted in God’s promises to effectively
help others regain hope.

Who Needs Hope?

Every counselee may need hope due to the oppressive effects

of sin, which can lead to doubt, discouragement, and despair.
The need for hope arises in various situations, including:
1.
Long-standing Problems:
Individuals enduring prolonged struggles require hope to
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 Chapter 7 Summary : PRAYER: THE
BASE FOR CHRISTIAN
COUNSELING
Section Summary

Importance of Prayer is crucial in counseling, invoking the Holy Spirit's power and recognizing the counselor's limits.
Prayer in It enhances preparation through reflection on the counselee's issues and potential scriptural solutions.
Counseling

Role of Prayer Prayer is integral to counseling, often concluding each session and responding to decisions or emotional
During Counseling states, as emphasized in James 5:16.

Counselor's Counselors should discern the right moments for prayer, ensuring they do not impose their preferences
Sensitivity to on the counselee and respond naturally to emotional distress.
Prayer

Practical Ending sessions with prayer is more effective when the counselee is emotionally prepared. Counselors
Application of can assign prayer as a tool or task to help integrate it into coping strategies.
Prayer

Cautions Two main cautions: 1) Avoid relying only on prayer when action is needed. 2) Prevent prayer from
Regarding Prayer leading to self-pity. Prayer should motivate constructive action, akin to seeking daily bread through
in Counseling work.

Conclusion Counseling should balance prayer and action, following biblical principles and aligning with the
counselee's spiritual and emotional needs, with further discussion on communication and self-awareness
to follow.

Chapter Seven: Prayer - The Base for Christian

Counseling

Importance of Prayer in Counseling

Prayer is essential in the counseling process, serving to call

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upon the power of the Holy Spirit and to acknowledge the
counselor's limitations. Effective counseling preparation
should involve prayer for both the counselor and the
counselee, ideally incorporating reflection on the counselee’s
issues and potential scriptural solutions.

Role of Prayer During Counseling

According to James 5:16, the prayer of a righteous individual

plays a critical role in supporting those in need. Prayer
should be an integral part of counseling sessions, typically
concluding each session. It may be appropriately offered at
other times, especially as a response to a decision or a
counselee's emotional state.

Counselor's Sensitivity to Prayer

Counselors must discern when to invite prayer and avoid

imposing their wishes on the counselee. Prayer can be a
natural response to feelings of distress or conviction during a
session.

Practical Application of Prayer

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Praying at the end of a session can feel more genuine and
focused compared to initial prayers when the counselee may
be too emotional to engage. Counselors can encourage prayer
as a therapeutic tool or homework assignment, helping
counselees integrate prayer into their coping strategies.

Cautions Regarding Prayer in Counseling

Two main pitfalls can arise:

1. Relying solely on prayer when additional action is
required.
2. Allowing prayer to devolve into self-pity. Counselors
should emphasize that prayer should motivate constructive
action, as illustrated by the analogy of seeking daily bread
through prayer and work, rather than passively waiting for it
to come.

Conclusion

Counseling should involve a balanced integration of prayer

and action, guided by biblical principles and sensitivity to the
counselee’s spiritual and emotional needs. Further
exploration of effective communication and self-awareness in
counseling will be addressed in subsequent sections.

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 Chapter 8 Summary : THE
RECONCILIATION/DISCIPLINE
DYNAMIC
Section Summary

Introduction to The chapter discusses the importance of resolving interpersonal conflicts among Christians,
Reconciliation/Discipline referencing Matthew 18:15-20, highlighting that unresolved issues can weaken congregations and
dishonor Christ.

Urgency of Christ emphasizes the importance of reconciliation over worship, urging Christians to take
Reconciliation initiative in resolving conflicts as a personal obligation.

Three Steps of
Reconciliation
Private Confrontation: Start with a private discussion between the parties.
Involving Others: If unresolved, invite witnesses to mediate.
Official Church Action: If reconciliation fails, escalate the issue to the church for formal
discipline.

Purpose and Benefits of Discipline should be loving, aiming to maintain God's honor, the church's purity, and to restore
Discipline the offender, with hopes for reconciliation even after excommunication.

The Role of Counseling Counseling is vital in the reconciliation process to effectively address and resolve conflicts.
in Discipline

Challenges of Neglected The neglect of discipline in the contemporary church leads to unresolved conflicts, weakening
Discipline both the church and individual members' spiritual health, necessitating a revival of biblical church
discipline.

Application to Marriage Marriage issues serve as a case study for reconciliation, stressing that efforts should be made to
and Divorce reconcile before pursuing divorce, with possible excommunication leading to the release of the
deserted partner from marital obligations.

Conclusion The chapter underscores the reconciliation/discipline dynamic as a biblical approach for resolving
conflicts and maintaining relationships among Christians, promoting active engagement in this
process.

Chapter Eight: The Reconciliation/Discipline

Dynamic

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Introduction to Reconciliation/Discipline

The chapter emphasizes that interpersonal issues among

Christians must be addressed and resolved, particularly
exemplified by the reconciliation/discipline dynamic found
in Matthew 18:15-20. Unresolved problems, or "loose ends,"
can weaken congregational strength and dishonor Christ.

Urgency of Reconciliation

Christ prioritizes reconciliation over worship, highlighting its

urgency. The fundamental principle is that Christians must
take the initiative to resolve conflicts, regardless of who may
be at fault. This calling for active reconciliation underscores
that it is a personal obligation for every believer.

Three Steps of Reconciliation

1.
Private Confrontation
: The first attempt should be made privately between the
parties involved.
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Involving Others
: If the first step fails, one or two witnesses should be invited
to mediate the situation.
3.
Official Church Action
: If reconciliation is still unattainable, the matter must be
brought to the church for formal discipline, aiming for
restoration.

Purpose and Benefits of Discipline

Discipline should be executed lovingly, with the prime goals

being to maintain God’s honor, ensure the church's purity,
and restore the offender. The hope for reconciliation remains,
even through excommunication, and church members are
encouraged to continue reaching out to the wayward
individual.

The Role of Counseling in Discipline

Counseling is described as an integral part of the

reconciliation process and is essential in addressing and
resolving conflicts effectively.

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Challenges of Neglected Discipline

The contemporary church often neglects discipline, leading

to unresolved conflicts that sap the church’s power and
individual Christians' spiritual well-being. The text calls for a
revival of proper biblical church discipline and outlines a
method for restoring its practice.

Application to Marriage and Divorce

The chapter uses marriage issues, particularly divorce among

Christians, as a case study for the reconciliation/discipline
dynamic. It stresses that reconciliation efforts should precede
divorce actions, and highlights that failure to reconcile could
lead to excommunication, after which the deserted partner
may be freed from the marriage bond.

Conclusion

The reconciliation/discipline dynamic provides a biblical

framework for resolving interpersonal conflicts among
Christians, offering hope for reconciliation and emphasizing
the need for both church leaders and members to actively
engage in this vital process. Problems can and should be

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resolved without leaving "loose ends," and discipline, when
executed biblically, can lead to restoration rather than
permanent separation.

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Example
Key Point:Importance of Active Reconciliation in
Conflict Resolution
Example:Imagine you have a disagreement with a
fellow church member over a ministry decision. Feeling
upset and isolated, you might hesitate to reach out first.
However, this chapter reminds you that initiating a
private conversation to address the conflict is essential,
even if you believe the other person is at fault. You
realize that your relationship with this person—along
with the integrity of the church as a whole—matters
more than your pride or reluctance. Engaging openly
and honestly allows for healing, ultimately leading both
of you to reconcile and strengthen your bond in Christ.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The importance of interpersonal
reconciliation in the Christian community.
Critical Interpretation:Adams argues that Christians
have a duty to address and resolve conflicts, which he
believes is essential for maintaining church unity and
honoring Christ. This perspective places the onus of
reconciliation on individual believers, suggesting that
personal initiative is paramount. However, detractors
might argue that this view overlooks the complex nature
of human relationships and the need for forgiveness
rather than merely resolution. Critics like Richard Beck
in 'Unclean' suggest focusing on empathy and the heart
of forgiveness, challenging Adams' more structured
approach to reconciliation and discipline. Thus, while
the intent to prioritize reconciliation is commendable, it
may not always align with the nuanced realities of
personal and communal relationships.

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RECONCILIATION
Section Summary

Definition of Reconciliation involves changing relationships with God and others, requiring confession of sin,
Reconciliation forgiveness from both parties, and establishing a new relationship to move from conflict to peace.

A New Forgiveness marks a fresh start and true repentance leads to behavioral changes. Forming a biblical
Relationship relationship post-forgiveness is crucial to avoid reverting to past issues.

Forgive and Forgiveness does not mean forgetting but committing to not dwell on the offense. Allowing initial
Forget? wariness is acceptable, yet dwelling on past issues undermines forgiveness.

Building a New Counselors should explore motivations during reconciliation, checking for genuine repentance and
Relationship forgiveness. Mutual commitment to God's ways is essential for successful reconciliation.

Forgiveness First Forgiveness is a duty, not based on feelings. It should be granted upon hearing repentance, with a
Is Granted, Not commitment to not bring up the offense again, leading to eventual feelings of forgiveness.
Felt

Counseling Counselors must challenge excuses for withholding forgiveness, emphasizing that it is a necessary duty
Approach rooted in obedience rather than feelings or faith.

Chapter Nine: Reconciliation

Definition of Reconciliation

Reconciliation involves a change of relationship between

individuals (both with God and among people) and includes
three key elements:
1. Confession of sin to God and any offended parties.
2. Forgiveness from both God and the offended.

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3. Establishment of a new relationship post-confession.
This process transitions from enmity and alienation to peace
and fellowship.

A New Relationship

Forgiveness signals a new beginning, not merely the

cessation of conflict. True repentance leads to observable
changes in behavior. Establishing a biblical relationship
post-forgiveness is essential to prevent reverting to old ways.
If this new relationship is not formed, reconciliation is likely
to fail, resulting in ongoing unresolved issues.

Forgive and Forget?

Forgiveness does not require immediate forgetfulness. It’s a

commitment to not dwell on the offense again. An initial
sense of wariness is acceptable, especially after severe
offenses, but dwelling on past grievances undermines true
forgiveness. Genuine forgiveness involves promises to not
revisit the issue, neither with the offender nor with others.
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 Chapter 10 Summary :
PRESUPPOSITIONS AND
METHODOLOGY
Section Content

PRESUPPOSITIONS
AND
METHODOLOGY

Importance of Counseling methodology reflects beliefs about human nature and society. Techniques are not morally
Methodology in neutral, especially in life-altering situations. Methodology is influenced by beliefs about God,
Counseling humanity, and creation.

Comparison of
Counseling
Approaches

Expert Knowledge
Overview: Counseling is provided by trained experts; counselees are passive.

Freudian Approach: Focuses on past interactions and societal pressures.

Behaviorism: Suggests behavior can be scientifically shaped; denies personal responsibility.

Common Knowledge

Rogerian Approach: Belief in inherent self-solutions; counselors facilitate self-discovery.

Mowrer's Integrity Therapy: Focus on behavior's impact on guilt; lacks vertical morality.

Divine Knowledge This Christian approach bases methodology on biblical truths, emphasizing Scripture for guidance.

Four Basic Activities

of Biblical
Counseling Judging Activity: Identify sin according to biblical standards.
Convicting Activity: Help counselees recognize their sin against God.
Changing Activity: Guide transformation towards righteousness using Scripture.
Structuring Activity: Establish disciplined lives based on Biblical teachings.

Conclusion A Christian counselor’s methodology should align with biblical principles, rejecting secular
approaches, and emphasizing the importance of Scripture in addressing life’s challenges.

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PRESUPPOSITIONS AND METHODOLOGY

Importance of Methodology in Counseling

Counseling methodology is crucial as it reflects underlying

beliefs about human nature and society. Techniques cannot
be morally neutral, particularly when counseling involves
life-altering decisions. A counselor’s methodology is directly
influenced by their foundational beliefs about God,
humanity, and creation.

Comparison of Counseling Approaches

1.
Expert Knowledge

-
Overview
: This method, exemplified by Freud and Skinner, believes
only trained experts can provide counseling. It positions the
counselee as passive, reliant on the therapist's expertise to
resolve issues.
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Freudian Approach
: Centered around socialization, Freud's method suggests that
a person's difficulties arise from their past interactions and
societal pressures, necessitating expert intervention.
-
Behaviorism
: Skinner argues that behavior can be shaped scientifically
through environmental manipulation. This view also denies
personal responsibility, placing individuals solely within the
realm of observable behaviors.
2.
Common Knowledge

-
Rogerian Approach
: Carl Rogers proposes all individuals have inherent solutions
to their problems. The counselor’s role is merely to facilitate
this self-discovery, relying on the notion that people are
intrinsically good.
-
Mowrer's Integrity Therapy
: Mowrer emphasizes bad behavior’s impact on personal
guilt and calls for restitution to others, lacking any concept of
vertical morality or sin against God.

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3.
Divine Knowledge

- This fundamentally Christian approach maintains that a

counselor must base their methodology on biblical truths.
Christian counseling should not be eclectic but rooted in
Scripture, as the Bible provides comprehensive guidance for
all of life's challenges.

Four Basic Activities of Biblical Counseling

1.
Judging Activity
: Counselors must correctly identify sin through biblical
standards.
2.
Convicting Activity
: Bringing counselees to recognize their sin against God,
leading to genuine repentance.
3.
Changing Activity
: Guiding counselees in transformation toward righteousness
by applying Scriptural principles.
4.

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Structuring Activity
: Establishing a disciplined life in accordance with Biblical
teaching.

Conclusion

A Christian counselor’s methodology must align with

biblical presuppositions, rejecting secular approaches that
dilute the importance of personal responsibility and divine
guidance. Proper use of Scripture is essential to counseling,
as it provides the necessary resources for addressing life’s
complexities.

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Chapter 11 Summary : TECHNIQUE

Chapter Eleven: Technique

Overview of Technique in Counseling

Before discussing practical counseling practices, it is crucial

to understand the nature of technique and its importance in
biblical counseling. Many Christians struggle with the
concept of technique, often in various contexts like preaching
and teaching. It's essential to recognize that issues with
technique typically stem from relying on personal strength or
using methods that contradict biblical principles, rather than
from the techniques themselves.

Misunderstandings about Technique

Some Christians mistakenly equate technique with

gimmickry, leading to a rejection of its study and application.
However, skillfulness in technique is emphasized throughout
Scripture. For example, the Apostle Paul instructs Christians
on wise conduct and effective communication, highlighting

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that technique is about skillful interaction under the guidance
of the Holy Spirit.

Defining Technique

In its simplest form, technique refers to skill. While

gimmicks may involve techniques, not all techniques are
gimmicky. Biblical techniques are those prescribed,
encouraged, or derived from scriptural principles. Effective
counseling is inseparable from technique, whether conscious
or unconscious, biblical or unbiblical.

Focus on Practical Counseling

The following sections of this chapter will address the

practical needs and challenges faced by counselors. This will
be the most extensive part of the book, concentrating on
common issues encountered by pastors and Christian
counselors, rather than rare or obscure challenges.

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Example
Key Point:Understanding the true essence of
technique in biblical counseling can transform your
approach.
Example:As you sit across from a struggling colleague,
remember that using effective communication
techniques doesn’t undermine your faith. Instead,
consider how the Apostle Paul emphasized skillful
conduct to guide your conversation. Embrace structured
methods to express your thoughts, allowing the Holy
Spirit to work through you while you engage honestly
and deeply with their needs.

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Chapter 12 Summary : THE
LANGUAGE OF COUNSELING

Chapter 12: The Language of Counseling

Language Is Important

Language is crucial in counseling as it can significantly

influence outcomes. What individuals say—both to others
and to themselves—affects their beliefs. Repeated phrases
often indicate ingrained attitudes or excuses that must be
addressed for counseling to be effective. For example, the
use of "can’t" can reinforce an unscriptural mindset that
hampers action. Counselors should help clients reframe their
self-talk toward a biblical perspective to facilitate change.

Confronting Counselees About Their Language

Counselors must address metaphorical language that

obscures understanding. By pointing out linguistic patterns
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confront their beliefs. This includes examining repeated
phrases that reflect hindrances to progress in counseling.
Specific phrases commonly used by counselees can be paired
with effective counselor responses to encourage deeper
reflection and accountability.

Typical Counselee Remarks and Responses

1. "I can’t!" - "Do you mean can’t or won’t?"

2. "I’ve tried that but it didn’t work." - "Did you really try?
How many times?"
3. "I did my best." - "Are you sure? Tell me precisely what
you did."
4. "No one believes me." - "Can’t you think of one person
who does?"
5. "I’ll never forgive him!" - "If you are a child of God, you
will."

Deadly Euphemisms

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Chapter 13 Summary : THE
LANGUAGE OF EMOTION AND
ACTION

Chapter Thirteen: The Language of Emotion and

Action

Importance of Language in Counseling

The chapter emphasizes the critical role of language in the

context of counseling, particularly regarding the language of
emotion and action. It clarifies the distinctions between three
key terms: attitude, feeling, and behavior.

Feelings

Feelings are described as perceptions of bodily states,

classified fundamentally as good or bad. The text explains
that feelings arise from judgments about oneself or the
environment, which trigger bodily responses.
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with judgments; for example, feeling inferior is actually
expressing a judgment about oneself. The implications of this
distinction suggest that understanding feelings as judgments
allows for the possibility of change in emotional states
through changed behavior.

Assurance of Salvation

The chapter discusses the issue of assurance in salvation,

noting that feelings of being saved are not emotions but
rather judgments based on faith and evidence of a changed
life. Doubts may stem from personal failures rather than a
genuine lack of salvation, and counselors should guide
counselees to recognize and articulate these judgments based
on biblical criteria.

Attitudes

Attitudes are defined as a combination of beliefs and

opinions that shape one’s habitual stance toward subjects,
individuals, or actions. Changing attitudes is often more
direct than altering feelings, as negative attitudes can obstruct
effective communication and problem-solving in counseling.
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approach of discarding negative thoughts and acquiring new,
positive ones.

Behavior

Behavior is defined as actions that can be morally judged,

distinct from broader definitions that may include all bodily
functions. The biblical perspective emphasizes responsible
conduct, contrasting with some behaviorist views that
diminish the moral and cognitive aspects of human beings.
Overall, the chapter seeks to clarify misconceptions around
emotions, judgments, and behavior in counseling, advocating
for an understanding rooted in biblical principles.

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Example
Key Point:The Distinction Between Feelings,
Attitudes, and Behavior
Example:Imagine you're sitting across from a client who
feels overwhelmed by a sense of inferiority. Instead of
labeling their experience merely as a 'feeling', recognize
that this perception is steeped in their judgments about
their worth in comparison to others. By helping them
articulate that feeling inferior stems from a judgment
rather than an absolute truth about themselves, you can
guide them toward realizing that these emotional states
can change. Encourage them to consider how positive
behavior changes—such as engaging in supportive
community activities—can shift their attitudes away
from negativity. This fundamental understanding that
feelings are closely linked to judgments allows you to
not only address their emotions but also empower them
to redefine their self-perception through actionable
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Chapter 14 Summary : SIN IS THE
PROBLEM

Chapter 14: Sin is the Problem

Counseling as Warfare

Christian counselors are called to resist the influences of the

world, the flesh, and the devil, viewing counseling as a form
of spiritual warfare. Success in this endeavor requires the
"full armor of God," which unbelieving counselors lack.
Understanding Satan's tactics and the fundamental themes of
sin is crucial for effective counseling.

The Temptation of Desire

The first sin in the Garden of Eden illustrates the choice

between desire-oriented living and obedience to God. Adam
and Eve's choice reflects a fundamental conflict: a life driven
by feelings versus one guided by divine commandments.
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precedes feelings—true love and proper actions must lead to
the subsequent emotional responses.

The Dangers of Feeling-Oriented Counseling

Counseling that prioritizes feelings encourages clients to act

according to desires rather than biblical principles, which
reinforces their sin. Counselees may offer excuses like lack
of feeling for avoiding obedience, which must be challenged
by the counselor. Counselors should guide clients toward
decision-making based on scriptural truths rather than their
transient emotions.

Common Themes of Sin

Sin leads to rejection of God’s Word and its consequences,

including guilt and relational dysfunction. Counselors must
address behaviors like blame-shifting and avoidance while
teaching accountability and the importance of repentance.
Recognizing these themes can help identify the underlying
issues in clients’ lives.

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While all individuals partake in common sins and excuses,
each develops a unique style of sinning. Counselors should
uncover these individual patterns through assessments and
biblical teachings while remaining sensitive to variances in
clients' situations.

Satan and His Forces

Counselors must understand that they are on a victorious side

against a defeated enemy—Satan. The teachings of Scripture
assure believers that while Satan may have power over
non-believers, Christians are empowered to overcome evil
and should not attribute their issues to demonic possession,
particularly in the current era.

Feeling and Doing

Counseling must focus on actions and obedience rather than

feelings, which are often unreliable. The relationship
between feelings and actions is essential, and counselors
should encourage clients to take steps towards godliness,
promising that proper feelings will follow.

Responsibility and Sin

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Acknowledging personal responsibility is crucial for clients
overcoming issues. Counselors should address excuses
stemming from psychological theories and help clients
understand their accountability for their choices and sinful
behavior, regardless of past trauma or upbringing.

Conclusion: The Need for Hope and Change

Despite the challenges posed by sin and the influences of the

past, counseling offers hope through the transformative
power of the gospel. Counselors must encourage clients that
significant, positive changes are possible through Christ and
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Key Point:Counseling Must Prioritize Obedience
Over Feelings
Example:In your journey, imagine facing a moment
where emotions overwhelm you, leading to doubt about
your faith. Rather than yielding to fear or insecurity, it
becomes vital for you to remember that God's
commandments guide your actions. By choosing to act
in faith—perhaps by reaching out to help someone
despite your feelings of inadequacy—you might find
that true peace and emotional clarity follow such
obedience. This shift from feeling-driven behavior to
aligning with biblical truths not only strengthens your
resolve but also becomes a testament to spiritual victory
in your life, helping you to combat the temptations
presented by both the world and personal inclinations.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The Nature of Sin and Its Recognition
Critical Interpretation:Adams presents sin as a
fundamental problem in counseling, arguing that
effective therapy requires an understanding of biblical
principles over emotional experiences. While this
interpretation is rooted in a Christian framework that
emphasizes sin's pivotal role in human behavior, it's
critical to recognize that mental health perspectives
oftentimes promote different understandings of
emotional and psychological issues. Secular
psychological theories, such as those offered by Carl
Rogers or Aaron T. Beck, provide alternative models
focusing on humanistic approaches and cognitive
restructuring, which may not prioritize a sin-centric
view of problems but can still lead to effective
outcomes. Readers should consider these perspectives
and question the singular reliance on a theological
framework in counseling discussions.

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Chapter 15 Summary : LOVE IN
COUNSELING

Chapter Fifteen: LOVE IN COUNSELING

Love Is the Goal

Love for God and neighbor is central to Christian life.

Genuine love requires no counseling, as it fosters
connections and addresses the fundamental issues faced by
individuals. According to scripture, the authoritative goal of
counseling is to cultivate a love that emerges from a pure
heart and good conscience, with God’s glory as the
underlying purpose.

Must One First Love Himself?

Christ's command to love neighbors as oneself has been

misinterpreted by some to mean self-love must precede
loving others. However, this is a misunderstanding; the
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naturally has for oneself, not a call to prioritize self-love.
Biblical teaching suggests that self-love is excessive and
does not serve as a foundation for loving others. Love should
ideally operate out of selflessness, affirming that true love is
about giving rather than receiving.

What of One’s Self-Concept?

A person who loves God and others will have a healthy

self-concept. Contrary to modern psychological theories,
biblical identity is rooted in being a child of God, which
provides sufficient self-worth. Christians derive their identity
from their relationship with Christ, not through self-esteem
or personal Ego strength. Negative self-perception occurring
from external criticisms should not shift the focus away from
personal responsibility or adherence to God's expectations.

The Counselor’s Approach

Counselors should not require self-love or high self-esteem

as prerequisites for loving God and others. A biblical
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Chapter 16 Summary : SUPPORT,
SYMPATHY, AND EMPATHY

Chapter Sixteen: Support, Sympathy, and Empathy

Modern Ideas

The contemporary view among many counselors suggests

that pastoral counseling should primarily be supportive,
especially for individuals facing serious problems. However,
this notion contradicts biblical teachings on change and does
not align with the broader biblical concept of counseling,
which involves active engagement rather than mere presence
or support.

Support vs. Biblical Counseling

Support, as commonly defined in modern psychology,

emphasizes passive listening and empathy without driving
towards resolution or change. This is in stark contrast to the
biblical approach, which encourages confronting issues

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through scriptural guidance. A pastor’s role should not be
passive; instead, it should actively involve encouraging
counselees to engage with their problems biblically. Merely
providing comfort without addressing sin or faulty behaviors
fails to offer real help.

Harmful Effects of Support

Support, as understood by modern practitioners, can

reinforce sinful behaviors and attitudes rather than challenge
them. It suggests a lack of better alternatives to the
counselee's current struggles and ultimately fosters
hopelessness instead of offering biblical solutions. True help
aims to guide individuals towards repentance and
transformative change, rather than accepting and validating
their ineffective coping methods.

The Role of Sympathy and Empathy

Sympathy and empathy go beyond simply showing support.

Genuine empathy requires understanding and addressing the
individual’s problems actively. Biblical love and care
demand action rather than passive support. Effective
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to guiding individuals toward scriptural solutions,
demonstrating that God’s power and promises provide
adequate resources for navigating their challenges.

Conclusion

The biblical response to counseling should focus on

instigating change and transformation in the lives of
counselees. Passive support, as construed by many modern
counselors, does not align with biblical expectations and can
render the counselor’s role ineffective in conveying God's
active presence and help.

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Chapter 17 Summary : THE
MOTIVATION FOR CHANGE

MOTIVATION FOR CHANGE

Lack of Motivation in Counseling

Counselees often struggle with motivation due to loss of

hope, impatience, and the challenges of change. Sinful
failures further compound this issue, making it crucial for the
Christian counselor to understand biblical concepts of
motivation to instigate change.

Be What You Are

The New Testament teaches that Christians are not static but
are in constant transformation. The essence of the Christian
life involves "putting off" sinful behaviors and "putting on"
godly ones. This process, described as taking up one’s cross,
requires significant self-denial and is challenging,
underscoring the need for hope.

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Pointing to Christ for Motivation

Counselors must guide counselees towards Christ as the

ultimate source of motivation. The believer is encouraged to
live in line with their divine calling in Christ, which serves as
a powerful motivator for biblical living. The Apostle Paul
underscores this calling in his exhortations, emphasizing that
believers have already begun a life of holiness and must
manifest this in daily actions.

Implications for Counseling

Counselors must help clients recognize their identity through

God's perspective—as perfect and elevated in
Christ—fostering hope and the belief in change. The
counselor's role involves challenging doubts about the
possibility of transformational change in Christ.

Reward and Punishment in Motivation

God’s mercies manifest through a high calling that motivates

believers, alongside the principles of reward and punishment.
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reconciliation of punishment, while rewards are encouraged
for genuine achievements rather than compliance with basic
expectations.

The Biblical View vs. Behaviorism

Counselors must differentiate between the biblical

understanding of motivation through rewards and
punishments and the behavioristic approach that treats
individuals like animals. The Christian perspective
acknowledges both temporal and eternal rewards, viewing
earthly experiences in light of eternal truths.

Additional Means of Motivation

Besides rewards and punishments, counselors can draw on

various other biblical motivators, such as the desire to please
God and modeling through positive examples. Appeals to
higher motivations beyond fear or selfish gain can enhance
counseling effectiveness.

Choosing the Right Method

When determining motivational strategies, counselors can

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draw from multiple options. Past successful motivational
techniques should be favored, while constantly inviting
counselees to consider broader reasons for action beyond
self-interest. A comprehensive view of motivation, including
ethical implications, is essential for effective counseling.

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Chapter 18 Summary : EFFECTING
BIBLICAL CHANGE

Chapter Eighteen: Effecting Biblical Change

Change: The Goal

Biblical change is the central aim of counseling, but it is

inherently challenging. Joel Nederhood highlights the
difficulty of enacting change among individuals, referencing
Amitai Etzioni's observations on the failures of established
methodologies aimed at fostering change. Jeremiah illustrates
this difficulty by questioning if established life patterns can
be changed. Calvin emphasizes that these patterns are a result
of habitual practice rather than innate sinful nature.

Change Is Hard

Counselors must recognize that while hope for change exists

in Christ, the process is arduous. Individuals often resist
necessary changes, mistakenly equating learned behaviors

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with fixed traits. Counselors should assert that qualities God
requires, like patience, can be cultivated. Change requires
movement away from a fixation on the past and toward
present realities, where forgiveness and repentance enable
transformation.

