Unit 2-Ethical Considerations
Unit 2-Ethical Considerations
Unit 2-Ethical Considerations
Psychologists have been concerned mainly with descriptive ethics, and have
stayed clear of moral prescriptions, which they believe lie outside the field of
psychology and fall within the domain of moral philosophy and religion.
In the social sciences ethical concerns take on even greater significance. They
arise from three sources: (a) due to the process of scientific inquiry itself, (b)
glaring misdemeanours, ranging from thoughtlessness and bullying, hurt,
trauma, and pain, which the subject might be exposed to (Milgram, 1974)
during the investigation, and (c) as a result of the application and misapplication
of the research findings (Berreman, 1972). Since social science research
depends entirely on the willing co-operation of the people who assist us in the
gathering of our data and the testing of our hypotheses, scientists need to be
aware of the actual and/or the potential harm they can cause the very people
without whose help social science research would, in all likelihood, come to a
standstill.
In the past, little attention was paid to ethical questions by social scientists
because first, there was an unquestioning acceptance of the natural science
paradigm within the social sciences, and therefore the subjects could be treated
as objects who had no rights and towards whom the scientist had no obligations.
It was not until the late 1940s and early 1950s that social scientists, particularly
anthropologists, began to express some concern over the ethical issues involved
in social science research. The earliest glimmerings of concern with ethics were
to be found in the use of pseudonyms, which protected the identities of the
subjects studied. They would suffer if the findings of the study were published
in their undisguised form.
Four major factors contributed to an increase in concern with ethical
issues:
There was a growing disenchantment with the natural science paradigm as the
ruling paradigm in the social sciences. It had serious limitations. One could not,
on the one hand, treat the participants in the research as self-determining
individuals upon whose willing co-operation depended the outcome of the
research enterprise, and on the other, treat them as mere objects of research,
who had no rights whatever and who could be manipulated at will by the
investigators. The history of research within the social sciences is replete with
sad examples of glaring misdemeanours, ranging from thoughtlessness and
bullying, to hurt, pain, and suffering which researchers have wittingly or
unwittingly inflicted upon the fellow human beings who have participated. This
brought into question the entire business of treating subjects as objects of
research and also the nature of the relationship between the researcher and the
researched.
The fourth factor, which led to a concern with ethics, was the arrival of cross-
cultural psychology on the international scene. Its emergence brought with it a
serious concern for the ethical issues involved in research in developing
countries.
It is only after the preliminary negotiations for the study and the problems of
sponsorship, the visas required to enter and live in the country, the
accommodation and the duration of stay, and so on have been satisfactorily
concluded that the cross-cultural research project is ready to move to the field.
New problems occur as soon as the researchers arrive in the country. The
researchers now find that they are confronted with three types of ethical issues:
Each culture has its own norms, values, and mores which have a significant
bearing on the religious beliefs, kinship patterns, and social arrangements of the
people of a particular culture. Unless researchers are familiar with such norms,
their communications with members of the host culture are likely to be
restricted and superficial. Cultural misunderstandings can so easily lead to
people taking offence and/or causing offence when none was intended. One
would need to be aware of and respect their dietary practices, forms of greeting,
the taboos related to any form of physical contact between unrelated males and
females. One also needs to be particularly sensitive and attentive to the
traditional forms of greeting, but more importantly, who may address whom,
how, under what conditions, and with what levels of deference, formality,
informality, intimacy, and so on.
Some scientists have argued that the ‘subjects’ may legitimately be made
to suffer for the benefit of mankind. In the process of acquiring
knowledge which, it is assumed, is going to be beneficial to mankind in
the long run a few people are caused unavoidable distress, it does not
become an argument for the abandonment of the pursuit of such
knowledge. Support for this argument can be found in the field of bio-
medical research. For instance, McCormick (1976) strongly supports this
argument on the basic principle of justice. He believes that we all ought
to bear minimal or negligible burdens for the common good. Such
burdens are not just charitable acts; they are demanded by the principle of
justice.
The second argument proposes that the participants in any research
enterprise must be given the option to refuse to participate in the research
study. It is an argument that recognizes and respects the rights of
individuals to make up their own minds concerning their involvement in a
research undertaking. But when seen from a cross-cultural perspective,
the argument seems flawed because it exempts the scientist from his or
her personal obligations and duties towards the participants and places the
responsibilities for participating or refusing to participate on the research
subjects. Moreover, a large number of social psychology experiments,
field studies, and so forth rely on deception because to reveal the true
purpose of the study in advance would invalidate the study. deception in
psychological research is seen as a powerful methodological and
manipulative variable which can be used effectively in research design.
As Adair, Dushenko, & Lindsay (1985) point out, the use of deception
allows complex and sensitive studies of social behaviours to be
undertaken which otherwise would not be possible. From a cross-cultural
point of view, it becomes even more difficult for subjects to refuse to
participate in a study. This is true of Indian subjects as well. First of all,
Indian children are socialized into obedience of the authority of their
elders and their teachers, therefore refusal to participate in a research
study does not come easily to them. Refusal is likely to be construed as a
form of defiance, a show of which may incur negative sanctions being
imposed on the person concerned. Second, being requested by a foreign
investigator to participate in a research study might be seen as acquiring
added status in relation to those who have not been so approached. Third,
the lure of receiving monetary payment, which relative to Western
standards might not be insubstantial, for assisting with the research may
make refusal impossible. Finally, the insistence that subjects be given the
right to refuse to participate in a research project might be in keeping
with the required standards of ethical behaviour accepted in Western
countries, but such a caveat may be of little relevance in other cultures.
Thus the argument that the subjects must be given the option to accept or
refuse to participate in a research study does not have much to commend
it in practice. It just doesn't work.
The argument that the social scientists do not seriously interfere with the
well-being of the subjects is an empirical one. The cross-cultural
psychologist may be ignorant of the unique features of each cultural
setting, including its political context, and this may lead him or her into
unwittingly causing distress, anxiety, or offence to the subjects of the
research.
Warwick (1980) has suggested a series of ethical guidelines for cross-
cultural psychologists. As a first step, he believes that research projects
should involve equal-status collaboration right from the planning stage to
its execution and eventual publication. Warwick also believes that all
collaborators should be fully informed of the sponsorship, funding
sources, purposes of research, as well as the intended uses of the data.
The responsibilities of investigators to their research participants is a
subject that has been of serious concern among psychologists; several
thought-provoking guidelines, in keeping with the spirit of the APA
Ethics Code.
