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CLINICAL HANDBOOK OF
Marital Therapy
Edited by
NEIL S. JACOBSON
University of Washington
ALAN 8, GURMAN
Uuvenity of Wisconsin Madical Schoo!
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Contributors
CAROL Mt ANDERSON, PhO Wester Poychintric Institute and Clinicy Unisersily
of Pitsburgh, Pitsburgh, Pennsylvania
ROBERT C AYLMER, EAD Lifeeyele Center, Newton, Massachusetts
BONALD H. BAUCOM, PAD Department of Psyehniogy, Unive
lina, Chapel Hill, North Carelina
ELLEN M. BERMAN, MD Department of Paychiaty, University of Pennsylvania,
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and Marriage Covel of Philadelphia, Philadephia,
Penneyleana
GREGORY BROCK, PhO Department of Psychology, University of Wisconsin—
Stout, Stout, Wisconsin
LAURA S. BROWN, PhD Private practi, Seattle, Withington
JOHN F. CAHALANE, ACSW Western Psychiatrie Insite and Clinic, University
of Pitshurgh, Pithuegh, Pennsylvania
LARRY L. CONSTANTINE, MSW Private practice, Acton, Massachusetts
IANETTE COUFAL, PhO Department of Psychology, University of Wisconsin
Stout, Stout, Wisconsin
JAMES C. COYNE, PhD Department of Family Maticire, University of Michigan
Medical School, Ann Arbor, Michigan
CHRISTOPHER DARE, MD _ Department of Children are! Adolescents, the Maucsley
Hospital, Denmark Hill, London, England
WILLIAM), DOHERTY, PHD Department of Family Medicine, University of ahora
Health Sciences Center, Oklzhoma City, OXishema
CELIA JAES FALICOY, PRD San Diego Family initets, ane Department of Pychiainy
University of Caltfonia, San Diego, La Jolla, Califomia
LARRY 8, FELDMAN, PhO Department of Paychiany, Loyola University Medical
School, Maywood, Ilinois
ity of North CatFRANK). FLOYD, PhO Department of Psychology,
Chicago, tikinais
SHARON W. FOSTER. PhO. Department of Pediatrics, University of Wiscoxsin
Medical School, and University of Wisconsin Hospital and Clinies, Madison,
Wisconsin
MARTIN GOLDBERG, MO Department of Pavehiaty, Univesity of Pennsyleania,
Iphia, Petsyhania, and Mariage Counel of Philadelphia, Piviadeipns,
LESLIE'S. GREENBERG, PRO Department of Counseling Paychology, U:
British Columbia, Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
BERNARD GUERNEY, JR. PhO Department of Human Development, The Penn
sylvania State Urivesity, University Park, Pennsylvania
ALAN S.GURMAN, PHO Departnient of Poychiatry, Univesity of Wiseon:
School, Madison, Wisconsin
RIUUAN HAFNER, MO Depactment of Pyehiatey, Finders Medical Cente, Bedford
Park, Avstalia
JULIA. IEDAN, PH Piychiatry and Behavioral Scienoes, Harborview Camymnity
Mental Health Center, University of Washington School of Medicine, Seale,
Washington
A.HOFFMAN, PhD. Department of Fuychology, University of Noth Carolina,
Chapel Hill, Noch Cavolina
AMY HOUZWORTH-MUNROE, MS Department of Psychology, Univesity of
Washington, Seale, Washington
NEILS. JACOBSON, PhO Department of Paycholowy, University of Wash
aile, Washinigon
SUSAN M. JOHNSON, PhO Department of Counseling Psychology, University of
Buti Columbia, Vancouver, British Columbia
MELVIN R, LANSKY, MD__Departatent of Psychiatry, UCLA Medical School, Los
Angeles, Califorais, and Brentwood Veterans Administration Medical Center,
Brentwood, California
HAL C. LEWIS, PhD Depattinent of Psychology. University of Denver, Denver
Center for Masital and Family Studies, Denvec, Colorado
E. JAMES LIEBERMAN. MD The Pamily Institute, Washinglon, D.C.
SUSAN . LEGERMAD, PhO ‘The Family Institute, Washington, D.C.
GAYLA MARGOLIN, FAD Department of Paychotogy, University of Southern Cal.
ifomia, Los Angeles, California
HOWARD J, MARKMAN, PRD Department of Psychology, University of Dens
Denver Center for Marital and Family Studies, Denver, Colorado
ANN L. MILNE, ACSW Private practice, Madison, Wisconsit
TIMOTHY |. OFARRELL, PAD Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical Schoo!
Boston, Massichwsets, and Vetesns Administration Medical Center, Brockton,
Massachusetts
K, DANIEL O'LEARY, PD Depactnent of Poscholugs, State
al Stony Brouk, Stony Brook, New York
linois Insitute of Technology,
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ston,
ersity of New York,
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DOUCLAS J. RESS, PMD Western Prychological Institute and Ch
of Pittsburgh, Pitsburgh, Peunayhania
DAVID.G. RICE, PhO Department of Feyehiatyy, Univesity of Wisconsin Medical
School, Madison, Wiseonsin
JOYK.RICE, PhO Dejatments of Educational Poticy Shalies and Women's Studies,
Univesity of Wiseonsin-Madison, Madison, Wiseonti
ALAN ROSENBAUM, PhO Departnient of Poychology, Syracuse Univesity, Syracuse,
New York
CLIFFORD J. SAGER, MD _Jowish Boatd of Family Services, New York, New York,
and Department of Psychiatry, New York Hospital-Comell Medical Center,
New York, New York
SCOTEM. STANLEY, MA Department of Py chology, Univers
Center for Marital and Family Studies, Denver, Colorado
THOMAS C. TODD, PhD Maseiage and Family Therapy Training Program, Bristol
Hospital, Bristol, Connecticut
ZIMMER, MEd "Private practice, Seattle, Washington
ic, University
of Denver, DenverPreface
$n 1978, Use wu of us were involved in a spitted debate that was published
in the journal Family Process. In that debate, we disagreed on the relative
merits of a behavioral approach to marital therapy. If asked, we are certain
that our colleagues would have assumed that we were not speaking t one
anather. No one (including ourselves at that time) would have predicted
that we would ever collaborate on a book.