Changing Present Patterns from the Past

Individuals must not focus on their past but on redefining

their present. Personality is shaped by a mix of genetic and
learned traits, but individuals retain the responsibility to alter
their behaviors. Counselors must educate clients on the
distinction between inherited traits and acquired habits.
Genuine change is possible in Christ regardless of age or past
experiences.

Changing Life Patterns

Habitual actions can feel innate, leading individuals to

confuse them with inherent traits. Counselors must help
clients identify sinful habits and understand they can adopt
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DEHABITUATION AND
REHABITUATION

Chapter 19: Elements of Dehabituation and

Rehabituation

Overview of Change Process

In counseling, once a counselee has committed to change and

understands the need to put off old behaviors and put on new
ones, the process can begin. There are seven essential
elements in biblical change:
1. Becoming aware of the problematic practice.
2. Discovering the biblical alternative.
3. Structuring the situation for change.
4. Breaking links in the chain of sin.
5. Getting help from others.
6. Stressing the relationship to Christ.
7. Practicing the new pattern.

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Becoming Aware of Patterns

Awareness is the first step; counselees need to recognize their

habitual behaviors—those that have become second nature.
This involves understanding the nature, frequency, and
triggers of their practices. For example, a counselee may
misinterpret a facial expression or habit, and identifying
these patterns with the help of a counselor or using tools like
a DPP sheet can facilitate change.

Discovering the Biblical Alternative

Counselors should help counselees identify scriptural

alternatives to their negative habits. This involves translating
biblical principles into practical applications in everyday life,
ensuring that counselees can replace bad habits with good
ones.

Structuring for Change

Structure aids in implementing change. If a counselee wishes

to stop a bad habit, they should alter their environment and
habits that support the change. Similarly, they need to
organize their life to facilitate new positive practices.

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Breaking Links in the Chain of Sin

Understanding that change does not happen all at once is

crucial. Counselors should guide counselees to identify and
break the chain of actions leading to sin, emphasizing
resistance at the first moment of temptation and restraint
when failure occurs.

Getting Help from Others

Change is challenging, and receiving support from friends,

family, or church community is vital. Many struggle with
pride or independence but soliciting help can provide
essential accountability and reinforcement.

Stressing the Whole Relationship to Christ

Counseling must not merely focus on specific changes but

should emphasize the importance of a holistic relationship
with Christ. Regular Scripture reading, prayer, and
fellowship are crucial for sustaining change in a Christian
context and keeping the focus on spiritual growth rather than
just problem-solving.

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Practicing the New Pattern

Change involves practice; it's a process that requires

discipline. New patterns must be established intentionally
over time. The counselor’s role is to motivate counselees
towards consistent effort to replace old behaviors with new
godly habits, fostering growth and transformation in their
spiritual lives.

Case Studies: Bill and Benjamin

Two illustrative examples demonstrate these principles in

action. Bill learns to see red traffic lights as opportunities for
relaxation instead of frustration, while Benjamin turns toll
booths into moments for practice in kindness and
compassion, illustrating that intentional change in behavior
leads to shifts in feelings and ultimately transformation.

Conclusion

These cases highlight that rapid change is possible through

awareness, repentance, intentional practice, and discipline.
The process goes beyond mere modifications and involves a

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godliness, all underpinned by a relationship with Christ.

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Chapter 20 Summary : GETTING
STARTED

Chapter Summary: Getting Started in Counseling

Introduction to Counseling for Pastors

A young pastor initiating a counseling ministry must first

ensure proper advertisement of his capabilities. Due to prior
failures in pastoral counseling and potential hesitancy
stemming from his youth, he may face delays in gaining
congregational trust. It is vital for the pastor to demonstrate
readiness and capability through various means.

Indirect Advertising Techniques

Advertising can be done indirectly through preaching. By

selecting sermon topics that resonate with congregation
members’ real-life struggles and providing relatable
illustrations, the pastor can establish credibility. Over time,
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visibility for the pastor’s counseling services.

Addressing Congregational Concerns

If congregational hesitance persists, it may stem from

previous negative counseling experiences. The pastor can
work to overcome this by patiently praying for opportunities
and engaging in direct advertisement, such as writing articles
addressing common issues. An effective way to attract
counselees is by focusing sermons on relevant topics,
encouraging private discussions afterward.

Encouragement Strategies for Counseling

Utilizing everyday interactions, the pastor can convert casual

conversations into counseling appointments. By reinforcing
the expectation that members will discuss concerns in the
pastor's study, the pastor can cultivate a culture of seeking
help.

Comparison of Pastoral and Center Counseling

Pastoral counseling holds advantages over counseling in a

center. Pastors have prior knowledge about members and can

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build on established relationships, expediting the counseling
process. Unlike center counselors who often meet clients in
crisis, pastors engage with congregants in various contexts,
enabling more meaningful support.

Managing Intimate Relationships in Counseling

Counseling parishioners may blur the lines of friendship, but

pastors must engage deeply to effectively shepherd their
flock. Building trust is crucial, as congregants are less likely
to disengage when they feel genuinely cared for.

The First Counseling Session

The initial session sets the tone for the counseling

relationship. Essential tasks include gathering factual data,
establishing rapport, and determining the counselee's
spiritual status. The priority should be on instilling hope and
addressing immediate issues rather than solely collecting
information. The pastor should structure the session and
create an agenda for follow-up discussions.

Conclusion

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Starting a counseling ministry requires proactive efforts to
advertise services, engage in meaningful preaching, and
cultivate trustful relationships with congregants. The pastor's
approach must balance data gathering with direct,
compassionate engagement to foster effective counseling
practices.

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Chapter 21 Summary : GOALS AND
TERMINAL DATES

Chapter 21: Goals and Terminal Dates

Early Morning Fog

Counseling can often feel uncertain and challenging, akin to

driving in fog. Despite knowledge and preparation,
counselors may initially struggle to see the path ahead.
Trusting biblical principles and methods is crucial during this
foggy stage. As clarity improves, the counselor's efforts can
shift towards encouraging the counselee to take on more
responsibility for their progress.

Setting Goals and Objectives

Counselors must establish clear goals based on God’s Word,

believing that every problem can be solved biblically. Goals
are not negotiable and should produce substantial changes
within a reasonable timeframe. By the sixth week of

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counseling, major issues should be addressed, and progress
should be evident. If progress stalls, counselors must
self-evaluate and diagnose any barriers to success, ensuring
that goals remain clear and concrete.

General and Specific Objectives

Two types of objectives guide counseling sessions: general

and specific. General goals focus on honoring God,
strengthening the church, and benefitting the counselee.
Specific goals address immediate needs and should evolve as
the counseling process unfolds. Maintaining clear
documentation of these goals helps ensure the counseling
remains focused.

General Goals and Procedures for the Weekly

Counseling Session

Three critical components are essential in each session:

transitions, discovery of new data, and commitment to new
beliefs or actions. Transitional matters review previous
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Chapter 22 Summary : THE
COMMITMENT OF THE
COUNSELEE

Chapter Twenty-Two: The Commitment of the

Counselee

Introduction to Counseling Focus

Counseling should focus not just on discussing problems but

on finding and committing to biblical solutions. The session
should culminate in the counselee's commitment to specific
homework tasks aimed at fostering change.

Importance of Assignments

Counselors should outline assignments based on the insights

gained during the session and actively engage the
counselee’s commitment to complete these tasks. Reviewing
all assignments at the end reinforces their interrelation and
importance in achieving biblical change.

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The Role of Talk in Counseling

While talk is a key component of counseling, it must not be

an end in itself. Merely discussing problems can lead to
temporary relief but often leaves the counselee with the same
unresolved issues, potentially worsening their situation.

Critique of Talk as Therapeutic

Some theories, like those proposed by Clyde Narramore,

incorrectly view talk as inherently therapeutic. Such an
approach can promote superficial counseling, as it does not
lead to actionable solutions. Biblical principles emphasize
that talk should lead to decisive actions rather than mere
analysis of problems.

Consequences of Talk without Action

Engaging in discussions without providing biblical solutions

can exacerbate the counselee's distress and lead to
hopelessness. The counselor must ensure that conversations
focus on solutions, integrating God's Word into the
counseling process to foster real change.

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The Need for Action-Oriented Counseling

Counselors should shift discussions from problems to

actionable biblical solutions. The goal is to help counselees
recognize and embrace the changes necessary in their lives,
highlighting that true transformation can begin immediately.

Conclusion

Counseling should always steer towards God's solutions,

ensuring that every session ends with the counselee equipped
and committed to take specific steps forward. Emphasizing
this approach is vital for a successful, biblically grounded
counseling practice.

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Chapter 23 Summary : IS THERE A
PROBLEM?

Chapter Summary: Is There a Problem?

Understanding Disparity in Perceptions of Problems

in Counseling

Counselors often encounter situations where one party

perceives a problem while the other does not. For instance, if
Phyllis feels there is a serious issue in her marriage with
Howard, but Howard believes everything is fine, it highlights
a significant communication breakdown. In such cases, it is
crucial for the counselor to address the disconnect between
the couple’s perceptions.

Identifying the Core Issue

The counselor can facilitate understanding by presenting a

neutral observation—that the differing views indicate a
communication problem. This awareness can help both

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parties recognize the necessity of addressing the underlying
issues in their relationship, regardless of whether they agree
on other matters.

Reasons for Perceptual Disparity

Disparity in judgment may stem from factors like pride, fear,

or different upbringing experiences. If one partner grew up
with constant arguing but viewed it as normal, while the
other saw it as a sign of disaster, they may misinterpret their
marital conflicts. Counseling can help them recognize and
resolve these foundational differences.

Counseling Versus Brief Counsel

Some individuals seeking help may not require extensive

counseling as they may simply need a short session or advice
on specific issues. Counselors should distinguish between
those who face significant challenges and those who are
merely seeking guidance. In the latter cases, brief counsel
can often facilitate a positive change without the need for
prolonged sessions.

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Counselors must be mindful not to magnify issues

unnecessarily. Simple reminders or encouragement can often
suffice for those already leading fruitful lives. Therefore,
follow-ups after initial sessions are essential to maintain
engagement without overwhelming the counselee with
over-analysis of minor concerns.

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Chapter 24 Summary : TWO BASIC
APPROACHES

Chapter 24: Two Basic Approaches

Overview of Counseling Approaches

In counseling, two primary approaches to data gathering are

identified: the
Intensive Approach
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Extensive Approach
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The Intensive Approach

The Intensive Approach involves focusing deeply on one

central problem which may lead to insights on interconnected
issues. This method is particularly useful when a counselee is
reluctant to discuss certain sensitive matters directly.
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connections between their silence on one issue and their
eagerness to discuss another related problem.
An example of this approach is illustrated through a case
involving Frank, a single male student suspected of engaging
in homosexual behavior. Despite initial reluctance to discuss
his homosexuality, the counselor successfully redirected the
conversation toward Frank's troubled relationship with his
parents. By probing this area, the counselor encouraged
Frank to confront underlying issues, ultimately leading him
to reveal his homosexual practices, which were critical to
understanding his familial conflicts.
The Intensive Approach is advantageous as it often facilitates
early successes in therapy, instilling hope in the counselee
and demonstrating the applicability of biblical principles
across various life issues. This method can uncover
significant problems through focused inquiry into one known
issue, as it often leads to the discovery of other
interconnected challenges.

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Chapter 25 Summary : WAYS OF
GATHERING DATA

WAYS OF GATHERING DATA: A Vital Activity

Introduction

Gathering relevant data is crucial for effective counseling,

especially in a biblical context where understanding the
counselee's problems is essential.

Data Gathering Techniques

Counselors can gather data overtly through verbal

communication and covertly through observation. There are
two main types of data:
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Core Data
: Information obtained through direct questioning.
-
Halo Data

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: Insights gained from non-verbal cues like body language,
tone of voice, appearance, and emotional expressions.

Importance of Halo Data

Halo data can reveal deeper issues than core data. For
instance, a counselee's resentment may be noticeable through
their tone rather than their words. Observations of behavior
and responses during counseling sessions can help the
counselor identify important problem areas.

Gathering Core Data

Core data involves asking specific questions to uncover

detailed and substantive information regarding the
counselee's issues. For example, a counselor may inquire
about a counselee’s job history to identify patterns causing
employment difficulties. Analyzing responses will help
develop biblical solutions.

Getting the Facts

Counselors should encourage counselees to clarify their

issues rather than jump to conclusions based on worries. For

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example, a counselee named John believed he was in
financial crisis until asked to provide precise facts, leading to
the realization that his situation was manageable. Gathering
accurate data allows for constructive actions and solutions.

Note Taking

Accurate and organized note-taking is essential for effective

counseling. A simple Weekly Counseling Record helps
counselors track developments, homework assignments, and
discussion topics during sessions, allowing for continuity and
a focus on progress.

Sorting Responsibilities

Counselors need to help counselees identify their

responsibilities, often obscured by blame-shifting. By
clarifying individual accountability, the counselor can guide
the counselee toward repentance and positive change based
on biblical teachings.

Avoiding Behind-the-Back Conversations

Counselors should never allow discussions about absent

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individuals, as it breeds mistrust and distorts information. It's
vital to maintain open communication and involve all parties
in discussions to foster reconciliation.

Gathering Legitimate Data

The counselor should strive to involve all relevant

individuals in sessions. This direct engagement helps ensure
accuracy in the data collected, as perspectives from all parties
can provide a fuller understanding of the situation.

Conclusion

The primary method for obtaining essential data in

counseling is through careful questioning. By focusing on
accurate data gathering, counselors can provide meaningful
and effective biblical advice to their clients, guiding them
toward resolution and growth.

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Chapter 26 Summary : ASKING
QUESTIONS

Chapter 26: Asking Questions

Importance of Questions in Counseling

Asking questions is crucial for gathering data during

counseling sessions. Following Christ’s example, counselors
should start with basic questions that uncover fundamental
information.

Basic Data Gathering Questions

Three essential questions are highlighted:

1. What is your problem? (Understanding the issue at hand)
2. What have you done about it? (Identifying previous
attempts to address the issue)
3. What do you want us to do? (Clarifying the counselee's
expectations)

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Agenda Problems in Counseling

Counselees often come with their own agendas, which may

differ from the counselor's. This mismatch can hinder
progress. Early sessions should focus on aligning
expectations to ensure effective communication and support.

Understanding Motivations for Seeking Help

Counselors must recognize various reasons for seeking help,

such as decision-making, emotional distress, family issues, or
life crises. Identifying these motivations helps tailor
appropriate responses.

Discovering Problem Patterns

Patterns of behavior can complicate issues. Using specific

tools, like the “Discovering Problem Patterns” form, aids in
understanding triggers and developing effective strategies for
change.

Data Gathering Techniques

Data gathering involves continuous questioning throughout

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the counseling process. Counselors should focus on specific,
concrete questions and avoid yes/no questions that do not
provide detailed insights.

Effective Questioning Strategies

- Focus on specifics to deepen understanding (What, How,

What for, etc.).
- Develop questions based on previous answers to encourage
natural flow in conversations.
- Be mindful of the personal nature of questions in
counseling settings.

Handling Responses

Counselors should navigate wandering or unclear responses

by guiding conversations back to relevant topics, confirming
understanding, and addressing any discrepancies in
information.

Dealing with False Data

When facing potentially false information, counselors should

verify details, explore contradictions, and remain cautious

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without prematurely judging counselees. Clear
communication about doubts is essential for further progress.

Conclusion

Data gathering forms a significant part of counseling,

especially in initial stages. Counselors must hone their skills
in asking the right questions, understanding motivations, and
addressing discrepancies, as the success of future sessions
relies heavily on the quality of data collected.

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Chapter 27 Summary : HELPING
THROUGH HOMEWORK

SUMMARY OF CHAPTER 27: HELPING

THROUGH HOMEWORK

Offering Initial Help Through Homework

Counselors must provide real assistance to counselees facing

their current problems, addressing both past issues and
present difficulties. Homework is a critical tool in this
process. Counselors should take every counselee's
presentation problem seriously, as dismissing these issues
may prevent further openness.

The Importance of Presentation Problems

Counselees may initially reveal only part of their situation to

gauge the counselor’s reaction. Therefore, counselors should
acknowledge the significance of all problems presented.
Addressing minor concerns can lead to a deeper discussion of

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more significant issues as trust is built.

Behavior Over Feelings

Many counselees struggle with feelings that need addressing

through action, rather than concentrating on emotions.
Effective counseling requires homework that encourages
obedience to God's commands, regardless of feelings. True
change comes from behavioral modification rather than
emotional focus.

The Role of Homework in Counseling

Homework is essential for fostering godly behavior and

developing a practice of obedience. It should be tailored to
meet specific needs, assisting counselees in developing better
life patterns.

Identifying the Professional Counselee

Some counselees, often referred to as professional

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Chapter 28 Summary : AN ANALYSIS
OF HOMEWORK

ANALYSIS OF HOMEWORK IN COUNSELING

Purpose of Homework Assignments

1. Homework is essential in counseling, initiating the

expectation of change from the first session, and reflecting
biblical action.
2. Early, small homework tasks enable counselees to learn
problem-solving through a biblical lens, fostering hope and
building confidence for tackling larger issues later.
3. Small changes can lead to significant attitude shifts and
enhanced cooperation in relationships.

Benefits of Homework

1. Clarifies expectations by providing clear, written

assignments, reducing misunderstandings due to emotional
states affecting counselees.

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2. Allows for faster progress in counseling by emphasizing
that significant work occurs outside of session time.
3. Prevents dependency on the counselor, encouraging
counselees to take personal responsibility for their growth.
4. Facilitates tracking progress, allowing both counselor and
counselee to gauge effectiveness and motivate continued
effort.

Types of Problems Addressed

- Focused work should typically start with single-stranded

problems, which are simpler and lead to quicker successes,
enabling counselees to understand their responsibilities and
the principles of Scripture better.

GAUGING PROGRESS

- Homework allows for the assessment of real progress

against specific biblical goals, not merely by comparing
oneself to others. The progress of individuals should consider
their starting point and direction over time.

CHALLENGES WITH ASSIGNMENTS

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1. If homework is incomplete, counselors should explore the
reasons, distinguishing between lack of effort and inability.
2. Addressing underlying motivators such as hope, fear, and
faith is necessary.
3. Failure to complete assignments can be a learning
opportunity, revealing areas where further teaching is
needed.
4. It’s crucial to address any emotional issues affecting a
counselee’s willingness to engage.

RECOVERY FROM SETBACKS

- Counselors should help counselees recoup from failures by

acknowledging their seriousness and turning experiences into
learning opportunities. This includes confession, identifying
sin, and crafting actionable steps to prevent future issues.

SAMPLES OF HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENTS

1. Encourage basic self-reflection and accountability through

simple tasks like creating lists of sins or tracking emotional
responses.
2. Assign practical exercises to improve relationships and
personal responsibility and foster healthy communication

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through planned discussions.
By using homework regularly and effectively, counselors can
create a structure that encourages accountability, facilitates
growth, and optimizes the counseling experience for
counselees.

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Chapter 29 Summary : WAYS OF
USING HOMEWORK

Chapter 29: Ways of Using Homework

Using the Conference Table

1.
Establishment of the Conference Table

- Set up a dedicated table for family meetings to discuss

problems and solutions.
- Meeting at the same time and place encourages discipline
and regular communication.
- Use the table as a symbol of hope and joint
problem-solving.
2.
Daily Conference Structure

- Meetings should start and end with prayer, utilizing the

Bible to guide discussions.

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 - Everyone should communicate their own faults first to
prompt openness and reduce blame.
3.
The Importance of Confession and Forgiveness

- Family members engaging in confession encourage

communal ownership of problems.
- Focusing on problems rather than personal grievances
facilitates solutions.

Handling Arguments and Tensions

- Utilize a prearranged signal (standing up) when discussions

become contentious to regain focus.
- If rules are broken, emphasize a return to positive
communication instead of escalating negativity.

Training New Habits

- Encourage consistent practice for at least three weeks to

make problem-solving a natural process.
- Address issues that arise during meetings without
arguments, prioritizing understanding and forgiveness.

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Modeling and Homework

1.
Role of Modeling in Counseling

- Counselors should provide examples for clients to learn

effective behaviors.
- Homework assignments encourage interactions with those
who exemplify desired qualities.
2.
Rebuilding Trust through Homework

- Offenders must demonstrate visible efforts to rebuild trust

through new habits.
- Early, tangible changes are key in this process for both
parties.

Scheduling and Organization

1.
Importance of Scheduling

- Teach clients that a structured schedule leads to better

time management and reduced confusion.

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 - Help counselees establish a balance between various life
responsibilities.
2.
Flexibility through Order

- Effective scheduling enables flexibility and organization,

helping clients manage obligations without guilt.

Conclusion

- Homework is essential to effective counseling, fostering

discipline and accountability.
- Counselors should invest time and effort into designing
meaningful, biblically grounded homework that enhances
clients' lives.

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Chapter 30 Summary : GIFTS THAT
DIFFER

GIFTS THAT DIFFER

Gifts and Fruit of the Spirit

In counseling, it is crucial to distinguish between the gifts of

the Spirit and the fruit of the Spirit. While the fruit is
universally available to all believers, the gifts are given
according to God's sovereign will (Ephesians 4:7; I
Corinthians 12:4-7).

Biblical Principles

Key points concerning spiritual gifts include:

1. Every Christian receives gifts: “To each one of us…”
(Ephesians 4:7; 1 Peter 4:10).
2. Gifts vary in kind, purpose, and effects: “varieties of
gifts… ministries… effects” (I Corinthians 12:4-6).
3. Gifts are given in different measures: “according to the

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measure of Christ’s gift” (Ephesians 4:7).
4. Individual gifts benefit the community: “for the common
good” (I Corinthians 12:7).
5. All gifts are essential for the body of Christ (I Corinthians
12:14-31).
6. The Holy Spirit distributes gifts as He wills (I Corinthians
12:11).

Counseling Implications

Counselors should emphasize the development and use of

spiritual gifts in addition to growth in the fruit of the Spirit.
Here are the implications:
- Individual development in terms of time and resources must
reflect personal gifts.
- Counselors should assist counselees in identifying whether
vocational struggles stem from a mismatch of gifts or from
failing to utilize their gifts effectively.
- Conversations about the use of gifts may lead to changes in
jobs or attitudes.
- Counselors must guard against allowing excuses for
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Chapter 31 Summary : HOW TO
HANDLE ANGER

HOW TO HANDLE ANGER

Anger Not Necessarily Sinful

Anger itself is not a sin, as shown in Ephesians 4:26, where

Paul distinguishes between feeling angry and acting sinfully.
Many counselors misinterpret anger as inherently negative,
disregarding biblical examples of righteous anger, such as
God’s anger and Jesus’ actions against wrongdoing. The
notion that any expression of anger is sinful is incorrect.
Correctly understood, emotions, including anger, can be
constructive when aligned with biblical principles.

Anger May Become Sinful

While anger is valid, it can turn sinful through two extremes:

ventilation and internalization. Ventilation involves
exploding anger outward, potentially damaging relationships,

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while internalization leads to bitterness and self-harm. Both
responses waste emotional energy without addressing the
root issue. Proper management of anger should be
constructive, targeting the underlying problem rather than
individuals.

Using Anger God’s Way

Channeling anger constructively means confronting the issue

at hand in a biblical manner, focused on problem-solving
rather than attacking people. This includes effective
communication, where the goal is to resolve conflicts
lovingly and peacefully. Proper motivation through anger can
help clear obstacles in relationships and should guide
Christians towards reconciliation.

Redirecting Anger

For individuals who “blow up,” counselors should emphasize

self-control and the importance of managing anger. Proverbs
advises being slow to anger, and individuals should
recognize their capacity for self-regulation, particularly in
significant relationships. Those who internalize anger must
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resolutions to conflicts.

Communication in Conflict Resolution

Effective communication is crucial; both parties must shift

focus from personal attacks to addressing issues
collaboratively. Encourage each person to take responsibility
for their part and seek forgiveness as a path to reconciliation.
This approach fosters a supportive environment where
problems can be resolved, leading to strengthened
relationships.

Building Healthy Relationships

Counselors should emphasize forgiveness, kindness, and love

as foundations for enduring relationships. This involves
teaching counselees to express love through acts of service
and self-giving, emulating Christ’s sacrificial love. Such an
attitude paves the way for constructive communication and
resolution of interpersonal issues, transforming anger into
actions aimed at healing and growth.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:Misinterpretation of Anger as Sinful
Critical Interpretation:One key point emphasized in the
chapter is that anger, while often perceived negatively,
is not inherently sinful and can serve a constructive
purpose when aligned with Biblical teachings. The
distinction made by the author between righteous anger
and sinful expression challenges the traditional view
that all anger should be suppressed. This perspective
invites readers to critically engage with the notion that
emotions are complex and should not be demonized.
The idea that anger can be utilized for positive outcomes
in personal relationships suggests that it’s essential to
develop emotional intelligence and proper conflict
resolution strategies. However, it’s important to
consider alternative viewpoints, such as those found in
psychological literature, supporting the understanding of
anger management as needing more than just a Biblical
framework. Works like "Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the
Flames" by Thich Nhat Hanh provide psychological
insights that could enhance or even contradict the
author’s interpretations. Thus, while engaging with
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Chapter 32 Summary : DEALING
WITH ENVY, BROODING,
FRETTING, AND SELF-PITY

Chapter Thirty-Two: Dealing with Envy, Brooding,

Fretting, and Self-Pity

1. Understanding Envy

Joan struggles with envy, coveting what others possess,

which leads her into a cycle of self-pity and depression. To
overcome her envy, she acknowledges her sinful desires and
seeks God's grace to change her behavior. Joan learns to
distinguish between appreciation for others and destructive
envy.

2. Implementing New Patterns

After repenting, Joan adopts specific actions to alter her

perspective:
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Praying for Others
: She prays specifically for the welfare of her friends instead
of envying them.
-
Finding Good in Others
: She learns to appreciate the gifts and abilities of others,
shifting her focus from her own shortcomings.
-
Expressing Appreciation
: By acknowledging others' efforts, Joan discovers the hard
work behind their successes and learns not to resent others
but to be inspired.

3. The Dangers of Brooding and Self-Pity

Joan's journey reveals that brooding and self-pity can lead to

despair. The psalmist illustrates the destructive nature of
envy mixed with self-absorption, emphasizing that such
attitudes are counterproductive, causing self-destructive
behaviors.

4. Strategies for Change

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- Providing biblical insights that address envy and self-pity
using Psalms 73 and 37.
- Encouraging clients to pray about their issues rather than
dwell in self-pity.
- Directing clients to engage in productive activities that
focus their energies positively.

5. Identifying the Problem

Counselors should detect self-pity and envy through:

- Direct questioning about the clients’ thoughts and
emotions.
- Noting negative, self-destructive language during sessions.
- Observing clients’ focus, encouraging them to shift from
self-absorption to caring for others.

Conclusion

To combat self-pity and its destructive effects, clients must

recognize their need for change, focusing on God and the
wellbeing of others. This transformation is essential to avoid
the descent into deeper depression and potential despair.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:The Transformation Through
Acknowledgment of Sinful Desires
Critical Interpretation:A central idea in this chapter is
the recognition of one's own envy as a sinful desire that
can lead to self-destructive behaviors such as brooding
and self-pity. While Jay E. Adams emphasizes biblical
approaches to overcoming these negative emotions,
readers should consider that not all individuals may find
theological frameworks effective in addressing
psychological patterns like envy. The practical
application of such strategies may not resonate with
everyone or align with contemporary psychological
approaches, which often advocate for
cognitive-behavioral techniques and mindfulness as
means for fostering self-awareness and emotional
regulation (Beck, A. T., 2011; Hayes, S. C., 2012).
Encouraging a diverse approach—both spiritual and
psychological—could be more beneficial in helping
individuals like Joan navigate through their
complexities.

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Chapter 33 Summary : HELPING
DEPRESSED PERSONS

Helping Depressed Persons

What Is Behind Depression?

Depression can stem from various causes, including illness,

hormonal changes, financial reversals, guilt, self-pity,
resentment, and worry. It's important to recognize that
depression doesn't arise from a single factor but rather from a
cyclical process where initial problems are mishandled,
leading to an escalation of despair. This downward spiral
involves sinful responses to problems, which further
complicate one's situation and entraps the individual in
hopelessness.

Avoiding Depression

Depression is not inevitable and can be addressed through

proper biblical responses. Individuals may not be responsible

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for their initial problems, but they are accountable for how
they manage these situations. By responding correctly and
seeking biblical solutions, individuals can break the cycle of
complicating issues leading to depression.

How the Counselor May Help

Counselors can assist depressed individuals by:

1. Identifying and addressing complicating problems (e.g.,
neglect of chores) to initiate the reversal of the downward
cycle.
2. Examining life patterns that led to sinful reactions and
encouraging biblical actions to replace these with healthy
patterns.
3. Educating the individual about depression dynamics and
creating actionable plans to foster personal responsibility.