1. The research activity undertaken should be ethically acceptable.
2. The rights of subjects must be respected.
3. There should be open communications.
4. The researcher should respect the host culture.
5. Care should be taken to protect the subjects' welfare and dignity.
6. The research must be of benefit to the participants.
Applications of research findings: On the one hand, the scientist has an interest
in the pursuit of knowledge and its dissemination, which can be most readily
achieved by publication. The scientist is also interested in furthering his or her
own career, which is also facilitated by publication. On the other hand, the
scientist may realize the potential dangers of publication, particularly if the
research happens to be in a socially and/or politically sensitive area. A large
proportion of social scientists, it might be argued, do not spend a great deal of
time deliberating over the ethical issues related to publication. They get on with
their work and after its completion they attempt to get it published. Also, a large
proportion of the published work of the social scientists (luckily) passes
unnoticed. The outcry which follows some published work covers at least three
salient areas of criticism:
• those concerning the process of research, for example, the problems of
deception encountered in Asch's and Milgram's work;
• those concerning the findings of the research, for example, racial differences
in IQ. The findings were questioned, denied, ridiculed, attacked, rejected;
Jensen himself was accused of promoting racism by his ‘pseudo-scientific’
demonstrations of the innate inferiority of the American blacks on measured IQ
in relation to the Caucasian whites in America (Jensen, 1969). One finds that
the negative criticisms themselves fall into two categories. One set of criticisms
was levelled at the process of research and the research findings. The critics
pointed out that there was a variety of flaws, fallacious assumptions,
discrepancies, and shortcomings in the research designs of those psychologists
who claimed to have discovered genetic differences in measured IQs. Thus their
conclusions were totally unwarranted. The second set of criticisms were
ideological in nature. The critics subscribed to a form of liberal ideology that is
antithetical to considerations of genetic differences in races and ethnic groups
and which tends to explain any observed behavioural differences within and
between groups of people in environmental terms. National Front party in
Britain quoted, or rather misquoted, the findings to justify their policy of white
supremacy.
Barnes (1979) argues that even in cross-cultural research, publication may cause
considerable harm to the subjects in several ways: it might reinforce existing
negative stereotypes; it might also become a regular ‘hunting ground’ for future
investigators. It is possible too that the subjects portrayed in the study might be
easily identified, notwithstanding all precautions at preserving their anonymity
undertaken by the investigator, thus violating their rights to privacy. In some
instances the subjects studied might become potentially exploitable by different
governmental agencies, and also by foreign governments.
Knowledge is a public commodity, which can be used for good or ill (Barnes,
1979). The scientists simply cannot shrug off their moral responsibilities
towards their subjects once the data have been collected and they are ready to
return home.
What compounds the problem further is the fact that a greater proportion of
social science research is carried out by commercial organizations, with their
team of entrepreneurial business consultants. Their primary concerns are
pecuniary; ethical consideration, if they enter into their research framework, is
of minor importance. Other than governmental legislation, there appears to be
no easy solution to this serious problem.
It should be made clear, though, that not all publication is potentially harmful.
On the credit side, publication might bring about the desired positive changes in
social policy; it might bring a particular problem to public attention, thus
generating private and public conscience; and it might lead to the ultimate
welfare of the subjects studied.
Methodology, in its simplest form, is concerned with the questions: How shall
we study a given problem? What techniques should we employ which would get
us near the truth? Can we arrive at an objective and valid understanding of a
problem through rational reflection alone – without having to bother about
methodology? To a large extent even the choice of the research methodology is
influenced by the social, political, technological conditions and particularly by
the existing states of knowledge within the culture at a given period of time. All
the above factors influence us in our construction of a research problem, and in
finding viable ways of solving the problem. Good research is not done in a
social vacuum.
Whiting (1968) suggests that there isn't any one ‘ideal’ type of unit for cross-
cultural comparisons. The unit of analysis is often determined by the problem
that is to be investigated. For instance, comparative studies between Britain and
Denmark would be referred to as cross-national, and those between Pakistan
and Britain would be seen as cross-cultural.
Its efficacy even within a single culture has been questioned. It has been argued
that because of its enforced artificiality it is sterile; it does not reflect real-life
situations, lacks ecological validity, and its findings may be confounded by
‘experimenter effects’. It is also seen as being unethical because it involves the
manipulation of human subjects. The experimental method is also seen as a ‘left
over’ of the antiquated model of nineteenth-century physics.
One might be tempted to argue that given the vast variations within and
between cultures, in terms of their ecology, resources, social, political,
biological, and other cultural factors which impinge upon the individual, it
makes little sense to talk about one major unifying theory. Sechrest (1977) in
the late seventies classified cross-cultural research into three types (he referred
to them as Type I, Type II, and Type III). Each type of research was concerned
with different sets of issues, asked different sets of questions, and used different
techniques for answering those questions.
In Type III research the investigator is more interested in the culture itself than
in any dependent variable being studied. The word ‘untouchable’, which we
referred to at the start of the chapter, has no meaning whatsoever outside Indian
culture. Such a finding would suggest that there are certain concepts, attributes,
behavioural patterns, which are unique to a particular culture and acquire
meaning only within the context of that culture. In India there is an unwritten
custom that a guest invited to dinner will leave a spoonful of food on the plate
uneaten, whereas in Western countries the situation is reversed. There the guest
is expected to make every attempt not to leave any food on the dinner plate. In
an Indian context, the guest, by leaving a spoonful of food on the dinner plate,
conveys to the host that he or she is neither greedy nor starving. Within a
Western context, the guest displays appreciation of the hospitality by not
leaving bits of food on the plate.
It was Pike (1966) who first suggested that the linguistic distinction between
phonemics and phonetics served as a useful analogy for distinguishing between
two significantly different approaches to the study of cross-cultural phenomena.
Phonemics is concerned with the study of sounds used in one particular
language and phonetics is concerned with generalizing from phonemic studies
in separate languages to a universal science relevant to all languages.
Triandis (1972) suggests that the emic approach best describes items of
behaviour occurring in a particular culture. It utilizes concepts drawn only from
that culture. However, the emic approach has one serious limitation. By its very
nature it does not allow us to compare cultures because the concepts developed
in a single culture may be relevant only to thatculture. This lack of universality
of concepts prevents any meaningful cross-cultural comparisons.
Pseudo-Etic Approach
Conceptual Equivalence: It is important that the concepts underlying the test (or
the instrument) have a similar shared meaning in another culture. In other
words, one must ensure that ‘like is being compared with like’. This is not
always easy to establish, particularly when translated versions of the test are to
be used. For instance, the concept ‘pollution’ has two meanings in Hindu
culture. It refers to hygienic pollution, the meaning of which is shared by people
in other cultures. But more importantly, the term ‘pollution’ is often referred to
as spiritual and religious pollution. The concept of spiritual pollution does not
exist in European culture; its nearest equivalent term would be ‘desecration’ –
which of course does not have the same connotation. Failure to understand the
implied meanings in the concepts may seriously compromise the validity of the
test. Despite the care that has gone into translations of psychological
instruments, many such translated tests tend to be flawed.
the first step is to identify an etic construct that is assumed to have universal
status. The next step involves developing emic ways of measuring the concept
in the culture. if the research involves the use of linguistic material it is difficult
to be certain if the translated material has linguistic equivalence. Words, when
translated into another language, may lose their connotative meanings. Even if
one were to abandon linguistic equivalence and opt for conceptual (or
psychological) equivalence, one could run into similar difficulties. A search for
conceptual equivalence presupposes a very intimate knowledge of the cultures
concerned. This is not always possible. Comparability of cultures then becomes
a matter of intuitive judgment instead of objective standardization. Under these
conditions there is the uncertainty of whether the concepts are in fact
psychologically equivalent.