How did we move from ideological advetsarics to co-editors in seven
short vears? One of us would like to believe that the other was a closet
behaviorist all along, and simply saw the light. The alleged “closet bchaviorist”
attributes the rapprochement to the other's personal analysis. While there
is probably no resolution to this debate, the reconciliation can not he denied.
This book is the result
In actuality, as we became friends and exchanged ideas over the past
seven years, we leamed that there were several common elements to ur
practices, despite rather fundamental diffezeners in ease conceptual ization
More importantly, as we continued to study, teach, and utilize marital
therapy techniques, we became increasingly sensitive to the commen de=
nominato:s and bottom lines imposed by aculely distressed couples seeking
therapy. Although differences in technique certainly exist between therapists,
it is possible to bring any group of experienced marital therapists together
and find much common ground, Most of this common ground arises from
work in the trenches. However disguised it might be by jargon which is
theory-specific, there. is a collective pool of clinical wisdom from which
experienced marital therapists drave
Unfortunately, it is hard to find this clinieal wisdom in the literature
Despite a growing body of articles and books on the research and practiceof marital therapy, there ate few detailed guides to clinical practice, and
even fewer Uat are comprehensive in their scope. This book is an attempt
fo veclfy this deicieney in the curent lilerature. Iti te fist comprehensive
suide ty Ure clinial practice of marital therapy
‘As ne explain in Chapter 1, the book includes five parts: “Major Models
of Macital Therapy”; “Emerging Models of Marital Intervention”
with Various Populaions and Relationally Defined Problems"; “Marital
Therapy and Selected Psychiatric Disorders”; and “Special fssues.” W'
exceplion, the contsibatars are noted authorities on their topic ateas of
focus, and they were all given an outline to guide them in their w 1g.
Although the oullines varied somewhat from section to section, they were
al] geared toward a focus on clinical issues. In particular, authors were asked
to discuss chatacecnics and attributes of good manta therapists, strategies
used fo overcome common clinical roadblocks, and examples of “bad therapy.”
We are delighted by the outcome. We hope that others are as well.
NEL 5. AcOBSON
Nass Cumnnn
Contents
Contributors
Preface
1
Marital Therapy: From Technique to Theory, Back Again,
and Beyond
ALAN S, GURMAN AND NEIL S, JACOBSON
PART I: MAJOR MODELS OF MARITAL THERAPY
2
i) Psychoanalytic Marital Therapy
is CHRISTOPHER DARE
3
f) Marital Therapy: A Social Learning—Cognitive Perspective
i NEIL S.1ACORSON AND AMY HOLTZWCRTHMUNROE
5)
}) structural-Strategic Marital Therapy
7 THOMAS 6.1000
29
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paprinrhiok
x =
eb (emer loth
5. S
ax Qhowen Family Systems Marital Therapy 107
ROBERT C. AVLMER
PART fl: EMERGING MODELS OF MARITAL INTERVENTION
6 :
Integrating Marital Therapy and Enrichment: ast
‘the Relationship Enhancement Approach
BERNARD GUERNEY, IR, GREGORY BROCK,
[AND JEANETTE COUFAL
{Prevention 173
Prat | MARKOAN, FRANK). HOW,
Sco, STANLEY AND HAL Wis
8
Divorce Mediation: A Process of Self-Definition
iy) and Self-Determination 197
ANIL MILNE
9
\{ Marita! Therapy and Family Medicine 217
\Wititana 5. DOHERTY
10
al couples Group Therapy 237
JAMES UIFBERMAN AND SUSAN B, LIEBERSLAN
11
. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy 253
LESLIE 8. GREENEERG AND SUSAN M, JOHNSON
%
PART III: INTERVENTIONS WITH VARIOUS POPULATIONS.
AND RELATIONALLY DEFINED PROBLEMS
12
RK Separation and Divorce therapy _
‘DAVID G, RICE AND JOY K. RICE
contents sill
13
‘Therapy with Unmarried Couples 301
ELLEN M4, BERMAN AND MARTIN GOLDBERG
14
Therapy with Remarried Couples 321
CLIFFORD |. SAGER
15
Sex-Role Issues in Marital Therapy 345
LARRY 6, FELD MAK
16
“Le Treating Sexually Distressed Marital Relationships 361
JULIA REIMAN
, 17
‘The Treatment of Marital Violence 385
ALAN ROSENBAUM AND K, DANIEL O'LEARY
18
Jealousy and Extramarital Sexual Relations 407
LARRY L, CONSTANTINE
Cross-Cultural Marriages 429
(CELIA JAES FALICOV
20
‘An introduction to Therapy Issues of Lesbian
and Gay Male Couples 451
LAURA 5. BROWN AND DON ZIMMER
PART IV: MARITAL THERAPY AND SELECTED PSYCHIATRIC
DISORDERS:
21
Marital Therapy for Agoraphobia a7
JULIAN HAFNERvp) 22
Strategic Marital Therapy for Depression
JAMES C. CONE
23
Marital Therapy in the Treatment of Alcoholi
THMOTHY |, FARRELL
24
Marital Therapy with Schizophrenic Patients
‘CAROL Mi. ANDERSON, DOUGLAS J REISS,
AND JOHN F CAHALANE
25
Marital Therapy for Narcissistic Disorders
MELVIN &, LANSKY
26
Marital Treatment of Eating Disorders
SHARON W: FOSTER
PART V: SPECIAL ISSUES
27
The Effectiveness of Marital Therapy: Current Status
and Application to the Clinical Setting
DONALD H, BAUCOKs AND JEFFREY A, HOF
28
Ethical Issues in Marital Therapy
GAYLA MARGOLIN
Author Index
Subject index
495
537
557
575.