Understanding “Manic-Depressive” Patterns

Manic-depressive behaviors may reflect underlying causes

that are not necessarily organic. It is essential for counselors
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Chapter 34 Summary : HELPING THE
“SCHIZOPHRENIC”

SUMMARY OF CHAPTER THIRTY-FOUR:

HELPING THE “SCHIZOPHRENIC”

Introduction to Schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is characterized by symptoms such as

paranoia, hallucinations, and catatonic states. Christian
counselors can assist individuals experiencing these
symptoms but should first recommend a medical checkup to
rule out organic issues such as brain tumors, chemical
imbalances, or drug abuse.

Biological and Chemical Factors

Common organic causes include bodily malfunctions, drug

use, and sleep deprivation, all of which can distort perception
and lead to symptoms associated with schizophrenia. It is
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understand that these issues are not signs of mental illness;
rather, they stem from unreliable sensory data.

Perception Distortions

Perceptual inaccuracies can lead individuals to feel falsely

disturbed about their reality. Misinterpretations of sensory
data, whether through sight, touch, or sound, can cause
significant social withdrawal and impact daily functioning.

Mysticism and Sleep Loss

Historical mystics often experienced hallucinations due to

sleep deprivation stemming from ascetic practices, which
could harm the body rather than encourage spiritual growth.
Christian counselors should be cautious of similar patterns in
contemporary clients who may perceive direct revelations
while engaging in unhealthy practices like excessive prayer
or deprivation of sleep.

Sleep Loss Management

There’s a lack of biblical evidence supporting prolonged

sleep deprivation as beneficial for spiritual matters.

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Counselors should explore the underlying reasons for poor
sleep, which may include irregular schedules, unresolved
anxieties, or unhealthy habits. Practical strategies for
improving sleep could involve regular schedules, relaxation
techniques, and constructive evening habits.

Non-Organic Problems

Counselors should differentiate between organic and

non-organic causes of bizarre behavior. If no physical cause
is detected, the focus should be on addressing life patterns or
attitudes contributing to the issue. Rather than relying on
terms like schizophrenia, which can obscure actual causes, a
more nuanced approach is preferred.

Handling Catatonic States

For clients in a catatonic state where no physical ailment is

present, counselors must recognize that the behavior is
self-induced and can be intervened upon. A case example
illustrates how a counselor effectively motivated a client
named Barbara back to engagement by addressing her issues
with understanding and compassion.

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Conclusion

A thorough understanding of the psychological and physical

dimensions of perceived "schizophrenia" is vital for Christian
counselors. Collaborating with medical professionals,
addressing sleep loss, and distinguishing non-organic causes
can help facilitate the right kind of support and healing for
clients.

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Critical Thinking
Key Point:Non-organic causes of symptoms should
be carefully investigated and understood in a
supportive context.
Critical Interpretation:While Jay E. Adams emphasizes
the importance of differentiating between organic and
non-organic causes of symptoms attributed to
schizophrenia, one must critically consider that his
perspective may lack depth regarding the complexities
of mental health. Clinical studies such as those by the
American Psychiatric Association (APA) highlight that
schizophrenia is a complex mental disorder, often
requiring multifaceted treatment approaches beyond the
mere elimination of perceived physical causes. As
outlined by the National Institute of Mental Health
(NIMH), effective treatment may include medication,
therapy, and holistic care, underscoring the need for
comprehensive understanding rather than reliance solely
on individual perception and spiritual practices.

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Chapter 35 Summary : RESOLVING
SEXUAL DIFFICULTIES

RESOLVING SEXUAL DIFFICULTIES In

Marriage

Counselors should be cognizant that sexual difficulties in

marriage are rarely due to organic issues. Instead, they often
signify underlying relational problems such as fear, anger,
resentment, worry, guilt, jealousy, suspicion, and fatigue. A
focus on anger and resentment is essential to resolve these
issues. Counselors should also incorporate biblical principles
regarding sexuality, particularly as discussed in 1 Corinthians
7.

Biblical Principles of Sex

Key biblical principles include:

- Sexual relations in marriage are good and should not cease.
- Pleasure in sexual relations is permissible and expected;
both partners have rights to each other's bodies.
- Sexual relations should be regular to avoid temptation.

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- Requests for intimacy should consider each partner’s needs
without bargaining.
- Relationships are reciprocal, with mutual responsibility
during sexual activities.

General Counseling Procedures

1. Identify the areas of conflict affecting sexual relations.

2. Address relational improvements, which may alleviate
sexual difficulties.
3. Establish a biblical framework for the sexual relationship
using 1 Corinthians 7.
4. Educate couples on the issues at hand and preventive
measures for future difficulties.

Specific Issues and Examples

-
Guilt Over Sins
: Often, guilt about past sexual promiscuity affects marital
intimacy. Confession and seeking forgiveness are important
steps to resolve this.
-
Sexual Ignorance

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: Couples may need guidance on mutual participation in
sexual relations and overcoming past relationship difficulties
that impede intimacy.

Helping Young People with Masturbation

Masturbation is seen as a sin and a potential addiction.

Counselors should:
- Explain biblical principles regarding sex.
- Assist youth in creating a structured plan to combat habitual
masturbation through discipline and accountability measures.

Counseling Individuals Involved in Homosexuality

1.
Acknowledge Homosexuality as Sin
: Counselors must recognize the sin of homosexuality and the
hope of forgiveness and change through Christ.
2.
Help Break Free from Sin
: Encourage breaking ties with past associations and
restructuring life to avoid temptations.
3.
Total Structuring

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: Counselors should help counselees reassess all aspects of
life impacted by homosexuality, emphasizing the need for
holistic restructuring in accordance with biblical principles.

Conclusion

The resolution of sexual difficulties, whether in marriage or

individual struggles, calls for an application of biblical
principles, acknowledgment of sin, a structured approach to
change, and the grace of God for true transformation.

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Chapter 36 Summary : HELPING
THOSE WHO FEAR

HELPING THOSE WHO FEAR

Love and Fear

Love and fear are presented as opposing forces. Love seeks

opportunities to give and serve, while fear focuses on
potential negative outcomes and self-protection. Love fosters
responsibility and joy, whereas fear leads to increased
anxiety and avoidance. I John 4:17-18 clarifies that perfect
love drives out fear, emphasizing that love is the antidote to
fear, particularly in counseling situations.

Fear and Punishment

Fear is often associated with punishment, as indicated by

John in scripture. This concept illustrates that genuine fear
can stem from feelings of guilt, particularly regarding death.
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allowing Christians to face death without fear. Therefore,
Christians are encouraged to overcome various fears through
love and service to others.

Eliminating Fear by Love

Counselors should explore the source of a person's

fears—whether they stem from a fear of God or man. If it is a
fear of God, the counselor should encourage repentance and
rekindling a loving relationship with God. Conversely, if the
fear is directed towards others, engaging in loving service
can help diminish fear. The act of ministering to others not
only alleviates personal fears but also fulfills one's Christian
obligations.

Fear of Consequences

Some fears, particularly those stemming from guilt, can lead

to irrational behaviors and paranoia. Counseling should
address these fears seriously, taking the individual’s
background into account. Solutions often involve helping the
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Chapter 37 Summary : COUNSELING
THOSE WHO FEAR THAT THEY
HAVE COMMITTED THE
UNPARDONABLE SIN

Chapter Summary: Counseling Those Who Fear

That They Have Committed the Unpardonable Sin

Understanding the Unpardonable Sin

The unpardonable sin, as defined in Mark 3:29-30 and

Matthew 12:31-32, refers to blaspheming the Holy Spirit by
attributing His work to the devil. It is characterized by
hardened religious leaders who deny the Holy Spirit's power
and call Him an “unclean spirit.”

Counseling Approach

When counseling individuals who fear they have committed

this sin, the counselor should:
- First understand the specific concerns of the counselee

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regarding their perceived sin.
- Help distinguish between the unpardonable sin and other
serious sins (e.g., adultery, homosexuality), which may be
incorrectly perceived as unpardonable due to obsessive
thoughts.

Clarifying Misunderstandings

The counselor should clarify the true nature of the

unpardonable sin and maintain a careful balance by:
- Acknowledging the seriousness of the sins committed by
the counselee without minimizing their guilt, allowing the
counselee to understand the difference between their
situation and the biblical context of the unpardonable sin.
- Emphasizing the importance of repentance and faith over
reassurance about their salvation.

Path to Reconciliation

The counselor must encourage the counselee to confront their

actual sins and take steps toward rectifying their wrongs,
rather than fixating on the fear of having committed the
unpardonable sin. Key strategies include:
- Redirecting focus from the fear of unpardonable sin to

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pursuing genuine repentance.
- Reassuring the counselee that conviction of sin is a sign of
the Holy Spirit's work, indicating God has not abandoned
them.

Avoiding Theological Diversions

Counselors should be wary of getting drawn into prolonged

theological debates. Instead, they should:
- Keep discussions centered on the counselee's specific sins
and encourage actionable steps toward reconciliation with
God.
- Recognize that sometimes the fear of the unpardonable sin
may be a mask for deeper issues that need addressing.

Conclusion

The effective counseling of individuals fearing they have

committed the unpardonable sin requires clarity about
biblical scripture, an emphasis on repentance, and
maintaining focus on the actual sin in question, all while
being sensitive to the counselee's emotional state and
underlying issues.

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Chapter 38 Summary : Appendix A

Appendix A: Personal Data Inventory

Identification Data

- Name
- Phone
- Address
- Occupation
- Business Phone
- Sex
- Birth Date
- Age
- Height
- Marital Status (Single, Going Steady, Married, Separated,
Divorced, Widowed)
- Education (last year completed)
- Other training (type and years)
- Referred by (name and address)

Health Information

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- Health rating (Very Good, Good, Average, Declining,
Other)
- Approximate weight
- Recent weight changes (Lost/Gained)
- Important illnesses/injuries/handicaps
- Date of last medical examination and report
- Physician information
- Current medication use (Yes/No)
- Use of drugs (Yes/No)
- Severe emotional upset (Yes/No)
- History of arrest (Yes/No)
- Release of information consent (Yes/No)
- Recent loss (Yes/No) and explanation
- Recent serious social/business reversals (Yes/No) and
explanation

Religious Background

- Denominational preference
- Church membership and attendance
- Childhood church attended
- Baptism status (Yes/No)
- Spouse's religious background (if applicable)

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- Self-identification as religious (Yes/No/Uncertain)
- Belief in God (Yes/No/Uncertain)
- Prayer frequency
- Salvation status (Yes/No/Not Sure)
- Bible reading frequency
- Family devotions status (Yes/No) and explanation of
changes

Personality Information

- Previous psychotherapy or counseling (Yes/No) with details

- Self-descriptive words (active, nervous, shy, etc.)
- Feelings of being watched (Yes/No)
- Perception of faces and colors (Yes/No)
- Hallucinations (Yes/No)
- Fear of cars (Yes/No)
- Hearing ability (Yes/No)
- Sleep problems (Yes/No)

Marriage and Family Information

- Spouse information (name, address, phone, occupation,

business phone, age, education, religion)
- Willingness of spouse to attend counseling

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(Yes/No/Uncertain)
- History of separation or divorce (Yes/No) with details
- Marriage date and ages at marriage
- Duration of acquaintance, dating, and engagement
- Details about previous marriages
- Information about children (names, ages, sex, living status,
education, marital status)
- Siblings information
- Explanation if raised by someone other than parents

Briefly Answer the Following Questions

1. What is your problem?

2. What have you done about it?
3. What can we do? (Expectations)
4. Self-description
5. Fears
6. Any additional information

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Chapter 39 Summary : Appendix C

Appendix C: The Organic/Nonorganic Problem and

Cooperation with Physicians

Understanding Man’s Complexity

Human beings are complex entities that cannot be neatly

divided into body, soul, and spirit. The biblical perspective
does not support a tripartite view but rather a dichotomous
understanding, treating humans as psychosomatic wholes.
Misclassifying issues as purely organic or nonorganic can
lead to complications, impacting counseling practices.

Counselor Responsibilities

Christian counselors must acknowledge that both physical

and spiritual dimensions interact. They are tasked with
addressing ethical concerns regarding health and should
strive for an integrated approach, collaborating with medical
professionals to honor the entirety of human nature.

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Need for Collaboration

The ideal solution for addressing the overlap of organic and

nonorganic issues is the close collaboration between
counselors and Christian physicians. This partnership
enhances understanding and treatment of patients,
acknowledging the unity of body and soul.

Challenges in Counseling

Physicians face difficulties when deciding whether to counsel

patients or refer them elsewhere. Barriers include time
constraints and the challenge of finding competent
counselors, particularly within non-Christian or ineffective
ministerial contexts.

Call for Ministerial Accountability

A need for improved competencies among ministers is

emphasized; many have avoided counseling due to
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Chapter 40 Summary : Appendix F

Summary of Appendix F

Key Statements for Christian Counselors

1.
Confession and Sin

- Counselors must encourage confession of sins like

adultery or lying, emphasizing the importance of forsaking
them based on clear biblical commandments.
2.
Situational Advice

- Some advice, such as selling a car to pay off a loan, can

be given but must allow for other possible solutions. The
principle of "owe no man anything" is important.
3.
Biblical Study Guidelines

- Regular Scripture study and prayer are essential, but the

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specifics regarding the duration of these activities should be
flexible.
4.
Implementation of God's Commandments

- Recognize there are multiple ways to implement God’s

commandments. Suggestions should be framed with room for
different approaches.
5.
Medical Limitations

- Counselors should be cautious in their medical

suggestions regarding medication and may express concerns
about reliance on tranquillizers without prescribing a course
of action.
6.
Assignments and Priorities

- Counseling assignments should be relevant and

prioritized according to the counselee’s immediate needs,
ensuring they align with biblical solutions for daily living.

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Chapter 41 Summary : Reference 1

Typical Counselee Remarks and Counselor

Responses

1. Can’t vs. Won’t

- Typical Remark: “I can’t!”

- Response: “Do you mean can’t or won’t?” or, “God says
that you can.”

2. Evaluating Effort

- Typical Remark: “I have done everything that I could.”

- Response: “Everything? What about_”

3. Analyzing Attempts

- Typical Remark: “I’ve tried that but it didn’t work.”

- Response: “Did you really try? How many times? For how
long? In what way?”

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4. Defining Best Effort

- Typical Remark: “I did my best.”

- Response: “Are you sure? Tell me precisely what you did.”

5. Support and Belief

- Typical Remark: “No one believes me, etc.”

- Response: “Can’t you think of one person who does? How
about some more?”

6. Potentials for Learning

- Typical Remark: “I could never do that.”

- Response: “Never is a long time. Really, how long do you
suppose it might take to learn?”

7. Time Management

- Typical Remark: “If I had the time, I’d do it.”

- Response: “You do. We all have 24 hours each day.”

8. Responsibility Awareness

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- Typical Remark: “Don’t blame me_”
- Response: “Are you saying that you are not responsible?”

9. Engagement in Solutions

- Typical Remark: “Don’t ask me_”

- Response: “But I am asking you. Who else would know?”

10. Clarifying Beliefs

- Typical Remark: “I guess so.”

- Response: “Are you really guessing or is that what you
believe?”

11. Personal Experiences

- Typical Remark: “You know how it is_”

- Response: “No, I don’t know; can you explain it more
fully?”

12. Actions Post-Prayer

- Typical Remark: “But I’ve prayed about it.”

- Response: “Fine! Then what did you do?”

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13. Acknowledging Problems

- Typical Remark: “I’m at the end of my rope.”

- Response: “Which end? Perhaps you are beginning to
uncoil your problem.”

14. Needs vs. Wants

- Typical Remark: “I have a need to_”

- Response: “Is it a need or only a desire?”

15. Personal Change

- Typical Remark: “I’m just one of those people who_”

- Response: “Yes, I’m sure you are; but Christ has to change
that.”

16. Self-Identity

- Typical Remark: “That’s just the way I am.”

- Response: “Doubtless, but God says that you can be
different.”

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17. Misinterpretation of Difficulty

- Typical Remark: “That is impossible.”

- Response: “What you mean, of course, is that it is very
difficult.”

18. Addressing Objections

- Typical Remark: “There are all sorts of objections to doing

that.”
- Response: “Would you mind naming six or seven?”

19. Capability of Change

- Typical Remark: “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.”

- Response: “Perhaps that is true—but you are not a dog.”

20. Faith in God’s Way

- Typical Remark: “It’ll never work.”

- Response: “It is God’s way and it always works.”

21. Forgiveness Principles

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- Typical Remark: “I’ll never forgive him!”
- Response: “If you are a child of God, you will.”

22. Half Measures

- Typical Remark: “I don’t do anything half way.”

- Response: “Are you sure? Can’t you think of some things
that you do?”

23. Perceived Adversity

- Typical Remark: “Everything is against me.”

- Response: “No, you are wrong. The Bible says the
opposite.”

24. Discussing Emotions

- Typical Remark: “How do you feel about_?”

- Response: “May I tell you what I think, or may I only
discuss my emotions?”

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Chapter 42 Summary : Reference 4

Fifty Failure Factors in Counseling

Overview

This section outlines various reasons that may contribute to

counseling failures. It serves as a checklist for counselors to
evaluate potential barriers to effective counseling.

Key Factors to Consider

1.
Counselee's Spiritual State

- Is the individual a true Christian?

- Has there been genuine repentance and commitment to
biblical change?
2.
Counseling Objectives

- Are agendas aligned between the counselor and the

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counselee?
- Are efforts aimed at abstract concepts rather than concrete
action?
3.
Data and Understanding

- Is there sufficient data about the issues?

- Has the counselor accurately identified the problems at
hand?
4.
Interpersonal Dynamics

- Have relationship issues been considered in addressing

problems?
- Are relevant attitudes and language of the counselee
analyzed?
5.
Problem Complexity

- Is the complexity of the issue accurately assessed, or is it

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Best Quotes from The Christian
Counselor'S Manual by Jay E. Adams
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Chapter 1 | Quotes From Pages 15-18

1.For we must all appear before the judgment seat
of Christ, that each one may be recompensed for
his deeds in the body, according to what he has
done, whether good or bad.
2.Where two or three are gathered together in my name, there
I am in their midst.
Chapter 2 | Quotes From Pages 19-24
1.'Jesus assured them that the Father would send
them “another Counselor…the Spirit of truth.”'
2.'He is the Source of all holiness.'
3.'Ignoring the Holy Spirit or avoiding the use of the
Scriptures in counseling is tantamount to an act of
autonomous rebellion.'
4.'His continued visible bodily presence with them would

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 have meant that the work, if it were to be guided by His
counsel, would be confined to a few in but one area.'
5.'Indeed, through His use of this written revelation preached,
read, explained, and applied among the members of the
Church of Christ, the Holy Spirit today carries on His work
of counseling.'
Chapter 3 | Quotes From Pages 25-44
1.'While every Christian must become a counselor to
his fellow Christians, the work of counseling as a
special calling is assigned particularly to the
pastor.'
2.'The subject matter of the Scriptures is the redemptive love
of God in Christ for His Church and the Church’s response
must be love toward God and one’s neighbor.'
3.'The resources upon which a truly Christian counselor
relies are the Word, the Spirit, and the Church.'
4.'The qualifications for the ministry found in the check lists
in Titus and I Timothy center even more fully upon
personal qualifications than upon doctrinal prowess.'

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5.'Without hope, he cannot communicate the hope and
encouragement that many counselees need.'
6.'Only biblical counseling possesses such authority.'
7.'Men can and do change. Peter and Paul did; so can you.'
8.'The demands of the work are greater than any man may
assume in his own strength. The requirements of the work
greatly stretch him. He cannot remain the same.'

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Chapter 4 | Quotes From Pages 45-60
1.The Scriptures are the primary and normative
source from which the Christian counselor’s
presuppositions and principles must be drawn; the
other two sources will help him to flesh out these
principles in the concrete terms of everyday life.
2.If no Christian faces unique tests in life, and if Paul can say
to the church at Corinth that what happened to the Israelites
is pertinent also to them, the counselor may be assured that
he will face no truly unique problems in counseling.
3.Just as the Christian counselor knows that there is no
unique problem that has not been mentioned plainly in the
Scriptures, so also he knows that there is a biblical solution
to every problem.
4.The possibility of radical change in the personality and life
style of the counselee... is a very crucial plank in the
Christian counselor’s platform.
5.Every change that God promises is possible. Every quality
that God requires in His redeemed children can be attained.

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 Every resource that is needed God has supplied.
Chapter 5 | Quotes From Pages 63-71
1.In order to meet human needs, which are as varied
as those life principles contained in the Scriptures,
one must have a thorough systematic knowledge of
the whole counsel of God.
2.Yet present activity and responsibility are never neglected
because of preoccupation with the future.
3.For a time (as the writer says) one or another activity
seemed to bring purpose into his life, but, upon subsequent
hard reflection, he concluded that each was no more than
vanity.
4.Those who grasp at something less than the gospel to solve
life’s problems soon find that they have hold of a straw;
frequently their disappointment is bitter.
5.Frequently in God’s providence they are ripe for the
gospel.
Chapter 6 | Quotes From Pages 72-89
1.Faith, hope and love, these three; but the greatest

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 of these is love.
2.Hope in the Scriptures always is a confident expectation;
the word hope never carries even the connotation of
uncertainty that adheres to our English term.
3.Hope leads to perseverance that gives one the patience to
continue in spite of delay or difficulty.
4.In the gospel, there is a double hope: (1) the hope for the
eschaton... (2) There is hope for a new abundant life right
now.
5.Most often, hope comes when someone recognizes and
acknowledges how hopeless the counselee is in his present
situation.
6.The Bible places no age limitations upon sanctification.
7.Hope comes when someone recognizes and acknowledges
how hopeless the counselee is in his present situation.
8.One way to raise hope is by taking people seriously when
they talk about their sin.
9.Encouragement by appreciation for doing what is required
is an effective means of giving hope.

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Chapter 7 | Quotes From Pages 90-95
1.The power and purifying presence of the Holy
Spirit must be invoked by the human counselor as
he acknowledges his own sins and inabilities.
2.Prayer for the counselee may grow naturally out of reading
the notes in the file in preparation for the next session.
3.Prayer itself may be the essential element of the counseling
process.
4.Counselors must become sensitive to when the Spirit has
moved a counselee to the point of prayer or when, on the
other hand, it is the counselor’s own desire that is being
forced upon the counselee.
5.And yet, it is precisely in some of those cases where prayer
is the one and only answer at the moment.
6.You don’t pray ‘Give me this day my daily bread’ and then
sit back and wait for it to float out of the sky on a
parachute, do you?
Chapter 8 | Quotes From Pages 96-114
1.Unresolved problems hurt everyone and dishonor

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 Christ’s name.
2.God does not allow for loose ends; rather He insists that
every personal difficulty that arises must be settled.
3.The reconciliation/discipline dynamic provides great hope.
4.Every problem can be solved God’s way.
5.Excommunication is not an end in itself but, at least
temporarily, it settles the matter.
6.The welfare of the church is not served by selfishly
eliminating people with a 'good riddance' attitude.
7.Where two or three are gathered together in my name, there
am I in the midst.
Chapter 9 | Quotes From Pages 115-127
1.Forgiveness not only marks an end, it is a
watershed that also constitutes the beginning of
something new.
2.If a new relationship based upon biblical change and help is
not established, then it is likely that one or more of the
parties will revert to his old ways again.
3.Forgiveness means no longer continuing to dwell on the sin

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 that was forgiven.
4.The problem is not a lack of faith; the problem is much
more straightforward, uncomplicated, and simple. It is a
problem of obedience.
5.When one sincerely avoids mentioning the offense to his
brother, when he refuses to discuss it with anyone else, and
when he puts it out of his own mind by declining to think
and dwell upon it in resentment or self-pity, the feelings of
forgiveness soon will accompany the promise and
commitment.

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Chapter 10 | Quotes From Pages 128-172
1.Counseling methodology, as London rightly has
said, is 'a moral question that is always answered
by the therapist in practice.'
2.If we acknowledge the existence of the image of God in
man, however, this very belief will demand a methodology
discrete from that which is used in training a dog.
3.According to Christian presupposition a man may; indeed
must.
4.Christians insist that counseling methodology necessarily
must grow out of and always be appropriate to the biblical
view of God, man, and the creation.
5.The Scriptures are God's revelation to man; they are useful
(or profitable) to the minister to equip him for teaching,
reproof, correction, and discipline in the way of
righteousness.
6.The resources are not in the outside expert, the resources
are not in the counselee, nor are they in ourselves; the
resources are in God.

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Chapter 11 | Quotes From Pages 173-177
1.The Spirit does not place a premium upon sloppy
and careless technique in confronting others.
2.Technique is, to put it simply, skill.
3.The Holy Spirit works through biblical techniques, not
through gimmicks.
4.Let us, therefore, turn our attention to the practice and
process of counseling.
Chapter 12 | Quotes From Pages 180-192
1.Words and phrases that are constantly repeated
help to induce attitudes and themselves become a
part of a mind set that may have to be broken
before counseling can be effective.
2.The simple fact is that tension is not in the situation; nor
does tension exist between the counselee and Mary. If this
is understood as figurative language, fine; usually it is not.
3.Whenever the metaphorical or other use of language
becomes a hindrance to proper thought and action, the
counselor must confront the counselee directly about the

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 problem, explain the facts, and correct the erroneous
thought and speech that lie at its base.
4.His problem, for instance, is not 'emotional immaturity'
when a counselee is following a pattern of life other than
God’s. The counselee’s behavior is wrong; there is nothing
wrong with his emotions.
5.The problem is not emotional but pre-emotional. The
emotion is triggered by immediate conscious thought
and/or action.

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Chapter 13 | Quotes From Pages 193-201
1.When a counselee complains, 'I feel inferior (or
stupid, or inadequate),' it is important to point out
to him that he is not speaking altogether
accurately. No one feels inferior, stupid, or
inadequate. What he is expressing is not a feeling
but a judgment or attitude or conviction or belief
about himself.
2.If inferiority (or stupidity—'I feel stupid,' or inadequacy—'I
feel inadequate') is a feeling, there is little or no hope of
changing it. If it is a self-judgment about one’s behavior,
character, etc., that has triggered unpleasant emotions, then
there is hope of changing the feelings of sadness,
embarrassment, etc., by changing the behavior.
3.Feelings are not so directly related to reasons as are
judgments. The problem often emerges at the level of one’s
assurance of salvation.
4.A judgment, sometimes based upon less than these biblical
criteria, is made. If the criteria are poor, the judgment will

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 be faulty and the emotional state that this self-judgment
arouses will be unpleasant.
5.One thing is certain, the genuine feelings of salvation (i.e.,
those that arise out of the conviction that one is saved) will
come only out of a judgment soundly based upon the
scriptural basis of such assurance.
Chapter 14 | Quotes From Pages 202-239
1.Counseling, therefore, must be understood and
conducted as a spiritual battle.
2.The options given to them are the same options that one
faces now. They reflect two distinct moralities, two
antithetical religions, and two discrete manners of life.
3.Love is not getting but rather is giving.
4.It is never hypocritical to obey God.
5.To encourage counselees to follow their feelings rather than
to obey the Word of God is to side with Satan, to solidify
the original problem, and to elicit the complications that
come from further sinful behavior.
6.The weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty

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 by God for the destruction of fortresses.
7.There is no biblical reason to think that demonic possession
(or oppression) can occur in the life of a Christian.
Chapter 15 | Quotes From Pages 240-264
1.Love cements relationships between God and man
and man and man.
2.The ultimate answer to all the problems of living with
which the Christian counselor deals.
3.But beyond these considerations, the fact that Christ
distinguishes but 'two commandments' is decisive.
4.He who loses his life shall save it.
5.The Scriptures presuppose that men already love
themselves far too well.
6.Love is giving—giving of oneself to another.
7.The feelings that develop out of giving are genuine and
lasting.
8.If there is little or no love in that home, it is your fault.
9.Love must be learned.
10.Love does not come naturally, it must be learned.

