Explaining the Stop Signal
When teaching and practicing the stop signal, make sure you let the child
know that we stop only if the feelings are too big and way out of what we
can manage.
On the other hand, give reassurance to the child. Let the child know that it
is appropriate to stop and take a break. This does not mean that he or she
is not brave or strong.
Once again, remind the child “as much as possible, we let the brain do the
work; but if it gets way too hard, we can use our stop signal.” If this is not
explained clearly, the child might use the stop signal every time the
negative affect or the traumatic material is accessed.