597
621
639
651
Marital Therapy:
From Technique to Theory,
Back Again, and Beyond
1 ALAN 8. GURMAN
NEIL S. JACOBSON
Only two deeades ago, one observer of the marital therapy scene referred
to the field as “a technique in search of a theory" (Manus, 1966), for while
Prychotherapists were increasingly treating couples with marital problems,
there was litle conceptual clarity or coherence to their work. Manus's
assessment of the state of the field was provocative and largely accurate. At
that time, psychotherapy with couples was indeed a hodgepodge of unsy
tematically employed techniques grounded tenuously, if at all, in partial
theories at best. The only coherent theory of human behavior that had been
applied frequently to the clinical study and treatment of marital problems
was the psychoanalytic perspective (e.g, Mittelman, 1444; Oherndoxt, 1938),
and the only identifiable long-term, in-depth clinical project involving this
area of study (Dicks, 1964, 1967) that has had any cnduring impact on
comtemporary thinking in the field w2s grounded in object relations theory
Indeed, Manus's (1966) assessment 20 years ago of the state of the relationship
between theory and practice in marital therapy may have been an under.
statement, for while psvchoanalytic theory and object-relations theory were
obviously already at relatively advanced stages, there were few clearly developed
implications for clinical technique that had been derived from these sehools
of thought (Gurman, 1978, 1981) and then, as now, “psychodynamic”
conjoint marital thecapy regularly called upon technical operations that were
in no way derived from psychodynamic principles for understanding humai
behavior or conducting the psychotherapeutic experienc
Though marital therapy of the 1960s lacked a coherent conceptual
grounding, st did tot lack a history. Indeed, it had multiple, independent
i
Aan. Gama, Depart of fe
Nei 8. Fasluon, Depatinent of Pee7 AS.CURMIAN AND 5 JACOMSON
histories, Several historians have mapped the beginnings 2nd the evohution
of the field in great detail (e.¢., Broderick & Schrader, 2981, Curman
1978; Haley, 1954 Nichols & Fveret, 198%; Oon, 1970), and have even
traced the progress, of emerging ide and clots pact «ald
syed te teint eg Guan PN) A sn
the historian, so there is no single tale to be tld cf 298 Nichole
& Everett, 1986), Marital and family therapists are now guite clear on the
Virtues of the “double description” (Buteson, 1979) of relationships, throngh
which a more comples, and richer, arpreciation of a mart or fam
system may be genetated. Such a polyocalar perspective of “the” history of
tharitl therapy likewise commended tothe render, who may contult the
‘writings of the authors referred to earlier to distill his or her own meaningfa
therapy, and one which relates centrally to the rationale for why the present
volume was needed, involves the relations bet en marta therapy
ind “family therapy" (Gunman & Kniskem, 1979; Haley, 1984). The simple
the word "and." as i the preceding sewenve, itself grammatically lates
the core issue at hand: are “marital therepy” and “family therapy”, in fact
Uepaenble? Fhaley (1954) has provncatively argued the case against such a
distinction, sed largely on the ground: that “The dyad does sot se
be a conceptual unit on which theory can be built” (p. 3), ancl
ona dyad forces the observer to ignore the structure in whi
functions” (p. 5), that is, the broader stems of interlocking tia
which the dyad is inevitably embedded, including that of the clinical triangle
couple-plus-therapist ;
fi weet agree whith and disagree with the position soffected) hy Haley
1984). We agree (Gunman & Knishern, 1979 that “marital therapy” fs best
“conceived as a particular variant or subtype of faruily therapy. We do not
agree that a conceptwal and technical focus on the marital dvad precludes
J Sinica useful theory-building. AT mo-els of “marital” for “fanny” or
“individual”) therapy necessarily address the nature and meaning of the
relationship between the therapist and bis or hier patients because that re-
lationship, and the relationship between the therapist and each indlividnat
patient participant, is the vehicle and the medium through which m
specific therapist actions, that is, “technignes,” set the occasion for th
possi of deed change, The fst tht marl heaps epi conducted
ima triangular interpesonal arrangement \Guninan, 1985) does not, however,
reclude the stody of the manta dvad gua dyad. Indes, as we believe this
olume attests, there have been very comiderable conceptual and empiccal
Sdvances in the development of clinically useful theories of the matital dyad
since the time when Manus (1966) proclaimed his depressing assessment
| ofthe field. There now exist several coherent theories of me
4
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jeraction
1 SSABITAL THERAPY: BROKE TECHNIQUE TO THEORY 3
and dysfunction (see Patt 1, “Major Models of Marital Therapy,” and Part
U1, "Emerging Models of Intervention”), and within each of these theories, |
ly derived therapeutic techniques have heen developed and reined
Moreover, the application of these models to the treatment of both explicitly
relational problems (see Part IM, “Interventions with Vasios Populatr
and Relationally Defined Problems”) and to prablerns of adults traditio
defined in individual diagnostic terms (see Part 1V, “Marital Theapy and
Selected Psychiatrie Disorders”), has been made inctcasingly clear in the
last decade or less. In addition, several very important and clearly articulated
models and methods of marital ion im domains typically seen a
falling outside the purview of “cnarital themp;” e.g., prevention and en-
richment programs) have been developed both conceptwally and technically
In fact, therein lies the essential rationale for the need in the field of
family therapy for a volume which comprehensively adresses the application
of clinical strategies for working with couples. We agree with Haley (1984)
that exclusive oF predominant training in prychotherapy with couples dacs
nol adequately prepare neophyte therapists to work effectively with lirger
social units (the niclear family, the extended family, ctc.), We would also |
argue that exclusive training for clinical work with such larger social systerns |
does not adequately prepare therapies for effective work with couples (urnan,
1955), Beyond the issue of the training of neephyte therapists, we would
note that most psychotherapists who refer to themselves as “family therapists,” #
in fact, devote an enormous amount of their clinical time to work with @
couples, perhaps even a majority of their time. in addition, there isa large
constituency of clinicians in all the mental hea'th professions who ps: 7
as “generalists” and sper
Still, most texthooks om the theories and practices of fumily therapy po:
only very Kmited attention to elinical work with couples (c.g, Gurman
Kniskern, 198], Hoffman, 1981; Nichols, 198 Wolman & Stricker, 1953).