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Chapter 16 | Quotes From Pages 265-275
1.Support is not enough. Moreover, it is necessary to
take issue with the modern psychological concept
of support itself.
2.Even minimal reflection should indicate how far the
psychiatric idea strays from the scriptural ideal.
3.The Bible knows nothing of support as conceived by such
modern writers.
4.Any lesser help is unchristian.
5.Support, as it is conceived by those who do not understand
the biblical approach, harms rather than helps because it is
not biblical.
6.Love in the Scriptures, we have seen, is always active,
never passive.
7.Faith without works is dead.
8.The biblical response to problems is change; no lesser and
insipid goals are acceptable.
Chapter 17 | Quotes From Pages 276-292
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 on the move He is travelling to the heavenly city.
He has not yet arrived.
2.Change is of the essence to his sanctification, which is the
process of putting off sinful ways of life and putting on
godly ones.
3.Because of his high calling in Christ, the believer must live
differently. He must live a life consistent with that to which
he has been called, and that life is a life that reflects
Christ’s life.
4.The fact of his position and the burden of his
responsibilities continually influence his living from day to
day.
5.The possibilities for radical change in Christ; spurious
Christians cannot.
6.The mercies of God have been manifested in the high
calling of the Christian who bears the name of Christ and
who by virtue of his union with Christ has become a risen
son of the living God.
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 motivating (this additional item by no means exhausts the
biblical motivational possibilities).
8.If he can…so can I.
Chapter 18 | Quotes From Pages 293-329
1.But change is hard.
2.Change, then, is necessary, but change is hard.
3.The past cannot be changed; it is the counselee himself as
he now is who must change.
4.The counseling resolutions, following the style of the
traditional New Year’s resolution, so often fall so flat.
5.Change takes place not merely when certain changes occur,
but only when there has been a change.
6.A thief is not a thief when he has become a hard-working
man who gives.
7.Discipline brings liberty.
8.Through the power of the Holy Spirit alone that one can
endure.

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Chapter 19 | Quotes From Pages 330-374
1.Unless he knows exactly what he is doing, he will
not know how to correct the practice.
2.There is no such thing as instant godliness.
3.A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up
anger.
4.Change, we have insisted, is difficult; it is difficult for a
fifty-year-old man, and it is difficult for a child.
5.Discipline is the secret of godliness.
6.There is a proper practice, pattern, or habit to replace every
improper one.
7.The goal, therefore, is biblical action, not sinful reaction.
8.People do not look for solutions to personal conflicts when
they have not yet repented of their sins.
9.Whenever a counselee’s problem turns out to be one large,
life-dominating sin... the problem cannot help but affect
every other aspect of his life.
Chapter 20 | Quotes From Pages 375-400
1.What makes a sermon ring true? Above all else,

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 the sermon that has the ring of authenticity about
it is one that meets human needs with the Word of
God at the level where people themselves are
grappling with them.
2.If a pastor is not consulted frequently by many in his
congregation, he may be sure that it is not because they do
not need it.
3.A good pastor is always reevaluating.
4.If the counselor fails to deal with the issue himself, how
can he expect to be able to help the counselee to overcome
the difficulties connected with close interpersonal
relations?
5.Biblical counseling cements relationships; it does not
impair them.
6.If a counselor finds himself hung up over this problem, his
only recourse is to repent, ask God for strength, explain to
the counselee what the problem has been, seek his
forgiveness, and then get back to work, this time on the
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7.The first session is particularly important. Basic trends are
set; initial attitudes and decisions, as well as relationships,
are formed by both the counselor and his counselees.
8.Counseling out of love is clearly distinguishable from
professional prying and scientific experimentation.
Chapter 21 | Quotes From Pages 401-419
1.There is no reason why this problem can’t be
solved. All problems can be solved when they are
solved God’s way.
2.The counselor who aims at nothing usually hits it.
3.If the counselor finds that this is not true, he should try to
discover what is keeping the counseling from progressing.
4.Life is lived and change occurs in the concrete.
5.The flexible counselor has plans and purposes to revise or
scrap, and has new ones to develop or introduce; the
chaotic counselor has neither.

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Chapter 22 | Quotes From Pages 420-430
1.One counselor keeps the following slogan under
the glass on his desk as a reminder: NEVER
TALK ABOUT PROBLEMS— ALWAYS TALK
THEM THROUGH TO GOD’S SOLUTIONS!
2.The Christian counselor must talk, but not only talk in
counseling. When he does, he takes away hope,
misrepresents God and runs the danger of setting the stage
for suicide.
3.That is why it is essential to direct the entire session toward
its climax—the commitment of the counselee to his
homework task(s) for the next week.
4.Almost always the former two will lead to the latter. That
is why it is vital to consider the problem of talk in
counseling.
Chapter 23 | Quotes From Pages 431-437
1.You do have a problem, and it is an extremely
dangerous one; but it has not been mentioned by
either of you.

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2.If the two of you cannot discuss and resolve together the
question of whether the marriage is on the rocks, your
marriage is suffering from a serious communication
breakdown.
3.Let him who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.” (I
Corinthians 10:12)
4.Perhaps one or two sessions, or even a brief word of
counsel, will be all that is necessary.
5.Counselors must be sure not to enlarge problems for
counselees, finding difficulties where none exist.
Chapter 24 | Quotes From Pages 438-446
1.Always remember that there are at least two
entrances into a problem.
2.A counselee is a whole person. In some sense everything
that he does has some relationship to everything else in his
life.
3.One advantage of the intensive approach is the opportunity
that it opens for obtaining early successes by making
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4.If success can be achieved quickly and significantly
somewhere, not only does hope rise quickly, but the
counselor can point out how, analogously, the same
biblical principles that occasioned this success can be
applied to other areas in the client’s life.
5.Thus, it must be apparent that while one or the other of
these two approaches may seem better in a given case, and
it may not be necessary to use more than one, the use of
one in no way precludes the use of the other.

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Chapter 25 | Quotes From Pages 447-471
1.One of the techniques vital to good counseling is
skill in gathering relevant data.
2.Sometimes the halo data are as important as (or more
important than) the core data.
3.Before going further, the counselor determined to collect
all significant data.
4.Counselors, therefore, must search for and uncover the
pertinent facts in every case.
5.The counselor must help counselees sort out their
individual responsibilities.
Chapter 26 | Quotes From Pages 472-504
1.Asking questions is a vital part of data gathering.
2.What is your problem?
3.What have you done about it?
4.What do you want us to do?
5.Counselor and counselee, therefore, must reach roughly
similar expectations if they are going to get anywhere.
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 poke around for problems as he seeks to clear the ground to
make room for future construction.
7.Data gathering does form the larger part of the counselor’s
activities during earlier sessions.
8.No changes are made abstractly.
Chapter 27 | Quotes From Pages 505-517
1.Counselors must take counselees seriously. They
must take them seriously enough to assign
homework designed to meet the presentation
problem.
2.Thus, initial problems concerning feeling must stress
obedient behavior rather than concentrate upon the feeling
itself.
3.Nothing turns people off like the psychiatric omnipotence
with which some self-styled experts look down from Mt.
Olympus and declare (or, what is even worse, insinuate)
that the data that have been presented are all amiss.
4.The feeling of love is really the fruit of love. Love has
roots much deeper than feeling.

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5.Movement toward corrective behavior is the solution.
6.The biblical counselor will neither despise him nor despair
of him, but out of sincere concern for him will insist that all
counseling be serious.

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Chapter 28 | Quotes From Pages 518-546
1.Regular homework assignments set a pattern for
expectation of change.
2.Small changes can have large effects.
3.When small achievements are made, not only is the
downward spiral of sin reversed, but one or more of the
counselees may begin to change radically.
4.Counselors must recognize that they begin to establish
patterns at the first session and that these are hard to
change.
5.The homework assignment book... serves to give
encouragement and hope where progress has been taking
place.
6.Large changes in attitude can be achieved by small changes
of direction.
7.Effective homework is always specific and concrete; it is
related to life at the level on which it is lived.
8.When homework is written out, assignments cannot be as
easily misunderstood or confused.

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9.The assignment book thus serves to give encouragement
and hope where progress has been taking place, and it may
serve also as a spur where lack of progress has occurred.
10.The successful resolution of a small problem can lead to a
complete change of direction.
Chapter 29 | Quotes From Pages 547-583
1.In instituting the conference table, as in the
establishment of any new habit, regularity is most
important.
2.The conference table does not exist to tell others off.
3.When members of a family begin to confess sins to one
another, they also find that they can ask for and receive the
help they need.
4.Establishing a habit, and soon the unnatural feeling
vanishes by regular consistent daily repetition.
5.This kind of open communication can prevent
misunderstandings and promote intimacy.
6.Whenever anyone stands up the other participants
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 of Christian behavior found in Ephesians 4.
7.Remember, God says that you are to do all your work in six
days. But remember also that all of your work includes
work of different sorts; e.g., you may need to distinguish
between your employment and the odd jobs around the
house.
8.The orderly way in which a counselor organizes the data
that he has gathered...has much to say to the counselee
about his problem.
Chapter 30 | Quotes From Pages 584-590
1.To each one of us…” (Ephesians 4:7; 1 Peter
4:10)—“each one has received a gift
2.Now there are varieties of gifts…varieties of ministries,
and…varieties of effects” (I Corinthians 12:4-6)
3.To each one is given…for the common good” (I
Corinthians 12:7; cf. also vss. 14-31; I Peter 4:10)
4.According to the measure of Christ’s gift” (Ephesians 4:7)
5.The body of Christ is in need of his peculiar combination
of gifts, and suffers for not profiting from their use

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6.To do so is to attempt to thwart the Spirit’s plans and
purposes.
7.All that can be asked of a steward is faithfulness.

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Chapter 31 | Quotes From Pages 591-618
1.Be angry and sin not" (Ephesians 4:26).
2.A fool gives full vent to his anger, but the wise man,
holding it back quiets it (Proverbs 29:11).
3.The real question to which I wish to turn is: How to Handle
Anger Righteously.
4.Anger is a powerful emotion. But its power to motivate
must be used, not abused.
5.When counselees are of a mind to seek solutions God’s
way, they will find them.
6.They must begin by pointing first at himself: The other
arrow already is pointing toward him, so all that either
counselee must do is to get lined up alongside: he must be
taught to look at his own log first.
Chapter 32 | Quotes From Pages 619-629
1.Envy Joan’s problem was envy. She envied
everyone: her sister, her mother, other girls, and
her boyfriend.
2.Self-pity is always counter-productive. It consists of a

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 concentration upon self and one’s supposed 'rights' and
usually involves a protest against God’s providence.
3.Brooding is thought without action. It is self-talk that does
not focus upon God’s solutions. It can have only bad
effects.
4.Self-pity, envy, and brooding can lead to other serious
results, as David warns (Psalm 37:8).
5....concentrate her energies and attention upon more
productive ends. Through such profitable endeavors, by
God’s help, she determined to discover and develop her
gifts and abilities to the full for His glory.
6.Because he refused to turn from this self-orientation, his
prophetic ministry was taken away and given to Elisha.
7....the forgiving party must himself seek forgiveness, and
the counselor must show both how to keep the promise.
8.Self-pity is the stuff out of which depression, despair,
murder, suicide, and other sins are made.
9....what one does about them now determines his present
state. When what he does is to brood in self-pity, he is

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 making himself miserable.
10.Sometimes counselees confuse brooding and self-pity
with productive thinking. By calling brooding and
self-pity 'thinking,' they seek to justify their sin.
Chapter 33 | Quotes From Pages 630-643
1.A depression does not result directly from any one
of these factors, but rather comes from a cyclical
process in which the initial problem is mishandled
in such a way that it is enlarged in downward
helixical spirals that eventually plunge one into
despair.
2.The downward cycle enslaves one in hopelessness and
guilt, thus bringing on a slowing down or cessation of
activity, called depression.
3.If you do right, you will feel right.
4.Depression is not inevitable, something that simply
happens and cannot be avoided.
5.The fact is, however, though he may not be responsible for
the initial problem, he is responsible for handling this

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 initial problem God’s way.
6.Counselors should check out complicating problems... set
the counselee to work on dealing with these God’s way.
7.Taking away any hope from a depressed person always is
dangerous because it gives occasion for him to despair.

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Chapter 34 | Quotes From Pages 644-655
1....when a counselee suffers from organic problems
of a perceptual sort, it is important for both him
and the counselor to recognize that nothing is
wrong with his mind; he is not mentally ill.
2.Perception may be affected at any or all points. Sight, when
distorted, can cause one severe problems.
3.Significant sleep loss is always one key area for
investigation whenever one encounters counselees with
heavy strains of mysticism or who purport to have direct
revelations.
4.The problem is with the data that are fed to the mind by the
senses.
5....the counselor must assume that the state is self-induced
and may be broken by the proper procedures.
Chapter 35 | Quotes From Pages 656-691
1.Sexual relations within marriage are holy and
good.
2.It is more blessed to give than to receive.

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3.When two persons must be neighbors as close as a husband
and wife, their relationship will suffer unless it is
established upon the basis of truth.
4.You cannot avoid the issue because you are no longer two
but one.
5.Often it takes a painful experience to make us change our
ways.
6.Guilt held in by one will be felt by both.
Chapter 36 | Quotes From Pages 692-715
1.Love looks for opportunities to give; it asks: 'What
can I do for another?' Fear keeps a wary eye on
the possible consequences and asks: 'What will he
do to me?'
2.Perfect love casts out fear.
3.The enemy of fear is love; the way to put off fear then, is to
put on love.
4.Fear involves punishment.
5.Love toward God means focusing upon how one may trust,
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 likewise focuses upon a giving relationship to him.
6.His fear was wrong and sinful. This wrong way of handling
life had caused undue self-preoccupation, had curtailed his
mobility and usefulness, and was in many other ways a
hindrance to godly, responsible, Christian living.
7.Tension is bodily preparation, the way God has made us to
enable us to meet emergencies and difficult situations.
8.When a speaker begins to think, 'How do I look? How am I
speaking? How am I going across?' he has opened the door
to the possibility of a bad case of stage fright.
9.The proper action in this instance is the confession of sin
and reconciliation. Avoidance only multiplies and enlarges
the sin.
10.What he fears is not the object that he sees, but himself.

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Chapter 37 | Quotes From Pages 716-722
1.‘Every kind of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven
to men, except the blasphemy against the Holy
Spirit.’
2.‘I can recognize how you might well think that you had
committed the sin against the Holy Spirit after hearing of
what you have done, and I certainly cannot offer any
comfort or peace to you until you have confessed, repented,
and done all that you can to rectify the wrongs that you
have done.’
3.‘The failure to do the latter while emphasizing the former
accounts for much of the failure in handling such persons.’
4.‘Repentance and its fruits, rather than theological
argumentation, is the path down which the counselor must
lead the counselee.’
Chapter 38 | Quotes From Pages 727-731
1.Once we stop playing, we are sure to only worsen
things.
2.It is through honest recognition and confession of failure

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 that we take our first step toward healing.
3.In every circumstance, we must remember that hope is a
game changer.
4.Counseling should be seen as a cooperative venture
between counselor and counseled.
5.A commitment to change is the first active step anyone can
take to begin the process of healing.
Chapter 39 | Quotes From Pages 734-743
1.Man is a complex whole. He cannot (in this life) be
separated into his parts, except for purposes of
analysis.
2.The body affects the soul and the soul the body in so many
obvious, as well as subtle, ways is a fact that the Christian
counselor must always remember.
3.The counseling dilemma is not of your own making.
4.He will not give out passages like prescriptions or dispense
platitudes like pills.
5.Brethren, something has been happening, and you should
be aware of the fact since you may be able to enlarge the

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effectiveness of your own ministry as a physician by
achieving a significant alliance with a minister.

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Chapter 40 | Quotes From Pages 748-751
1.Confess this sin to God and forsake it.
2.Owe no man anything.
3.While I cannot prescribe medically, I can see no good in
depending upon tranquillizers.
4.Shall I call your physician and tell him that we agree that
you should be taken off of tranquillizers while coming for
counseling?
Chapter 41 | Quotes From Pages 754-757
1.God says that you can.
2.Never is a long time. Really, how long do you suppose it
might take to learn?
3.You were created in the image and likeness of the living
God!
4.It is God’s way and it always works when people abandon
that attitude.
5.If God be for us, who can be against us?" (Romans 8:31)
6.You are going to live with him for eternity; why don’t you
forgive him and begin to get used to it now?

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Chapter 42 | Quotes From Pages 762-765
1.Are you sure that you know the problem(s)?
2.Are your agendas in harmony?
3.Have you been focusing on the wrong problem?
4.Have you given adequate scriptural hope?
5.Have you personally turned off the counselee in some way?
6.Have you failed to give hope by calling sin sin?
7.Does doctrinal error lie at the base of the problem?
8.Have you set poor patterns in previous sessions?
9.Are you reasonably sure that there is no organic base to the
problem?

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The Christian Counselor'S Manual
Questions
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Chapter 1 | THE PERSONS INVOLVED IN

COUNSELING| Q&A
1.Question
Who are the primary persons involved in pastoral
counseling according to Jay E. Adams?
Answer:The primary persons involved in pastoral
counseling are the counselor and the counselee.
However, Adams argues that the context involves
more, specifically recognizing the presence of Christ
as an integral member of the counseling
relationship.

2.Question
What critical view does Adams express regarding
external influences like parental responsibility in
counseling?
Answer:Adams critiques the notion of attributing
responsibility for behavior solely to external influences such

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as parental figures or past relationships. He emphasizes that
individuals must take personal responsibility for their
thoughts, words, and actions, as articulated in Scripture.

3.Question
How does the concept of personal responsibility play a
role in the counseling process?
Answer:Personal responsibility is central in the counseling
process according to Adams. He suggests that during
counseling, individuals are accountable for their own
behaviors and must confront their choices without shifting
blame onto others, aligning with biblical teachings that
highlight divine accountability.

4.Question
What is the significance of Christ's presence in counseling
according to Adams?
Answer:Adams highlights that in biblical counseling, when a
counselor and counselee meet in the name of Jesus, His
presence serves as the ultimate Counselor, guiding the
process. This divine presence adds a sacred dimension and

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assurance to the counseling experience.

5.Question
How does Adams differentiate between biblical
counseling and secular theories like Freudian or
behavioristic approaches?
Answer:Adams differentiates biblical counseling from
secular theories by emphasizing that the latter may falsely
excuse individuals from their accountability to God. He
argues that Freudian and behavioristic theories ultimately
lack truth and will be revealed as inadequate when
individuals face divine judgment.

6.Question
What scriptural references does Adams use to support his
views on responsibility and counseling?
Answer:Adams references Scripture including the teaching
that everyone must appear before the judgment seat of Christ
(2 Corinthians 5:10) to articulate the necessity of individual
accountability in thoughts, words, and actions. He also
quotes Matthew 18:20, where Christ promises His presence
when two or more gather in His name.

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7.Question
How does Adams view the integration of counseling and
discipline?
Answer:Adams views counseling and discipline as integrally
related, suggesting that proper counseling requires the
guidance of biblical principles, which also underpin the
concept of discipline within the Christian context.
Chapter 2 | THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE
PRINCIPAL PERSON| Q&A
1.Question
Who is the principal person mentioned in the chapter?
Answer:The Holy Spirit is identified as the principal
person who dwells invisibly in the church and acts
as the Counselor.

2.Question
What assurance did Jesus give to His disciples before
leaving them?
Answer:Jesus assured His disciples that He would send them
"another Counselor," referring to the Holy Spirit, who would
teach and guide them as He did.

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3.Question
What does the term 'parakletos' mean, and how can it be
translated?
Answer:'Parakletos' literally means 'another of the same
kind.' It can be translated as 'Counselor,' 'Advocate,' 'Helper,'
or 'Comforter.'

4.Question
In what way is the Holy Spirit considered holy?
Answer:The Holy Spirit is called holy because He is distinct
from all other spirits and is the Source of all holiness,
facilitating the sanctification of believers.

5.Question
What is the relationship between the Holy Spirit and
counseling in a Christian context?
Answer:Counseling is seen as a part of the Holy Spirit's work
of sanctification; therefore, counseling should not be done
apart from the Holy Spirit and the Scriptures.

6.Question
What warning is given regarding counseling without the
Holy Spirit?

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Answer:Counseling without the Holy Spirit and the
Scriptures is considered an act of rebellion against God and
diminishes the Christian foundation of the counseling
process.

7.Question
What benefits do Christians receive from the Holy
Spirit's counsel?
Answer:Christians receive the benefit of the Holy Spirit’s
counsel through regeneration, understanding of Scripture,
and guidance in living according to God’s will.

8.Question
What roles does the Holy Spirit fulfill in the life of
believers?
Answer:The Holy Spirit regenerates believers, gives them
faith, helps them understand Scripture, and enables them to
live according to God’s will.

9.Question
How does the Holy Spirit continue His work of counseling
today?
Answer:The Holy Spirit continues His work by applying the

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written revelation of the apostles, helping believers
understand and apply God's Word to their lives.

10.Question
What are the ends or uses of Scripture as mentioned in
the chapter?
Answer:The ends of Scripture are salvation and
sanctification, which guide the believer in faith and holy
living.

11.Question
What promise did Jesus give regarding His presence with
believers?
Answer:Jesus promised to be with His followers until the end
of the age through the Holy Spirit, who acts as their
Counselor.
Chapter 3 | THE HUMAN COUNSELOR| Q&A
1.Question
Who is primarily called to counsel according to biblical
principles?
Answer:The primary calling to counsel is assigned
particularly to pastors, as they have a special role in

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ministering to the pains and miseries stemming from
personal sins.

2.Question
What are the three specified sources of personal problems
in living according to the Scriptures?
Answer:The three sources are: demonic activity, personal sin,
and organic illness.

3.Question
Is psychiatry considered a necessary discipline in biblical
counseling?
Answer:No, there is no biblical warrant for recognizing
psychiatry as a distinct discipline; counseling should be the
responsibility of the church and its ministers.

4.Question
What should psychiatrists focus on, according to the text?
Answer:Psychiatrists should return to the practice of
medicine and specialize in treating organic difficulties rather
than non-organic mental illnesses.

5.Question
What is 'nouthetic confrontation'?

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Answer:Nouthetic confrontation involves discernment of
wrongdoing, scriptural knowledge to guide change, and
confrontation for the benefit of the counseled.

6.Question
What qualifications are necessary for a Christian
counselor?
Answer:Counselors need extensive knowledge of the
Scriptures, divine wisdom in relationships, and goodwill
toward others.

7.Question
How should biblical authority be exercised in counseling?
Answer:Biblical authority in counseling must adhere to
scriptural directives and not exceed the limitations set forth
by God's commandments.

8.Question
Why is a seminary education important for a counselor?
Answer:A good seminary education provides a solid biblical
and theological background, which is essential for effective
Christian counseling.

9.Question

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Can personality influence counseling methods?
Answer:While personality can shape individual styles, the
authority and methods of counseling must be rooted in
biblical principles, not mere personal preference.

10.Question
What is the relationship between faith in God and the role
of a counselor?
Answer:A counselor must be a man of faith who believes
God’s promises and can communicate hope and
encouragement to counselees.

11.Question
How can a counselor maintain divine authority while
counseling?
Answer:Counselors must align their guidance with biblical
commands and maintain the authority bestowed upon them
by God as they counsel others.

12.Question
What role does the church play in the context of
counseling?
Answer:The church provides a supportive community for

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counselees and enables the authority and resources necessary
for effective biblical counseling.

13.Question
What kind of changes can a counselor expect to undergo
through the process of counseling?
Answer:Counselors can expect to undergo significant
changes in their personality and effectiveness as they engage
deeply in the work of counseling, reflecting transformative
growth.

14.Question
What does the author suggest about the relationship
between counseling and preaching?
Answer:Counseling and preaching are interconnected; both
functions are integral to a minister’s role in guiding and
nurturing the church community.

15.Question
How does the author view the process of ordaining
ministers?
Answer:The process of ordaining ministers must be
reevaluated to ensure that personal qualifications and the

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ability to confront others nouthetically are adequately
assessed.

16.Question
What must a counselor do if they wish to effectively lead
others?
Answer:Counselors must maintain a relationship with God,
embody change through personal growth, and possess a
hopeful outlook to effectively lead others toward
transformation.

17.Question
What distinguishes a Christian counselor from a secular
counselor?
Answer:A Christian counselor relies on the authority of
Scriptures, the guidance of the Holy Spirit, and the support of
the church, distinguishing them from secular counselors who
lack these spiritual resources.

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Chapter 4 | THE COUNSELEE| Q&A
1.Question
What insight did the counselor demonstrate about
understanding people, which astonished the counselee?
Answer:The counselor showed that he understood
the common experiences and struggles faced by the
counselee, demonstrating that many problems are
not unique but rather shared among people, leading
to the counselee's astonishment and feeling known
immediately.

2.Question
What are the three sources of information available to a
Christian counselor?
Answer:1. The Scriptures - the primary source of knowledge
and principles; 2. Counseling experience - insights gained
from previous cases; 3. The dynamics of the counselor's own
heart - understanding one's own nature and biases.

3.Question
What does the saying 'No test has overtaken you but such
as is common to man' imply for counseling?

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Answer:This implies that the struggles faced by counselees
are not unique but common human experiences, reassuring
counselors that they are equipped to handle these issues
based on their knowledge and experience.

4.Question
How can understanding biblical principles aid a
counselor in their work?
Answer:Understanding biblical principles allows the
counselor to apply God's wisdom to specific problems,
guiding counselees toward solutions and helping them
recognize their issues as part of a larger, shared human
experience.

5.Question
What specific process did the counselor use to break
through Sylvia's silence?
Answer:The counselor gathered background information
about Sylvia's family dynamics and past experiences from
her parents and utilized scriptural knowledge about human
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prompting her to share her true feelings.

6.Question
What foundational belief does the Christian counselor
hold regarding change?
Answer:The Christian counselor firmly believes in the
possibility of radical change, grounded in the transformative
power of God and the Holy Spirit, supporting the premise
that anyone can change regardless of their past.

7.Question
In what ways can the backgrounds of counselees influence
their counseling process, according to the text?
Answer:Counselees' backgrounds can impact their current
issues, as seen with Sylvia's separation from her parents. The
counselor uses this understanding to tailor the counseling
approach and address deep-seated grievances.

8.Question
Why is it important for a counselor to be aware of their
own heart and sinfulness?
Answer:Awareness of one's own heart helps counselors avoid
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empathy, ensuring that the counselor is more effectively
equipped to help the counselee.

9.Question
How does the story of Sylvia illustrate the necessity of
understanding the counselee's past?
Answer:Sylvia's story illustrates how critical it is to uncover
past experiences and emotions, as neglecting this can lead to
misunderstandings of the issues at hand. It emphasizes the
importance of in-depth interviews to get to the root of a
counselee's problems.

10.Question
What role does hope play in the Christian counseling
process?
Answer:Hope is central to the Christian counseling process,
as it is rooted in the belief that God can change lives,
providing encouragement for both the counselor and the
counselee to anticipate positive change.
Chapter 5 | PRESUPPOSITIONS AND
PRINCIPLES BASIC TO COUNSELING| Q&A
1.Question

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Why is it essential for a counselor to be well grounded in
the Word of God?
Answer:A counselor must be well grounded in the
Word of God to effectively address the diverse
human needs, as the subject matter of counseling
aligns closely with the teachings of Scripture.
Without a solid theological foundation, a counselor
may misinterpret human problems and offer
inappropriate solutions.

2.Question
What is the danger of relying solely on psychology
without a theological background in counseling?
Answer:Relying solely on psychology, without a firm
grounding in Scripture, can lead to misstatements about
human nature and the solutions for life’s challenges,
ultimately resulting in a counseling approach that lacks the
depth of understanding necessary for true healing and
meaning.

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What is meant by the statement 'Life Must Have
Meaning' in the context of counseling?
Answer:In counseling, the statement 'Life Must Have
Meaning' emphasizes the importance of purpose in one’s
existence. Van Frankl highlights that without a belief in a
higher meaning—especially one related to God—temporary
achievements and pleasures become hollow, leading to
despair.

4.Question
How do short-term objectives differ from long-term goals
in shaping a person's life perspective?
Answer:Short-term objectives can provide temporary
satisfaction and goals but lack ultimate significance.
Long-term goals, rooted in a relationship with God, offer
deeper meaning and context to day-to-day activities,
integrating them into a coherent and purposeful life narrative.

5.Question
What might lead a person to experience a 'nervous
breakdown'?

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Answer:A 'nervous breakdown' often occurs not because of a
physical issue, but due to a collapse of one’s foundational
beliefs and outlook on life. When individuals solely pursue
short-term successes and realize they lead to emptiness, they
may feel hopeless and unable to function.

6.Question
How can counselors help disillusioned individuals find
hope?
Answer:Counselors can help disillusioned individuals by
offering the gospel of Jesus Christ, which provides true
meaning and hope. By reorienting their focus from
short-term goals to the long-term promises of God,
counselors can assist them in rebuilding hope and
understanding their lives in a greater context.

7.Question
What role does despair play in the counseling process
according to the text?
Answer:Despair highlights the need for a deeper
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acknowledging this despair can lead to a turning point where
individuals are often most receptive to the gospel,
recognizing that their previous attempts at solutions have
been ineffective.

8.Question
Why is it important for Christian counselees to focus on
God's promises?
Answer:Christian counselees may experience despair if they
lose sight of long-term goals centered on faith. Reminding
them of God’s promises encourages them to view their
current struggles in the light of eternal hope, thus restoring
their trust and perspective.