Any research strategy used to investigate a cross-cultural problem is seldom a
matter of arbitrary choice. It needs to be carefully planned before it can be
executed. The planning should include most, if not all, the following factors:
◦ Is it a replicative study?
◦Large or small
◦Unilingual or multilingual
◦Secular or non-secular
◦Mono-religious or multi-religious.
•Practical considerations:
Each culture, each nation presents its own sets of problems. Unless the
researcher is fairly conversant with the problems of the culture that he has
chosen to investigate and knows how to cope with them, it is doubtful that the
research will be of any great value both in its theoretical and applied sense.
Paradoxically, many Western researchers never visit the country of their chosen
study. In such cases, the study is often undertaken by local indigenous
collaborators. The advantages of such an approach are easily visible, but they
tend to be outweighed by the disadvantages. The principal investigator based
abroad has no control over the study, is often ignorant of how the data were
gathered, and is entirely dependent on the collaborator for this information. The
value of this form of collaborative research often tends to remain questionable.
•Indians tend to strike up social conversations with total strangers quite easily.
In their social interactions, Indians, unlike Westerners, tend in general to be a
‘touching’ people. The also stand quite close to one another, and do not keep the
kind of distance which Westerners tend to maintain in social situations.
However, there are taboos concerning males touching females and vice-versa.
•Indians can often ask – and do – without any embarrassment, very personal and
delicate questions concerning one's age, marital status, the number of children
one has, their age and sex, one's occupation, income, religious beliefs, and so
on. One needs to learn to fend these questions without seeming to cause
offence.
•One learns that to meet people it is not always necessary to make a prior
appointment. One calls on them and waits if the person one has come to meet is
busy or not available. Not being put out if one is kept waiting far beyond one's
appointed time is a necessary social skill, which needs to be acquired.
•Indians often tend to display a seeming unconcern for privacy. Indian society is
a family-oriented society and since individuals live in extended family
networks, where life is shared, the need for privacy is not felt with the same
level of intensity as it is in the West. A Westerner unused to this feature of
Indian family life may see lack of privacy as a painful intrusion. The relative
unconcern with privacy is a specific cultural phenomenon.
•The notion of time among Indians differs sharply from Western notions. Time
is seen in flexible, even relaxed terms. There isn't thus the frenetic rush that is
noticeable in the West. One needs to learn not to be put out by their differential
conceptions of time.
•The daily life of Indians (Hindus, Muslims, and Sikhs) is organized around
their religious beliefs, prayers, and worship. This includes participating in all
the varied religious festivals, performing all the required prayers, and thereby
seeking the blessings of all the gods and deities.
Conflicting social and ethical problems: There are a variety of other serious
social and ethical problems which investigators, unless they are totally
insensitive, would find impossible to ignore during the course of their stay in
India. In the West, to a large extent one is ‘sheltered’ (or one can insulate
oneself) from witnessing problems of such severity. But to come face to face
with unimaginable poverty, destitution, malnourishment, exploitation of
children, dirt, pollution, noise, overcrowding, illness, disease, and several other
social ills such as corruption, child labour, child prostitution, exploitation of
labour, religious bigotry, caste and communal prejudice, one is as though
etherized by what the eye sees, the mind registers, the heart feels, and the soul
sinks into despair.
Research in cities and villages: Winter, easy to find a large sample, not much
difficulty with language/translation, Undertaking research in large metropolitan
cities in India poses a slightly lesser problem than undertaking research in the
rural areas, particularly in villages, where language is one of the biggest barriers
to this form of paper-and-pencil research. But this is not to say that the tests
constructed in Western countries can be used at will in other cultures. All
psychological tests even within a single culture are beset with innumerable
problems, which of course become more pronounced when used in other
countries. One would need to ensure, therefore, that sound and suitable
strategies have been designed to determine their usefulness across cultures.
Problems of languages: The problems of language are far more important than
is often assumed by Western cross-cultural psychologists. It needs to be realized
that in order to understand an alien culture it is important to distinguish between
its simple and superficial aspects and the deeper colloquial ones. The culture
that one elects to study needs to be examined as a whole rather than picking up
unconnected bits and pieces because of their methodological convenience.
Western psychologists in general have ignored this advice and have sought to
study cross-cultural problems from a Eurocentric perspective, rather than vice-
versa (Halbfass, 1981/1988). Given the multiplicity of languages and dialects
spoken and the varying levels of literacy in India, the use of written tests is
unlikely to be of any significant advantage. And even if the tests were to be
translated, the conceptual and empirical equivalence, including their relevance
to an Indian setting, would be questionable. Under certain conditions it may be
possible to use non-verbal tests, but they too can be problematic. Again, timed
tests in any form do not have much relevance in Indian villages. As has already
been mentioned, time in India does not have the same connotations as it does in
the West. Indians tend to see time in cosmic dimensions; it has no beginning, no
end. In keeping the philosophy of the law of karma, one's present life is seen as
one of many lives that one has lived in the past, and the present life will be
followed by further lives to come. The cycle of birth and rebirth is strongly
ingrained in the Indian psyche.
•Never having participated in a research study before (in many cases, never
having spoken to or even seen a Westerner), the villagers might feel
intimidated, harbour unvoiced resentments, demand payments for their
participation in the research, and so on.
Children are all born helpless and defenceless. They all need care, comfort,
food, and shelter for their biological survival. Their biological survival also runs
parallel with their cognitive, linguistic and emotional development, which is
indispensable in order for them to become part of the society and the culture
into which they are born. Without human care and guidance, it would be
impossible for children to acquire any human characteristics. Abandoned infants
who were brought up in the ‘wild’ by wolves, when brought back into human
society, failed to acquire any of the positive human emotions such as smiling or
laughing, and none of the physical attributes such as being able to walk on their
feet, being able to use implements and tools with their hands, nor indeed the
most rudimentary linguistic skills.
•in Western societies, formalized marriage appears to have lost its status
(Dumon, 1992);
•the rate of divorces has been rising in most European countries, including
Britain (Edgar, 1992);
•it is estimated that in England at least one-third of all families are single-parent
families, headed by a female;
A close examination of the literature reveals that sex changes in Eastern cultures
are equally, if not more popular than in Western countries. They have a long
history, which dates back to the eighteenth century and even earlier.
A hijra is a person who belongs to a group that is often referred to as the ‘third
sex’ or the third gender. Hijras often describe themselves as neither men nor
women. They are people born with a male body but with a non-male or female
gender identity. Some undergo crude sex-change operations, including
castrations.
Hijras in general do not lead a conventional family life. Most hijras leave home
or are abandoned by their families and live in separate clans or communal
households that are presided over by a leader or a guru. Hijras normally tend to
dress in female clothes, acquire female names, and refer to themselves as
females. Despite the lukewarm acceptance of hijras within society, they remain
at the bottom of the social hierarchy. They are a marginalized group of
wanderers, and from time to time they are subjected to harsh discriminatory
attacks from others. They are also seen as objects of fun, ribaldry, and mockery.
Most of them live in slums on the fringes of poverty and destitution, scraping a
living by prostitution, begging, and by performing traditional ceremonies, which
occur whenever a new baby is born in a community or when a marriage is about
to take place. To deny entry to a band of hijras into your home to celebrate an
auspicious occasion is culturally unacceptable.
