Module 6
CWTS 1
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Republic of the Philippines
POLYTECHNIC UNIVERSITY OF THE PHILIPPINES
College Department
Lesson 1: Value of knowing one’s identity and self-worth
Chapter 7 : Self awareness
Week no: 16
Introduction :
Our sense of identity has to do with who you think you are and how you perceive
yourself. It's about how you define yourself. Self-esteem is how you value yourself. It has to do
with your sense of self-worth and is often based on comparisons with others. Understanding
one’s self is a key to happiness as one would be able to identify his weaknesses and
strengths thus, enabling him to undergo self-improvement. The great philosopher,
Aristotle believes that knowing and understanding oneself can lead to the true
knowledge. True knowledge is finding meaning to one’s existence, searching the path in
his direction and aiming to reach his destination. Chances are, you’ve heard of the
many, many “self-” words. There’s self-esteem, self-compassion, self-acceptance,
self-respect, self-confidence, self-love, self-care, and so on. There are so many
words to describe how we feel about ourselves, how we think about ourselves, and
how we act toward ourselves. It’s understandable if they all start to blend together
for you; however, they are indeed different concepts with unique meanings, findings,
and purposes.
Objectives :
After successful completion of this cycle, you should be able to:
Understand oneself better and express one’s own idea about the meaning of
self concept;
Identify his needs that can help him to discover more about himself. Express
what his needs are, his feeling of satisfaction can affect the fulfilment of
potentials within the limit of his capability.
Course Materials:
“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power. If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich.” and
“The cost of not following your heart, is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.” ~ J.
Paulsen.
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Why is it important to know your self worth?
Self-esteem refers to a person's beliefs about their own worth and value. It also has to
do with the feelings people experience that follow from their sense of worthiness or
unworthiness. Self-esteem is important because it heavily influences people's choices and
decisions. It is the extent to which our self-evaluation is favourable or unfavourable.
Self-esteem is related to many forms of behaviour. Persons who have high self-esteem
seem to report fewer negative emotions and less depression. They can handle stress and
experience fewer negative health effects. They are less susceptible to influence, more confident
of achieving their goals. While high self-esteemed individuals accept criticism constructively, the
low self-esteemed individuals seem to be easily affected with negative feedback and feel
unworthy and affected.
Seven Signs You Know Your Value and Self-Worth
1. You have positive self-esteem.
You believe in and like yourself. Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or
abilities. You are comfortable with who you are — your weight, height, and everything that
makes and represents you. You are confident in the work you deliver and your sense of
professionalism. You like and have a great relationship with people. I think that without positive
self-esteem it would be difficult to know your value.
2. You recognize the difference you make.
When you know your value, you will confidently approach a negotiation with full belief in
your knowledge, skills, and experience and the difference you can make. For example if you
help a client introduce a new process within their organisation, you are not too consumed by the
process used but in how much they have benefited. Have they had an increase in sales or
productivity or have they saved money? Or it might be that you’re the main carer for a disabled
or elderly relative and your presence and support is invaluable.
3. You see yourself as a peer.
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In any given situation, knowing your value means feeling that you are an equal with
anyone you interact with: clients, bosses, colleagues, or friends. You are not a supplicant. Nor
do you feel privileged to be with someone or to work in a particular type of organization. You
have a personal sense of value and deservedness and assert yourself as an equal in personal
and business relationships.
4. You do not undercharge for your services.
Quite often out of fear of losing business or the desire to win more business, people will
undercharge for their services. This is a classic situation where they end up doing much more
than they’re paid to do. But, somehow, in a desire to prove themselves, these people still feel
that they are not doing enough in relation to how much they are being paid. This can set a
precedent which could be hard to remove. I recall many years ago driving to a client site and
deep inside I was unhappy and annoyed. This was because I was hugely undercharging and
unhappy with myself for continually doing so.
5. You are clear about your values.
You know your boundaries. You are clear about what is acceptable behavior, how you
like to be treated and spoken to, and you have the courage to speak out when necessary. You
don’t need external validation to prove your value — instead, you have an internal compass of
what is right and wrong.
6. You are engaged in work that is exciting and fulfilling.
When you are involved in work that is fulfilling as well as financially rewarding, you are
more inclined to work with even greater commitment. I believe that when you love what you do,
you are prepared to do more and to become more.
