The Rational Male NOTES - SimpleLifeBalancing
The Rational Male NOTES - SimpleLifeBalancing
The Rational Male NOTES - SimpleLifeBalancing
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One day, I was talking with a friend about relationship dynamics between men and women. And, he sent me a
video about a “men” conference. A bunch of man together talking about relationships. The more they talked
the more I was intrigued. It surprised me how men don’t usually talk about those things. The guest speak
(Rollo Tomassi) ask and answer questions. His logic is very controversial, but it made sense. This lead me to
look at his work and stumble upon the 3 books: “The Rational Male”.
After reading Book 1 and 2, I feel that dynamic between men and women should’ve been taught to us very
early, so we know how to deal with it. I also feel that it’s not advantageous for women to teach men about it,
so they keep it quiet. Nevertheless, with the rise of Internet, nothing can stop information sharing.
Never apologize for your actions (stand for what you believe)
Personality:
Mindset:
Action-Active:
Notes:
(Have the man work to make her ideal relationship come true.)
Strategy: Build your tower and have women find you
Need focus on your goals. You say « no » to her for your goals , shows authority. Your goals become « the
other woman » she has to compete with for attention.
Before commitment, Women urgency for sex because they fear to lose the men from other competition.
Need to have the men’s approval.
Vagina = authority. Men obey women to-do list hoping women become as sexually active as before.
Upper hand: subtly let women know her sex doesn’t dictate your actions. Become best version of yourself.
Eg. Gym, look sexy, attractive to other women, increase competition anxiety
Pussy card: Don’t let her vagina be the authority of the relationship. Women need and want to be told “NO”.
(If he says “no” with the knowledge that he won’t get any sex, the sexual power is devalued.) + competition
anxiety
“Nothing is as simultaneously fear inspiring and arousing for women as a Man she suspects is self-aware of
his own value.” – Being a commodity women will compete for
Just be yourself BS:
(2) LTR women go from JustBeYourself to “I’m working on him” to be the men I want him to be
“We only perceive some as fake, trying to be sb they are not, when we have knowledge of their previous
set of personality. »
“When a women wants to fuck you, she will find a way to fuck you.“
Women enjoy the communication more than the information being transferred.
Genuine desire can’t be negotiated. The moment you tell your girlfriend that you will exchange a
behaviour/attitude/compromise for her desire, you fundamentally change her organic desire into
obligation.
(Ask women how to please her, if she explains it to you, it kills the genuineness And validity of you
becoming so.)
(e.g.: she wants you to be dominant, if she explains you how to do it and you do it. It’s not genuine anymore.)
If masculinity has to be explain to a man, he is not the man for her.
Women never want full disclosure. Communicate with your behaviour. Never overtly tell a women anything.
Allow her to come to the conclusions you intend. Self-satisfying for women when they think they figured
out a man based on her feminine intuition.
Social conventions to place women at the top:
(1) shame (« men are afraid of successful women »; shallow to not date single mothers)
(2) scarcity mentality in men (getting lucky with women when referring to sex) ;impossible to understand
women
(3) gossip to disqualify potential sexual competitor (she is a slut; he is a fck boy)
If men criticized women, women will say “he isn’t getting laid that’s why he is frustrated.” Women try to stop
men from logically analyzing them.
Women expect and can’t genuinely appreciate men’s sacrifice to make their reality true.
Ability to cut former emotional ties faster than man
Pluralistic strategy: depending on situation/environment women look for short-term and long term.
(Women are selective slut.)
“Nothing is more threatening yet simultaneously attractive to a woman than a man who is aware of his
own value to women.”
“Discomfort is part of understanding; truth is supposed to make you uncomfortable in order to inspire you
to take action.”
Set up date shit test: “how to pass women shit test if you date her because of her value or because you only
have her as an options.
Set a date: Her answer :“I will let you know” => You try again in 3 weeks
On the same day, she tried to change the time: “testing if you value your time”=> You say it’s 7pm or let’s
try some other time (value your time)
She comes late: you have to say something about it.
Mandarin:
抱抱? 过来给我按摩按摩。
想我吗?
小哥哥不满足. 人家生气啦
来吃我的巧克力腹肌
*摸摸头
终于到家喽、可以脱下衣服
可能有蛮多小哥哥来追你啊
别抱怨、抱我。
胸那么大、怕我的胸比你大
你喜欢男生对你做什么?哪里呢?
怎么偷你的心呢?
那么凶、讨厌、 吓死宝宝、
你吹的时候看不看对方眼睛
一直在床上等你回来
Say things with 2 meanings: 老司机、你有经验、 你做了几次呢、 (睡觉、洗澡、等等)跟谁? 合适你的口
味、练习撩* (聊天)。自己做吗、喜欢下还是上、玩具,声音/呻吟*
Punish her for bad behaviour: not texting 人家不开心、 快处罚
General:
Physical flirt:
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Book 2 notes: The Rational Male: Preventive Medicine
After reading the book, I feel Book 1 was more about general concept of “red pill” awareness. Lots of small
interesting topic.
