The Sex List
http://sexpressionists.blogspot.com
Purpose: This activity is designed to help assess which sexual activities you and your partner
would be willing to do in order to improve communication and relationship fulfilment.
Directions: Print out two copies of each list. Give one copy to your significant other. Complete
one copy yourself. Complete the list in separate rooms. The activities are randomly placed on
the list. If a term is unfamiliar, use a search engine to research it. Rate each activity on the 1-5
scale. After completing the list, compare answers. The more honest you are, the more effective
the activity will be. There WILL be discrepancies between different individuals. Also, resist the
urge to judge your partner for their choices. The more you trust each other, the better the
results.
For more information on this consensus scale, see the original post here:
http://sexpressionists.blogspot.com/2013/08/is-my-partner-kinky-method-to-assess.html
Sexual Activity 5 4 3 2 1
I would I think I I'm not sure I'm pretty I do not
love to do would like how I feel sure I would want to do
this activity! this and about this dislike this this
want to but would but may be activity.
give it a like to willing to
try. discuss it. give it a try
at least
once.
1 Masturbate in front of each other
2 Have sex in a car
3 Anal sex (giving)
4 Spanking
4 Kiss a member of the same sex
5 Have a male-male-female threesome
6 Have a female-female-male
threesome
7 Reverse gender roles
8 lick everywhere on each other’s body
9 Have phone sex
10 “Sext” each other
11 Watch you masturbate
12 Have you watch me masturbate
13 Read erotica together
14 Have sex in a shower
15 Have sex in a pool or hot tub
16 Watch porn together
17 Blindfolded sex
18 Have sex in front of a large mirror
19 Try having multiple orgasms
20 Learn female ejaculation
21 Bukkake- guy cums on partner’s face
22 Creampie- guy cums inside partner
23 Fellatio- Oral sex performed on guy
24 Cunnelingus- Oral sex performed on
woman
25 Analiingus
26 Sex to different genres of music
27 Bareback sex- Sex without condom
28 Sex with a condom
29 Face sitting
30 Skinny dipping
31 Partner fingers female’s vagina
32 Sex without foreplay
33 Foreplay without sex
34 Dry humping
35 Quickie sex
36 Have consensual non-consensual
sex (pretend rape)
37 Humiliation
38 Road head- oral sex performed on
the driver of a car
39 Have rough sex
40 Have sex in the wilderness
41 Middle of the night sex
42 Morning sex
43 Pretend one of you is a prostitute and
pay for sex
44 Give or receive a lap dance from your
partner
45 Go to a strip club together
46 Have sex in complete darkness
47 Have sex with every light on
48 Have one partner wear a wireless
vibrator and the other uses the
control; go out in public
49 Use an electric toothbrush as a
vibrator
50 One or both partners wears a wig
51 One or both partners dresses up and
pretends to be another person
52 One partner does a strip tease
53 Be a sex slave
54 Visit an adult-themed resort
55 Make a sex tape
56 Seduce your partner until they beg for
sex
57 Be seduced by your partner until you
beg for sex
58 Use household items as sex toys
59 Have someone watch and/or
videotape us having sex
60 Have sex in a place where there’s a
high probability of being caught
61 Use a double-ended dildo to
penetrate both partners at the same
time
62 Watch your partner pee
63 Have your partner watch you pee
64 Pee on your partner or have them
pee on you
65 Use whips or clamps on your partner
66 Have your partner use whips or
clamps on you
67 Have sex on a webcam with others
watching
68 Restrain your partner with rope or
tape
69 Do “69” position
70 Be restrained by your partner with
rope or tape
71 Use a vibrator during sex
72 Use anal beads during sex
73 Use a butt plug during sex
74 Have drunk sex (or while under the
influence of other drugs)
75 Play truth or dare or strip poker with
your partner
76 Play truth or dare or strip poker with
other friends/ couples
77 Have sex in a cheap hotel
78 Have sex during a lunch hour
79 Scratch each other
80 Watch other people have sex
81 Have sex in the same room as
another couple
82 Have sex on an airplane, train, or bus
83 Have sex in a movie theater or drive
in
84 Have sex in a public restroom
85 Use food as a dildo
86 Dress up in lingerie
87 Have sex outdoors in the rain or
snow
88 Use feathers to tickle
89 Use oil to massage
90 Get a couple’s massage
91 Get a massage with a happy ending
with the other partner watching
92 Silent sex in a room/house filled with
other people
93 Use Kama Sutra book to explore
different positions
94 Kiss passionately
95 Vaginal fisting
96 Anal fisting
97 Watch fetish porn together
98 Watch porn, act out scenes
99 Glory hole
100 Handjob
101 Footjob
102 Assjob (penis rubbed between butt
cheeks)
103 Give or receive a hickey
104 Flirt with someone besides partner
105 Group sex
106 Fellatio with swallowing
107 Rubbing penis between breasts
108 Pegging
109 Prostate massage
110 Sex in public with others watching
111 Snowballing
112 Role playing
113 Sex on a beach
114 Sex under the stars
115 Visit a sex/ swingers club, watch
116 Hire a prostitute together
117 Have sex in an expensive hotel
118 Have a simultaneous orgasm
119 Shave pubic hair
120 Have sex multiple times in one day
121 Lick or bite nipples
122 Flash partner in public
123 Flash strangers in public
124 Have sex in someone else’s bed
125 Have sex all night long
126 Have sex in a changing room
127 Use food with sex
128 Stimulate partner with hand under
table in bar or restaurant
129 Have sex where one person does not
move
130 Have a “threesome” with a blowup
doll
131 Use body paint
132 Wear rubber examination gloves,
give partner a massage
133 Masturbate each other with a string of
pearls
134 Play a board game but change the
rules to make it sexy
135 Sex via Skype or other webcam
technology
136 Take erotic photographs
137 Use hot wax
138 Order food, answer door naked or in
sexy lingerie
139 Have sex with another person while
partner watches
140 Have extremely loud sex
141 Hair pulling
142 Have sex on a balcony
143 Have sex in a tent
144 Have sex at a concert
145 Have sex in your parent’s house
146 Wear leather or latex outfits
147 Use ice during sex
148 Perform at amateur night at a strip
club
149 Take a sex class
150 Electrostimulation
151 Soft swinging
152 Have sex on a boat
153 Use a vacuum during sex
154 Anal fingering
155 Attend a swingers’ club, participate
156 Wear a ball gag
157 Use a cock ring
158 Teach your partner exactly how to
stimulate your genitals
159 Anal Sex (receiving)
