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must be cultivated
MARRIAGES
A GREAT MARRIAGE
DOESN'T JUST HAPPEN
Marriage is one of the greatest blessings from Allah subhanahu wa tala. Yet, so
many couples have become stagnant. Many in fact have started taking this

blessing for granted or even worst despising it.

Allah reminds us in the Qu'ran:

"And when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will certainly give you more. But if you
are ungrateful, surely My punishment is severe.’” [14:7]

So is your marriage a source of gratitude or frustration? Great things never happen

by chance, and that includes a great marriage -- all great things must be
cultivated. So how are you feeling about your marriage and its challenges?
Are you tired of the same old advice: “be patient”, “pray more”, etc.
Have you become just roommates, working long hours, ending the night
watching Netflix barely speaking to each other?
Do you remember your dreams when you were first married? Maybe living in a
foreign country for a year or start your own business? But now all you have is
work, kids’ schedules, and a house you can’t seem to ever keep in order. How
could we drift so far from our initial vision of our marriage - from thriving to barely
getting by?!

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of marital issues3 MYTHS
Everybody wants the same thing: love, happiness, peace, and prosperity.
The problem is that we are inundated with so much information that we
are paralyzed before we can even take single a single step.
To make matters worst, a lot of information about having a happy
marriage is simply not true - otherwise we would see much more happy
marriages!
Below are three examples of conventional wisdom that are just FALSE.
Dwelling on these topics will only cause you anxiety and will very likely
not improve your marriage. So let’s save you time and effort and get
them out of the way:

Myth 1: COMMUNICATION

It’s a communication problem. Things will work out if we only speak more.
There are entire industries built around this myth from the “5 love
languages” to “non-verbal communication” and personality tests.
The truth is none of these are good at permanently solving communication
problems but more importantly, bad communication is nothing but a
symptom of a deeper cause of conflict and resolving any communication
issues will not address the CAUSE of marital unhapiness.
The real question is: what is hiding under our communication issues?

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Myth 2: RELIGION

We are having problems because we are not on the same “religious level.”
We’ve all heard the conflict of the husband being “more religious” than his
wife or vice versa. A husband wanting his wife to wear or take off her hijab,
or a wife being frustrated that the husband doesn’t pray, etc.
However, we all know how this ends. Even if the husband starts praying or
the wife wears hijab it just moves the focus to yet another religious issue
such as not waking up for fajr or not eating with the right hand.
Religious fault-finding isn’t even about religion as much as it is about
having deeper grievances, fixation on perception (what will others think) or
issues of control regarding your spouse. Instead of addressing these issues
they are masked in the “hollier than thou” route and focus on perceived
religious shortcomings.
If you are in this situation, know that even if your spouse became the poster
child of religious practice it still will not resolve the CAUSES of your conflict.

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Myth 3: HOUSEWORK

If only we split the house chores equally, we would be happy.

This one is a tricky one because we all know that the Prophet Muhammad
(PBUH) helped around the house: he hemmed his own clothes, milked his
goat, etc. That being said, it is not the equal share of chores that makes a
wonderful marriage, but rather, a wonderful marriage tends to have
balanced household responsibilities.
In other words, if every couple in the world split the chores perfectly
equally, divorce would still be rampant. Equal household responsibilities
does not CAUSE a happy marriage.
The truth is, if you think you are ‘one thing away’ from being happy, think
again. Allah states in the Qur’an:

"... Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they
change what is in themselves..." [13:11]
So what is the key of a blissful marriage? The key is in observing and
applying the wisdom of our beloved Prophet (PBUH):
"The Prophet was with one of the Mothers of the Believers when another one sent a
wooden bowl in which was some food. She struck the hand of the Prophet and the
bowl fell and broke. The Prophet picked up the two pieces and put them together,
then he started to gather up the food and said: 'Your mother got jealous; eat.' So they
ate. He waited until she brought the wooden bowl that was in her house, then he
gave the sound bowl to the messenger and left the broken bowl in the house of the
one who had broken it." [Sunan an-Nasa'i 3955; Hadith Sahih]

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SOLUTION

In the above hadith, we see that the Prophet (PBUH)

did not take personally Aisha's (RA) behavior. He did
not believe, like many married people do, that the
actions of his spouse represent him.
He knew her actions and her issues of jealousy or
insecurity were her own. So he did not need to be
embarrassed by it, angry at it or feel ashamed of it.
In fact, he helped his guests understand her behavior
by letting them know she was jealous.
The ability to have this level of self confidence and
awareness is what Islam teaches us to strive for. To
know we don't need to attach ourselves to our spouse.
That we are in control of our inner world so that it
reflects in our otter world.
Allah has clearly told us how to change the external
conditions we are experiencing. He sates in the Quran:
"... Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a
people until they change what is in themselves..."
[13:11]
If you want to experience the type of relationship you
want you must turn inward and examine what in your
heart is causing to your current experience.
Determine what exactly you want and then shift your
internal state to match what it is that you want. What
does looking inward mean? It means examining your:
Thoughts
Beliefs
Mindset

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asses your state
LOOK WITHIN

THOUGHTS
Everyday we think over 20,000 thoughts. But for most
people it is the same few thoughts repeating
themselves over and over again.
Ex- "Why doesn't my spouse make more time for us."
Result- By repeating this thought over and over I feel
frustrated, angry and lonely. Over time I become
resentful.

BELIFES
Ideas or opinions that we hold true and that we have a
vested interest in proving them right.
Ex- "I believe my spouse values their family's opinion
over mine."
Result- I look for and notice every time something
happens that confirms this belief and feel validated.
Then I am depressed that my belief is true.

MINDSET
The combination of your thoughts and beliefs form
your mindset- your attitude about the world and your
life.
Ex- "I'm not one of the lucky ones that has a great
marriage."
Result- This mindset limits my possibility for good
things to happen in my relationship because it is set up
to see and amplify the bad. After all I'm not 'lucky'.

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path to marital bliss
CREATE THE
RELATIONSHIP OF
YOUR DREAMS ON
PURPOSE.

The key to cultivating your dream marriage is shifting your

mindset. This is powerful internal work that the Prophet
(pbuh) guided his companions through. We can help you
apply proven Islamic principles (that you may know in
theory but haven't put into practice) to your marriage. Once
you do you will elevate you mindset, marriage and life!

If you feel insecure in your relationship and/or your faith

we can help you take the transformative leap from barely
getting by to THRIVING, inshAllah. This isn’t a magic pill,
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No more guesswork on what to read or what to work on
next. Just follow our system, do the work, partake in our
coaching and by Allah’s Grace you will not recognize your
old life because you will become a whole new person:
powerful, confident, loving, and most importantly
constantly aware of Allah.

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 ABOUT US

Zahra and James

Zahra Aljabri and James Faghmous, Ph.D. We have been married for 12 years and have
four wonderful children. Over 12 years, we’ve lived in Minneapolis, NYC, LA, and Norway.
We started 3 businesses together (one of them being selected as top startup by Forbes),
and spend 3-4 months a year traveling the world with our home-schooled children. In
2016, James left his high-paying job as CTO of a health institute to focus with Zahra full-
time on their spiritual awakening. Our coaching is the culmination of 12 years of marriage
and over 4 years of full-time spiritual work.

What we do
We coach you out of frustration, arguments and suffering and into the relationship of
your dreams. Our program guides you to not only make the mindset shifts that lead to a
loving, joyful and trusting marriage but implement it into your daily life. Our focus is on
*results* and our clients can tell you how their lives have transformed!

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