9.Question
What is the ultimate solution for individuals struggling
with emptiness and lack of purpose?
Answer:The ultimate solution for individuals struggling with
feelings of emptiness is to find meaning in a relationship
with Jesus Christ. In Him, they can discover the possibility of
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solely on short-term achievements.
Chapter 6 | HOPE| Q&A
1.Question
What is the significance of hope in the Christian context
as discussed in the chapter?
Answer:Hope is fundamental in the Christian faith,
ranked just below love in importance. It is a
confident expectation that anchors believers through
trials and empowers them toward perseverance and
change. Biblical hope assures individuals of God's
promises and encourages them to endure, thus it is
essential for any meaningful counseling.

2.Question
Who are the individuals that particularly need hope
according to the chapter?
Answer:The chapter identifies various groups that need hope,
including: 1) Those with long-standing or difficult problems;
2) Individuals misled about their problems; 3) Those
harassed by fear; 4) Depressed persons; 5) Suicidal

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individuals; 6) The elderly who believe change is impossible;
7) People who have had repeated disappointments; 8) Those
who feel they have tried and failed; and 9) Anyone who is
without Christ.

3.Question
How should a counselor approach a counselee who has
lost hope?
Answer:Counselors should approach with an understanding
of the counselee's despair and work to rekindle hope through
biblical promises. This involves listening seriously to their
struggles, offering reassurance based on scripture, and
guiding them to actionable steps that affirm their ability to
change.

4.Question
Can you give an example of how the process of giving
hope might work in a counseling scenario?
Answer:For instance, consider a counselee named Juli who
has been to multiple psychiatrists without success. The
counselor could initially validate her feelings of frustration

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but then guide her to scriptural truths about God's promises
and how change is possible through faith. By emphasizing
actionable biblical principles and holding her accountable,
the counselor helps her reconnect with hope.

5.Question
How does the concept of hope tie in with the Christian
view of change?
Answer:In Christianity, hope is intertwined with the belief in
transformation through Christ. It underscores that change is
not only possible but is an expectation rooted in faith. The
hope for a better future empowers believers to strive for
improvement in their lives, overcoming current struggles,
and fosters resilience in the face of trials.

6.Question
What role does the counselor's belief in hope play in the
counseling process?
Answer:A counselor's own belief in hope is crucial, as they
must genuinely convey this conviction to their counselees. If
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possibility of change, they are unlikely to instill hope in
those they counsel. Their authentic enthusiasm is often
contagious and inspires counselees to believe in their
potential for change.

7.Question
How can a counselor use encouragement to foster hope?
Answer:Counselors can provide encouragement that
acknowledges effort and small successes. By expressing
appreciation for genuine attempts at change, counselors
reinforce a counselee's confidence and motivation, which in
turn fosters renewed hope as the counselee sees progress in
their journey.

8.Question
What does Romans 15:4 contribute to the discussion of
hope in counseling?
Answer:Romans 15:4 emphasizes that the Scriptures were
written for our instruction so that through patience and
encouragement we might have hope. This underlines the
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doing so provides both counselor and counselee with the
hope necessary for enduring and overcoming challenges.

9.Question
Why is it important for the counselor to take
self-deprecatory comments seriously?
Answer:Taking these comments seriously allows the
counselor to address underlying issues and helps the
counselee express themselves fully. It opens the door for a
deeper understanding of the person’s struggles and serves as
a foundation for rebuilding hope and encouraging change.

10.Question
What is the 'double hope' mentioned in the chapter?
Answer:The 'double hope' refers to both the future hope
associated with Christ's return and the hope for abundant life
in the present. Christians can look forward to eternal
perfection while also experiencing transformation and
fulfillment in their lives now.

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Chapter 7 | PRAYER: THE BASE FOR
CHRISTIAN COUNSELING| Q&A
1.Question
Why is prayer considered essential in Christian
counseling?
Answer:Prayer is essential because it invokes the
power and presence of the Holy Spirit,
acknowledging the counselor's own limitations and
seeking divine guidance for both the counselor and
the counselee. It facilitates a deeper reflection on the
issues at hand, leading to more meaningful
counseling sessions.

2.Question
How should a counselor prepare for a counseling session?
Answer:A counselor should prepare by engaging in prayer
for themselves and their counselees, reflecting on the
counselee's problems, and seeking solutions from Scripture,
which can enhance the quality of prayer and foster fruitful
plans for the session.

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When should prayer be incorporated during a counseling
session?
Answer:Prayer should typically be offered at the end of each
session, and can also be appropriate at any time during the
session when it emerges naturally, especially in response to
the counselee's emotional state or convictions brought about
by the discussion.

4.Question
What should a counselor do if a counselee is upset and
doesn't know what to say?
Answer:The counselor may suggest taking a moment to pray
together, asking God to remove any bitterness or anger to
help start a productive conversation about the issues the
counselee is facing.

5.Question
What are two dangers associated with misusing prayer in
counseling?
Answer:1. Relying solely on prayer without taking the
necessary actions as guided by Scriptures. 2. Allowing prayer

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to devolve into a session of self-pity rather than a genuine
seeking of God's help and direction.

6.Question
What analogy can be used to explain the relationship
between prayer and action?
Answer:An effective analogy is the 'Our Father' prayer about
daily bread: one does not simply pray and wait for bread to
appear, but rather prays for God's provision and
simultaneously takes action to work for it, as the Scriptures
direct effort alongside faith.

7.Question
What is the biblical response to problems as indicated in
the chapter?
Answer:The biblical response to problems encompasses both
prayer and action, succinctly expressed as 'ora et labora' —
'pray and work', ensuring one does not passively await
solutions but actively engages in efforts consistent with
God’s guidance.

8.Question
Why is prayer at the end of a session often more

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meaningful than at the beginning?
Answer:Prayer at the end is usually more meaningful because
it is less formal and can focus on the specific issues
discussed, allowing for heartfelt expressions of need and
closure after exploring significant emotional and spiritual
matters.

9.Question
How can a counselor maintain sensitivity to the
counselee's readiness for prayer?
Answer:The counselor should be attuned to the counselee's
emotional state and the movement of the Holy Spirit,
ensuring that prayer is a genuine response rather than the
counselor imposing their own desires on the counselee.
Chapter 8 | THE RECONCILIATION/DISCIPLINE
DYNAMIC| Q&A
1.Question
What is the reconciliation/discipline dynamic?
Answer:It is a biblical principle that emphasizes the
need for resolving interpersonal problems within the
Christian community, highlighting that conflicts

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must be addressed rather than left unresolved to
prevent harm to individuals and the church.

2.Question
Why does Christ prioritize reconciliation over worship?
Answer:In Matthew 5:21-26, Christ instructs that
reconciliation must take precedence over worship, indicating
that unresolved interpersonal issues take priority and must be
addressed immediately to maintain the integrity of
relationships and honor to God.

3.Question
What are the three steps in the reconciliation process
according to Matthew 18?
Answer:1. Go to the person privately to seek resolution. 2. If
unresolved, take one or two others to mediate. 3. If still
unresolved, bring the issue before the church for formal
discipline.

4.Question
What should be done if one party refuses reconciliation?
Answer:If one person refuses to reconcile, the other must
involve one or two others as mediators to assist in the

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reconciliation process. If this fails, the matter is brought
before the church for formal discipline.

5.Question
How should church discipline be carried out?
Answer:Discipline must be carried out in a loving manner,
with the goals of preserving God’s honor, ensuring church
purity, and ultimately reclaiming and reconciling the
offender.

6.Question
What does excommunication mean in the context of
reconciliation and discipline?
Answer:Excommunication is a formal act of removing a
member from the church community when they refuse to
repent and reconcile. It signifies that the individual is treated
as an outsider, yet the goal remains focused on eventual
repentance and restoration.

7.Question
Why is it important for church leaders to address gossip
and conflict directly?
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prevents further harm to the church's unity and purity.
Leaders must confront sin openly to help members recognize
and repent from destructive behaviors.

8.Question
How can the reconciliation/discipline dynamic apply to
marriage and divorce situations?
Answer:In cases where reconciliation fails between a
husband and wife, the dynamic allows the wronged spouse to
seek help through church mediation, ultimately leading to
possible excommunication if the unrepentant spouse does not
reconcile.

9.Question
What is the hoped-for outcome of following the
reconciliation/discipline dynamic?
Answer:The hope is that by following this biblical process,
many interpersonal and marital conflicts can be resolved,
leading to reconciliation and a harmonious church
community.

10.Question
How does the reconciliation/discipline dynamic provide

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hope for Christians?
Answer:It provides a structured, biblically-mandated method
for addressing and resolving conflicts, ensuring that no issue
is left unresolved, fostering unity and health within the
church.
Chapter 9 | RECONCILIATION| Q&A
1.Question
What are the essential elements of reconciliation
according to this chapter?
Answer:The essential elements of reconciliation
involve three key components: (1) confession of sin
to God and to those offended, (2) forgiveness from
both God and the offended party, and (3) the
establishment of a new relationship between the
offender and both God and those they have
wronged.

2.Question
Why is it important to establish a new relationship after
forgiveness?

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Answer:Establishing a new relationship after forgiveness is
crucial to prevent reverting to old patterns of behavior and to
promote genuine healing. Without a new biblically-based
relationship, parties might repeatedly confront the same
issues, leading to ongoing cycles of conflict.

3.Question
Does forgiving someone mean you must forget what they
did?
Answer:Forgiving someone does not equate to instantly
forgetting the offense. Instead, forgiveness involves a
commitment not to dwell on the offense and to establish new
attitudes that facilitate forgetting over time.

4.Question
How can brooding over an offense affect the
reconciliation process?
Answer:Brooding over an offense can hinder the healing
process and prevent the establishment of a new relationship.
It's important to avoid dwelling on past hurts, as this is
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re-living the pain instead of moving forward.

5.Question
What should a counselor look for if someone struggles to
forget an offense?
Answer:A counselor should examine whether the offended
party is engaging in self-pity or brooding over the offense, as
these attitudes violate the spirit of forgiveness and keep the
old wounds alive.

6.Question
How should a person respond if they do not feel like
forgiving?
Answer:One should recognize that forgiveness is a
command, not a feeling. Even if someone does not feel like
forgiving, they are still required to extend forgiveness as a
duty and to act in accordance with that commitment.

7.Question
What can ensue from a lack of genuine forgiveness after
an offense?
Answer:A lack of genuine forgiveness can lead to repeated
cycles of confrontation, confession, and forgiveness without

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true resolution. This creates an unreconciled condition and
ongoing resentment.

8.Question
What did Jesus teach about forgiving those who
repeatedly offend?
Answer:Jesus taught that forgiveness should be granted even
if a brother sins against you multiple times in a day and
returns to seek forgiveness. The onus is on the offended to
extend forgiveness based on the offender's repentance,
regardless of their subsequent actions.

9.Question
What is the relationship between faith and forgiveness,
according to the teachings in this chapter?
Answer:The teachings emphasize that the issue surrounding
forgiveness is not a matter of having more faith; instead, it is
about obedience to the command to forgive. Even a small
amount of faith is sufficient to fulfill this duty.

10.Question
Why is it important for forgiveness to be a choice rather
than a feeling?

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Answer:Choosing to forgive rather than waiting to feel
forgiveness encourages personal responsibility and proactive
healing. This choice helps break the cycle of resentment and
supports the development of healthier relationships.

11.Question
What role does the counselor play in the reconciliation
process?
Answer:The counselor's role is to guide the offended and the
offender towards mutual understanding, encourage biblical
principles of forgiveness and repentance, and help both
parties focus on establishing a new relationship founded on
healing and growth.

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Chapter 10 | PRESUPPOSITIONS AND
METHODOLOGY| Q&A
1.Question
What is the fundamental issue regarding counseling
methodology according to Jay E. Adams?
Answer:The fundamental issue is that counseling
methodology is Morally significant and requires a
framework grounded in biblical beliefs about God,
man, and creation. Methodology cannot be morally
neutral, especially when addressing the dignity and
redemptive potential of individuals as created in the
image of God.

2.Question
How does the Expert Knowledge approach to counseling
differ from a Christian perspective?
Answer:The Expert Knowledge approach, seen in theories
like Freudianism and Skinner's behaviorism, argues that the
counselee is not responsible for their issues and requires
external expertise to remedy their condition. In contrast, a
Christian perspective emphasizes personal responsibility and

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accountability before God, asserting that individuals have the
capacity to seek repentance and transformation in alignment
with biblical teachings.

3.Question
What are the characteristics of the Common Knowledge
approach in counseling, especially as proposed by Carl
Rogers?
Answer:The Common Knowledge approach posits that
individuals have the inherent resources within themselves to
solve their problems. Rogers argued that the role of the
counselor is merely to facilitate the counselee's
self-discovery and self-actualization, without imposing any
external standards or authority.

4.Question
Why is the view that man is fundamentally good, as
posited by Carl Rogers, problematic from a Christian
perspective?
Answer:From a Christian perspective, the belief that man is
fundamentally good negates the biblical understanding of sin
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has the potential for goodness, Christians believe that true
transformation requires acknowledgment of sin and
dependence on God’s grace for redemption.

5.Question
In what ways does Jay E. Adams critique B. F. Skinner's
behaviorism?
Answer:Adams critiques Skinner's behaviorism for asserting
that human behavior is solely determined by environmental
factors, stripping individuals of moral responsibility. This
perspective reduces humans to mere products of
conditioning, conflicting with the Christian understanding of
human agency and the need for repentance and faith.

6.Question
What is the importance of the 'Divine Knowledge'
approach in counseling, according to Jay E. Adams?
Answer:The Divine Knowledge approach emphasizes
building counseling methodologies that are rooted in biblical
principles and God's teachings. It asserts that all necessary
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within the Scriptures, and thus, Christian counselors must
rely on divine revelation to guide their methods.

7.Question
How does the example of Roger illustrate the dangers of
relying on Expert Knowledge in counseling?
Answer:Roger’s case reveals the dangers of Expert
Knowledge as he blindly follows the psychiatrist's claims of
mental illness, becoming passive and reliant on expert
intervention without proactively engaging in his own healing
or personal responsibility. His situation exemplifies how
such an approach can lead to dependency and neglect of one's
agency.

8.Question
What key elements must be considered in building a
biblical counseling methodology?
Answer:Key elements include understanding the moral
implications of methods, recognizing human dignity and
responsibility before God, ensuring that counseling
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practices that encourage repentance, faith, and personal
growth within the framework of Christian teaching.

9.Question
Why is eclecticism in counseling viewed as problematic by
Jay E. Adams?
Answer:Eclecticism is problematic because it leads to a
fragmented approach that lacks a cohesive biblical
framework. By trying to combine various methods without a
grounding in Scripture, counselors risk adopting practices
that may contradict or undermine the Christian worldview,
thus failing to provide genuine biblical help.
Chapter 11 | TECHNIQUE| Q&A
1.Question
What is the main concern regarding technique in
Christian counseling?
Answer:The main concern is that some Christians
confuse legitimate techniques with manipulative
gimmicks, rejecting the use of techniques altogether.
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the guidance and power of the Holy Spirit.

2.Question
How can Christians ensure that their techniques in
counseling are biblically sound?
Answer:Christians can ensure their techniques are biblically
sound by using those that are commanded or commended in
Scripture, or which emerge from scriptural principles. They
should seek the direction of the Holy Spirit in their practice.

3.Question
What Scripture references support the importance of
technique in communication?
Answer:Ephesians 5:15 emphasizes being careful in how one
walks, while Colossians 4:5-6 advises conducting oneself
wisely and speaking with grace and seasoning, indicating that
the 'how' of communication is as vital as the 'what'.

4.Question
What is the relationship between technique and the Holy
Spirit?
Answer:Technique should always be under the control of the
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ensuring that the method aligns with spiritual guidance. The
Holy Spirit empowers biblical techniques.

5.Question
Why is technique unavoidable in counseling?
Answer:Technique is unavoidable in counseling because
every interaction involves a method of communication,
whether conscious or unconscious. It defines how you
convey messages and engage with those you are counseling.

6.Question
What warning does Paul provide regarding
communication in Colossians 4:4?
Answer:Paul asks for prayer to make his message clear,
highlighting the importance of effective communication in
counseling and the need for skillfulness in conveying
messages appropriately.

7.Question
What is the consequence of avoiding technique in
counseling?
Answer:Avoiding technique results in a lack of effectiveness
in counseling. Skipping proper methods leads to sloppy

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interactions and could detract from delivering God’s message
properly.

8.Question
In what way can a counselor's problems in practice be
addressed?
Answer:By providing practical guidance on common issues
and situations that the average pastor and Christian counselor
encounters, the text aims to assist counselors in developing
their skills effectively and biblically.
Chapter 12 | THE LANGUAGE OF
COUNSELING| Q&A
1.Question
Why is language deemed important in the context of
counseling?
Answer:Language can determine the success or
failure of counseling as it shapes our thoughts and
the way we interact with ourselves and others.

2.Question
How can repetitive language affect a counselee's mindset?
Answer:Repetitive language can solidify certain beliefs and

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attitudes, making those thoughts more ingrained and
potentially hindering progress in counseling.

3.Question
What is the danger of using vague language like 'tension'
during counseling?
Answer:Using vague language can obscure the real issues, as
it misplaces the responsibility for certain feelings or
situations, making it harder to find actual solutions.

4.Question
How should a counselor respond to a counselee’s
statement of ‘I can’t’?
Answer:A counselor can challenge this statement by asking,
'Do you mean can’t or won’t?' or by affirming, 'God says that
you can.' This encourages a shift in perspective.

5.Question
What should counselors look for in a counselee's language
usage?
Answer:Counselors should note repeated phrases or words
that indicate faulty attitudes or beliefs, as these can point to
underlying problems that need addressing.

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6.Question
In what way can euphemisms be misleading in
counseling?
Answer:Euphemisms like 'emotional problems' can
downplay the seriousness of a counselee's issues and shift
focus away from the real behavioral problems that need to be
addressed.

7.Question
What is the correct way to address a counselee’s
emotional distress?
Answer:The emotional distress should be seen not as a
malfunction of the emotions but as a response to underlying
issues, often related to sin, that must be confronted directly.

8.Question
How can being direct about language enhance the
counseling experience?
Answer:By confronting problematic use of language,
counselors can help counselees clarify their thoughts, take
personal responsibility, and work toward biblical solutions.

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What does the author suggest about handling excuses
made by counselees?
Answer:Counselors should be attentive to excuses in
language, challenge them gently, and redirect the counselee
toward a more accurate and productive understanding of their
situation.

10.Question
How can a counselor affirm accountability without
fostering guilt?
Answer:By reminding counselees of God’s expectations and
their capacity for change, counselors can encourage
responsibility without leading to shame.

11.Question
What does the author imply about the relationship
between thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in counseling?
Answer:The author stresses that thoughts and behaviors drive
emotions, suggesting a focus on changing thoughts and
behaviors to alleviate distress rather than addressing
emotions directly.

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12.Question
Why is it essential to differentiate between needs and
desires in a counseling session?
Answer:Understanding the difference helps in prioritizing
genuine necessities over mere wants, which can clarify the
counselee's goals and actions.

13.Question
Why is it important for counselors to avoid using
language that may mislabel a counselee’s issues?
Answer:Mislabeling can lead to ineffective solutions; thus,
counselors must ensure that they accurately describe
emotional and behavioral problems to guide proper
treatment.

14.Question
What caution is advised to counselors regarding their
own language and that of the counselee?
Answer:Counselors should be careful with their language to
prevent misunderstandings and should assist counselees in
utilizing clear and direct language.

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How can understanding a counselee’s frequent phrases
assist in counseling progress?
Answer:Recognizing and addressing recurrent phrases can
reveal ingrained thought patterns that may hinder the
counselee's ability to move forward, facilitating targeted
interventions.

16.Question
Why is it problematic to claim 'everything is against me'?
Answer:This statement fosters victim mentality and ignores
the biblical assurance that with God on one’s side, no one
can ultimately be against them.

17.Question
What can a counselor do when a counselee expresses
hopelessness such as 'It’ll never work'?
Answer:A counselor can redirect this belief by emphasizing
the power of God's ways and the potential for success when
one changes their attitude.

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Chapter 13 | THE LANGUAGE OF EMOTION
AND ACTION| Q&A
1.Question
What is the fundamental distinction between feelings and
judgments as discussed in the chapter?
Answer:Feelings are bodily perceptions, categorized
as good or bad, while judgments are cognitive
evaluations about oneself and one's behavior. For
example, someone who says, 'I feel inferior' is
actually expressing a judgment, 'I am inferior,'
which triggers negative feelings.

2.Question
How can understanding the difference between feelings
and judgments help in counseling?
Answer:Recognizing that feelings are often based on flawed
judgments allows counselors to help clients change those
judgments, which can lead to changing the resulting feelings.
For instance, if a client feels inadequate, exploring the
reasons behind their judgment of inadequacy can provide a
path to improving their self-view.

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3.Question
Why is assurance of salvation not a feeling, according to
the chapter?
Answer:Assurance is considered a relationship with God
based on faith and evidence in one's life, rather than an
emotional state. One may feel various emotions related to
doubt or assurance, but these feelings do not define their
saved status.

4.Question
What role do attitudes play in influencing behavior as
mentioned in the text?
Answer:Attitudes consist of one’s beliefs and
presuppositions and create a habitual mindset that strongly
influences behavior. Negative attitudes can obstruct effective
communication and problem-solving in counseling.

5.Question
How does the chapter differentiate between behavior and
other bodily responses?
Answer:Behavior refers specifically to actions that can be
judged according to moral standards, while other bodily

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responses are often considered functions of glands or
instincts. The biblical perspective emphasizes the moral
responsibility behind behavior.

6.Question
What practical advice can counselors take from the
discussion on feelings and self-judgment?
Answer:Counselors should focus on helping clients identify
and articulate their judgments about themselves to facilitate
emotional healing rather than simply addressing their
feelings directly.

7.Question
In what way can addressing sinful behaviors lead to
renewed assurance in a counselee?
Answer:By confronting and correcting sinful behaviors,
clients often find the evidence of a changed life, which can
lead to renewed feelings of assurance in their salvation.

8.Question
What is the 'vicious circle' that may arise from basing
assurance on feelings?
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spiritual state are misinterpreted as evidence of being
unsaved, which then reinforces further negative feelings,
creating a continuous loop of doubt.

9.Question
Why is the counselor advised to consider the possibility of
a counselee's non-conversion?
Answer:Because some clients may not be truly converted,
exploring this possibility helps ensure that counseling efforts
are directed appropriately, especially if the client struggles
with assurance.

10.Question
How does this chapter emphasize the importance of
language in counseling?
Answer:The chapter highlights the need for precise language
to distinguish between emotions, judgments, and attitudes to
avoid confusion and to facilitate effective communication
and counseling strategies.
Chapter 14 | SIN IS THE PROBLEM| Q&A
1.Question
What is the primary problem that Christian counselors

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face in their work according to Jay E. Adams?
Answer:The primary problem that Christian
counselors face is sin, which they must confront
actively as they work to combat the influences of the
world, the flesh, and the devil.

2.Question
How does Jay E. Adams suggest counselors perceive their
role in counseling?
Answer:Counselors should perceive themselves as soldiers of
Christ engaged in spiritual warfare, requiring the full armor
of God to combat the enemy.

3.Question
What are the two types of living that Adams describes?
Answer:Adams describes two types of living: the
desire-oriented life that is focused on personal feelings and
satisfaction, and the commandment-oriented life that is based
on obedience to God's Word.

4.Question
According to Adams, how should love be approached in
relationships like marriage?

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Answer:Love should be approached as a choice compelled by
obedience to God rather than merely a feeling; that is, one
must act in love regardless of feelings, and the feelings will
follow as a result.

5.Question
What is the danger of feeling-oriented counseling as per
Adams?
Answer:Feeling-oriented counseling plays into the hands of
Satan by encouraging individuals to follow their feelings
rather than obedience to God, leading to further
complications in their sin nature.

6.Question
What is the primary message Adams wants to
communicate about feelings and actions?
Answer:The primary message is that feelings should not
dictate our actions; instead, obedience to God's commands
should drive behavior, ultimately leading to authentic
feelings that align with God's truths.

7.Question
How does Adams describe sin in relation to individual

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responsibility?
Answer:Adams emphasizes that individuals are responsible
for their sin and must confront it, even if their environment
or upbringing has influenced their behaviors.

8.Question
What does Adams argue about demonic influence in the
lives of Christians?
Answer:Adams argues that true Christians cannot be
possessed by demons because the Holy Spirit resides within
them, thus making it essential for counselors to focus on
personal sin and responsibility rather than attributing
behavior to demonic possession.

9.Question
Why is personal responsibility crucial in the counseling
process according to Adams?
Answer:Personal responsibility is crucial because
recognizing one’s sins allows for repentance and a pathway
to change, which is foundational for effective biblical
counseling.

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10.Question
What method does Adams recommend for
decision-making in counseling?
Answer:Adams recommends using a decision-making sheet
that differentiates between biblically based decisions and
those based merely on feelings to help counselees make
choices aligned with God’s Word.

11.Question
What did the case of the man who 'couldn’t feel' illustrate
in terms of faith and action?
Answer:The man's inability to feel was revealed to be an
excuse for not taking action to come to Christ, highlighting
that true faith is not based on feeling, but on the conscious
decision to repent and believe.

12.Question
How should Christian counselors view despair in their
counselees, according to Adams?
Answer:Christian counselors should be careful to avoid
allowing counselees to make decisions based solely on
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decisions rooted in Scripture.

13.Question
What ultimate hope does Adams provide within the
context of counseling?
Answer:Adams provides the hope that through repentance
and adherence to God’s commandments, significant changes
can occur in a person's life, irrespective of their past.
Chapter 15 | LOVE IN COUNSELING| Q&A
1.Question
What is the ultimate goal of Christian counseling
according to Jay E. Adams?
Answer:The ultimate goal of Christian counseling is
love—for God and for one’s neighbor. Love cements
relationships and is the foundational response to the
problems that counselors face.

2.Question
How does fear compare to love in the context of
relationships?
Answer:Love attracts and builds connections, while fear
repels and causes division. A lack of love, such as

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resentment, can lead to a withering of communication and
relationships.

3.Question
What does Paul mean when he says that the goal of
instruction is love from a pure heart?
Answer:Paul emphasizes that genuine love stems from a pure
heart, a good conscience, and a sincere faith, indicating that
true love is rooted in spiritual integrity and authority.

4.Question
Why is it problematic to prioritize self-love before loving
others?
Answer:Prioritizing self-love as a prerequisite for loving
others leads to a distortion of Christ's command, as it shifts
focus from love for God and neighbor to self-centeredness,
which is contrary to the teachings of Scripture.

5.Question
How can one cultivate true love according to Christian
principles?
Answer:True love is cultivated through acts of giving and
obedience to God's commandments, rather than relying

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solely on feelings, which can be unreliable and fleeting. The
actions of love shape genuine feelings.

6.Question
What is the relationship between self-concept and loving
others?
Answer:A person who loves God and others will have an
adequate self-concept, not because of self-seeking validation,
but due to their identity as a child of God and their ability to
reflect God's love.

7.Question
How does biblical love differ from the secular view of
love?
Answer:Biblical love is characterized by self-giving rather
than self-serving. It is an active choice to love and serve
others, while secular views often depict love as a fleeting
emotion or desire.

8.Question
What does Ephesians 5 teach about love in marriage?
Answer:Ephesians 5 stresses that husbands are responsible
for loving their wives as Christ loves the church, underlining

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the idea that love in marriage is an active responsibility, not
merely a response to one's partner.

9.Question
How should counselors address a counselee’s self-image
issues?
Answer:Counselors should encourage counselees to focus on
obedience to God rather than attempting to directly change
their self-image. True self-worth and identity come as a
by-product of living a righteous life.

10.Question
What is the essence of love as described by Paul in I
Corinthians 13?
Answer:Paul details love as selfless, patient, kind, and devoid
of selfishness. It requires action and commitment, suggesting
that love is more about how one treats others than how one
feels.

11.Question
Is it possible to feel adequate before obeying God's
commands?
Answer:According to Scripture, one’s sense of adequacy

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stems from obedience to God. Righteous behavior leads to a
fulfilling self-concept, suggesting that feelings of adequacy
follow proper action.

12.Question
How should a counselor respond to a child who has been
berated by others?
Answer:The counselor should focus on what the child can
control, emphasizing personal responsibility to God and
helping them learn how to respond to past abuses rather than
allowing blame to inhibit their growth.

13.Question
What role does the Holy Spirit play in love according to
the chapter?
Answer:The Holy Spirit enables believers to develop love by
working through the ministry of the Word, facilitating a
transformation in heart and behavior that aligns with God's
commandments.

14.Question
What is a core misunderstanding about self-worth in
modern counseling?

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Answer:Many counselors focus on boosting self-esteem as a
pathway to loving others, while biblical teaching asserts that
self-worth is derived from one's relationship with God, not
from self-focus.