It is only in recent years that hijras have begun to make demands for fair and
just treatment.
Variations in Family Structures: Low (2005) suggests that two factors need to
be taken into serious consideration in understanding the concept of family:
genetic relatedness and co-residence in a household. Families vary along several
characteristics: size, affluence, levels of education, occupation, intelligence,
attitudes, beliefs, values, and so on. Families undergo change, which is often
brought about by ecological factors, industrialization, urbanization, economic
depressions, war, famine, natural disasters, and so on.
In addition to the above changes, significant changes have also occurred in the
size and the type of families in Britain and other Western countries. For
instance, there is a different picture of family structures in England and Wales.
There are a rapidly growing number of people living alone or as lone parents;
one-third of adults remain single, and one-person households now represent 30
per cent of all households. Lone parents account for about 12 per cent of all
households, and nine out of ten parents are women. What impact a one-parent
family (or a family of ‘changing’ parents due to living with different partners, or
remarriage, or sex-changes) is likely to have on the health, education work, and
the development of the children can be gleaned from several research reports. It
is estimated that of the children from single-parent families in America:
• 66 per cent will fall into poverty before they reach the age of 18, compared
with 20 per cent of children from two-parent families;
• almost twice as many high achievers come from two-parent homes as from
one-parent homes;
• the most reliable predictor of crime and teenage pregnancy is not income or
race, but family structure; and
• 70 per cent of imprisoned United States minors have spent at least part of their
life without fathers.
It has also been argued that families in Western countries, particularly in the
United States, have been unable to develop positive ways of adjusting to these
rapid changes, and ‘the speed of change alone is a major factor of stress in
families’.
The sense of sameness and permanence is also perpetuated by the fact that
divorces in India are rare. They are not unheard of, but the rates are extremely
low. Marriage in India (particularly among Hindus, Catholics, Sikhs, and Parsis)
is seen as a sacred religious ceremony and the couple is expected to remain
together till ‘death do them part’. That is the socially accepted view. A strong
and pernicious social stigma is associated with divorce – particularly for the
female, who in most cases is economically and socially dependent upon the
husband and his family members and their network of relations (baradari). She
is not even in a position to countenance the idea of a divorce, let alone take any
steps towards achieving it. The serious consequences, for example, loss of
status, the possible loss of custody of her children, homelessness, threat of
poverty, the danger of being referred to as a ‘loose’ woman (and thus ‘easy
game’), conspire to exert the required pressures to keep the marriage institution
intact. So strong and powerful are the social pressures that most women, even
under the most appalling domestic conditions (maltreatment, violence, abuse,
lack of independence, subjugation at home, overwork, lack of political and legal
awareness and recognition of their ‘rights’, and so on) elect to stay within the
confines of a tyrannous family as silent sufferers rather than break away.
But an extended family, although sharing most of the above characteristics, may
not always live under the same roof and share all the resources. Thus, not all
extended families are joint families. While the system of joint families still
prevails in many parts of India, particularly in the rural areas, monumental
changes have taken place in large cities. A desperate attempt to escape from the
evils of debt, poverty, starvation, disease, lack of medical care, caste-related
exploitation, and so on, has led to massive migrations from the rural to urban
sectors in India. These factors have led to a physical separation of families. But
such a state of affairs has by no means led to an erosion of the extended family
system.
The birth of a daughter, on the other hand, is treated with mixed feelings and
even with some misgivings. As Kakar (1981) points out, the daughter in a
Hindu family hardly ever develops an identity of her own. Upon birth, she is
seen as a daughter; she is expected to remain chaste and pure; upon reaching
marriageable age she may be seen as an economic liability because of the dowry
she is expected to take with her to her husband's home. On entering her married
home, her status changes. She is seen as a wife, as a daughter-in-law, as a sister-
in-law in the new home, and then as a mother, a grandmother, and should her
husband predecease her, as a widow. She appears to have no individual identity
other than the changing identities she acquires through reflected role
relationships. Her private persona remains submerged within these changing
and conflicting identities. Right from birth to death she does not possess an
identity of her own. However, it is important to stress that several enlightened
parents look upon the birth of a girl as ‘a gift of the gods’ and see it as their
sacred duty, which is part of Hindu dharma, to have their daughter(s)
handsomely and ‘happily’ married.
The Sacred and the Secular: In Western countries there is a clear distinction
between the sacred and the secular, but in Hinduism there are no sharp
distinctions between them. The lines are blurred. This can be observed even in
the most mundane day-to-day activities, such as washing one's hands, having a
bath, carrying out one's morning ablutions, accepting drinking water or food
from others, or offering it to others, and so on. Although seemingly trivial, they
have deep-rooted religious connotations. To a Westerner unversed in the day-to-
day ritualistic practices of Hindus, such behaviours would seem strange and
even quite bizarre. To a Hindu, however, they fall within the orbit of necessary
religious ablutions, which he or she has internalized from childhood and
performs automatically. Rituals therefore are forms of personal communication
with gods. Communication itself may serve different purposes: worship, giving
thanks, asking for favours, expiation and atonement. Smart (1996) adds that a
variant of the religious ritual is the yogic ritual, where the performance of yogic
exercises is seen as a means by which a person seeks to attain a higher state of
consciousness.
Furthermore, what binds families in India is the fact that virtually all the major
social and religious festivals and activities, such as christenings, betrothals,
marriages, pilgrimages, are performed together. Most of their social
relationships tend to be family-orientated. Visiting cousins, uncles, aunts,
staying with them, are an integral part of family life. Even an illness striking a
family member tends to get transformed into a family problem, and attempts are
made to find a joint solution to the problem. Illness is like a magnet which
draws families together. Each member volunteers his or her own diagnosis of
the illness, its causal factors, and the cures and remedies which he or she would
urge the patient to follow regardless of their appropriateness. The entire family
may resort to several conflicting strategies in dealing with the patient's illness.
Special prayers are held for the speedy recovery of the patient, acts of piety and
generosity, such as feeding the poor and the needy, are performed. The
womenfolk in the household undertake fasts and prayers, and the family
members get together to discuss and assess the patient's condition on a daily
basis. The patient is seldom left alone. Neighbours and other relatives are
informed of the situation, word spreads, and visitors flock in at all hours to
spend time with the patient. Not to visit a sick relative – close or distant – is
likely to earn social disapprobation. The onset of a physical illness is often
attributed to the workings of the law of karma – whether the patient recovers
from, or succumbs to, the illness. It was fated.
The Contemporary Scene: In the past it might have been possible to describe
Indian family life in terms of (a) traditional families, (b) transitional families,
and (c) Westernized families. The defining characteristics of traditional families
would have been their being rooted to ancient Indian traditions, and their
ignorance of or indifference to the changes imposed by modernity. Transitional
families are those that are in the process of change and adaptation to
modernism. Westernized families are best referred to as those that have
acquired Western education, tend to see themselves as being modernized,
Westernized, and have imbibed many of the Western values systems, including
liberalism, individualism, and so on.