‘Thus, for both confirmed family therapists and neophyte family therapies,
as well as for the general practitioner of psychotherapy, there seemed to be
a need in the literature for a broad coverage of clinical interventions for
working with couples. Thus, this volume was conceived with the aim of
bringing togcther detailed specifications of treatment models, strategies and
teclonigues, and demonstrating how these approaches are grounded in theory
In keeping with this decidedly clinical emphasis, the two concluding chapte
(sec Part V, “Special Issues") on the assessment of outcome and ethical
2es in marital therapy also reflect this clinicel focus.
large portions of their face-to-face «lin
MAJOR MODELS OF MARITAL THERAPY
Part I of this Clinical Handbook presents detailed considerations of what
currently appear to be the dominant and most influential models of marital4 AS. CURMAN AND N.S NCOBSON
{ therapy, that is, psychodynamic, behaviotal, structural/strategic, and
| Bowens, Asin the chapters in Parts Mand til, on the treatient of explicitly
relitional problems, anud on the marital treatment of pyychiatric disorders,
the aim in Part vas to articulate the direct linkages between theoretical
models of marital rolationships and strategies of mtervention. Each author
was asked to addres the following issues:
1. The theoretical model of marital distressdysfunetion;
2. The theory of therapeutic change:
a. rationate for how the treatment approach follows from
of distiess
b, overall stategy for bringing about relationship chan,
agnostiolusessment procedures, typical goals, typical
therapy sessions, hypothesized active ingrediewts of the
3. Specific techniques (including discussion of obstacles to successful
treatment and how they are deat with, and limitations and contsa-
indications of the approach),
4. The tole of the therapist (including discussion of typieal technical
exons}, and
5. Common significant clinical issues (eg.. working with “difficult
couples, managing resistance and noncompliance, handli
rarital distress, the role and use of individual sessions andiot
therapeutic adjuncts, termination)
While each author of the chapters in Pact 1 is firmly committed to a
specific theoretical model, there emerges in this section as a whole, a most
fascinating pattern. Each of these major models is shown cleatly to be
sufficiently concepually coherent and flexible to be able to inensporate
effectively both specific treatment techniques and therapist stances that are
typically associated with allemative models. Thus, for example, Dare (Chapter
2) provides a rationale for the use of both directive and paradoxical techniques
in the context of couples therapy firmly rooted in psychoanalytic thinking:
within a social Teaming/cognitive (“beltavioral”) framework, Jacobson and
Holizworth-Mussros (Chapter 3) emphasize the importanie of the therapist's
capacity to provide “emotional nurturance” to couples, and to remain attuned
to the need far attention to “individual” issues; Todd (Chapter 4) offers solid
conceptual justification for the inclusion of communication and problem-
solving shill training in sthuctoral’strategie therapy, and Aylmer (Chapter 5)
rakes clear that couples therapy from a Bowenian perspective can comfortably
incomporate both direct and indirect therapist interventions, and can be
responsive to both the short-term crisis management needs of couples, and
to longer-term desires for change in multigencrationa! family systems. The
repeated theme in Section Hof technical flexibility paired with conceptual
integrity is consistent with recent explicit efforts in the ficld to integrate
apparently incompctible theories and methods of treatment (c.g.. Feldinan,
“1985; Gurmuan, 1978, 1981; Pinsof, 1983; Stanton, 1981), and, in our view,
we model
tructute
proach
1. MARITAL INERAPY: FROM TECHNIQUE TO THEORY 5
cust in the field to identify common
ilitating therapeutic change
signals the eommendabl
mechanisins and is 0
EMERGING MODELS OF MARITAL INTERVENTION.
A cleat exansple of such attempts to int rgent views of intimate
relating, and to integrate elinieal concem with bath the intapsychic/afetive
and interpersonal interactional dimensions of marital telatonships, is provided
by Greenberg and Johnson (Chapter 11), While their chapter ilusteates well
such newly emerging interests in the field towaed integration, it algo sighals
what appears to be a genuine re-emergence of interest in es
and methods of relationship change. Likewise, the Liebermans
ti
contributios
on group couples therapy (Chapter 10) rekindles our awareness of the patency
TER methods of Working with couples
In addition to those two chapters, which reconnect vs to certain views 7
lect *
and aporagtes thal have fot
in the field, Part I also presents detailed discussions of four more recentl
the boundaries of “rnarital therapy,” yet which, from the perspective of
public health potiev, reflect the iced forthe development of clear melts
of professional involvement. tmportandly, recent developments in all four
of these domains (entichment: Cuerney, Brock, & Coufal, Chapter 6 pre=
vention: Markman, Floyd, Stanley, & Lewis, Chapter 7, divorce mediation:
Milne, Chapter 8; family medicine: Doherty, Chapter 9) place a very strong
emphasis on empowering clients via education and skill taining. And all
four of these intervention models simultaneously addtess bath the resolution
of curreat conceras and the lowering af the probability of being at tisk for
fi is. Ik will be interesting to observe the extent to which the
educationa!~preventive emphases of miatital intervention models such as
to influence the practices of marital “therapy” in the years aficad
ely Eallen into a state of
INTERVENTION WITH VARIOUS POPULATIONS
AND RELATIONALLY DEFINED PROBLEMS
In our view, the scupe of marital therapy may be heuristically conceived as
comprising two major domains. The first domain is that which addresses
the application of various treatment methods te problems which are probably
consensually seen as interactive and interpersonal and constitute, more oF
Jess, the “standard fare” of marital therapy. The second domain, treated in
Part IV of this volume, addresses the application of clinical methods to the
treatment of problents that ate traditionally viewed in the mental health
professions as disorders of individuals,
Past IU includes nine chapters that may be soughtly grouped into three
ters. The first thee chapters by Rice and Rice (Chapter 12, “Separation
ch6 1S. GURWAN AND N.S. JACOBSON
and Divorce Therapy”), Berman and Goldberg (Chapter 13, “Thesapy with
Unmarried Couples"), ‘and Sager (Chapter }4.“Therapy with Remartied
Couples”) constitute what may be called the “coupling-uncoupling-reen
poling” cluster. Asa group, these chapters adds clin invoking
predictable and nodal events and peoresses in the formation, isolation
and modification of the emotional ane stractural honds of marriage.