As for the 2nd book, it’s more focus on different stage women will go through and how to deal with it.
Notes:
25-27 y/o
Most urgency for long term commitment
Her high SMV, best time to cash out on optimized alpha with providing
Indirect communication become direct (focus on certainty commitment, assurance of future security)
Epiphany phase:
28-30y/o
Conscious realization that their looks are no longer what they were in their prime years.
SMV decrease, harder to compete
** some can keep their looks until end 30’s or 40’s
Realize she need to “put the effort” to secure a man VS men readily offered themselves to her
Looks become less important, focus on long term provisioning criteria
Because not as competitive as before, invent a story: “I had enough fun, new me, serious me.” In reality, they
just look for the provisioning man
If long-term relationship early already, risk that they divorce because it’s the last chance to live a good life.
marry or break up
Direct threat vs genuine desire to change
True desire can’t be negotiated.
Attraction born on necessity
SMV decay
Beta male sexual peak
Provisioning capacity and status = important criteria
Good dad > good genes fathers
Situation: child support, alimony from divorce, single pregnancy
Problem with entitlement and self-preservation: year of feminism, pay check, promotion, gay bff
(suspicious of other man), anxiety being used for a fling,
Results: huge anti-slut defence
Think high value because of experience, maturity, accomplishment, financial stability
Nope, attractiveness decay over time
Look for marriage proposal and family
Other topics:
Men love:
Give Protecting, provision
Returned love, sex, respect, fidelity
No reciprocal love from women
Women: nurture and direct love to offsprings
Women love:
“It’s not that women are inherently evil, it’s that men’s idealism make them so available to being
betrayed, tortured and damned. »
Men need to provide and she will « love » you back. If you can’t fulfill her need, men blame their
inability.
Win for the women gg.
Men should be the main decision maker in the relationship.
Early education:
Equalism:
undoing of men: « weakness, vulnerability, is sold as strength. Submissiveness and compromise to the
feminine is sold as support. »
Equalism vs complimentarity:
Beta men think that if they stick to their provider role, women will give them sex.
Rejection:
Burden of performance:
Vulnerability:
Exposing vulnerability = act of submission, surrender and a capitulation to an evident superior.
Idealistic love, unconditional love
In the attraction and arousal stages, women are far more concerned with a man’s capacity to entertain her
by playing a role and presenting her with the perception of male archetype she expects herself to be
attracted to and aroused by.
Vulnerability is not game.
Curse of potential:
Dream killer:
“Women should only ever be a compliment to a man’s life, never the focus of it.”
Quickly handcuffs of monogamy vs develop into men of ambitions and passions that women naturally want
to be associated
Scarcity increases value.
Men not settle down until 30-35. Older we get, more valuable we become.
At 35, young+time+ freedom , you can go in any direction of your choosing without considering the impact
of your choice for anyone but yourself.
Power= the degree over which you control your own life.
Women want a man who other men want to be, and other women want to fuck.
Women want to be told « no », in favour to his ambition and passion.
1) set direction as authority + focus on his development
2) your passion become the 2nd woman she needs to compete with
Women = dream killers because men are too willingly to sacrifice their ambitions for a steady supply of
pussy and the responsibilities attached to it.
Frame is everything:
Game changers:
Personality is a flux. Who you are today is not who you will be in another few years.
At its root level, game is a series of behavioural modifications to life skills based on psychological and
sociological principles to facilitate inter-sexual relations between genders.
Idea we wish we had the knowledge we have now before. « There is always additional knowledge a man
can know even when he possess the highest level of knowledge.
Male experience:
Sex and testosterone “our lives as men center on our capacity to control, unleash, mitigate and direct that
influence.
“We’re all the same, but celebrate the difference.” Conflict
We know what’s hypergamy, but we will never have similar existential experience as a man. Women will
never experience life as a man.
Men and women can be in loved intensively but from their own individuated experience.
Midlife epiphanies:
Feminine matrix, responsibility should be uniquely framed in what best serves the feminine
Idea of midlife crisis man (40y/o)
SMV crossover: 36-38y/o = SMV peak , women try hard to not make men realized their value
Women needs him more than he needs women
Women shaming man in midlife crisis to trade wives for trophy wives, get sports car, recapturing youth
Crisis realized in his 20’s, 30’a women sold their strategy to him. Lived too long responsibly and need to
move.
“Sold off his true passion in favour of maintaining what others have told him was his responsibility.”
Other ideas:
“You don’t have to do what people say you’re supposed to do in a relationship – you don’t have to drop
everything for her, you don’t have to stop doing what you like and love and you don’t have to kiss her ass.”
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