In recent years, due largely to the rapid industrialization and globalization in the
country, there have been massive, large-scale migrations of younger people
from the rural areas into the urban sectors of India. And as indicated earlier,
squatter settlements, shantytowns, and slums have grown and sprawled
everywhere and have extended even beyond the recognized urban limits. It has
been estimated that about 40 per cent of the urban population lives in slums, or
squatter settlements, or on streets, in wretched poverty. Their living
arrangements are devoid of the basic amenities such as safe water, electricity,
sewerage, and health care. Furthermore, the departure of the young migrants
from the rural to the urban areas has created an age-related imbalance in the
rural areas of India, with a high percentage of the elderly living in the rural
areas, which of course makes it even more difficult for them to survive without
the help of their children. The age-related imbalance between the rural and the
urban areas, the economic imbalance in the urban areas between those who live
below the poverty line on the streets and in the slums, and those who live in
houses, with relative economic and financial security, militates against
describing an Indian family in terms of urban and rural differences. The elderly
who live in villages feel alienated from their children who have migrated to the
urban sectors; in turn, the young migrants live in abject poverty, possess limited
levels of literacy, have low and inadequate occupational skills, and hardly any
preparation for urban life it is difficult fully to understand family life in India
without taking into serious consideration the role that religion plays in their
daily life. Most Hindu homes have a shrine (which may consist of a framed
picture of a Hindu god, or a clearly demarcated sacred place of worship) at
which prayers are offered day and night. Whether the entire family joins in the
prayers – particularly the arti – or is left to the women in the house is related to
the importance given by the family members to such daily rituals. Children are
generally encouraged to participate in such daily offerings and prayers. On all
the days that are considered holy it is expected that all the family members will
participate in prayers and offerings. The elders in the family – the grandparents,
an aged aunt – often develop a special relationship with the growing children.
Since the elders are often seen as the repositories of knowledge, virtue, and
wisdom, they often take it upon themselves to read from the scriptures to the
children in order to ‘inculcate’ the desired values of obedience, reverence,
honesty, and self-discipline in the young children at home.
In addition to the gods worshipped at home and in the daily or weekly visits to
temples, Indians also visit their own gurus – or as a cynic has remarked, their
‘designer’ gurus. They do so at regular intervals, seeking their blessings in
whatever, social, spiritual, economic, commercial, marital, and health-related
endeavours they are engaged. It is not at all unusual to see several specially
chartered plane loads of Indians from abroad, coming over to India to
participate in a religious ‘jamboree’ arranged by the gurus(s) they all worship.
To be looked upon as a guru, who has magical, if not divine powers, is to be
accorded the highest accolade. (Many of my own extended family members
who live abroad undertake regular organized chartered trips every year,
spending weeks on end in an ashram in India.) Asking ‘favours’ of gods and
gurus is a custom hallowed by tradition. It operates on a ‘barter’ system. One
tries to do a deal with God. ‘God, if You grant me this favour, I'll do this for
You!’, which could mean undertaking a long, extensive, and expensive
pilgrimage to the holy cities in India, the feeding of hundreds of mendicants,
special prayers being performed by a team of Brahmin priests either at home or
on the banks of the Ganges, and other acts of piety, all of which form part of the
‘barter’ system. And given the multiplicity of gods and gurus in India, changing
or swapping gods and gurus should the favours go unanswered is also a custom
hallowed by tradition. Since heresy is a meaningless concept in Hinduism, it is
not at all sacrilegious to swap one set of gods for another.
On the other hand, there are others who believe that globalization during the last
decade has conferred colossal economic, technological, informational, social,
and political benefits to the developing nations, including India. According to
Das (2002), economic prosperity has brought about an upward shift in levels of
poverty, general affluence, a change in values, social customs, and a newfound
confidence in people all over the country. It is difficult to decide which of the
two polarized views will come to prevail in future. Despite economic prosperity
(or economic deprivation), people do not jettison their own cultural identity.
Indians, like chameleons, have the distinct ability to adapt and incorporate the
changes within their cultural identity without wrecking their ancient structure.
Given the long history of foreign rule over India – the Turks, the Moguls, the
Dutch, the Germans, the French, the Portuguese, and last but by no means the
least, the English – extending over a millennium, Indians have still managed to
retain their unique caste system, their law of karma, their gods, their languages,
their characteristic extended family networks, and to a large extent their ancient
values. Even the concerted attempts, initially by the Muslim rulers and a few
hundred years later by missionaries, to convert Hindus (particularly from the
lowest caste) to Islam and Christianity respectively, did not meet with great
success. Buddhism too, despite its origins in India, has failed to make the same
impact in India as it has done in Sri Lanka and China.
But as soon as one starts to dig deeper and observe the day-to-day lives of
families at home, the picture changes; the observable similarities, so easily
noticeable from the outside, seem merely cosmetic – not unlike a new,
conspicuous patchwork on an ancient family heirloom. The house, although
furnished in modern Western style, is still dominated by a temple or a shrine.
The family members, one finds, usually eat their meals together, the home-
cooked food often conforms to the families' indigenous regional culinary habits,
family life still tends to operate on a hierarchical order. Although children
‘enjoy’ a certain degree of latitude in expressing their views and opinions, and
although the children are not any the less indulged than they were in the past,
deference to the views of the elders to a large extent is taken for granted and
remains unquestioned. Collective activities, in which all family members are
expected to participate – visiting and entertaining relatives, performing prayers
and ‘pujas’, participating in all the religious rituals (for example mundan, the
tonsure ceremony), the sacred thread ceremony, betrothals, marriages, and
festivities, are still an integral part of family life.
One of the most important factors which distinguishes Indian families from
Western (English or American) families is the fact that children (sons), upon
reaching maturity, are not expected to leave home and set up their own lives, so
to speak. Any departure from this norm causes distress, but over the years, such
a departure has come to be accepted with resigned equanimity. The married
sons, however, may choose to live separately, but the general trend is to live
close to one another – even in the same block of flats, should that be possible. In
many such homes, cooking is centralized; meals play a central role in uniting
the families.
Indian society, as we have already indicated, has displayed the ability and the
tenacity to survive through centuries of foreign invasions and occupations. It is
therefore questionable that globalization, in all its magnitude and economic
power, will completely transform the ancient value systems of Indian society
and lead to a process of ‘cloning’. At a superficial level, it might seem as
though the East is beginning to become indistinguishable from the West. But
the cosmetic changes in India must not lull one into believing that the bell has
already started to toll, proclaiming the demise of values in India.
In terms of physical distance, the West has crept closer to the East. But in terms
of fundamental cultural values, it remains as distant as it ever was.
Popper's Views on Perception: Karl Popper (1963) was one of the greatest
philosophers of science of the twentieth century. Truth, according to Popper, is
not self-evident. It is not manifest.
Descartes put forward a theory of veracitas dei, namely that what we clearly see
to be true must indeed be true – if it were not true it would imply that God was
deceiving us. Bacon, on the other hand, offered a doctrine of veracitas naturae.
Nature is an open book. He who reads it with a pure mind cannot misread it. To
Popper both doctrines are flawed. He argues that any perception, from the
simplest to the most complex, involves a hunch, a guess, a conjecture, even an
unverified hypothesis. In other words, all our perceptions are embedded within
a conceptual framework. In that sense, therefore, all perception is theory-laden
or theory-saturated.