15.Question
How does the author view modern approaches to identity
and self-esteem?
Answer:The author critiques modern concepts of identity and
self-esteem as misguided and rooted in a psychologized view
of Scripture, advocating instead for a biblically founded
understanding of worth based on one's identity in Christ.

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Chapter 16 | SUPPORT, SYMPATHY, AND
EMPATHY| Q&A
1.Question
What is the biblical view of support in counseling
according to the text?
Answer:The biblical view of support in counseling
goes beyond mere emotional support or passive
presence. It involves actively helping the counselee
confront their problems through the guidance of
scripture, encouraging them to change their
behavior, and seeking genuine solutions rather than
simply comforting them in their struggles.

2.Question
How does modern support contrast with biblical support?
Answer:Modern support is often seen as a passive,
non-interventionist approach where counselors simply listen
and validate the counselee's feelings. In contrast, biblical
support is active and confrontational, aiming to direct the
counselee towards repentance and godly solutions instead of
reinforcing their current problematic behaviors.

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3.Question
Why is traditional support seen as harmful in the
counseling process?
Answer:Traditional support is harmful because it can
reinforce sinful behaviors or faulty coping mechanisms,
suggesting to the counselee that their way of handling
problems is acceptable. It gives a message of hopelessness,
implying that no better solutions exist and that even God
might be powerless to help.

4.Question
What does biblical empathy entail according to the
chapter?
Answer:Biblical empathy involves not just feeling for the
counselee but actively engaging with them to understand
their challenges fully and working alongside them to uncover
and apply scriptural truths that address their problems.

5.Question
What is the ultimate goal of counseling as suggested by
the text?
Answer:The ultimate goal of counseling is to facilitate

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change in the counselee's life by helping them turn away
from unhealthy behaviors and repent, enabling them to
embrace God's solutions and grow in their faith.

6.Question
How does the concept of love as presented in the
scriptures differ from modern perceptions of sympathy?
Answer:Biblical love is characterized by active engagement
and action rather than passive sympathy. It reflects a
commitment to do something constructive for the person in
need, rather than simply empathizing from a distance.

7.Question
How can a counselor demonstrate love in a counseling
relationship?
Answer:A counselor can demonstrate love by actively
problem-solving with the counselee, showing genuine effort
in understanding their struggles, confronting them when
necessary, and guiding them towards scripture-based
resolutions, rather than merely listening and validating their
feelings.

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8.Question
What warning does the text provide about misapplying
empathy in counseling?
Answer:The text warns that misapplied empathy—where the
counselor merely sympathizes without offering
guidance—may lead to the counselee feeling validated in
their unhelpful behaviors, thereby harming their capacity for
healing and growth.

9.Question
How does the chapter suggest a counselor might support
someone who is struggling?
Answer:A counselor might support someone who is
struggling by not merely offering a listening ear but by
actively engaging in the conversation to help the person see
their situation through a biblical lens, encouraging them to
find and follow godly solutions.

10.Question
What scriptural principles does the text emphasize for
effective counseling?
Answer:The text emphasizes that effective counseling should

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be rooted in scriptural principles, promoting repentance,
faith, and experiential help from God, and should never
condone or support behaviors or attitudes contrary to God's
Word.
Chapter 17 | THE MOTIVATION FOR CHANGE|
Q&A
1.Question
What is the essence of the Christian life according to this
chapter?
Answer:The essence of the Christian life is that it is
a dynamic journey of change, where believers are
not static but are continually being transformed into
what they are called to be in Christ.

2.Question
What role does hope play in the motivation for change in
counseling?
Answer:Hope is crucial for motivating counselees to pursue
change; it encourages them to endure the challenges of
transformation by pointing them to Christ and the promises
of their identity in Him.

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3.Question
How does the concept of 'being what you are' influence a
believer's life?
Answer:Believers are urged to live in a manner consistent
with their high calling in Christ, which motivates them to
action and reinforces their identity as those who have been
redeemed and transformed.

4.Question
What analogy is used to illustrate the transformation that
occurs in a believer's life?
Answer:The analogy of a minister being ordained and
beginning to live like a minister illustrates how a believer's
identity as a child of God influences their daily life choices
and behaviors.

5.Question
Why is it important for counselors to help counselees see
their identity in Christ?
Answer:Counselors must help counselees recognize their
new identity in Christ to instill hope and the possibility of
change, allowing them to understand that they are no longer

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enslaved to sin but are alive to God.

6.Question
What biblical passages support the idea of motivation
through reward and punishment?
Answer:Ephesians 6:2 highlights God’s command to honor
parents with a promise of long life, illustrating that rewards
for good behavior are part of God’s motivation strategy.

7.Question
How should rewards be framed in the context of
counseling?
Answer:Rewards should be framed as incentives for genuine
achievements rather than bribes; they should encourage
counselees to reach goals that reflect significant growth and
responsibility.

8.Question
What distinguishes the biblical view of motivation from
the Skinnerian behavioristic approach?
Answer:The biblical view incorporates a framework of
eternal reward and punishment, personal accountability to
God, and the involvement of the Holy Spirit, contrasting with

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Skinnerian methods that treat behavior as mere
environmental manipulation.

9.Question
How can modeling serve as a motivational factor in
counseling?
Answer:Modeling allows counselees to see feasible examples
of behavior they wish to change, demonstrating not just the
'what' but the 'how' of living out a transformed life.

10.Question
What should counselors consider when choosing
motivational methods for their counselees?
Answer:Counselors should consider past effective
motivational strategies, the biblical legitimacy of those
methods, and aim to encourage motivations that are
spiritually oriented rather than self-serving.

11.Question
Why is overlooking motivation in counseling not a valid
option?
Answer:Ignoring motivation can lead to ineffective or
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actively and thoughtfully engage with motivation to support
their counselees' growth.
Chapter 18 | EFFECTING BIBLICAL CHANGE|
Q&A
1.Question
What is the ultimate goal of biblical counseling according
to Jay E. Adams?
Answer:The ultimate goal of biblical counseling is to
effect genuine biblical change in the lives of
counselees.

2.Question
Why is change described as difficult in the context of
counseling?
Answer:Change is difficult because people often have
deep-seated habitual patterns established over time, making it
hard to break from these learned behaviors.

3.Question
How should counselors approach a counselee's belief that
they cannot change?
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certain traits are innate and unchangeable, emphasizing that,
through Christ, all the qualities required by God can be
acquired.

4.Question
What is the relationship between the past and the present
when it comes to personal change?
Answer:It's crucial to focus on the present and how the
effects of the past influence current behavior, rather than
attempting to change the unchangeable past itself.

5.Question
What is true repentance in the context of counseling?
Answer:True repentance is a change of mind that leads to a
change in actions and life, not merely feeling sorrow over
past actions.

6.Question
Why do temporary changes in behavior often occur
without lasting transformation?
Answer:Temporary changes occur because they might not
address the underlying character shift needed; without
genuine change in the person, behaviors can revert.

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7.Question
What does the two-factored process of change
(dehabituation and rehabituation) involve?
Answer:The process involves both putting off old sinful
habits and putting on new, godly patterns of life.

8.Question
What role does endurance play in effecting successful
change?
Answer:Endurance is vital as lasting change requires
continued effort even when faced with difficulties or
setbacks; quick results are often unrealistic.

9.Question
How can the principles of the Bible help facilitate
personal change?
Answer:The principles of the Bible provide structured
guidance and the means through which the Holy Spirit works
to bring about change in a believer's life.

10.Question
What encouragement can be offered to those who feel
they are too old to change?

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Answer:Anyone, regardless of age, can change by relying on
God's grace and the power of the Holy Spirit, as illustrated
by biblical figures who experienced significant changes later
in life.

11.Question
What is the importance of identifying specific sinful
patterns in counseling?
Answer:Identifying specific patterns helps clarify the areas
requiring change and establishes a focused plan for replacing
these with biblical alternatives.

12.Question
How does the analogy of learning to ice skate relate to
personal change?
Answer:Just like learning to ice skate involves falling and
getting back up, personal change involves perseverance in
overcoming failures and building new habits over time.

13.Question
What is the ultimate source of power for achieving
change in the Christian’s life?
Answer:The ultimate source of power for achieving change is

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the Holy Spirit, who works through the Word of God,
guiding believers toward righteous living.

14.Question
How can counselees ensure they put in place lasting
changes rather than temporary fixes?
Answer:Counselees need to actively practice new godly
behaviors and replace sinful habits with appropriate biblical
conduct, ensuring they have a consistent and structured plan.

15.Question
What does it mean to live a commandment-motivated life
versus a feeling-motivated life?
Answer:Living a commandment-motivated life means
making choices based on God's Word and what is right, while
a feeling-motivated life is driven by emotions and can lead to
instability.

16.Question
In what way does discipline contribute to freedom,
according to the chapter?
Answer:Discipline, as guided by biblical principles, provides
the structure necessary for true freedom, enabling individuals

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to grow in righteousness and godliness.

17.Question
What should counselors encourage counselees to do daily
for lasting change?
Answer:Counselors should encourage counselees to engage
in regular prayer and study of Scripture, which is essential
for structuring and maintaining a godly lifestyle.

18.Question
How does the idea of 'putting off' and 'putting on' apply
to practical change in life?
Answer:It applies by necessitating not just the cessation of
harmful behaviors but also the active and intentional
adoption of righteous behaviors to form new habits.

19.Question
What does Jay E. Adams suggest is a common pitfall for
counselees seeking change?
Answer:A common pitfall is that counselees often give up
too soon, desiring immediate results without understanding
the ongoing process and struggle involved in genuine change.

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Chapter 19 | ELEMENTS OF DEHABITUATION
AND REHABITUATION| Q&A
1.Question
What is the first step in the process of dehabituation and
rehabituation according to the chapter?
Answer:Becoming aware of the practice (pattern)
that must be dehabituated (put off).

2.Question
Why is awareness of habitual practices critical for
change?
Answer:Awareness is essential because unless a counselee
knows precisely what behavior or attitude they are engaging
in, they won't know how to correct it.

3.Question
How can the frequency of a problematic behavior be
accurately assessed?
Answer:Using a DPP (Daily Practice Pattern) form allows
the counselee to track occurrences of the behavior, helping
them understand its frequency and triggers.

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What role does discovering biblical alternatives play in
counseling?
Answer:Discovering biblical alternatives is crucial as it
provides counselees with new patterns to replace their old,
harmful habits.

5.Question
How can restructuring one's environment aid in the
change process?
Answer:By structuring activities and surroundings to support
the desired changes, such as scheduling regular Bible study
or avoiding situations that trigger old habits.

6.Question
What is meant by 'breaking links in the chain of sin'?
Answer:It involves addressing the early stages of a behavior
pattern to prevent it from escalating into a larger sin pattern.

7.Question
How can counseling techniques avoid becoming gimmicks
in the change process?
Answer:Counselors can focus on the relationship with Christ
as a core motivation for change, rather than merely using

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techniques to modify behavior.

8.Question
What is the significance of practicing the new pattern in
the process of change?
Answer:Practicing new patterns consistently is essential for
them to become second nature, fundamentally altering the
counselee's life.

9.Question
What makes discipline crucial for achieving godliness
according to the chapter?
Answer:Discipline involves sustained daily effort towards
godliness, as there are no shortcuts or instant solutions to
achieving true holiness.

10.Question
How did Bill successfully change his reaction to traffic
lights?
Answer:Bill learned to view red lights as opportunities for
relaxation and prayer instead of stress, actively replacing his
old habit with a new, positive response.

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Can you summarize the key to changing a negative
response to a frequently encountered situation?
Answer:The key is to not only stop the negative response but
to actively replace it with a new, constructive behavior that
redefines the experience.
Chapter 20 | GETTING STARTED| Q&A
1.Question
What is the first step a young pastor must take to begin
his counseling ministry?
Answer:The first step is to advertise his willingness
and ability to help through counseling, even if this
requires overcoming initial hesitancy from the
congregation.

2.Question
Why might there be a waiting period before a young
pastor begins serious counseling?
Answer:Members of the congregation may need time to
evaluate the pastor's maturity, understanding of Scriptures,
and interpersonal skills before approaching him for counsel.

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3.Question
What role does preaching play in indirectly advertising
the pastor's counseling services?
Answer:Preaching on relatable topics that address human
needs effectively can lead congregants to seek the pastor's
help, as they feel he understands their struggles.

4.Question
How should a pastor react when approached by a
congregant seeking to discuss personal issues?
Answer:The pastor should assume that the congregant desires
a private discussion and immediately suggest scheduling an
appointment, reinforcing the idea of counseling as a natural
part of their relationship.

5.Question
What should a pastor consider if the congregation shows
reticence in seeking counsel?
Answer:He should explore possible past failures in
counseling within the congregation and take proactive steps,
such as writing educational articles or delivering relevant
sermons to rebuild trust.

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6.Question
How can a pastor use written communication to bolster
his counseling ministry?
Answer:By writing articles or notes in the church bulletin
addressing common issues, the pastor can directly
communicate his desire to assist and educate the
congregation on the value of counseling.

7.Question
What advantages does a pastor have over counselors in a
center when it comes to counseling?
Answer:Pastors possess prior knowledge of congregants,
established relationships, the authority for church discipline,
and the community support structure, all of which enhance
the counseling process.

8.Question
What is crucial for a pastor to do during the first
counseling session?
Answer:The pastor should establish leadership, center
discussions on Christ and Scripture, determine the
counselee's spiritual status, and focus on giving hope while

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addressing pressing issues.

9.Question
Why is it important for a pastor to maintain intimacy in
counseling relationships?
Answer:Intimacy fosters trust and strengthens the
relationship, allowing congregants to feel supported rather
than alienated, making them more likely to seek help.

10.Question
How can the pastor mitigate the potential risk of losing
friends through counseling?
Answer:By demonstrating genuine care and concern and
helping congregants tackle their problems biblically, the
pastor can strengthen bonds rather than diminish them.

11.Question
What might be the outcome if counseling leads to
discomfort in the relationship?
Answer:If counseling causes tension to arise, it usually
indicates a failure in the counseling process rather than the
intimacy itself, emphasizing the need for the pastor to be an
effective shepherd.

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Chapter 21 | GOALS AND TERMINAL DATES|
Q&A
1.Question
What metaphor does the author use to describe the initial
phase of counseling sessions?
Answer:The author compares the beginnings of
counseling sessions to driving in fog—though the
counselor knows the destination and route, visibility
is poor, making it difficult to see the way ahead.

2.Question
Why are clear goals and objectives important in
counseling?
Answer:Clear goals and objectives provide direction,
allowing both the counselor and the counselee to expect
change and evaluate progress throughout the counseling
process.

3.Question
How should a counselor respond if a counselee fails to
complete a homework assignment?
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constructively, exploring the reasons behind it and
emphasizing the importance of accountability, while
maintaining a hopeful attitude.

4.Question
What are the three major general objectives of counseling
believers, according to the text?
Answer:The three general objectives are: (1) to honor God,
(2) to strengthen Christ’s church, and (3) to benefit the
counselee by building them up in the faith.

5.Question
How does the author suggest counselors handle different
individuals in counseling?
Answer:Counselors should adapt their approach to fit each
individual's circumstances while maintaining the same
overarching message—similar to how Jesus engaged with
different individuals in diverse ways.

6.Question
What should counselors do if new significant data arises
during a session?
Answer:Counselors should remain flexible to adjust their

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goals as needed when new information is provided, allowing
for a dynamic and responsive counseling dialogue.

7.Question
How can a counselor evaluate their effectiveness during
the process?
Answer:Counselors should regularly review clear objectives,
discuss progress on assignments, assess the counselee's
cooperation, and reflect on their own methods and adherence
to biblical principles.

8.Question
Why is flexibility considered an important quality in
counseling?
Answer:Flexibility allows counselors to adapt their plans in
response to the counselee’s needs and circumstances,
ensuring that the counseling process remains relevant and
effective.

9.Question
What key attitude should a counselor embody to aid the
counselee’s progress?
Answer:A hopeful and positive attitude is crucial, as it

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instills confidence in the counselee that change is possible
and promotes an environment conducive to growth.

10.Question
What role do transitional matters play in a counseling
session?
Answer:Transitional matters serve as a bridge from past
sessions to the current one, fostering continuity and allowing
for the review of homework assignments and their
implications.

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Chapter 22 | THE COMMITMENT OF THE
COUNSELEE| Q&A
1.Question
Why is it not enough to talk about problems during
counseling sessions?
Answer:Speaking about problems without aiming
for solutions can lead to despair, as it often focuses
on the issue rather than the resolution. This can
mislead the counselee into believing they have made
progress when, in fact, they have only deepened
their understanding of their predicament without
finding a way forward.

2.Question
What is the ultimate goal of a counseling session
according to Jay E. Adams?
Answer:The ultimate goal is to lead the counselee toward a
commitment to take specific actions based on biblical
solutions discussed during the session.

3.Question
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counseling session?
Answer:Assignments should be clearly written out,
explained, and reviewed with the counselee to ensure
understanding and commitment before concluding with
prayer.

4.Question
What is the danger of focusing solely on feelings in
counseling?
Answer:Focusing only on feelings can lead to temporary
relief, but it does not address the underlying issues, which
can leave the counselee feeling hopeless and may even
contribute to dire consequences such as suicidal thoughts.

5.Question
What lesson can we learn from the metaphor of lifting the
lid off a pressure cooker?
Answer:Lifting the lid may provide temporary relief from
pressure, but if the heat is not turned off—symbolizing the
need for real solutions—the pressure will eventually build up
again, possibly leading to a crisis or harmful actions.

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6.Question
Why is biblical action necessary in counseling?
Answer:Biblical action is crucial because it transforms
insights gained through discussion into tangible steps
towards healing and change, rooted in faith and trust in God's
solutions, which is where true hope lies.

7.Question
What is meant by 'talking through to God’s solutions'?
Answer:It means that counseling should not settle for
discussing problems but should guide the counselee towards
discovering and implementing God’s answers as revealed in
Scripture.

8.Question
What can happen if a counselor fails to provide a biblical
solution?
Answer:If a counselor does not offer a biblical solution, the
counselee may lose hope and wrongly conclude that there are
no answers to their problems, potentially leading to greater
distress.

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How can counselors prevent enlarging a counselee's
problems?
Answer:Counselors can prevent this by ensuring that their
discussions focus on actionable biblical solutions rather than
merely analyzing the problems, which can overwhelm the
counselee.

10.Question
What practical advice can be derived from this chapter
for counselors?
Answer:Counselors should always steer conversations
towards practical biblical solutions, ensure commitments to
action are made, and end sessions with a focus on God's
guidance and prayer.
Chapter 23 | IS THERE A PROBLEM?| Q&A
1.Question
What is a common challenge that counselors face when
one party recognizes a problem while the other does not?
Answer:A common challenge is that one partner,
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impending disaster in the relationship, whereas the
other partner, like Howard, may feel that there is no
real issue at all. This disparity can create a
significant communication problem that needs to be
addressed in counseling.

2.Question
How can counselors effectively handle situations where
one party refuses to acknowledge a problem?
Answer:Counselors can use a third opinion approach, stating
that regardless of individual perspectives, there is a clear
communication issue that merits discussion. By reframing
the conversation around communication breakdown,
counselors can guide both partners toward understanding
their differing views.

3.Question
Why is it important for counselors to understand the
backgrounds of the individuals involved in counseling?
Answer:Understanding the backgrounds is crucial because
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conflicts and problems in their relationship. For example, if
one partner grew up in a home where conflict was a sign of
trouble, while the other was accustomed to conflict being a
normal aspect of life, their interpretations and responses to
issues can vary greatly.

4.Question
What should counselors be cautious about when working
with individuals who seem to have no significant issues?
Answer:Counselors should avoid enlarging problems or
fabricating difficulties where none exist. Instead, they must
recognize that some individuals may simply need a brief
session of encouragement or guidance instead of extensive
counseling.

5.Question
What role does prayer and follow-up play in the
counseling process as described in the chapter?
Answer:Prayer and follow-up are essential for maintaining
the relationship between the counselor and counselee,
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counselee's progress demonstrates care and encourages
accountability without overwhelming them with unnecessary
sessions.

6.Question
How can a counselor distinguish between someone who
genuinely needs counseling and someone who has minor
concerns?
Answer:A counselor can distinguish this by assessing the
severity and impact of the concerns presented. Individuals
with minor concerns may benefit from brief counsel, while
those presenting serious issues, such as communication
breakdowns or unresolved conflicts, may need more
extensive counseling.
Chapter 24 | TWO BASIC APPROACHES| Q&A
1.Question
What is the main focus of the intensive approach in
counseling?
Answer:The intensive approach focuses on
examining one central problem in depth, along with
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other related issues and ultimately encourage
healing in those areas.

2.Question
How can a counselor effectively use the intensive
approach?
Answer:A counselor can use the intensive approach
effectively by starting with a known issue and gradually
revealing interconnected problems through careful
questioning and exploration, thereby creating a pathway for
deeper understanding and resolution.

3.Question
Can you give an example of the intensive approach using
a case study?
Answer:In the case of Frank, a male student suspected of
engaging in homosexual sin, the counselor identified his
deep remorse regarding his relationship with his parents. By
focusing on this relationship and asking probing questions,
Frank was eventually led to admit the underlying issue of his
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facilitate the discovery of hidden problems.

4.Question
What is the key advantage of succeeding with the
intensive approach?
Answer:The key advantage is that achieving early success in
addressing one issue can raise hope and encourage the
counselee to apply the same principles to other areas of their
life, fostering overall progress.

5.Question
What is the difference between the intensive and extensive
approaches?
Answer:The intensive approach delves deeply into one issue,
while the extensive approach casts a wide net, surveying
various aspects of the counselee's life to gather a broad range
of data and identify multiple issues.

6.Question
What type of problems can the extensive approach help
identify?
Answer:The extensive approach helps identify a range of
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health, and practical concerns such as financial matters, by
inquiring broadly about the counselee's life circumstances.

7.Question
When might a counselor switch between the intensive and
extensive approaches?
Answer:A counselor might switch between the two
approaches based on the flow of the session; if one approach
fails to yield adequate insights, switching to the other can
provide new perspectives and lead to breakthroughs.

8.Question
How can homework be utilized in both approaches?
Answer:Homework can be tailored to each approach: in the
intense approach, it might focus on reflecting deeply on the
specific issues discussed, while in the extensive approach, it
may involve identifying unaddressed areas or expanding on
briefly covered topics.

9.Question
Why is it important for counselors to remember that a
counselee is a whole person?
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emphasizes that all aspects of their life can be interconnected,
which is crucial for uncovering the root causes of issues and
facilitating comprehensive healing.

10.Question
What role do 'halo data' play in the counseling session?
Answer:Halo data, such as bodily reactions or emotional
responses to questions, provide the counselor with clues
about areas of sensitivity or potential underlying issues the
counselee may be reluctant to discuss.

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Chapter 25 | WAYS OF GATHERING DATA| Q&A
1.Question
Why is data gathering considered vital in counseling?
Answer:Data gathering is crucial in counseling as it
helps counselors understand the counselee's
problems comprehensively. By listening to both core
data (explicit information shared by the counselee)
and halo data (non-verbal cues and observations),
the counselor can form a more accurate picture of
the situation, enabling effective biblical advice and
solutions.

2.Question
What are halo data and how do they complement core
data?
Answer:Halo data refers to non-verbal cues and contextual
factors that can reveal deeper insights about a counselee's
feelings and attitudes, often being as significant as or more
crucial than the words spoken. For example, a husband's
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and recognizing this through tone or body language can lead
to a more truthful understanding of the relationship.

3.Question
Can you explain how the counselor can effectively gather
core data?
Answer:Core data is gathered primarily through direct
questioning. The counselor must ask thoughtful and probing
questions that guide the counselee to reveal specific
information concerning their issues. This may involve
detailed inquiries about behaviors, feelings, and
relationships, allowing the counselor to identify deeper,
underlying sinful patterns.

4.Question
What is an example of a situation where gathering the
right data changed the outcome?
Answer:John, who felt overwhelmed by financial troubles,
initially thought he was facing disaster, fearing imminent
foreclosure and repossession. Through data gathering, the
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revealing that his situation was not as dire as he believed.
This shift allowed John to take constructive actions, leading
to improved mental health and employment. This example
illustrates how crucial understanding the facts can lead to
powerful transformations.

5.Question
How do counselors ensure that they are gathering
legitimate data?
Answer:Counselors should avoid discussing absent parties
behind their backs, as this leads to distorted data and
mistrust. Instead, they encourage all parties involved to
participate in the counseling process, ensuring that
information is accurate and fair. For instance, if a couple is
experiencing marital issues, both partners should attend the
session together to present their perspectives openly.

6.Question
What should counselors do if only one party can attend
the session?
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counselors must focus solely on that individual, discussing
their feelings and actions without referencing the absent
party. The counselor may encourage the attendee to share the
session's insights with the absent person to promote
transparency and mutual understanding.

7.Question
Why is it important for counselors to fix responsibilities
during the data gathering process?
Answer:Fixing responsibilities is essential as it helps
counselees understand their role in the issues presented. It
prevents blameshifting and encourages personal
accountability. The counselor must guide the counselee to
recognize their responsibilities in relationships and conflicts
and emphasize that changes in behavior are primarily their
responsibility, irrespective of others' actions.

8.Question
What is the significance of note-taking during counseling
sessions?
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information shared during counseling sessions, allowing
counselors to track progress and revisit previous discussions.
This practice also helps in identifying patterns, changes, or
contradictions in the counselee's statements, which can
enhance the effectiveness of the counseling process.

9.Question
In what ways can counselors ensure better data accuracy?
Answer:Counselors can enhance data accuracy by
encouraging active participation of all involved parties in the
counseling sessions, validating the information gathered
from multiple perspectives, and maintaining clear, detailed
notes that track discussions and developments. This ensures
that the counseling process is based on a well-rounded
understanding of the issues at hand.

10.Question
How should counselors approach the topic of confession
in group dynamics?
Answer:Counselors should facilitate true confession groups
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environment for accountability and reconciliation.
Conversely, pseudo groups that lack the presence of all
involved can lead to misinterpretation and injustice, as they
are unable to accurately address the issues.
Chapter 26 | ASKING QUESTIONS| Q&A
1.Question
What are the three basic questions Jesus asked during
His counseling interactions?
Answer:1. What is your problem? 2. What have you
done about it? 3. What do you want us to do?

2.Question
Why is it important to know what the counselee has
already done about their problem?
Answer:Understanding what the counselee has already
attempted to resolve their issue can reveal complications that
may have worsened their situation, allowing the counselor to
address these effectively.

3.Question
How can conflicting expectations between a counselor and
counselee hinder progress?

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Answer:If the counselor and counselee have different
expectations, they may talk past each other or work against
their common goals, resulting in unproductive sessions.

4.Question
Why is it essential to negotiate expectations at the
beginning of counseling?
Answer:Negotiating expectations ensures that both counselor
and counselee are aligned on goals, maximizing the
effectiveness of the counseling process.

5.Question
What are some common reasons why people seek
counseling?
Answer:People seek counseling for various reasons,
including advice on simple decisions, answers to
troublesome questions, guidance during crises, dealing with
depression and guilt, and resolving marital and family
conflicts.

6.Question
What is the importance of discovering problem patterns
in a counselee's life?

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Answer:Identifying recurring patterns helps the counselor to
discern underlying issues, which can then be addressed to
create more effective strategies for change.

7.Question
Why must counselors continue to gather data throughout
the counseling process?
Answer:Ongoing data gathering allows counselors to
confirm, modify, or refine their understanding of the
counselee's problems and ensures they are addressing the
current state of affairs as the counseling progresses.

8.Question
What types of questions should counselors avoid when
gathering data?
Answer:Counselors should avoid yes or no questions, as
these limit the depth of responses and prevent the exploration
of underlying issues.

9.Question
What is one effective method for gathering data when
probing a counselee's situation?
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counselee to elaborate on their experiences and feelings can
yield valuable insights.

10.Question
How should a counselor handle contradictions in the data
provided by a counselee?
Answer:The counselor should approach contradictions with
caution, verifying their own understanding before addressing
discrepancies directly with the counselee.

11.Question
What is the role of homework in the counseling process?
Answer:Homework is crucial as it reinforces insights gained
during counseling sessions, promotes accountability, and
encourages counselees to apply lessons in real-life situations.

12.Question
What should be the counselor's approach when faced
with a non-communicative counselee?
Answer:The counselor may need to use suggestive questions
to help the counselee articulate their thoughts, followed by
deeper probing questions based on the responses.

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How can a counselor maintain control during sessions
with rambling replies from counselees?
Answer:Counselors can gently redirect the conversation back
to the main topic by asking clarifying questions or reiterating
the original question to keep the session focused.

14.Question
What is a key difference between systematic and
symptomatic probing?
Answer:Systematic probing follows a planned approach
covering all potential problem areas, while symptomatic
probing targets specific areas indicated by clues from the
counselee's responses.