‘What is especialy salient in cach of these chapters isthe explicit recosnition
of the fact that while couples stressed during any of thy
opmental transition share common dileinmas and issues, th
configurations of relationship difficulte
consequently, there ed for tailoring treatment interventions to different
types of couples’ needs, For example. clinical work with couples m
coupling-uncoupling-recoupling context probably soquites as much sustained
aention to the dynamics of individuals as any commonly occursing marital
problems, and requires especially carefully balanced attention and sensitivity
fovboth individial dynamics i suc aval dotnntcs
The sccond cluster of chapters in Part HL, including these by Feldman
(Chapter 15, “Sex-Role Issues jn Mar tal Therapy”), Falicov (Chapter 19,
“Cross-Cuttutal Marriages”), and Brown and Zimmer (Chapter 20, "Therapy,
Ieies of Veshian and Gay) Male Couple:”), aay be called, “the role of
values in couples therapy.” While the values of therapists and patients
‘operate in significant wavs in auy paychotherapy eneouinter Jacobson, 1983)
some problems brought to the
favo ways. Fist, inercasing numbers of conples seck help in zesalsing ean
which explicitly involve deeply tield personal values in areas such as x
role expectations and cultura) differeiies based on etlinicty, religion, ete
Second, while any presenting problesn has the potential tg eheit untoward
antitherapentic reactions from the therapist, especially in the form of coalitions
between the therapist and one partner against the other partner, some, such
as those involving issues of sex role identity and cultural identification, have
greater potential to do so than others, And Ws can
additional potential for complicating, and even f seablishment
of, a workingalliance with both memhers of a couple, when they are attached
to powerfully socialized values, Perhaps nowhere is this more fikely thar
when “straight” therapists work with gay male of lesbian cuuph
‘The final triad of chapters in Part Iil, by Heiman (Chapter 16. “Treating
Sexually Distressed Marital Relationship), Constantine (Chapter 18, “Jealousy
and Extramarital Sexual Relations”), and Rosenbaum and Q’Leary (Chapter
17, "The Treatment of Marital Violence”), may he calted, “problems of
passion.” These areas of marital difficulties are inked by the intensity of
in presenting problems in these areas, and may also be Titked
concurrently or sequentially in disteesed marriages. “Though not unigue in
this regard among matital problems, this triad of difficulties reminds us,
offen dramatically. that “relationship problems” often exist on a foundatia
of individual prychological conflict, and that explicit the
is have expecially great value sales in
macy
pis attention to
2. MARFIAL THERAPY; FROM FECHNIQUE TO THEORY 7
such individual conflict that predates the maniage is offen called for, in
addition to the attention that needs to be directed to current interactional
forces that maintain marital disharmony. As Constantine {Chapter 18) em-
phasizes in his discussion of the problems of jealousy and extramarital
relations, “Regardless of the therapis’s eommitmert to a ‘systemic form
individual dispositional factors need to be faker into account.”
MARITAL THERAPY AND SELECTED
PSYCHIATRIC DISORDERS
‘Constantine's view that a genuinely systemic approach to treatment necessitates
attention to multiple levels of psychological experience is fundamental to
the chapters in Part TV of this Tandbook, including thave by Hafner ‘Chapter
21, *“Mantal Therapy for Agoraphobia”), Coyne (Chapter 22,
Marital ‘Therapy for Depression”), O'Farrell (Chapter 23, “Marital Therapy
in the Treatment of Alcoholism”), Anderson, Reis, and Cahalane (Chapter
24, “Marital Therapy with Schizophrenic Patients"), Lansky (Chapter 25,
“Marital Therapy for Narcissistic Disorders”), and *oster (Chapter 26, “Marital
‘Treatment of Fating Dirorsen”). Bach of there problems haa been tzaditionall
viewed 2s largely. if mot exclusively, residing within individuals, both in
terms of their origins and their maintenance. Logically, then. psychotherapy,
for such problems has, in the main, emphasized the treatment of such
troubled individuals apart from the current interpersonal context in which
their problems are manifest. Contemporary clinical systemic theory, by
contrast, seems often to bypass attending to such problems as disorders in
their own right, or even to deny the existence of such “diserdets.” Since
four own view is that these problems involve genuine disorders which exist
apatt from, as well asin significant connection ith, relationship dynamics,
we requested that, jn addition fo the ines to be considered in the chapters
in Pact 1 (’Maior Models of Marital Therapy”) which were identified eatlicr,
authots of chapters in Part IV also addzess the following questions:
1. What is the usual definition of this problem?
2. How do relationship issues contribute te this (individual) problem?
3. How docs the (individual) problem contrite to marital discord?
4 What nondyadic factors, if any, play ax important role in either
the etiology’ or maintenance of this discrdex?
5. Are there limitations of a purely “ma‘tal therapy” approach ta
treating this problem?
6 other interventions (¢.g., medications) used in treating this
problem within a mar
ed therapy?
Perhaps the most controversial issue in the realm of systemically sensitive
treatment of psychiatric disorders is whether “individual” problems are func8 AS. CURMAN AND 5, ACORSON
tional for relationships, that is, serve functions in the marital system or in
other, lauger systems in which the marriage is embedded. Perhaps a moce
praginatically importaot variation of this question, and a conceptually mote
challenging one to consider, is not whether individual symptoms serve
expersusial funeons, but when do they do so? Posing the issue in’ this
way allons for the possibility (indeed, in our view, the likelihood) that (a)
some individual sytaploms are routinely, or at least often, interpersonal
functional; (b) some individual symptoms are never, or at least tacely, in
terpersonally functional; and (c} some individual symptonns ate rmose vatial
infeepersonally functional, Whatever the eventual status of evidence on Uh
matter may be, it is quite clear that, at least for the isatital and fsmily
treatment of soine individual psychiatric disorders, such as schizophrenia,
intervention not based! on the assumption of the functions of syraptoms 15
currently the preferred method of treatment (Gurman, Kniskern & Pinsof,
1986)
ETHICAL AND EMPIRICAL ISSUES IN MARITAL THERAPY
‘The field of marital therapy has clearly progressed in the last two decades
from one in which clinical techniques hungered for solid conceptual foun
dations (Manus, 1966) and, as this volume attests, now articulates wumerous
colerent theories of marital distress and treatment, and technical iunovations
vnith direct theoretical linkages. ‘Thus, it might be said that marital therapy
has gone from teclinigue to theory, and back again. In addition, marital
therapy has also gone beyond technical and theoretical innovation and
clarification, and aow has accumulated a substantial body of empitical
research (Gurman, Kniskem & Pinsof, 1986) which both documents the
efficacy, in general of (conjoint) couples therapy, and provides an em
basis for at feast some important and recurrent decisions thas must be made
in clinical practice, as Baucom and Hoffman (Chapter 27, “The Eillectiveness
of Marital Therapy”) show in Part V of this volume.