Perceiving oneself: William James distinguished between the ‘I’ and the ‘Me’.
To him, ‘I’ refers to the self-as-the-subject and ‘Me’ to the self-as-an object. He
then divided the ‘Me’ into three hierarchical constituents, which he referred to
as Spiritual me at the top, the Social Me in the middle, and the Material Me at
the bottom.
The distinction between ‘I’ and ‘Me’ can also be explained in terms of ‘I’ being
one's internal self and ‘Me’ one's external self. The internal self comprises one's
ego. According to William James, the ego, which is the experiencing subject,
remains unchanged; the inner world, which it inhabits, is the territory of the
stream of consciousness. It is not visible to others; it ‘resides’ within oneself,
part of one's psyche. The external self – the ‘Me’ – on the other hand, has
multifarious manifestations, which include one's body, one's clothes, home,
possessions, and the social and professional roles one plays. It creates in one the
feelings of pride when one is loved, admired, and appreciated and feelings of
shame, mortification, remorse, anger, and guilt when one is not. The external
self is the image, the persona that we present to the outside world.
James believed it was important to find ways of reconciling the unity of the ‘I’
with the multiplicity of the ‘Me’. This to James is the most puzzling problem
which psychology has to contend with. It is clear that the greater the distance
between the ‘I’ and the ‘Me’ the greater the conflict within the individual. If
one's own perception of oneself should be out of tune it is not inconceivable that
one's perception of and interaction with others is also likely to be out of tune.
• The self-perception of a person with a harmonious ‘I’ and ‘Me’ will tend to be
objective and rational.
• A person's perception of others will also tend to be objective and rational.
The perception of an event varies from one individual to another, from one
group to another, from one time to another, and from one culture to another.
One's perception of oneself and of others tends to be kaleidoscopic: a slight tilt
and the pattern changes. And even our own evaluation of an event changes over
time, stressful or traumatic on one occasion, exciting on another. Moreover, one
individual's trauma might be another individual's thrill.
To interact meaningfully with others, be they persons from our own cultural
background or from different cultures, one needs to acquire a body of objective
knowledge about that culture. Equally importantly, one also needs to possess
the sensitivity to ‘see’ the world from the perspective of the other person.
Words and language: Words shape our thoughts, feelings, and our actions.
Words allow us to make sense of ourselves, of others, and of the world in which
we live. As Hayakawa (1965) points out, we each construe words differently,
especially those which reverberate with feelings and emotions. Beauty, in that
sense, is in the eye of the beholder. And so is ugliness! Given the tyranny of
words, it seems a virtual miracle that we are able to communicate with one
another reasonably successfully.
Tyranny of words: Words carry two distinct types of meanings which they
have identified as denotative and connotative, or in other words, objective and
subjective. Meanings of words according to them can also be perceived along
three major dimensions, which they refer to as evaluative, potency, and activity.
For interactions to progress in a ‘satisfactory’ manner it would be beneficial for
both the parties involved in the interaction to understand the diverse emotive
and cognitive meanings which each of them attaches to words. It is only through
a close correspondence in understanding the subtle nuances of words, which
form the basis of interaction, that some genuine progress can be achieved. A
proper use of language also involves the use of metaphors, similes, and
proverbs, all of which form an integral part of communication.
Metaphors: Each culture produces its own sets of metaphors. Metaphors help
us to articulate, interpret, and reinterpret our own world of experience.
Gombrich (1979) argues that a society which fails to embellish its language by
reaching out into the sources of metaphor would cease to be a society.
Metaphors have both, positive and negative meanings. Metaphors to a large
measure are also class-related.
English metaphors: Trojan horse, Draconian laws, Freudian slip, being in limbo,
sour grapes, the wrong end of the stick.
All metaphors have their own historical origins and are culture-specific. Let us
consider a few metaphors that are popularly used in India. Metaphors such as:
imaan, bey-imaan badnaseeb, haraam, halal, izzat, shudha, pavitra, apavitra,
vairaag, punya joothaa, shubha, dharma, karma, kismet, gyani, chukka, hijra,
jaisi-karni-vaisi-bharni, aankh ka noor, be-raham, zaalim, are part of common
lore. Since Indian society is structured along caste divisions, the above
metaphors cut across caste boundaries and are used with equal facility by all
and sundry. The origins of the above metaphors do not necessarily reflect
classical learning. They arise out of the popular stories from the ancient Indian
epics, such as The Mahabharata, The Bhagawad Gita, The Ramayana and the
Koran, which are told and retold to children as an integral part of their
socialization and upbringing. Through constant exposure, the metaphors get
internalized, becoming part of everyday speech. For instance, the word shudha,
which translated literally means ‘pure’. However, the word shudha carries with
it a host of other meanings, such as: spiritual purity, pure (uncontaminated)
food, a pure, truthful, honest, trustworthy person, and so on. Many mythological
figures from Hindu religious texts – Satyavan Savitri, Yudhisthira, Rama, Sita,
Laxman Arjuna, Bhim – also come to be used as metaphors. They arouse
special positive feelings when used. At the same time there are a host of
metaphors with negative connotations, such as when a person is referred to as a
bhangi (sweeper), hajaam, (barber), dasu (demon), chamaar, (cobbler) chandaal
(an untouchable), and so on.
Metaphors are part of everyday speech. A mutual understanding of metaphors
facilitates interaction at a fairly deeper and more meaningful level. But an
inability to understand metaphors may seriously impede interaction.
Health and illness: Based on our own knowledge and experience, we often
tend to see health and illness in multi-factorial terms, namely in physical
(organic), mental, cultural, religious, existential, and spiritual terms. We are also
aware that health and disease are not dichotomous terms. They lie along a
continuum without a single cut-off point. The lowest point on the continuum
signifies death and the highest corresponds to what might be referred to as
‘positive health’. It is clear that health fluctuates within an optimum level of
wellbeing to various levels of dysfunctions, at the extreme end of which is
death.
Our own notions of health and illness are not acquired in isolation, nor are they
formed in a social vacuum. They are moulded by the culture into which we are
born and into which we are socialized.
Health is a state of complete physical, mental, and social wellbeing and not
merely an absence of disease or infirmity.
In ancient times the situation was different. Lessons from ancient Greek
civilization clearly point to the ‘freedom to’ model of health and illness. Most of
the ancient Greek and Roman philosophers, from Socrates onwards, were
concerned about human growth and development. Cicero argued that all human
beings possessed a divine spark of reason in them, which conferred on them a
duty to develop themselves to the full as civilized educated individuals and to
treat each other with respect and generosity. The ‘freedom to’, or the growth
model, thesis suffered a gradual setback during the pre-Renaissance period.
Christianity exercised a powerful influence on the day-to-day lives of people.
Illnesses, both physical and mental, were often explained in terms of the wrath
of God, divine retribution, sin, the workings of the devil, and so on. People were
cowed into obedience by their fears of purgatory, hell, and eternal damnation.
The Renaissance period followed by the period of Enlightenment and
Humanism in Europe ushered in a new era of progress in science, medicine and
technology, bringing about a ‘paradigm shift’. Old theories were questioned;
some were put to the sword. God was ex-communicated by the secular papacy.