7. You believe that you are good enough.
When you pitch for new business, you believe that you have sufficient experience and
have the qualifications, case studies, and testimonials to back them up. You don’t need another
certification, course, degree, or further experience for validation before you feel you are good
enough. You simply are.Some of these indicators may resonate with you and others may not,
but, in my view, being clear about your value leads to a greater sense of clarity and confidence
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about who you are and what you stand for. This can be in your personal life as well as in
business. This confidence will be reflected in how you interact with people, deliver your service,
and in the fees you charge or the salary you earn. People who are confident and believe in
themselves stand out.
Read:
National Service Training Program with Common and Specific Modules
By: Rogelio I. Espiritu, Maria Rosario E. Monce, Madeleine M. Co, Jayme C. Ignacio and
Katherine C. Guevarra
Activities / Assessment :
Make an evaluation of yourself by answering the following questions and write it in a narrative
form.
1. Who am I?
2. What are my strengths and weaknesses?
3. What are my goals and aspirations in life?
4. How can I achieve or maintain high self-esteem?
5. Can I be a self-actualized person? If yes, how? If no, Why?
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Republic of the Philippines
POLYTECHNIC UNIVERSITY OF THE PHILIPPINES
College Department
Lesson 2: Strategy in responding to emotional challenges
Chapter 7 : Self awareness
Week no: 17
Introduction :
What is Emotional Challenges? They are not always easy to understand or cope with.
They can affect you and those around you in different ways, your ability to take in and accept
information, how you adjust to the changes that are happening, and how you make decisions.
Some feelings are related to sadness. Some feelings are a result of physical discomfort or
maybe pain. It will help if you can try to recognize what is causing the feelings. Your health
professional can help with pain and any symptoms. However, if you can't function you should
seek help. A sense of loss or spiritual pain can create intense feelings. You may never have felt
anything like this. Talking with someone loved and trusted is helpful. When you are very ill it can
also help you to focus on and appreciate the important things in life. This could be spending
time with family and friends. This may be the time to do the things that you have always had
planned. Being able to talk about what you are feeling, and your hopes and fears, can be helpful
for many people.
Objectives :
After successful completion of this cycle, you should be able to:
Develop awareness of some strategies in responding emotional challenges;
Identify moral values that can contribute in creating standard that would form an
individual’s behavioral values.
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Course Materials :
Many people even report experiencing profound personal growth after difficult periods in
their lives. But this period of growth only occurs when the negative emotions are dealt with in a
healthy way. Rather than getting caught up in the suffering (“I can’t stop going over what I did
wrong”) or trying to mask the feelings (“I just try to push it out of my mind”), a responsible and
productive way to deal with negative emotions is to accept them as a natural human response
to pain. When you find yourself struggling with a difficult emotion, try one of these strategies:
1. Drop the thoughts you are telling yourself about the situation and turn your
awareness toward your body. What does this emotion feel like in your forehead, chest,
gut, or legs? You don’t have to change any of the sensations; simply notice the energy
of the emotion in your body. If you find yourself getting caught up in a sensation (“I don’t
like the way this feels!”), take a few deep breaths before turning your attention, in a
nonjudgmental way, back to the body. Try to maintain a feeling of gentleness and
kindness toward yourself.
2. Write out your feelings in a journal or notebook. Expressive writing has been
scientifically shown to benefit trauma survivors, helping them to make sense of and
accept their experiences. Putting emotions on the page can also trigger insight or a path
of analysis that may not have manifested internally.
3. Share your experience with a trusted friend. If writing doesn’t appeal to you, talking
through your feelings with someone else can provide another opportunity to express
yourself honestly and openly. The buffer of social support also increases feelings of
confidence and trust, which help offset negativity.
4. Think about the suffering of others. Painful emotions like fear, grief, or anger all have
a claustrophobic effect—they can make you feel as if your suffering is unique to you.
This feeling of alienation only intensifies the pain. But by contemplating the fact that
whatever it is you’re feeling right now has been felt by millions of others at some point in
their lives, you give yourself a break from the isolation of your own experience.
Reflecting upon shared suffering also boosts your compassion, which has been proven
to produce greater positivity and more meaningful connections with others.