Marital therapists have also moved beyond attending to considerations
of teclinique and theory with increasing public confrontation ofthe cnotmously
significant and cotaplex ethical issues involved in the proctice of marital
therapy (see Margdlin, Chapter 28, “Ethical Issues in Marital Therapy”),
and Kaslow aud Curman (1985) have secently written in detail about ethical
considerations in mavital/family therapy research. These ethical issues touch
‘on virtually every aspect of clinieal practice by requiting the field's atleution
to such fundamental matters as the competence of therapists; the therapist's
responsibility to beth the individual partners in a relationship and tothe
relationship”; confidentiality and privilege; informed consent, and therapist
values. Undoubted'y, such ethical issues should, and in all probability will,
receive incieasing scrutiny in the years ahead. Indeed, one of the major
cthical challenges ir the field, that of our collective professional accountability
for the efficacy of tiaital therapy (Foster & Gurman, 1985), forms a direct
1. MARITAL THERAPY: FROM TECHNIQUE TO THEORY 9
fink between the issues considered in the final two chapters of this Handbook,
and therefore is ultimately relevant to all the theoretical and technical
matters considered elsewhere in
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3. Ness Yatk Plenum,MAJOR MODELS
OF MARITAL THERAPYPsychoanalytic Marital Therapy
CHRISTOPHER DARE
PSYCHOANALYSIS AND MARRIAGE
The ideas expressed in this chapter do not derive from a specialist practice
cof marital therapy. 1 am a psychoanalyst and child psyehianist, and in my
professional wotk my interests focus on the effort to identity a range of
psychoanalytic psychotherapies appropriate to a mixed practice of clild and
adolescent psychiatry and private consulting psychoanalyhe psychotherapy
That is, my practice is in two distinct halves. First, 1 work with children
and adolescents in a National Health Service facility die a university setting
of a postgraduate teaching and research hospital). ‘The second setting for
my clinical work is a private practice in which the main cefertal is of adults
who span an age range from young adulthood to midlife and who, for the
‘most part, request psychoanalysis or psychothera
rom the outset of my clinical practice | have been involved with the
development of a riguraus conceptualization of the psychoanalytic therapeutic
process (Sandler, Dare, & Holder, 1972). At the same time, I have been
strongly influenced by my attempts fo apply psychoanalytic conceptualizations
of therapy and personality to the spectrum of problems and motivations for
which help is requested in the Nationa! Health Service facility
Psychoanalysis provides a wide-ranging scope for the description of the
individual personality (Dare, 1981) and is a rich framework for the con-
ceptualization of individual development (Dare, 1985} and the therapeutic
process Sandler et al., 1972).
Cinapie De
Condon, England
Deyartncrt of Chien aad Alewcts, The Mauey Hsp, Denmae ill,
314 ae 2: POYCHOANALYNE STA THERARY 15
Nevertheless, after some years of training in pegchnanaletically based of the different elements ofa system are nat predictive of the rules governing
child psychiatry, | became convince that psychoanalytic psych the overall interactional organization of the system made up of the totality
addressed to a child or young person as an indivichial had ofthe elements. Psychoanalytic understanding of the individ al and systemse
applications within child psychiaiy, being effective in perhaps understanding of the marriage and family relationship can be integrated by
‘The inapplicabilits to the broad range oF cases does nat ster ig 4 carefn! distinction between the imtenor mental workings of the!
\% of refer
om an inability
to form a psychoanalytic understanding of the cases, which is always essential individnal as a description of the elements of the system and the curtently
and illuminating, but largely reflects the relatively high level of motivation impinging interpersonal contex* as the superordinate system,
and necessarily long time span that the therapy requites if i is to have a The inadequacy of the explanations of the mechanisms and dynamics
chance of being successful. These emerging considerations led me into the of interpersonal fone 4 a preconscious awareness, may be a reason
, ficd of crisis weatmients and conjoint therapies, The latter revealed a limitation why the most influential and prestigious psychoanalytic journals (e.g, Journal
[ of psychoanalytic theory in the conceptualization of interpersonal relationships of the American Psychoanalytic Association, International Journal of Paycho~
‘As Rycroft (1956, p. 62) has said, “. . the knowledge and theories that we Analysis, Quarterly Journal of Psychoanalysis) ate noticeably lacking in even
have about intertelationships between individuals... have never been ig Feferences to marriage as an important feauure of people's psychological
satisfactonly incorporated into metapsychological theory.” [beliove that the arch through th tiles and indexes of vohimes of tese three antes,
problem of incorporating a more thoroughgoing interpersonal frariework in the last 10 years reveals no articles on marriage, although there ate cop:
within psychoanalysis calls for the development af a farther supplement to seferonces to other family dyads; no extensive accounts of prychalogical
the “metapsychalogical points of view” |Freud, 1915) and that this additional atures or causations of marital relations; and only passing references to
framework can be supplied by general systems theory (von Bertalanffy, 1950), fact that marty ofthe peaple represented in the ease histories, 20 extensively
38 utilized by family and marital therapists reported, are married. The main psychological insights offered by current
It must be emphasized that this view of the current limitations of pychuaalyss, im the journals surveyed, is an inking. partner selection
psychoanalysis in providing fall theory of interpersonal and Ernily Rinetoning (object choice”) to earlier patterns of relations, especially mother-ch Md
is not intended as a destructive criticism but as a pointed reminder af the fother-child, and oedipal configurat
need for de1 nts in the theory and practice of psychoanalysis to take ‘There is a contrast between the “official” presentation of psychoanalysis
seriously the special features of interpersonal processes ae distr form in the printed litcrature and discussions with practicing psychaanalysts about
pychic paychology. tam drawing attention to a difference hebween their patients. Soch discussions make it very clece that, at least in the British
for understanding, on the one hand, the internal workings of a person's Psycho-Analytical Society, there is a strong acceptance of the intensity and
mental life, and on the ether hand, the smuckare of their persorsl nntually determined rigidity of the marital reltionships of the patients in
Tbelieve that some psychoanalytic writings (e.g., Blanck & Blanck, 1968 treatment. In informal clinical descriptions marriages, ike neurotic symptoms,
fail to make this distinction. ‘This is relevant not simply for the pusposes of ane seen as multiply determined compromise foumations, Confliets are seen
understanding what goes on between xeople, but, even more, for the fo exist between currently ego-syntonic object-re ated needs and relationship
ployment of effective therapy. A failure to take careful ac tendencies onganized around importations inta the current lie ofthe patient
distinction results in what I regard as c-ass attempts to apply psychoanalytic of elements of past relationship cxperienees. Uneonscions and p jour
treatment methods designed for the incividual to families and co motivations for marital choice are usually seen as distorted by, if not wholly
context and dramatis personae of a therapeutic endeavor shoud shape the determined by, the transformations of instinct-criven fantasies
qualities of that endeavor. The contrast bebween jaychoanalstic therapy for The links hetween marital object choice ard earlier object-related ex-
adults and that for young children shows that “orthodax” psychoanalytic periences are very important for my understanding of the current structure
practice is capable of encompassing this distinction. In the development of of marital relationships and contribute to part of my practice in marital
2 psychodynantic understanding of the couple, T have been most influenced therapy. These links are considered in greater detail later in this chapter.