Gradually, Western medicine hitched its wagon to the shining star of science
and ignored, underplayed, and disregarded the ‘freedom to’ idea. Even the
patients' subjective evaluations of their own condition were thrust aside. They
were of no relevance to the outcome of their illness. The patient was often seen
as an object, a compliant and malleable object of the doctor's expertise.
Since the main focus of medical science has been on organic (the disease)
factors, it has tended to pay increasingly less attention to the subjective or the
mental side of illness.
Conceptualizing health and illness from a ‘freedom from’ model is a narrow and
negative way of understanding health and illness. The approach ignores vast
areas of human beliefs, behaviours, and values that involve growth and
development, kindness, autonomy, and courage, which lend existential and
spiritual meaning and poignancy to one's life.
Many of them have moved away from the biomedical model and have
proposed, supported, and adopted alternative forms of medicine, which include
homoeopaths, acupuncturists, herbalists nutritionists, dieticians, ayurveds,
yogis, indigenous healers, and several others.
The ‘Freedom from’ Model of Health in Psychology: For over 2000 years
psychology remained an integral part of philosophy. The ancient philosophers
of Greece, Italy and Egypt, from around the seventh century bce onwards,
raised the perennial questions concerning the nature of nature, the nature of
human nature, the mind, the soul, purpose, will, freedom, determinism, beliefs,
values, happiness, hope, sorrow, despair, good, bad, moral, immoral, sin, virtue,
beauty, ugliness, health, illness, life and death, and of course the nature of the
human soul. Their thinking was also influenced by the religious mythology,
which played a significant role in their day-to-day lives.
It was only in the latter part of the nineteenth century that several psychologists
in America and in Europe began to question what they felt were the constraints
of philosophy upon their fledgling discipline and started to consider the
possibility of transforming psychology into a scientific discipline. Their
emphasis was on the study of overt, observable, measurable behaviours. John B.
Watson took his cues from the pioneering work of the Russian physiologist Ivan
Pavlov. Watson was critical of concepts such as introspection, unconsciousness,
mind, and all the metaphysical concepts which could not be observed and
investigated objectively.
The ‘Freedom to’ Model of Health and Happiness in Psychology: The aim of
the therapist was to free the patient from such debilitating, traumatic, and
destructive behaviours. Until about the 1960s, the ‘freedom from’ health model
was the accepted approach within clinical psychology and psychotherapy in the
United States. There was an acutely felt need for psychological help and
succour after the Vietnam War.
Such has been the impact of psychology going public that one would be right in
referring to the existence of two types of psychologies: psychology as it is
taught, researched, and applied in universities, and psychology as it is offered to
the general public through books, magazines, CDs, video-cassettes, DVDs,
workshops, lectures, residential courses, on the Internet, and on certain
television channels.
Words such as ‘treatment’ and ‘therapy’ have slowly given way to words such
as: empowerment, autonomy, independence, assertiveness, realization of one's
personality, realization of one's potential, self-actualization, inner growth,
fulfilment, positive development, to become a ‘better’ person, and so on. The
emphasis is on growth and positive change. Happiness, so the belief goes, is not
a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow; it is within each individual's easy reach.
In the last 20 years or so, the course of counselling, psychotherapy, and other
forms of treatment of psychological disorders has undergone a change. The
‘freedom from’ model to a large extent has changed into a ‘freedom to’ model.
The impetus to construe health from a genuine ‘freedom to’ or the growth
model of health has come from a movement within psychology, best referred to
as positive psychology. (11-14)
To Muslims, happiness results from submitting to the will of Allah. One learns
from childhood to obey the will of Allah by following the teachings of the
Koran. In obedience lies happiness, in disobedience, pain, suffering, and
sorrow. All devout Muslims are also expected to observe and perform all the
required rites and rituals found in the Koran.
Among the Buddhists too there is a strong belief that suffering is part of the
human condition. No one is free from suffering. The reasons for human
suffering are articulated in Buddha's exposition of the Four Noble Truths. But
suffering, although part of the human condition, is avoidable by following the
eight-fold path (ashtha-marga) which, when pursued with faith, diligence, and
non-attachment, leads to an inner state of wellbeing and also enables the person
to transcend the sorrows and sufferings of life and eventually attain a state of
nirvana.
Religion provides some comfort. Religion to the Hindus, the Muslims, and the
Buddhists acts as their protective shield.
The concept of yin and yang plays a key role in understanding Confucian
philosophy. According to ancient Chinese cosmology, everything that exists in
the cosmos is made up of qi (vital matter, life energy, or life force), which is
manifest in two complementary forces – yin and yang. Yin denotes that which is
dark, moist, and feminine and yang denotes that which is bright, dry, and
masculine. It was believed that all things consist of yin and yang in varying
proportions.
Familial and Communal Factors: Eastern cultures to a large extent are family
oriented. Since life revolves round one's family, one's extended family, and
one's community, there is an expectation that the performance of familial,
social, religious, and caste-related duties leads to an inner spiritual growth. To
see one's children grow and develop into responsible beings, to have one's
children handsomely married, to take upon oneself to impart the teachings of
the scriptures to one's children and grandchildren, to relinquish the reins of one's
control as head of family to one's children and withdraw from material
aspirations, to lead a life of detachment from worldly materialism, to look after
and care for the elderly at home, to achieve a mental state of peace, tranquillity,
and harmony through meditation, yogic exercises and non-involvement – all
such activities are sources of great joy and happiness and health. Failure to live
one's life in accordance with the Hindu scriptures or the dictates of the Koran
and the Buddhist teachings may lead to sorrow, grief, and illness.
Several factors may account for the onset of illnesses. One of them is caste
contamination. Illness and misfortune may occur due to caste contamination
(marrying outside one's caste), through spiritual pollution, through the workings
of the law of karma, by the vengeance of the gods for evils perpetrated,
planetary perturbations, and so on. In addition to the law of karma, there is
among Asians a strong belief in magical or supernatural explanations of illness,
which can be brought about by the influence of malevolent demons and spirits
acting upon one's life for real or imagined misdemeanours.
In treating the person suffering from a disease, every attempt is also made to
take the impact of one's culture on understanding the nature of the illness and
the indigenous methods that are used to bring about a cure. Therapeutic
strategies, which also include shamans, witch doctors, priests, faith-healers,
palmists, fortune-tellers, exorcists, pirs, bhagats, and a variety of other
indigenous healers all over the world.
Conflict Between Faith and Reason: The conflict between faith and reason
came to a head during the later Enlightenment period in eighteenth century,
when the hegemony of religion came to be questioned. Secularism gradually
came to be recognized and accepted as the ruling philosophy in most Western
democracies. Rationality enables us to understand and make sense of our lives,
of the lives of others and of the world around us in a logical, ordered, and a
relatively predictable way. Rationality allows us to differentiate between right
and wrong, good and bad, fact and fiction, myth and reality, and so on.
Rationality helps to solve a variety of scientific, technological, social,
economic, and human problems. It embodies within it the notion of free will.