5. Exercising.Regular exercise can have a profoundly positive impact on depression,
anxiety, and more. It also relieves stress, improves memory, helps you sleep better, and
boosts your overall mood. It promotes chemicals in the brain that improve your mood
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and make you more relaxed. Specifically, the brain releases feel-good chemicals called
endorphins throughout the body.
6. Meditation. In meditating, which is the practice of focused concentration, bringing
yourself back to the moment over and over again, actually addresses stress, whether
positive or negative." Meditation can also reduce the areas of anxiety, chronic pain,
depression, heart disease and high blood pressure.
7. Therapy. If you have more than one issue or fear, you can repeat this sequence to
address it and reduce or eliminate the intensity of your negative feeling. Identify the
issue, In order for this technique to be effective, you must first identify the issue or fear
you have. This will be your focal point while you’re tapping. Focusing on only one
problem at a time is purported to enhance your outcome. Test the initial intensity, After
you identify your problem area, you need to set a benchmark level of intensity. The
intensity level is rated on a scale from 0 to 10, with 10 being the worst or most difficult.
The scale assesses the emotional or physical pain and discomfort you feel from your
focal issue. The setup, Prior to tapping, you need to establish a phrase that explains
what you’re trying to address. It must focus on two main goals: acknowledging the
issues and accepting yourself despite the problem. The common setup phrase is: “Even
though I have this [fear or problem], I deeply and completely accept myself”. You can
alter this phrase so that it fits your problem, but it must not address someone else’s. For
example, you can’t say, “Even though my mother is sick, I deeply and completely accept
myself.” You have to focus on how the problem makes you feel in order to relieve the
distress it causes. It’s better to address this situation by saying, “Even though I’m sad my
mother is sick, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Tapping sequence. The tapping
sequence is the methodic tapping on the ends of nine meridian points. There are 9 major
meridians that mirror each side of the body and correspond to an internal organ.
karate chop (KC): small intestine meridian
top of head (TH): governing vessel
eyebrow (EB): bladder meridian
side of the eye (SE): gallbladder meridian
under the eye (UE): stomach meridian
under the nose (UN): governing vessel
chin (Ch): central vessel
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beginning of the collarbone (CB): kidney meridian
under the arm (UA): spleen meridian
After tapping the underarm point, finish the sequence at the top of the head point. While tapping
the ascending points, recite a reminder phrase to maintain focus on your problem area. If your
setup phrase is, “Even though I’m sad my mother is sick, I deeply and completely accept
myself,” your reminder phrase can be, “The sadness I feel that my mother is sick.” Recite this
phrase at each tapping point. Repeat this sequence two or three times. Test the final intensity,
At the end of your sequence, rate your intensity level on a scale from 0 to 10. Compare your
results with your initial intensity level. If you haven’t reached 0, repeat this process until you do.
Read:
National Service Training Program with Common and Specific Modules
By: Rogelio I. Espiritu, Maria Rosario E. Monce, Madeleine M. Co, Jayme C. Ignacio and
Katherine C. Guevarra
Activities / Assessment :
Listed below are human virtues.
a. Patience
b. Simplicity
c. Modesty
d. Generosity
e. prudence
Using these virtues, how would you be able to practice and apply them to be of better service to
other?
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Republic of the Philippines
POLYTECHNIC UNIVERSITY OF THE PHILIPPINES
College Department
Lesson 3: Importance of emotional soundness in preparation for community leadership
Chapter 7 : Self awareness
Week no: 18
Introduction :
Business savvy, analytical skills, experience, and vision are all traits often associated with
the best executives and or community leaders. However, an overlooked quality found in the most
successful leaders is perhaps the most critical: emotional soundness. An emotional soundness
(sometimes referred to as EQ or EI) is the ability to comprehend, control, and develop your own
feelings, while also being able to understand and manage others’ feelings. It goes beyond the
administrative nuts and bolts of being a great leader and emphasizes how your emotions affect
others and how you can use that knowledge to create positive outcomes — both personally and
with the people you manage.
Objectives :
After successful completion of this cycle, you should be able to:
Define emotional soundness and community leadership;
Assess and plan the community outreach activities based on the core values of
community leadership.
Course Materials :
Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t
know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as
one problem was solved, another one soon followed.
Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.
Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground
coffee beans in the third pot.
He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and
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impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.
After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a
bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you
see?”
“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.
