Masturbation, Tantra and Self-love, by

Margo Woods
[Bruce's comment: It is okay to be sexual. Sexual energy is not only beautiful
and valuable, but it's also a way to experience God, or Tao. This book
provides an extremely effective to experience this - to make love to oneself,
without shame. It is the key to healthy society and healthy relationships
between men and women. It is an alchemy that is needed to open the heart
and creates the love: not only the self love, but the love of any kinds.

If you do not have the open heart nor the willingness to experiment; or if you
are irritated by the idea of masturbation, please simply skip this page and go
back to the previous level. But I promise you that if you dare to experiment
following this book, the return will be miracle.]

"Some Statistics according to Kinsey's research in his book "Sexual Behavior in

the Human Male" (Alfred Kinsey, 1948), a true eye opener:- 35% of all
American males had sexual relationships with other males at some point in
their live; 65% of all females masturbate - and more frequently, as they get
older; 94% of all males had masturbated at some time in their lives, and that
the other 6% was obviously Baptist ministers who lied to save their necks;
Even at age fifty, over half of the males are all masturbating during the course
of a single week; Some respondents whacked off twenty-three times a week in
early adolescence; and even at age fifty, a few hardy souls were putting in two
dozen shots a month. "

"You cannot truly experience love without having experienced self love."

"We all have our favorite masturbation stories, and favorite almost-got-caught
stories. The wonderful thing about masturbation stories is that they give us
full range to our fantasy for. "

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"I cannot spot the difference between the act of intercourse and the act of
masturbation, except for the delicious presence of another person."

"If this is nothing else to be learned from this book, it is that self love - without
shame, with good humor, with a willingness to experiment - is the key to a
healthy society and healthy relationships between men and women."

"Love for the self can be translated into a means of achieving energy release,
spiritual growth, and a method of plumbing new artistry in thinking, feeling,
writing, and growing. It's an alchemy that is needed to open the heart and
creates the love: self love or any other kind."

"First, working with the sexual energy in this way helps the inner child to grow
up and to have more strength to break the parent-induced patterns. It also
gives him/her a sense of confidence, centering, and personal identity which
are necessary to become a whole person. Secondly, my experience with
opening the sexual energy in myself and others is that it is not a handicap in
relating to other people, but rather an asset. I have become more loving and
more powerful and more attractive. I have not been rejected on account of
my heightened sexuality, nor am I crazed or horny all the time."

"If you delay your orgasm and raise the energy up in your body, you will
eventually reach a level of energy at which orgasm does not bring you down.
And in the meantime you will benefit from the effects of that energy flowing
through your body whether you have orgasms at the end of your sessions or
not."

"The Sexual Revolution has begun. Everyone, or almost everyone, know it's OK
to be sexual. Human beings are sexual and passionate by nature, and it is not
difficult to remove the negative conditioning and allow the natural human
being to replace the conditioned one."

"Sexual energy is not only beautiful and valuable, but a way to experience
God.

"To make love to myself, to masturbate, and to stop at the point just before
orgasm, put my attention in my heart, and let the energy go up to my heart.
The exact point to stop is the point where I know that one more stroke will
make me come. "Just take your hand away, and let the energy go up to the
heart." After each rush of energy to the heart I was to resume masturbating,

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repeating the cycle, until there seemed to be no more energy, or I felt like
stopping. There was no prohibition against orgasm, only the requirement to
delay it, letting the energy go to the heart first. Delaying my orgasms in this
manner, I found, made them more intense."

"I exercise every day and make it a part of my life. The simple exercise has
proven to be a method of internal alchemy, a method by which I have begun
to make changes in my psycho-physical system and thus changes in my states
of consciousness."

The heart-opening experience: What I mean by that is, the experience of being
in love but without another person to be love with, "Pure Love." In other
words, I was in love with everyone and everything, felt totally at peace and
physically beautiful. I was loving and clear and loved. I became Love Itself. My
heart was clearly opening bit by bit. I became more loving, and more able to
express love to others, more patient, more open, and less afraid of other
people or their disapproval. I began to see my heart as a psychic organ as well
as a physical one. I could put my attention in my heart when talking to a friend
or client and know, in some inexplicable way, what they needed from me and
how to give it to them."