The dead cannot be brought back to life although each religion offers its own
hopes of an after-life. On the Day of Judgment, proclaim the Christians, the
dead shall rise from their graves. The Muslims too believe in the day of
judgement – qauamat. The Hindus, in accordance with the law of karma,
believe that death marks the end of one life and the beginning of another, thus
forming a part of a series of lives and deaths, births and rebirths.
Death also puts to an end all human pretensions to fame, health, wealth,
success, happiness, immortality, and so on. William James (1902/1958), in his
inimitable style, referred to death as ‘the worm at the core’. With death all
awareness ceases. One cannot be dead and alive at the same time. We can
experience the process of dying: the pain, the suffering, the gradual shutting
down of our bodily systems, but are unable to experience the final event,
namely, our death.
Denial of death: The Denial of Death, written by Ernest Becker in 1973 states
that our fear of death is non-combative. We are unable to take arms against it,
unable to conquer it, unwilling to submit to it. We can neither cheat death, nor
hoodwink it. We play the oldest psychological trick on ourselves. We deny it. It
can't happen. It won't happen. Certainly not to me, you say to yourself! In the
process of denying it, we feel able to overcome it. Even in situations such as
war, natural disasters and calamities, where a hypothetical possibility may be
transformed into an imminent reality, we still cling to the belief that ‘no, this
will not happen to me, others may die, not me’. Human activity – activity
designed largely to avoid the fatality of death, to overcome it by denying in
some way that it is the final destiny for man. Denial fosters the belief that we
shall somehow, by some means (fair or foul and as yet unknown) give death a
slip and live forever. We assume various forms of beliefs: eternal life in terms
of rebirth and reincarnation, some form of life after death, resurrection, the day
of reckoning, the Armageddon, and such other comforting palliatives. The
scientifically oriented individuals might pin their hopes on heart, kidney, and
liver transplants and other forms of spare-part surgery, including cloning, and
the handing over of one's body to a new breed of scientists known as
‘cryonicists’, until such time the elixir of life is discovered and the body is
restored to life. Denial of death has haunted humanity from ancient times to the
present. It is not inborn, nor instinctive, nor is it located in the unconscious at
birth. Newborn babies, infants, and toddlers too have no awareness of death.
The concept filters into our consciousness through the process of socialization.
As we grow up we realize that we are all destined to occupy but a limited
number of years of our life on earth, and then like our forefathers we too shall
die – and be forgotten, or in the classic words of Hemingway, descend into
nothingness. As the idea takes firm root in our mind it becomes too painful to
bear and is repressed into our unconscious.
However, Rosenblatt (1997/2003) points out, several small societies dotted
around the world where the passing away of a person is celebrated. There are
other notable exceptions too to the universal fear and denial of death: suicides,
euthanasia, martyrdom, and a willingness to kill and even die for one's beliefs.
The undertakers and the embalmers spare no effort in the process of what is
referred to as the ‘sanitization’ of the body. The body is carefully washed, dried,
and perfumed, all the gases and other foul and smelly remains are carefully
removed from the body, any disfigurements that may have occurred prior to
death are smoothed over, the pale bloodless face is painted and made up to look
pink and rosy, the body is dressed up in fine clothes and placed in an expensive
mahogany casket with soft silk linings. The ugliness of death is transformed
into the beauty of life. One might even venture to suggest that some ‘life’ is
injected into death in order to make it more ‘acceptable’. The dead are made to
resemble the living – denial carried to its last final detail.
Rituals do not play an important role in secular funerals, and in that sense are
‘cut and dried’. The secularists, having freed themselves from the ‘trappings’ of
the Church, its sermons, its blessings of reunion with God, in heaven, dangers
of purgatory, the fires of hell, have also dispensed with the rites and rituals,
including the wearing of black from their funerals. According to the great poet,
T. S. Eliot (1948), it is important to visualize a continuing relationship of the
living with the dead. This can only be attained through a pattern of rituals,
which are extensions into the modern world of dogmas that remain unaltered
from the past.
Rituals serve extremely important functions, a few of which may be
summarized as under:
• To ensure that the dead are in fact dead; to ensure that they stay dead; and to
‘carry the members of the family through their dealings with grief’
• Rituals confirm and reinforce the reality of death. There is nothing like a
corpse to ‘drive home’ the reality of death. Historically, that was one reason
family and friends prepared the body for rituals (Rando, 1984).
• Rites and rituals legitimize social order and uphold social institutions.
• Rituals allow the grieving to say their ‘goodbyes’ in their own unique,
idiosyncratic ways.
Hindu funerals: Under the guidance of the family priest, the family members
perform all the rites and rituals related to the handling of the corpse. A Hindu,
as is common knowledge, is not placed in a coffin; he or she is carried on a bier,
which is often assembled at home by experienced relatives and family members.
After the body has been washed, anointed, scented, dressed in a white cotton
shroud, it is placed on the bier. The body is fastened with coir rope and is
bedecked with seasonal flowers. The family priest performs the required rites
and rituals. At his signal, the male family members invoking in unison the
names of the Hindu gods, lift the bier, and gingerly make their way out of the
house, where the rest of the mourners await them. The women watch, cry, weep,
wail, but do not generally participate either in the washing and the anointing of
the corpse or in its transportation. Women part from their loved one at the
threshold of their house. In the past, women were prohibited from entering a
crematorium, but in recent years the situation has changed and women are
permitted to enter, although the final rites, namely lighting the sacred flame
with which the body is set alight, the sacred perambulations around the corpse,
are still performed by men.
It is expected that the relatives – close or distant – regardless of how far away
they may live from the family of the deceased, upon being notified will turn up
for the funeral. It is an integral part of Hindu and Islamic religion that funerals
take place within 24-hours after death. Only in exceptional cases – when post-
mortems are involved, or when mourning relatives live abroad and are unable to
arrive on time – that funerals can be delayed. After the funeral, the close
relatives are expected to stay with the bereaved family until the final religious
ceremony as dictated by custom is performed (Laungani, 1997b). It is of course
incumbent upon the family members to make all the living-in arrangements for
their funeral guests. In addition to the house-guests, a stream of daily visitors
flocks in to offer their support. Mourning and bereavement, as can be seen, is
not a private and exclusive family affair as it is in the West. It is communal. For
a family of moderate or less than moderate means, it can also be very expensive.
Grief and sorrow are expressed openly, publicly, without embarrassment. Not
only one must grieve, but one must be seen and heard to grieve. During the 12
(or 13) days of mourning, grieving, crying, and wailing occurs with unfailing
regularity.
The aged parent often refuses medication and ignores any advice given by the
physician who examines him or her upon arrival at the ashram. The person has
come to die, not to be treated. Justice (1997), in his investigations, found that
the person soon after arrival stops eating, and within a few days, nature, as it
were, takes its own course and the person dies. No guilt, no shame, no stigma is
attached to the relatives of the person who has chosen to die in this manner.
This form of death is seen as ‘a good death’ – a fitting end to one's life. A good
death also occurs when a Hindu dies at the ‘right’ time (kal mrityu) and at the
right place. To determine the auspicious time of death, Hindus often seek
guidance from astrologers. The fact that a person may die before his or her
predetermined life span may be due to the person's bad karmic actions. A bad
death is referred to as akal mrtyu.