“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her
to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked
her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.
“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.
He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the
boiling water.
However, each one reacted differently.
The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.
The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling
water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.
However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they
changed the water and created something new.
“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are
you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “
Moral:In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what
happens within us.
Which one are you?
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The emotional soundness approach is something of a radical departure from the
traditional leadership style of “I say ‘jump,’ you say ‘how high?’” Leadership still requires an
authority over the team’s vision, but it must be intertwined with putting employees and their
needs first. This acknowledgment from leadership creates happier, more productive workers and
more effective managers, while also reducing employee turnover.
Leaders who display and nurture high emotional soundness inevitably become better
leaders. Consider these benefits:
Internal awareness: Making sound decisions requires an understanding of how your
feelings are affecting judgment, productivity, attitudes, and more. The best leaders are self-
aware of not only their emotions, but also their weaknesses and limitations, as well as their
strengths. For example, a manager who isn’t a good delegator but is self-aware about that
shortcoming can make a conscious effort to delegate out tasks more and trust the people
those tasks have been assigned to. Internal awareness isn’t eliminating emotions from
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decisions, but rather allowing them to work with rationality so they don’t subconsciously
affect judgment.
Self-regulation: Leaders who make impulsive decisions or fail to control their emotions and
lash out can quickly lose the respect of their subordinates. Those unregulated moments can
undo any rapport you’ve built — and getting it back is never easy. Emotional intelligence
breeds self-regulation that prevents the moments you wish you could take back.
Increased empathy: People with high emotional intelligence have a good understanding of
their own emotional states, which allows them to more accurately gauge the emotions of
others. For business leaders, this empathy places them in their employees’ shoes, thus
leading to more thoughtful and deliberate decisions.
Collaborative communication: Because they understand their coworkers, emotionally
intelligent leaders can immediately pick up the tone of the room or group and subsequently
speak with honesty and sincerity to match that tone or mitigate unresolved tension.
Less stress: Workplace stress may be unavoidable, but leaders with emotional intelligence
manage it better and don’t let it consume them. They also refuse to take any negative
feelings out on their coworkers or families. These leaders tend to enjoy better work/life
balance, knowing that the emotions of work need to stay at work (and vice versa).
Plenty of organizations with a seemingly endless supply of technical know-how and years of
experience continue to struggle because they lack emotional intelligence. These businesses also
encounter difficulty preventing employee turnover. Alternatively, companies with high emotional
intelligence enjoy many advantages, including:
1. Better team engagement: Teams that feel a negative attachment — or no
attachment at all — to team leaders or their teammates disengage and, therefore,
fail to capitalize on the inherent benefits of working as a team. Emotional
intelligence acknowledges the team dynamic and gives everyone a voice.
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2. Improved company culture: Organizations often talk about how great their
company culture is, but without emotional intelligence, what you think your culture
is might differ from what your employees actually feel. Edgar H. Schein and Peter
A. Schein write in Humble Leadership: The Power of Relationships, Openness,
and Trust, “In our view, leadership is always a relationship, and truly successful
leadership thrives in a group culture of high openness and high trust.” Leaders
with emotional intelligence encourage stronger relationships and open
communication, which moves you closer to the culture the company likely wants
to achieve.
3. High performance-driven results: Trusted employees, whose emotions are
valued and who aren’t subjected the negative, unfiltered emotions of their
superiors, simply perform better — and more productivity ultimately improves the
bottom line.
These benefits all have something in common: The enhanced emotional intelligence
leaders have developed produces positive results in their employees. As Robert Johansen writes
in The New Leadership Literacies: Thriving in a Future of Extreme Disruption and Distributed
Everything, “If leaders are going to thrive in a future of extreme disruption, they must not only
manage their own energy, they must encourage, model, and reward positive energy in others.”
Read:
National Service Training Program with Common and Specific Modules
By: Rogelio I. Espiritu, Maria Rosario E. Monce, Madeleine M. Co, Jayme C. Ignacio and
Katherine C. Guevarra
Activities / Assessment :
As CWTS 1 students and community service provider, most of you find a great deal of
meaning in our accomplishments. By staying committed and focused on what is really important
to you, you will be better able to deal with the day-to-day challenges in the community. During
the time of this pandemic, how will you integrate emotional soundness in serving the community?
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