Mindfulness, or the ability to be mindful of our experience –
noticing how we feel so we can give ourselves what we need
Common Humanity, a connection to the human experience –
recognizing that when we feel difficulty, pain, grief, loss, this is part of
being human
Self-Kindness, or treating ourselves like someone we love –
applying to ourselves Each one of us has the inner capacity to care for
oneself, nurture their own well-being, the innate capacities to heal
Nurses: and to care for others
SELF-COMPASSION
Personal definitions: Permission to feel, not being so hard on myself, giving
myself the same safe space I give to others, learning to say ‘’no’’
Relationship in between you & you
Assess what you already have and when to use it
Access sensation – helps being in the present moment – 3 big breaths –
breathe in through your nose and exhale through your mouth – notice the
soothing sensation, sensation of letting go – prend conscience de comment
vous vous sentez. Remember to pause and choose how we want to be in the
next moment
3 concepts to help define self-compassion:
1) Mindfulness – noticing how we feel, so we know what we need –
reaching our bandwidth (might need a pause, a sip of water, etc),
‘’vitals’’ of your own emotions and how you feel NAME WHAT YOU’RE
GOING THROUGH
2) Common humanity (acknowledge that you are not alone)
Recognizing how we feel connects us to others (fear, laugh, loss, )
know what its like to struggle in this way
Not everybody is in the same boat, but we’re all in the same ocean
(similar challenges, tasks, system)
Its natural to feel what we feel
3) Self-kindness (give yourself kindness)
Caring about how we feel and giving ourselves what we need
Treat yourself like someone we love
Remember your human-ness
Express: actions we take to care for ourselves, body language
What is compassionate to you? Music, belly laugh, nature..
When can you practice self-compassion?
A lot of suggestions we have for self-compassion are things that we cannot
always do in moments of stress
Simple things: doesn’t have to be a 45 min routine everyday –
Small micro-practices ! be the giver AND the receiver
What words do you need to hear? Think of what people have told you in the
past that was very supportive?
The tone you use to talk to yourself (harsh?) learn to soften it – self-kindness
Create space to see clearly what you feel and what you need
Normalize, life is hard, work is hard. PAUSE and PAY ATTENTION = might
notice more discomfort or pain than we initially thought
apply a gesture with your hand that feels supportive (hands to rest)
giving yourself time
slowing down
pat yourself in the back
Benefits: reduces burnout, enhances ability to enjoy their work
PRACTICE & DISCUSSION
INNER RESOURCE AND HEALTHCARE
‘’drink as you pour’’
- Your capacity of caring for others come from how full your cup is
- When caring for yourself, you are caring for others
- Butterfly, nectar and pollination
‘’if you knew how necessary you were, would you rest?’’ Alexis Pauline
Gumbs
- Naps
- Rest your mind
- Pause and create space within yourself (gratitude)
- Grounding
- Feel the palms of your hand (rub them or shake)
Your fingerprints are the reminder of the miracle of who you are that
cannot be repeated (celebrate your wholeness)