15.Question
Why is it vital for counselors to question their own
interpretations continuously?
Answer:Questioning one's interpretations helps prevent hasty
conclusions and encourages a more thorough understanding
of the counselee's experiences and challenges.

16.Question
How should counselors prepare for potential

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contradictions in responses from counselees?
Answer:Counselors should stay vigilant, keeping detailed
records of conversations and being prepared to revisit
potentially contradictory statements for clarification.

17.Question
What should a counselor do when they believe a counselee
has provided false data?
Answer:The counselor should clarify their understanding,
directly address discrepancies, and potentially set homework
aimed at resolving inconsistencies before proceeding.
Chapter 27 | HELPING THROUGH
HOMEWORK| Q&A
1.Question
What is the main purpose of giving homework to
counselees in counseling sessions?
Answer:The main purpose of assigning homework is
to provide real help to counselees in addressing their
current problems. Homework enables counselees to
confront issues seriously and encourages them to
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obedience to God's commandments.

2.Question
Why is it important for counselors to take the counselee's
presentation problems seriously?
Answer:Taking presentation problems seriously builds trust
between the counselor and the counselee. Ignoring or
dismissing these problems can prevent deeper issues from
being revealed, as the counselee may feel unsafe to share
further if they sense that their concerns are belittled.
Addressing small issues first can lead to the discovery of
larger, more significant challenges.

3.Question
How should counselors approach the feelings expressed
by counselees?
Answer:Counselors should not focus solely on the
counselee's feelings, which can be fleeting and misleading.
Instead, they should guide counselees towards obedient
behavior that aligns with God's commands, emphasizing
action over emotion to foster lasting change.

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4.Question
What does the term 'Professional Counselee' refer to, and
how should counselors interact with this type?
Answer:A 'Professional Counselee' is someone who comes to
counseling not to seek help but to evaluate or challenge the
counselor, often due to prior experiences with therapy.
Counselors should recognize their behavior and redirect the
sessions toward genuine engagement and accountability,
insisting on serious work on real issues rather than indulging
their game-playing tendencies.

5.Question
What lesson can be drawn from Jesus' interaction with
the blind man in the context of counseling?
Answer:From Jesus' interaction with the blind man, we learn
that counselors should prioritize addressing the immediate,
presenting problems of the counselee, just as Jesus first
healed the man's physical blindness before later addressing
his deeper spiritual needs. This approach allows for
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needs one step at a time.

6.Question
How does focusing on actions rather than feelings align
with biblical teachings, particularly regarding love?
Answer:Focusing on actions reflects the biblical
understanding that love is an active commitment to do good
for others, irrespective of one's immediate feelings. Love as
commanded in Scripture involves taking deliberate actions,
thus creating a foundation for deeper feelings of love over
time.

7.Question
What are the dangers of basing counseling primarily on
feelings?
Answer:Basing counseling solely on feelings can lead to
exacerbating emotional problems, as this approach tends to
focus on symptoms rather than the underlying behavior and
choices. By concentrating on feelings, counselors may
inadvertently increase anxiety or distress rather than
facilitating meaningful progress.

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8.Question
What does the phrase 'homework is an essential tool on
the counselor’s workbench' imply about its role in
counseling?
Answer:This phrase implies that homework is a vital
component of counseling, necessary for promoting active
engagement and the practice of godliness among counselees.
It suggests that just as tools are essential for carpentry,
homework is fundamental for effective counseling, helping
to shape and mold the counselee's growth.

9.Question
How can homework empower counselees who feel
hopeless?
Answer:Homework can empower hopeless counselees by
providing them with manageable, actionable steps that
restore a sense of agency in their lives. By helping them to
focus on practical tasks, counselors can encourage counselees
to engage with their issues positively, reigniting hope for
change.

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What is the relationship between counseling and the
biblical principle of obedience?
Answer:Counseling is closely tied to the biblical principle of
obedience, emphasizing that true growth and healing come
through acting in accordance with God’s commands rather
than solely following one's feelings. Counselors should
encourage counselees to prioritize obedience to God’s will as
a path to resolving their struggles.

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Chapter 28 | AN ANALYSIS OF HOMEWORK|
Q&A
1.Question
What is the purpose of assigning homework in counseling
sessions?
Answer:Homework serves several purposes: it sets
an expectation for change, clarifies expectations,
allows for more rapid counseling progress, prevents
dependence on the counselor, helps gauge progress,
and allows for the counselor to analyze problems
under current conditions.

2.Question
Why should counselors assign small, single-stranded
problems first?
Answer:Starting with small, single-stranded problems
enables counselees to achieve early successes, which instills
hope and confidence. It also prepares them to tackle more
complex issues later by applying principles they learned in
simpler contexts.

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How does written homework benefit both the counselor
and the counselee?
Answer:Written homework minimizes misunderstandings
and promotes clear communication of expectations. It acts as
a reminder and allows both parties to track progress, ensuring
that the counseling process remains focused on biblical
action and solutions.

4.Question
In what ways can homework assignments empower
counselees?
Answer:Homework requires counselees to take responsibility
for their actions and encourages them to rely on God's
guidance while working towards solutions, thus preventing
dependency on the counselor.

5.Question
What should a counselor do if a counselee fails to
complete their homework assignments?
Answer:The counselor should first assess the reason for
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understanding. They can then encourage the counselee, help
identify obstacles, and use the situation to analyze underlying
issues.

6.Question
Why is it important to address setbacks or failures in
homework completion?
Answer:Addressing setbacks is crucial as it allows the
counselor to explore what went wrong and to transform these
failures into learning opportunities, which can ultimately
enhance the counselee’s growth and resilience.

7.Question
How can the process of recouping from setbacks be
beneficial for counselees?
Answer:Recouping involves acknowledging sin and failures
openly, while still offering hope for improvement. This dual
approach can build the counselee's motivation to continue
working on their issues and fosters an environment of trust
and honesty.

8.Question
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give to help a counselee reflect on their relationships?
Answer:For example, a counselor might assign a task like
writing a letter to someone for forgiveness, or keeping a
record of interactions that lead to lost temper, encouraging
reflection and proactive communication as part of the healing
process.

9.Question
How can gauging progress through homework be
improved?
Answer:Progress should be measured not just by current
achievements, but by assessing changes over time,
comparing past behaviors and attitudes, and focusing on
spiritual growth rather than mere performance.

10.Question
What role do small successes play in the counseling
process?
Answer:Small successes not only provide immediate
encouragement but also lay the groundwork for addressing
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hope, and fostering a collaborative spirit in solving problems
together.
Chapter 29 | WAYS OF USING HOMEWORK|
Q&A
1.Question
What is the purpose of establishing a conference table at
home?
Answer:The conference table serves as a dedicated
space for family members to assemble and discuss
their daily problems in a constructive manner. It
fosters communication, reduces the chance of hasty
tempers, and helps in solving interpersonal issues
according to biblical principles.

2.Question
Why is regularity important for using the conference
table effectively?
Answer:Regular meetings at the same time and place help
establish a habit, making it easier to enter the right mindset
for serious discussion, similar to how a student associates
studying with their desk.

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3.Question
How should the conference at the table begin and end?
Answer:Every conference should begin and end with prayer,
reinforcing the spiritual foundation for the discussions.

4.Question
What does it mean to speak the truth in love during these
discussions?
Answer:It emphasizes that while honesty is essential, the
manner of communication should be kind and considerate,
aiming to help rather than harm.

5.Question
How can family members ensure they are following the
rules during discussions at the conference table?
Answer:If discussions become heated or stray from the rules,
family members can use a prearranged signal, such as
standing up, to indicate that the focus has shifted away from
constructive conversation.

6.Question
What are some consequences of failing to communicate
properly at the conference table?

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Answer:Poor communication can lead to unresolved issues,
increased resentment among family members, and a
breakdown in relationships.

7.Question
What role does modeling play in the process of counseling
and family communication?
Answer:Modeling provides practical examples of desired
behavior, enabling family members to observe and learn
effective conflict resolution and communication skills from
those who demonstrate them.

8.Question
How can homework assignments enhance the counseling
process?
Answer:Homework assignments encourage accountability
and practical application of principles discussed during
counseling sessions, helping individuals practice new skills
and reinforce positive behaviors in their daily lives.

9.Question
What is the significance of scheduling in the context of
counseling and communication?

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Answer:Effective scheduling reflects orderliness and allows
for better prioritization of responsibilities, helping
individuals manage their time to align with biblical principles
and reduce conflicts.

10.Question
Why might couples benefit from a 'second honeymoon'?
Answer:A second honeymoon symbolizes a fresh start and
allows couples to reaffirm their commitment to each other,
helping them to strengthen their relationship after going
through difficulties.

11.Question
How does the concept of orderliness relate to building
trust in relationships?
Answer:Establishing orderliness in daily life demonstrates
reliability and consistency, which are essential for rebuilding
trust after betrayals or conflicts within relationships.
Chapter 30 | GIFTS THAT DIFFER| Q&A
1.Question
What is the difference between the gifts of the Spirit and
the fruit of the Spirit?

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Answer:Fruit of the Spirit is common to all
Christians and denotes character traits like love,
joy, peace, and patience, which all believers should
cultivate. Gifts of the Spirit, however, are unique
abilities distributed individually by the Holy Spirit
for the edification of the church and differ in type,
purpose, and measure.

2.Question
How does the principle of differing gifts impact
counseling?
Answer:Counselors must recognize that each individual has
unique gifts and potentials. This means counseling should
not push everyone towards the same outcomes but rather help
counselees discover and develop their individual gifts to
serve within their unique capacities.

3.Question
Why should counselors help counselees identify their
gifts?
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uselessness into hope and purpose. It encourages counselees
to find their niche in the body of Christ, which leads to a
more fulfilling and productive life.

4.Question
What should a counselor do if a counselee feels that they
have no gifts?
Answer:Counselors should remind them of the biblical truth
that everyone has been given gifts by the Spirit. They should
help the counselee see that their unique set of abilities is
necessary for the functioning of the church and that they have
a role to play.

5.Question
How can a counselor address a counselee's complaints
about their gifts?
Answer:Counselors should help the counselee understand
that comparing their gifts to others can lead to feelings of
jealousy and dissatisfaction. They must emphasize the value
of diversity in gifts and encourage acceptance of their own
unique abilities instead of longing for those of others.

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6.Question
What role does faithfulness play in using one’s gifts
according to the text?
Answer:Faithfulness is crucial as it reflects the stewardship
of one's gifts. It's not about the quantity of results one
produces, but rather about being faithful in using the gifts
God has provided.

7.Question
Why is it important that counselors help counselees
accept their gifts?
Answer:Accepting one's gifts is crucial for personal growth
and communal harmony. Counselors should guide counselees
to appreciate their unique contributions to the body of Christ
without lamenting what they lack.

8.Question
What should a counselor avoid in their approach to gifts
and counseling?
Answer:Counselors should avoid imposing conformity in
gifts or practices and instead promote a culture of
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harmoniously.

9.Question
How should counselors respond to the statement, ‘I don’t
have the gifts’?
Answer:Counselors should challenge this mindset by
reinforcing the biblical teaching that everyone has been
endowed with gifts. They should explore the counselee’s
potential and offer support in discovering and nurturing those
gifts.

10.Question
What can be learned from the biblical teaching on gifts
when addressing vocational struggles?
Answer:When counselees face vocational challenges,
counselors should examine whether the struggle arises from
attempting tasks outside their giftedness or from not fully
utilizing and developing their God-given abilities.

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Chapter 31 | HOW TO HANDLE ANGER| Q&A
1.Question
Is anger a sin?
Answer:No, anger itself is not necessarily sinful. The
Bible acknowledges anger as a legitimate emotion,
as seen in Ephesians 4:26: 'Be angry and sin not.' It
shows that one can feel anger without acting
sinfully.

2.Question
What examples of righteous anger are provided in the
Bible?
Answer:Examples include God’s anger towards the wicked
(Psalm 7:11), Saul’s righteous anger inspired by the Holy
Spirit (I Samuel 11:6), and Jesus’ anger when driving out the
money changers from the temple (John 2:17).

3.Question
How can anger become sinful?
Answer:Anger becomes sinful when it is either vented
destructively (blowing up) or internalized (clamming up),
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than resolving the issue.

4.Question
What is the biblical approach to handling anger?
Answer:The biblical approach is to redirect anger towards
solving the issue at hand, rather than venting it towards
others or holding it in. It involves confrontation for the
purpose of resolution, not for embarrassment.

5.Question
How should one express anger constructively?
Answer:By focusing on the problem rather than on the
person involved. This means communicating with the intent
to help and seeking solutions, which reflects a loving
approach.

6.Question
What can happen if anger is left unaddressed?
Answer:If anger is left unaddressed, it can lead to resentment
and bitterness, potentially harming relationships. The
scripture encourages not letting the sun go down on your
anger (Ephesians 4:26) to prevent unresolved issues.

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7.Question
Why is communication critical in resolving conflicts?
Answer:Effective communication is crucial because it
ensures that both parties work together towards a solution
rather than attacking each other. This creates a collaborative
environment that promotes understanding and reconciliation.

8.Question
What steps should a counselor take with clients who
frequently blow up?
Answer:Counselors should help clients recognize the
importance of controlling their anger, identify their triggers,
and encourage practices like pausing or counting to ten
before responding. Counseling should also focus on
developing a desire to control anger, leading to repentance
and acknowledgment of one’s wrong actions.

9.Question
What role does forgiveness play in resolving anger?
Answer:Forgiveness is essential for overcoming anger. It
allows both parties to move past feelings of bitterness and
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healing.

10.Question
How can individuals build new patterns of
communication?
Answer:By committing to 'no unwholesome talk' and
ensuring that their words are constructive and geared towards
problem-solving, which helps in both understanding and
resolving conflicts effectively.

11.Question
What does love replace in relationships according to the
text?
Answer:Love should replace anger. Love is portrayed as an
active choice to give of oneself rather than just a feeling,
fostering a nurturing environment for better communication
and understanding.

12.Question
How should unresolved issues between Christians be
addressed?
Answer:Unresolved issues should be addressed immediately
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5:23-24, where Jesus emphasizes that reconciliation precedes
worship.

13.Question
What practical advice can counselors give to help clients
manage internalized anger?
Answer:Counselors should encourage clients to express their
feelings constructively towards the problem at hand rather
than internalizing them, seeking daily emotional resolution to
prevent resentment from building up.

14.Question
What example is provided regarding a couple struggling
with anger?
Answer:Chris and Jan are a couple who learned to address
their communication issues by first reconciling their
relationship and attitudes towards one another before tackling
the specific problems they faced.

15.Question
How does the text suggest anger can be redirected?
Answer:Anger can be redirected by focusing energy on
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involved; this can be achieved through structured
conversation, timely communication, and commitment to
resolving conflicts.

16.Question
Why does the text emphasize the importance of
addressing anger within families?
Answer:Addressing anger within families is crucial because
the closest relationships often experience the most conflict.
Resolving these issues promotes healthier family dynamics
and emotional well-being.
Chapter 32 | DEALING WITH ENVY,
BROODING, FRETTING, AND SELF-PITY| Q&A
1.Question
What is the core issue that Joan faced in her life
according to the chapter?
Answer:Joan's core issue was envy, as she envied
others for their possessions, abilities, and
relationships, leading her to feelings of self-pity and
depression.

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How did Joan's pattern of envy manifest itself in her daily
life?
Answer:Joan spent long hours brooding over why she wasn't
blessed like others, leading to self-pity and negative thoughts
every time she saw someone else's good fortune.

3.Question
What are some biblical principles Joan learned to counter
her envy?
Answer:Joan learned to pray for the welfare of others
specifically, appreciate the good in others, and recognize the
varying gifts in the body of Christ, focusing on gratitude
instead of coveting.

4.Question
How did Joan's relationship with June change as a result
of her new mindset?
Answer:Joan transitioned from envying June's dating life to
actively praying for her and supporting her, which fostered a
close friendship rather than resentment.

5.Question
What role did repentance play in Joan's transformation?

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Answer:Repentance allowed Joan to acknowledge her sin of
envy, paving the way for God’s grace to help her change her
behaviors and thoughts towards appreciation and
productivity.

6.Question
What connections does the chapter suggest between
self-pity and destructive outcomes?
Answer:The chapter explains that self-pity can lead to
depression, anger, and ultimately despair, highlighting that it
is a self-destructive sin that compounds one's problems.

7.Question
What is the suggested method for breaking free from the
chain of self-pity, according to counselors?
Answer:Counselors suggest breaking the chain by promptly
addressing self-pity through prayer, surrendering the
situation to God, and shifting focus to present
responsibilities.

8.Question
Describe a practical strategy mentioned for someone
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help the individual?
Answer:The strategy involved allowing oneself two minutes
to think about the sad event, followed by prayer and
redirecting energy into productive activities. This helped the
individual to acknowledge the reality of their loss while
avoiding prolonged dwelling that could lead to bitterness.

9.Question
How do counselors identify self-pity and brooding in their
counselees?
Answer:Counselors can identify self-pity by asking direct
questions, observing the type of language used, noting
excessive self-focus, and assessing their thinking patterns
during depressive episodes.

10.Question
What ultimate danger is associated with unchecked
self-pity as discussed in the chapter?
Answer:Unchecked self-pity can lead to severe depression,
which may spiral into despair and potentially result in
self-destructive behaviors or suicide.

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Chapter 33 | HELPING DEPRESSED PERSONS|
Q&A
1.Question
What are the common roots of depression according to
Jay E. Adams?
Answer:Common roots of depression can include
recent illnesses, hormonal changes, financial
reversals, neglect of responsibilities, guilt over sin,
self-pity from jealousy, resentment, and worry.
However, depression often results from how these
problems are mishandled, creating a downward
spiral of sin and despair.

2.Question
How can the cycle of depression be reversed?
Answer:The cycle of depression can be reversed by
responding to initial problems with biblical actions. When
one deals with issues God's way, it leads to solutions that
build stronger problem-solving capabilities, fostering an
upward cycle of righteousness instead of a downward spiral.

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What biblical lesson is illustrated by the story of Cain?
Answer:Cain's story illustrates the consequences of handling
rejection and sin incorrectly. Rather than responding
righteously to God's rejection of his offering, he allowed
anger and depression to spiral downward into further sin,
culminating in the murder of Abel. This is a warning about
the importance of addressing problems with righteousness.

4.Question
What steps can a counselor take to help someone with
depression?
Answer:Counselors can help by identifying complicating
factors in the counselee's life, setting a work plan that aligns
with biblical responses, and teaching the dynamics of
depression. They can guide clients to take specific actions,
such as managing chores or addressing issues immediately
rather than succumbing to self-pity.

5.Question
How should a counselor address 'manic-depressive'
behaviors?

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Answer:Counselors should aim to identify the underlying
dynamics of the manic-depressive behavior, recognizing that
it often results from attempts to compensate for depression.
They need to lead the counselee to repentance and biblical
living while helping to dismantle the false highs of elation
that are unhelpful.

6.Question
What are the dangers of minimizing or overly supporting
a depressed counselee?
Answer:Minimizing or overly supporting a depressed
counselee can lead to hopelessness. It suggests to them that
their issues are not serious enough to warrant change or that
the counselor does not believe in God's ability to help,
potentially pushing the individual further into despair.

7.Question
What is the key to providing hope to a depressed person?
Answer:To provide hope, a counselor must acknowledge the
seriousness of the counselee's issues while also emphasizing
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shows that despite the magnitude of their problems, there is a
path forward.

8.Question
How can one ensure that they are addressing problems
biblically to avoid depression?
Answer:One can ensure they are addressing problems
biblically by actively engaging with Scripture to determine
God's perspective on their situation, establishing a plan for
action based on biblical teachings, and consistently applying
these teachings to life situations.

9.Question
What is the importance of taking immediate action when
dealing with depression?
Answer:Taking immediate action is crucial in reversing the
cycle of depression. Delaying responses allows feelings of
despair to solidify, while prompt action, even in small steps,
can initiate positive change and foster a sense of agency and
hope.

10.Question
What role does repentance play in overcoming

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depression?
Answer:Repentance plays a vital role in overcoming
depression as it allows the individual to acknowledge their
missteps, realign their actions with God's will, and start the
process of healing by addressing both the initial problem and
the sinful responses.

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Chapter 34 | HELPING THE “SCHIZOPHRENIC”|
Q&A
1.Question
What is the first step a Christian counselor should take
when helping someone who exhibits symptoms
resembling schizophrenia?
Answer:A good medical checkup is essential as it
could reveal an organic problem such as a brain
tumor or a perceptual disorder due to chemical
malfunction.

2.Question
How can sleep loss contribute to perceived bizarre
behaviors?
Answer:Significant sleep loss, especially loss of REM sleep,
can lead to symptoms similar to those caused by LSD,
including irritability, suspicion, and hallucinations.

3.Question
What distinction should be made regarding persons
believed to struggle with schizophrenia?
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not mentally ill; the problem lies in the inaccurate sensory
data their brains are processing.

4.Question
Why is it important to avoid conflating ‘schizophrenia’
with various underlying causes?
Answer:The term schizophrenia is inadequate as it groups
together diverse causes for similar behaviors, failing to
clarify the interplay between body chemistry and attitudes.

5.Question
What practical advice might a counselor offer a counselee
struggling with sleep disturbances?
Answer:Counselors can suggest prayer, exercise, relaxation
techniques, and maintaining a proper sleep schedule to
address sleep loss.

6.Question
In dealing with a counselee in a catatonic state, what
approach did the counselor take?
Answer:The counselor assumed the individual could hear and
understand, spoke to her directly, recognized her struggle
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with God's assistance.

7.Question
How can Christian counselors differentiate between
organic and non-organic behavioral issues?
Answer:Consultation with a physician for comprehensive
testing is essential to ascertain the origin of the behavioral
issues, separating those that are organic from those that are
related to thought patterns or attitudes.

8.Question
What is the relationship between ascetic practices and
perceived mystical experiences according to the text?
Answer:Ascetic practices, like excessive prayer and sleep
deprivation, often lead to perceptual disturbances that may be
misinterpreted as mystical experiences or direct revelations
from God.

9.Question
What role does personal responsibility play in counseling
individuals with perceived mystical experiences?
Answer:Counselors must help counselees acknowledge their
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neglecting sleep, which can result in distorted perception of
reality.

10.Question
What example illustrates how a counselor might break
through a counselee's frozen state?
Answer:In the case of Barbara, the counselor firmly
communicated the detriment of avoiding problems, utilized
vivid descriptions of the consequences of her state, and
encouraged her to face her challenges.
Chapter 35 | RESOLVING SEXUAL
DIFFICULTIES| Q&A
1.Question
What are the primary underlying reasons for sexual
difficulties in marriage according to the chapter?
Answer:The primary underlying reasons for sexual
difficulties in marriage often stem from relational
difficulties such as fear, anger, resentment, worry,
guilt, jealousy, suspicion, and fatigue. Among these,
anger and resentment frequently underlie many
sexual challenges.

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2.Question
Why is it important for counselors to discuss biblical
principles of sexual relations?
Answer:Discussing biblical principles of sexual relations is
crucial because it provides a foundation for understanding
the sanctity and nature of sexual intimacy within marriage.
Biblical teachings, like those found in I Corinthians 7,
emphasize that sexual relations are holy, mutually beneficial,
and integral to a healthy marriage.

3.Question
How should counselors approach the topic of sexual
satisfaction in marriage?
Answer:Counselors should emphasize that sexual satisfaction
is a mutual responsibility in marriage, where each partner is
to provide pleasure and meet each other's needs regularly.
Communication about desires and needs is essential to
prevent temptations that may arise from unfulfilled sexual
desires.

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difficulties in a marriage?
Answer:Counselors should follow these steps: 1) Identify
areas of conflict and underlying relational difficulties; 2)
Strengthen communication and relationship dynamics; 3)
Teach biblical principles of sexual relationships; 4) Address
specific sexual issues as they arise.

5.Question
What role does guilt play in marital sexual relations, and
how can it be resolved?
Answer:Guilt can severely impact marital sexual relations,
often stemming from unconfessed sins or past indiscretions.
Resolution comes through confession, seeking forgiveness
from both God and one’s spouse, and rebuilding trust and
relational integrity.

6.Question
How can knowledge of anatomy and technique contribute
to resolving sexual difficulties?
Answer:Understanding anatomy and technique can help
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sexually. However, the focus should remain on the mutual
enjoyment and responsibilities defined in biblical principles
rather than detailed technicalities.

7.Question
What is the counselor's stance on masturbation according
to the chapter?
Answer:The chapter asserts that masturbation is a sin as it
constitutes a perversion of the sexual act, which is intended
for mutual enjoyment within marriage. It emphasizes the
need for self-control or marriage as the appropriate responses
to sexual desires.

8.Question
What does the counselor suggest to a young person
struggling with masturbation?
Answer:The counselor is encouraged to explain the biblical
basis for sexuality, address the sin of masturbation, and help
the young person establish a structured plan to overcome the
habit, incorporating spiritual growth and practical strategies.

9.Question
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homosexuality?
Answer:Counselors should view homosexuality as a sin and
provide hope for transformation through Christ. They must
encourage acknowledgment of the sin, repentance, and
restructuring the individual’s life according to biblical
principles, emphasizing the possibility of overcoming sinful
behaviors.

10.Question
What practical actions should homosexual individuals
take to overcome their struggles?
Answer:Practical actions include breaking off associations
with other homosexuals, avoiding places that trigger
homosexual behavior, focusing on restructuring their lives in
accordance with biblical norms, and pursuing normal
heterosexual relationships as God’s intended remedy.
Chapter 36 | HELPING THOSE WHO FEAR| Q&A
1.Question
How does love contrast with fear in the context of daily
responsibilities?

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Answer:Love seeks opportunities to serve and fulfill
obligations, demonstrating joy and satisfaction,
while fear is preoccupied with potential
consequences, leading to procrastination and
avoidance of responsibilities today.

2.Question
What biblical principle connects love and fear according
to I John 4:17-18?
Answer:The principle states that perfect love casts out fear,
implying that genuine love and fear are mutually exclusive;
where love exists, fear diminishes.

3.Question
In what way can love expel fear in practical situations?
Answer:A vivid example is seen when a mother faces danger
to protect her child; her love overcomes her fear, allowing
her to act courageously despite her usual fear of wild
animals.

4.Question
How does the counselor discern whether a counselee's
fear is rooted in fear of God or fear of man?

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Answer:The counselor must explore the counselee's
relationship with God, examining beliefs, assurances, and
any existing sin that may disrupt their connection, while also
assessing their fears related to people and social interactions.

5.Question
What is the ultimate response for someone who struggles
with paralyzing fears or phobias?
Answer:The response should involve a combination of
prayer, repentance, and actively confronting the fear,
anchored in trust and obedience to God's commands.

6.Question
How can fear of death be addressed through the lens of
Christian love?
Answer:In Christ's love, believers can face death without
fear, seeing it instead as a transition to joy, thus eliminating
fear associated with judgment and finality.

7.Question
What role does the understanding of natural body
responses play in overcoming stage fright?
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normal anticipatory responses allows speakers to redefine
their experiences positively, using the energy to enhance
their performance instead of fearing it.

8.Question
How should fear that stems from a guilty conscience be
addressed?
Answer:The counselor must acknowledge the legitimacy of
the counselee's fears arising from their past actions, guiding
them towards repentance and reconciliation to alleviate such
fears.

9.Question
What encouragement can be provided from Scripture
regarding fear?
Answer:Scripture consistently encourages believers not to
fear, assuring them of God’s presence and help, thereby
empowering them to confront and overcome their fears.

10.Question
What practical steps can a counselor take to help a
counselee with fears rooted in previous traumatic
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Answer:Counselors should guide counselees to separate their
fear from its triggers, understand their reactions, partake in
faithful actions despite fear, and see their past experiences as
part of their growth rather than as limitations.

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Chapter 37 | COUNSELING THOSE WHO FEAR
THAT THEY HAVE COMMITTED THE
UNPARDONABLE SIN| Q&A
1.Question
What is the unpardonable sin according to the Bible?
Answer:The unpardonable sin is described in Mark
3:29 and Matthew 12:31-32 as attributing the work
of the Holy Spirit to the devil, specifically
blaspheming against the Holy Spirit. This involves
calling the Holy Spirit an 'unclean spirit' and
attributing His miraculous works to Beelzebub.

2.Question
How should a counselor respond to someone fearing they
have committed the unpardonable sin?
Answer:The counselor should first clarify what the
unpardonable sin actually is, helping the person articulate
their understanding of their sin. It’s important to distinguish
between that sin and other sins, offering them hope by stating
that their guilt can be addressed through repentance, rather
than minimizing their feelings of guilt.