"I became more magnetic and more satisfied with the ease and pleasure of my
sexual experiences. It seems that the most important ingredient of sexuality if
that personal magnetism, that magnetic attraction. With it, sex is easy.
Without it, sex becomes a hassle and a chore. The masturbation exercise,
without a doubt, increases one's personal magnetism. I also began to see that
my vitality, my aliveness, and my enthusiasm were increasing noticeably.
Friends remarked how wonderful I looked, how alive I was. I began to learn
that I could direct the energy to any part of my body, not only my heart, and
began using it for healing, directing it to any place in my body that wasn't
feeling right."

"Work with the heart center first. For one thing, you will probably not be able
to generate enough energy to make it all the way to the head at first, but the
most important thing is that the heart is a great safety valve. If the heart is
open, even a little, there is no tendency to hurt oneself or others. Love wishes
everyone well."

"The problem that I see with many people who are taking this spiritual path is
that they try to work on the upper centers before they work with the body

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and the heart. Work on your heart first. When you start to feel yourself loving
the people in the supermarket and crying at parades you will probably be
ready to work on the other centers. One of the most interesting aspects of this
process has been that I have developed an unshakeable sense of identity and
Oneness about ourselves. This is the self love which is talked about so much in
books and workshops these days. Have you ever asked, "How?" when the
workshop leader said that it is important to love yourself?"

"The way of using the sexual energy produces self love more intensely than
any other exercise I have ever tried. **One learns to love oneself by making
love to oneself. I want to give you enough in this book that you can duplicate
all of the experiences of myself and my students and learn for yourself how
simple and easy and joyful sex can be. Love your body. Realize that what you
don't like is not only conditioned by a Play-boy/Playgirl image of what is
beautiful, but is one of the many ways you keep your body frozen and
incapable of transmitting sexual energy. In so far as you don't like your body,
you freeze your sexual energy. Realize also that you can change your body if
you want to. Take a long baths, relaxing, and washing yourself tenderly with
your bare hands. Give extra attention to the parts of your body you don't like,
massaging them gently and lovingly."

"As for the masturbation exercise, the only thing to remember is that it is
extremely simple - raising the body's sexual energy almost to the point of
orgasm, and instead of letting the energy go out into the orgasm, allow it to
come up in the body, up to the heart. It happens that, at the point just before
orgasm, there is a channel open in the body, and if you rest at that point and
put your attention in your heart, the energy which has been generated will
flow naturally upwards toward the heart. You don't have to do anything; it just
happens. Don't worry about what it feels like, or if it is happening, just do it!
Begin and adventure with yourself to see what your sexual energy is all about.
Rediscover the physical system you were trained to ignore. "

"If you have difficulty talking yourself into a masturbation session, or in

making love to yourself regularly, remember that you are conditioned away
from that activity. Take the position that masturbation is now your
meditation."

"Start your session by touching and loving yourself with your hands or soft
fabrics all over your body before you go for your genitals and other erotic

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zones. You may have an orgasm at the end of a session if you like, or you may
find that you come by accident, and that will probably end your session for
you. Men particularly will need to stop each round far short of orgasm till they
learn what the point of no return is for them."

"The idea that a man must have orgasm or risk physical pain is erroneous. It
certainly does not happen to men who are moving the energy upwards. The
biggest problem you will have with this exercise is not how to do it, because it
is extremely simple, but your own training against masturbation."

"The pleasure you experience will do more to work against your negative
conditioning about your body and your sexuality than anything else you can
do or think."

"I suggest you have a session with yourself every day, as a meditation, for
three months, and see what the results are for yourself."

"It is necessary to include a word about sexual fantasies. I can't imagine

making love to myself without fantasies. They seem to create the experience
for me. I suspect that much of the problem and lack of enjoyment people have
with masturbation, in addition to their belief that is wrong, is that they do not
use their fantasies. All of us have a potentially rich fantasy life. So go on with
your fantasies. They won't hurt you - not even the weird ones."

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