j by other therapists who have made the transition from individual to conjoint
‘work but have not abandoned an appreciation of their psychoanalytic roots
feg., Dicks, 1967; Framo, 1982; Skynner, 1976; Whitaker, see Neill & SYSTEMS THEORY AND PSYCHOANALYTIC
Knicker, 1982), and by work from the Institute of Marital Studies in London MARITAL THERAPY
| Bannister & Pincus, 1965; Pincus & Dare, 1978)
According to general systems theory (€.g., Katz & Kabn, 1966: von Having said how important itis to integrate the psychoanalytic understanding
Bertalanffy, 1950), the sules that govern the individual separate functioning of individual prychological developmient, personality stretare, and ebjoct16 pane
choice. | must also esuphasize that there is actually only a relatively stall
body of literature om the application of systems thinking to the marital
system. Tor esample, in Puolino and McCrady’s (1975) comprehensive
volume on marriage and marital therapy. Steinglass (1978)
useful susnmary of sone principles of the application of he systems approach,
to miattiage, but he draws on very little work actually addressed to the marital
dyad as opposed to the general literature of the family ay a syvtenn (within
the general systems theory definition). Olson's (1975) and Gurman’s (1978)
Classifications of contemporary marital therapies place systems therapy along
side psychoanalytic and behavioral approaches as one uf the three major
groups, yet identify relatively few published discussions that focus on Ue
‘marriage using systems theory thinking.
From the point of view of this chapter, systems theory, as it is usually
mobilized in the theory of funily therapy, has implications both for the
psyeitoanalytic model of marriage and for psychoanalytic marital therapy
Fors an extremely
Marriage as a Transactional, Interpersonal Structure
A ystems orientation ersphasizes the need to see the couple as a reference
point in its own right and mot simply as an artangement of two separate and
wpatholegies. What goes on in the marriage,
hes or nol both partners are overtly implicated, must be considered a
fiough it were an expression of aspects of each partner, Each individual is
assuined and expected to have an investment in the attitudes. sctivitis,
expeclations, and symptomatic qualities of the partnes, rexardless of what
their conscious wishes and beliefs would suggest to the contrary. Each
individual is also assumed and expected to engage in behaviors, to take up
conscious and unconscious attitudes, and to modulate affects ane the express
of sexual fn ways that diminish the direction and amplitude of change
in their partner ard in themselves. That is to say, homeostatic negative
feedback mechanisms are coustantly brought into play. The couple will be
likely, therefore, to have long-term features, demonstrating the stabilizing
aspecis of these mechanisms. Systems observers, frum Haley (1963) onward,
have uoted the balance of complementarity and symmetry ina given marriage,
and at one time it looked as if i would indeed prexe possible to establish
13” of maztiage (Goodrich, 1968}. Although such descriptions of
1s of relationships from moment to moment are useful, they carely
seem relevant to an understanding of the sustained, persistent qualities of
a matital relationship.
Hierarchy and Control. 7. o«
Minuchin (1974) has clearly demonstrated and articulated the importance
of the hierarchy of power and control in the systemic understanding of the
structure of a marriage that is in the parenting phase, Stanton (1981), in
2: ISYCHONNALYTHC MIMRTAL THERAPY 7
an illuminating chapter on the applications of techniques that is akia to
Minuchin's approach, makes it couples without
jerarchy and conttol are nol given a central role. In"
my experience from cultures i which the husband is customarily
given rights t his wife carely come forward for marital therapy, 1
have wotked with couples in which one partner comes from a Hindu or
Muslin culture. In those cultures, the traditional pattem of marriage is one
of highly differentiated marital roles, with a balance of power and control
residing in the husband. This cultural tradition is incorporated in the gender
identity of the members of the culture, although it is opposed by values
sequited in adulthood, and is often in conflict with the expectations of the
spouse of North European cuttme, Psychoanalytic marital therapy seeks to
ore canfliets deriving fom the cultusal differences rather than fo establish
the hierarchy
children, concepis of
Boundaries
which are also so characteristic of the theoretical, structural
stemic therapists {e.g., Minuchin, 197-4), and whose properties
wal farnily therapy, are as
mily therapy, whether or
Boundary iss
are 50 actively sought and addressed in struclu
nauch a feature of marital therapy as of whole
not children ate present in the family. fn marital therapy, however, the
crucial boundaries that must be the concem of the therapist are those
Ddefween the couple and the ouisde world, anid the couple and theit fumilies
of origin, as much ay those between thé couple and the children of the
The central point here is #hat understanding features of the marriage
fiom a systems point of view addresses issucs of importance to the pswchoanalytic)
marital therapist that are not zeadily describable in psychoanalytic language,
{not be so. The psychoanalytic Mhezapist needs to be aware of these
muse the customary systems langeage to deseribe them, and ean
seck to understand the implications for tte constraints and qualities of these
feaiuces for the internal psychological functioning of the marital partners
Ai the sime time, the therapist needs to be concerned with the ways in
which such systemic processes will be adapted to personality structures
derived from long-standing expectations and attitudes deriving from object-
ated experiences.