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3.Question
Why is it important for a counselor not to minimize guilt
while addressing a counselee's fears?
Answer:Minimizing guilt can remove hope for the counselee,
as recognizing the gravity of sin is critical for true
repentance. Acknowledging their guilt motivates the
counselee to confess and seek forgiveness, which is essential
for healing and assurance of salvation.

4.Question
What should the focus be during counseling for someone
who fears they have committed the unpardonable sin?
Answer:The focus should be on the specific sins the
counselee has committed, guiding them toward repentance
and helping them understand God's forgiveness through a
proper relationship with Him.

5.Question
How can a counselor encourage a counselee who feels
distressed about their sins?
Answer:The counselor can remind the counselee that their
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life. They should emphasize that God is still present and
active, providing hope through the promise that all sins,
except blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, can be forgiven.

6.Question
What role does prayer play in counseling those who fear
the unpardonable sin?
Answer:Prayer is essential as it invokes God's guidance and
strength for both the counselor and the counselee. It helps
maintain focus on Biblical truths and encourages the
counselee to confront their real issues, rather than losing
themselves in theological debates.

7.Question
Why is it important for a counselor to maintain
confidence in their biblical stance?
Answer:A counselor's confidence in their understanding of
the Scriptures can instill hope in the counselee. This
confidence can help clear the way for healing, as it allows the
counselor to guide the counselee back to biblical truths while
addressing their fears directly.

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8.Question
What should a counselor do if a counselee seems to be
using the fear of the unpardonable sin to avoid other
issues?
Answer:The counselor should gently redirect the
conversation away from theological debates towards
discussing the specific sins the counselee is facing. This
often leads to addressing the real underlying issues and helps
the counselee confront their problems.
Chapter 38 | Appendix A| Q&A
1.Question
What is the purpose of the personal data inventory?
Answer:The personal data inventory is designed to
gather comprehensive information about an
individual’s background, health, religious beliefs,
personality traits, and family dynamics, which aids
the counselor in understanding and tailoring the
counseling approach to the client's unique needs.

2.Question
Why is it important to understand a person's health

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information when counseling?
Answer:Understanding a person's health information is
crucial because physical health can significantly impact
emotional well-being and mental health. Recognizing any
relevant medical history or current medications allows the
counselor to provide informed support and address any
health-related barriers to recovery.

3.Question
How does religious background influence personal
counseling?
Answer:Religious background can deeply influence a
person's coping mechanisms, values, and worldview.
Acknowledging a client's spiritual beliefs can guide the
counselor's approach and possibly integrate faith-based
strategies into the counseling process.

4.Question
What role does personality information play in
counseling?
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how clients typically behave, react to stress, and interact with
others. This insight allows the counselor to adapt their
methods to better resonate with the client's personality,
enhancing the counseling experience's effectiveness.

5.Question
Why is it beneficial for a counselor to know about the
client's family and marital history?
Answer:A client's family and marital history provides
context about their relational patterns and potential sources
of distress. Understanding these dynamics can highlight
issues such as generational patterns of behavior or underlying
family conflicts that may affect the client's current situation.

6.Question
What might be revealed by a client's responses to
questions about emotional disturbances or past
counseling experiences?
Answer:Responses about emotional disturbances or past
counseling experiences can highlight areas of unresolved
trauma, ineffective coping strategies, and what has or hasn’t
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developing an effective treatment plan and strengthening the
therapeutic alliance.

7.Question
How can a client's expectations influence the outcome of
their counseling?
Answer:A client's expectations shape their engagement and
motivation in the counseling process. When clients have
clear, realistic expectations, they are more likely to actively
participate and work towards their goals, leading to a more
favorable outcome.

8.Question
What kinds of fears might a client express, and why is it
important to address them?
Answer:Clients may express fears related to personal
challenges, future uncertainties, or social situations.
Addressing these fears is crucial, as they can inhibit the
client's progress, understanding these fears allows the
counselor to tailor strategies to help the client confront and
manage these anxieties.

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9.Question
What should be considered when assessing a client’s
previous marriages or relationships?
Answer:Assessing previous marriages or relationships
provides insight into patterns of behavior, attachment styles,
and emotional responses to conflict. This information is
necessary for identifying areas of growth and potential
triggers in the client's current relationships.

10.Question
How can questions about a client’s upbringing contribute
to the counseling process?
Answer:Questions about a client’s upbringing can reveal
foundational influences and formative experiences that shape
current attitudes and behaviors. Understanding this context
helps the counselor to address deep-rooted issues and fosters
a more compassionate understanding of the client’s
challenges.
Chapter 39 | Appendix C| Q&A
1.Question
What is the primary nature of man according to the

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biblical view discussed in the text?
Answer:Man is a psychosomatic whole, meaning he
is a complex unity of body and soul that cannot be
completely separated into distinct parts.

2.Question
Why is it important to recognize the connection between
organic and nonorganic problems in counseling?
Answer:Because the physical state of a person can affect
their emotional and spiritual well-being and vice versa;
understanding this is crucial for effective counseling.

3.Question
What role does a Christian physician play in addressing
the holistic needs of patients?
Answer:A Christian physician should not only treat physical
ailments but also recognize and address underlying emotional
and spiritual issues, often requiring collaboration with
counselors.

4.Question
What challenges do physicians face when considering
whether to provide counseling or refer patients?

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Answer:Physicians struggle with time constraints, the
adequacy of their counseling skills, and the competence of
those to whom they might refer patients.

5.Question
How does the text suggest improving collaboration
between physicians and ministers?
Answer:The text encourages physicians to build alliances
with well-trained ministers who understand biblical
counseling and can effectively help patients with their
spiritual and emotional needs.

6.Question
What qualities define a new pastoral counselor as
indicated in the article?
Answer:A new pastoral counselor is characterized by
confidence in the Spirit's power, practical use of Scripture in
counseling, humility, and a willingness to learn and improve.

7.Question
Why is it suggested that past deficiencies in pastoral
counseling have led to issues in referring patients?
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have not effectively used biblical principles in counsel,
causing physicians to hesitate in making referrals.

8.Question
What encouraged hope for change in pastoral counseling
over the last few years?
Answer:There has been an emerging awareness and training
among conservative ministers, especially those influenced by
reformed theological perspectives, leading to improvements
in counseling practices.

9.Question
What should both Christian physicians and ministers do
to achieve the best outcomes for patients and counselees?
Answer:They should work together, acknowledging the
importance of both health and spiritual care, and be willing to
learn from each other to provide comprehensive support.

10.Question
How might a pastoral counselor approach common
nonorganic problems effectively?
Answer:By using Scriptures practically to address specific
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Chapter 40 | Appendix F| Q&A
1.Question
What is the importance of confessing sins according to
biblical principles?
Answer:Confessing sins to God is crucial because it
aligns with God's clear commandments, helping
individuals to acknowledge wrongdoing such as
adultery or lying. This act reflects a profound
responsibility and commitment to spiritual integrity.

2.Question
Why is it essential for counselors to be firm in certain
biblical injunctions?
Answer:Counselors must be firm when discussing clear
biblical injunctions to ensure that there is no ambiguity
regarding God's commands, which guide believers toward
righteous living.

3.Question
How should a counselor approach advice that is not
definitively supported by scripture?
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rather than a command, allowing room for personal
discretion while still encouraging the fulfillment of biblical
principles.

4.Question
What is the significance of recognizing multiple ways to
fulfill God’s commandments?
Answer:Recognizing multiple solutions emphasizes the
importance of applying biblical principles flexibly, allowing
individuals to adapt God's commands to their unique
circumstances.

5.Question
How should a counselor handle discussions about
medication, such as tranquillizers?
Answer:A counselor should approach the topic with
sensitivity, avoiding prescriptive language while expressing
concern and encouraging the counselee to consider
alternatives to dependence on medication.

6.Question
Why should homework assignments in counseling be
viewed flexibly?

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Answer:Homework assignments, while helpful, must be
adapted to the counselee’s immediate needs. Prioritizing
pressing issues can lead to more effective counseling
outcomes.

7.Question
What can a counselor say to guide a person struggling
with reliance on tranquillizers?
Answer:The counselor can suggest, 'While I cannot prescribe
medication, I believe that our counseling must focus on your
wellbeing without tranquillizers. How can we work together
to address this issue effectively?'

8.Question
How does the biblical principle of 'owe no man anything'
relate to practical financial advice?
Answer:This principle emphasizes the importance of
financial responsibility, guiding counselees to find viable
solutions—like selling a car—to honor their debts while
living according to scriptural teachings.

9.Question
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counseling according to this chapter?
Answer:Scripture study and prayer are vital practices that the
counselor should encourage, emphasizing their necessity for
spiritual growth, though approaches may vary.

10.Question
How can counselors interpret the term 'must' when giving
advice?
Answer:Counselors should distinguish between commands
that are biblically mandated ('must') versus suggestions that
allow for personal choice, ensuring their guidance is rooted
in scripture.
Chapter 41 | Reference 1| Q&A
1.Question
What does it mean to say 'I can’t'?
Answer:This statement often signifies either a
genuine inability or a refusal to try. A productive
response may challenge the individual to clarify
their statement, exploring whether it's truly
impossible or simply uncomfortable.

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2.Question
When someone claims to have done everything, how
should a counselor probe deeper?
Answer:Encouraging the counselee to recount specific
actions taken can uncover overlooked efforts or reveal a lack
of consistency in attempts to change.

3.Question
How should one address feelings of disbelief expressed by
a counselee?
Answer:Affirming that they are believed by at least one
person can help shift the narrative and encourage them to
recognize potential support from others.

4.Question
Is it realistic to say 'I could never do that'?
Answer:Challenging this belief by reminding the counselee
of past successes in learning difficult tasks can inspire hope
and a willingness to try.

5.Question
What should a counselor say when a counselee claims
they lack time?

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Answer:A counselor can help them assess their priorities and
time management, suggesting they create a schedule that
aligns better with their goals and commitments.

6.Question
What does 'Don’t blame me' indicate in counseling?
Answer:It suggests the individual may be avoiding
responsibility. Addressing this directly can encourage
accountability, aligning with biblical teachings.

7.Question
How should a counselor respond to 'But I’ve prayed
about it'?
Answer:Prompting the counselee to specify their actions
following prayer emphasizes the need for tangible steps and
aligns faith with action.

8.Question
When a counselee says they are at the end of their rope,
what interpretation is helpful?
Answer:Exploring which end they refer to could uncover
new insights and possibilities for moving forward, indicating
hope rather than despair.

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9.Question
How can a counselor differentiate between needs and
desires articulated by the counselee?
Answer:This distinction can help clarify motivations and
assess whether changes are genuinely necessary for
fulfillment or if they stem from habit.

10.Question
What does it mean when someone asserts 'That’s just the
way I am'?
Answer:Addressing this reveals the opportunity for
transformation; reinforcing that personal change is possible
can build hope and commitment to growth.

11.Question
How should a counselor interpret claims of impossibility?
Answer:Reframing this notion as a challenge rather than a
definitive answer can empower the individual to confront
barriers with renewed perspective.

12.Question
What is the most effective way to deal with persistent
objections to action?

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Answer:Encouraging the counselee to articulate specific
objections fosters a constructive dialogue to explore
resolutions and feeling empowered to overcome them.

13.Question
How might a counselor respond to someone feeling
oppressed or targeted?
Answer:Countering with the Biblical assurance that if God is
for them, then no one can truly be against them shifts focus
from despair to divine support.

14.Question
What does it mean to ask 'How do you feel about…?' in
counseling?
Answer:This question can probe emotional depth but may
limit problem-solving. Clarifying the intent behind the
question can foster a more balanced conversation.
Chapter 42 | Reference 4| Q&A
1.Question
What are some key indicators that a counselee might not
be genuinely committed to change?
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solutions, and a willingness to settle for less than
what is biblically required are strong indicators.
Moreover, if a counselee is reluctant to actively
engage in homework or exhibits a lack of genuine
repentance, it suggests that they may not fully
embrace the process of transformation.

2.Question
How important is it to understand the relationship
dynamics in counseling?
Answer:Understanding the relationship dynamics is crucial
as ignoring these can hinder progress. If a counselor focuses
solely on the presenting problems without addressing the
relational context, the advice may not resonate or may even
exacerbate the issue. The relationship with the counselee, as
well as potentially significant others, can provide deeper
insights into the problems being faced.

3.Question
What role does scriptural hope play in the counseling
process?

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Answer:Scriptural hope is foundational in counseling since it
frames the potential for change and healing in a biblical
context. Providing hope by confronting sin with the truth of
God's promises can motivate counselees to strive for true
transformation. Failure to instill hope can lead to despair and
stagnation.

4.Question
Why is it essential to assign concrete homework to a
counselee?
Answer:Assigning concrete homework is vital as it
encourages active participation in the counseling process and
enables the counselee to practice biblical principles in
real-life situations. It fosters accountability and allows both
the counselor and counselee to measure progress and adjust
strategies based on observable behaviors.

5.Question
What should a counselor do if they suspect doctrinal
error may be part of the counselee's problem?
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approach the situation with care and focus on correcting
misconceptions with biblical truth. This might involve
teaching essential biblical doctrines, guiding the counselee to
reevaluate their beliefs, and encouraging them to engage with
sound Christian teachings.

6.Question
How can a counselor effectively use the resources of the
Christian community in their counseling practice?
Answer:A counselor can effectively leverage the resources of
the Christian community by encouraging the counselee to
engage in church fellowship, seek support from mature
Christians, and potentially involve another counselor when
needed. Community support plays a vital role in reinforcing
biblical truths and providing practical assistance in the path
toward change.

7.Question
What steps should a counselor take if they believe they
cannot handle a problem effectively?
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issue, they should be transparent with the counselee and
consider referring them to a more experienced or specialized
counselor. Acknowledging limitations is crucial for the
counselee’s welfare, ensuring they receive the best support
available.

8.Question
What importance does prayer hold in the counseling
process according to the text?
Answer:Prayer is identified as a critical component of
counseling, serving as a means of seeking divine guidance,
wisdom, and empowerment both for the counselor and
counselee. Regular prayer can enhance the effectiveness of
counseling sessions and affirm the reliance on God
throughout the process.

9.Question
What might indicate that a counselee is in open rebellion
instead of genuinely facing their problems?
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sinful behavior, and an unwillingness to engage in scriptural
truths. When a counselee is more focused on rationalizing
their circumstances rather than seeking correction, it suggests
a heart that is not compliant to transformation.

10.Question
In what way is gathering comprehensive data essential for
counseling?
Answer:Gathering comprehensive data is essential for
accurately diagnosing the issues at play in counseling
sessions. Without a full understanding of the counselee’s
background, relationships, and current circumstances, a
counselor may miss critical factors influencing the
counselee’s situation, leading to ineffective or misdirected
advice.

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The Christian Counselor'S Manual Quiz
and Test
Check the Correct Answer on Bookey Website

Chapter 1 | THE PERSONS INVOLVED IN

COUNSELING| Quiz and Test
1.The counseling dynamic only involves the
parishioner and the pastor.
2.According to Adams, personal responsibility is central in
Christian counseling.
3.The counseling context in a biblical framework includes
only the counselor and the counselee.
Chapter 2 | THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE
PRINCIPAL PERSON| Quiz and Test
1.The Holy Spirit is referred to as the 'another
Counselor' that the Father would send, indicating
He will continue Jesus' ministry of guidance and
teaching.
2.The Holy Spirit is not involved in the sanctification of
believers and has no role in effective counseling according

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 to Christian teaching.
3.All true believers access the Holy Spirit's counsel after
regeneration to grow in faith and obedience through
teachings in Scripture.
Chapter 3 | THE HUMAN COUNSELOR| Quiz and
Test
1.All Christians are called to counsel one another,
but the primary role of counseling is assigned to
pastors.
2.There is a strong scriptural basis for psychiatry as a distinct
discipline in counseling.
3.Biblical counseling is primarily non-directive, focusing on
listening rather than advising.

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Chapter 4 | THE COUNSELEE| Quiz and Test
1.Christian counselors rely solely on personal
experience for their knowledge during counseling
sessions.
2.The Scriptures provide comprehensive guidance for life's
situations, allowing counselors to assist counselees
effectively.
3.Counselees are unable to change significantly regardless of
their past.
Chapter 5 | PRESUPPOSITIONS AND
PRINCIPLES BASIC TO COUNSELING| Quiz and
Test
1.Counseling is primarily based on psychological
principles rather than biblical principles according
to the chapter.
2.A meaningful life is characterized by short-term goals that
directly provide satisfaction according to this chapter.
3.Counseling without an evangelistic element tends to be
ineffective according to the chapter's principles.

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Chapter 6 | HOPE| Quiz and Test
1.Hope is a key concept in the Scriptures that is
highlighted alongside love and faith.
2.Only people with debilitating issues require hope and
encouragement during counseling.
3.Counselors should prioritize fostering hope and meaning in
the lives of their counselees only towards the end of the
counseling process.

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Chapter 7 | PRAYER: THE BASE FOR
CHRISTIAN COUNSELING| Quiz and Test
1.Prayer is not important in the counseling process
according to Chapter Seven of 'The Christian
Counselor's Manual'.
2.Counselors should conclude each session with prayer, as
affirmed by James 5:16.
3.It is acceptable for counselors to impose their wishes for
prayer on the counselee during counseling sessions.
Chapter 8 | THE RECONCILIATION/DISCIPLINE
DYNAMIC| Quiz and Test
1.Christ prioritizes reconciliation over worship,
highlighting its urgency.
2.The chapter states that it is unnecessary for Christians to
take initiative in resolving conflicts.
3.Discipline in the church should be executed without love as
the prime goal.
Chapter 9 | RECONCILIATION| Quiz and Test
1.Reconciliation involves a change of relationship
that includes confession, forgiveness, and a new

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 relationship after conflict.
2.Forgiveness requires that individuals completely forget the
offense before truly forgiving the offender.
3.Counselors should ignore any potential motives behind
reconciliatory efforts as they do not affect the process of
establishing a new relationship.

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Chapter 10 | PRESUPPOSITIONS AND
METHODOLOGY| Quiz and Test
1.Counseling methodology is not influenced by a
counselor's foundational beliefs about God,
humanity, and creation.
2.The biblical counseling approach emphasizes a counselor's
reliance on expert knowledge rather than Scriptural truths.
3.The four basic activities of biblical counseling include
judging, convicting, changing, and structuring activities.
Chapter 11 | TECHNIQUE| Quiz and Test
1.Techniques in counseling are only effective when
they rely on personal strength rather than biblical
principles.
2.All techniques in counseling are considered gimmicks and
should be rejected by Christian counselors.
3.The Apostle Paul emphasizes the importance of skillfulness
in technique for effective communication in counseling.
Chapter 12 | THE LANGUAGE OF
COUNSELING| Quiz and Test
1.Language is crucial in counseling as it can

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 significantly influence outcomes.
2.Counselors should encourage the use of vague or
euphemistic language to avoid discomfort during sessions.
3.Terms like 'emotional problems' accurately reflect the
issues at hand in counseling situations.

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Chapter 13 | THE LANGUAGE OF EMOTION
AND ACTION| Quiz and Test
1.Feelings are merely emotions that need to be
expressed without any judgment involved.
2.Changing attitudes in counseling can often be more direct
than changing feelings.
3.Behavior is defined in this chapter as actions that can be
morally judged, distinct from broader definitions that
include all bodily functions.
Chapter 14 | SIN IS THE PROBLEM| Quiz and Test
1.Christian counselors lack the 'full armor of God'
necessary to engage in spiritual warfare
effectively.
2.The first sin in the Garden of Eden demonstrates that
obedience to God's commandments should precede
feelings.
3.Counseling that prioritizes feelings is aligned with biblical
principles and encourages clients to follow their desires.
Chapter 15 | LOVE IN COUNSELING| Quiz and

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Test
1.According to the chapter, genuine love requires no
counseling as it fosters connections and addresses
fundamental issues faced by individuals.
2.The command to love one's neighbor as oneself indicates
that one must first love themselves before loving others.
3.Biblical identity is rooted in self-esteem and personal ego
strength according to the chapter.

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Chapter 16 | SUPPORT, SYMPATHY, AND
EMPATHY| Quiz and Test
1.Modern counselors believe that pastoral
counseling should primarily be supportive for
individuals facing serious problems.
2.The biblical approach to counseling encourages passive
listening without driving towards resolution or change.
3.Sympathy and empathy in biblical counseling require
action and guiding individuals toward scriptural solutions.
Chapter 17 | THE MOTIVATION FOR CHANGE|
Quiz and Test
1.Counselees often struggle with motivation due to a
loss of hope and impatience.
2.The New Testament teaches that Christians are static and
do not undergo transformation.
3.Counselors should focus solely on rewards and
punishments to motivate counselees.
Chapter 18 | EFFECTING BIBLICAL CHANGE|
Quiz and Test
1.Biblical change is the central aim of counseling

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 and is inherently easy to achieve.
2.Counselors must help clients identify sinful habits and
understand they can adopt new, godly patterns.
3.Genuine change requires only the cessation of undesirable
actions without any need for character transformation.

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Chapter 19 | ELEMENTS OF DEHABITUATION
AND REHABITUATION| Quiz and Test
1.The first step in the counseling change process is
becoming aware of the problematic practice.
2.Counseling should only focus on specific behavior
changes, not on the relationship with Christ.
3.Practicing the new pattern requires consistent effort and
discipline over time.
Chapter 20 | GETTING STARTED| Quiz and Test
1.Pastors should only rely on direct advertisement to
gain trust from their congregations when starting
a counseling ministry.
2.Building trust with congregants is essential for pastors to
foster an effective counseling relationship.
3.The first counseling session is primarily focused on
gathering factual data without considering the counselee's
emotional needs.
Chapter 21 | GOALS AND TERMINAL DATES|
Quiz and Test
1.Counselors must establish clear goals based on

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 God’s Word and these goals are negotiable.
2.Counseling sessions should include three critical
components: transitions, discovery of new data, and
commitment to new beliefs or actions.
3.Flexibility in counseling means counselors should allow
chaos and lose sight of the session's core objectives.

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Chapter 22 | THE COMMITMENT OF THE
COUNSELEE| Quiz and Test
1.Counseling should focus on merely discussing
problems without providing any action-based
solutions.
2.Counselors should provide specific homework tasks to the
counselee at the end of each session.
3.Talk in counseling is an end in itself and leads to real,
lasting change.
Chapter 23 | IS THERE A PROBLEM?| Quiz and
Test
1.Counselors sometimes find that both parties in a
relationship perceive problems differently, which
can indicate a communication breakdown.
2.Perceptual disparity in counseling is always due to a lack of
understanding, never due to personal backgrounds or
experiences.
3.Brief counsel is never effective and all individuals seeking
help require extensive counseling sessions.

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Chapter 24 | TWO BASIC APPROACHES| Quiz
and Test
1.The Intensive Approach focuses on multiple issues
at once.
2.The Extensive Approach is likened to using a shotgun for
inquiry.
3.Counselors can only use one approach throughout the
counseling process.

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Chapter 25 | WAYS OF GATHERING DATA| Quiz
and Test
1.Gathering relevant data is not necessary for
effective counseling in a biblical context.
2.Core Data is obtained through verbal communication while
Halo Data is gathered through non-verbal cues.
3.Counselors should allow discussions about absent
individuals to maintain transparency and trust.
Chapter 26 | ASKING QUESTIONS| Quiz and Test
1.Counselors should always avoid asking yes/no
questions during counseling sessions because they
do not provide detailed insights.
2.Counselees often come with their own agendas, which
usually align perfectly with the counselor's agenda.
3.Understanding the motivations for seeking help, such as
emotional distress or family issues, is crucial for counselors
to tailor their responses effectively.
Chapter 27 | HELPING THROUGH
HOMEWORK| Quiz and Test
1.Counselors should take every counselee's

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 presentation problem seriously, as dismissing these
issues may prevent further openness.
2.Counselees who are classified as professional counselees
genuinely seek help for their problems.
3.Effective counseling requires homework that encourages
obedience to God's commands, regardless of feelings.

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Chapter 28 | AN ANALYSIS OF HOMEWORK|
Quiz and Test
1.Homework assignments in counseling are
unnecessary and do not promote change from the
first session.
2.Small changes through homework can lead to significant
improvements in attitudes and relationships.
3.Counselors should ignore the reasons for incomplete
homework assignments, as they are not important to the
counseling process.
Chapter 29 | WAYS OF USING HOMEWORK|
Quiz and Test
1.The establishment of a conference table helps
facilitate regular communication and
problem-solving within the family.
2.Counselors should not model effective behaviors for clients
because it diminishes their independence during
counseling.
3.Scheduling is not important in counseling as it does not
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 clients.
Chapter 30 | GIFTS THAT DIFFER| Quiz and Test
1.The fruit of the Spirit is universally available to all
believers while the gifts of the Spirit are given
according to God's sovereign will.
2.All gifts given to Christians are the same in purpose and
effect.
3.Counselors should encourage feelings of jealousy regarding
gifts held by others to promote competition within the body
of Christ.

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Chapter 31 | HOW TO HANDLE ANGER| Quiz
and Test
1.Anger itself is always a sin according to biblical
principles.
2.Proper management of anger involves attacking people and
relationships to solve issues.
3.Effective communication is essential for resolving conflicts
and building healthy relationships.
Chapter 32 | DEALING WITH ENVY,
BROODING, FRETTING, AND SELF-PITY| Quiz
and Test
1.Joan learns to distinguish between appreciation
for others and destructive envy.
2.Praying for others can help alleviate feelings of envy
according to the chapter.
3.Brooding and self-pity are beneficial for personal growth
and emotional health.
Chapter 33 | HELPING DEPRESSED PERSONS|
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1.Depression can arise from a variety of causes,

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 including guilt and self-pity.
2.Depression is inevitable and cannot be addressed through
biblical responses.
3.Counselors should aim to minimize the individual's
feelings of guilt to help them with depression.

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Chapter 34 | HELPING THE “SCHIZOPHRENIC”|
Quiz and Test
1.Schizophrenia is characterized by symptoms such
as paranoia, hallucinations, and catatonic states.
2.Sleep deprivation is always beneficial for spiritual matters
according to biblical evidence.
3.Counseling should focus solely on identifying organic
causes of bizarre behavior, ignoring non-organic issues.
Chapter 35 | RESOLVING SEXUAL
DIFFICULTIES| Quiz and Test
1.Sexual difficulties in marriage are rarely due to
organic issues and often signify underlying
relational problems.
2.Biblical principles suggest that sexual relations in marriage
should cease if one partner is not interested.
3.Counselors should avoid addressing relational
improvements since they do not relate to sexual difficulties.
Chapter 36 | HELPING THOSE WHO FEAR| Quiz
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1.Love and fear are presented as opposing forces,

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 where love fosters responsibility and joy.
2.Fear is primarily linked to positive outcomes and
self-empowerment rather than anxiety and avoidance.
3.Counselors should focus solely on the fear of God when
addressing a person's feelings of fear.

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Chapter 37 | COUNSELING THOSE WHO FEAR
THAT THEY HAVE COMMITTED THE
UNPARDONABLE SIN| Quiz and Test
1.The unpardonable sin is defined as blaspheming
the Holy Spirit by attributing His work to the
devil.
2.Counselors should minimize the guilt of the counselee
when discussing their concerns about the unpardonable sin.
3.The primary focus of counseling individuals fearing the
unpardonable sin should be on the fear itself rather than on
addressing their actual sins.
Chapter 38 | Appendix A| Quiz and Test
1.Appendix A includes a detailed section on health
information including recent weight changes and
important illnesses.
2.The religious background section in Appendix A does not
include questions about the individual's belief in God.
3.Appendix A requires information about previous
psychotherapy or counseling experiences.

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Chapter 39 | Appendix C| Quiz and Test
1.Human beings are divided into three parts: body,
soul, and spirit, according to a biblical perspective.
2.Christian counselors should collaborate with medical
professionals to address both physical and spiritual
dimensions of health.
3.Most ministers are adequately trained and are capable of
providing effective counseling without further education.

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Chapter 40 | Appendix F| Quiz and Test
1.Counselors must encourage confession of sins like
adultery or lying, emphasizing the importance of
forsaking them based on clear biblical
commandments.
2.Counselors should provide rigid solutions for issues like
paying off loans, without room for alternative methods, as
per the principle of 'owe no man anything'.
3.Regular Scripture study and prayer are essential, but
specific durations for these activities should be strictly
defined.
Chapter 41 | Reference 1| Quiz and Test
1.Typical counselees often say 'I can’t' when facing
challenges.
2.A counselee stating 'I have done everything that I could'
usually has put in maximum effort.
3.It is suggested that one can never teach an old dog new
tricks, but this doesn't apply to people.
Chapter 42 | Reference 4| Quiz and Test

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1.A counselee's spiritual state is one of the key
factors that contribute to failure in counseling.
2.Aligning counseling objectives between the counselor and
the counselee is irrelevant to the effectiveness of
counseling.
3.Counselors need to assess whether new problems have
emerged since counseling began to avoid failures.

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