and nee
THE DISTINCTION BETWEEN PSYCHOTHERAPY
AND PSYCHOANALYSIS,
Marital therapy can be a Tegitimate forms of paychoenalstic psychotherapy
and to describe it {wish to draw a general distinction between psychotherapy
id psychoanalysis. 1 propose that psychotherapy can be regarded as anDp psychotherapist’s skills. But the recucst for snsight, as an end in itself, is
{not the same as a request for symptomatic or chavactezological change. A
central precept in the psychoanalytic theory of treatment is that therapeutic
18 c.oane
activity spanning a broad spectrum that con merge with “pure” pyychounalysis
asa clinical activity. As Paolino (1978) has emphasized. mychounalysis is
a word denoling a body of theory as well as a clinical practice. Ir my
practice, however, [make a distinction between psychotherapy and
psychoanalysis by both the initial and continuing rrotivation that brings the
patient into treatment, In general, the more an individual preseats wath
Specific eymptoms from which relief is ungently requested, as the fist and
persisting motivation for therapy, te more that therapy will tend to be on.
the psychotherapy cd of the spechum. The more the individual presents
with a conscions of latent wish to enderstand himself ur herself, the mete
the process will resemble “pore” py¥ehoanalysis. Thuis distinetion is never
ahicte, However urgent their ned for symptomatic rei. few pope ae
completely uninterested in the development and workings of theit own
ming. Sinilaly, no one who ostensibly seeks enlightenment about himself
or hetself fa “training analysis") does not also harhor some wish to change
important and even fundamental agpects of the self. Harm not aware of any
© general acceptance of this distinctien, but it js important in my practice. 1
thik thatthe request for enighienient fa legate ons for he atent=
client (the analysand) to make and an honotable one for a practitioner to
attend to, and | believe it t6 he highly henefieial in the developnen uf a
change im adults (but not in young children) is in some way mediated
insight. It is also clear thar, om the one hand, mnch else gues on wi
significance for change within psychoanalysis, a Haley (1963) has written
i Tabout so claquently, and that, om the offer hand, 2s Sandier et al. (1972)
| have emphasized, there ate limitations to the role af msight in peyehnanalysis
Its my experience that itis rare for a psychotherapy that benefits the patient
[ocre%i! inmy practice, “the patient” isa seman phase to incline an individual.
oer
ie Ta couple, a family, or even a stranger group) not le include or tesult in
- Some changes in the subject's self-understanding. 1 think this is tme for alt
pevehological therapies, even those in which theve is no eanseions intention
om the part ef the therapist to make interpretations or communicate insight
For example. the experience of abvaining «lief from a phobic state by an
expomure program of graded desensitization or by implosion communicates
0 Va certain view as to the nature of the person undergoing the tneatment and
results in a change in the subject's se!Eunderstanding. My obyervations have
bbeen that such behavioral treatments may also result in some changes that,
as.a psychoanalyst, I would describe as “structural
“The importance of distinguishing mativations for iosight and motivations
for symptomatic relicf Ties in the implications for activity on the part of the
paychoanalvst. In a psychotherapy. the psychoanalyst will use the psycho-
snamic formulation about the nature of the profslem to devise a therapeutic
strategy. The implementation of the strategy would not preclude the proffering
2. PSYCHONNAOTC MARITAL THERAPY 19
of interptetations with #he aim of developing “insight.” At the same time.
and pethaps principally, the therapist will give support, advice, ar stratecte
directives based on the psychodynamic hypothesis whereby the individuals
and their interpersonal relationship patterns are tbe understood, and whose
nature and timing will be determined by the analyst's perceptions of the
curent state of the transference, A strong positive transference, for example,
may provide an opportunity to suggest to the patient the making of some
sigtuficant life changes, in the expectation that “he transference will allow
the patient to fect safe about undertaking the activity. The changes advised
will have been determined by the therapist's notion tha: the changes are
likely to be within the patient's current capacity but will extend the range
ambivalent transference can be taken advantage of to make a statement that
may ave the form of an intespretation but tha: is strategically devised to
have a paradoxical intent. For example, the “interpretation” may contain
a prediction that the patient cannot do what is said to be intensely sought
for, with a psychodynamic explanation as fo why that is he case.
Ina psychoanalysis, by contrast, the therapist is not nearly’ so constrained
by the presstite 1o achieve change’ into devising motivating interventions
The process ts a collaborative explarstion of the meaning and development
of the patient's inner life and extemal relationship experiences. In an analest
the therapist is always attempting to help the patient enlarge his or het
awareness of the potential for achievements, relationships, and recreation,
but the schicle is the increasingly accurate perception of what ig inside the
self of the person.
Asa rule, paticnts seen as couples are rarely motivated by a simple wish
to enlarge their personal self-awareness though such couples are encountered
occasionally, Mostly, couples seck ungent relief fom the symptomatic state
‘of one partier, or they snffer fiom overt maria’ distress. For this reason
communication of insight-promoting interpretatons are given, not sim
for the understanding they contain, but for stategic, change-provoking
seasons (Gutman, 1951) The therapy is psychoanalytic in that the under
standing of the individuals is psychoanalytically informed, and raany af the
interventions ate couched in terms that make thers resemble interpretation
‘That is, the interventions contain information that overtly refets to processes
both within and between the individuals, and thatis assumed by the therapist
to reflect an accurate understanding of these individual and dyadic pracesscs.
of actives and aublimations of the patient, In Tike ranner, @ tongyg
Vie
INDICATIONS FOR PSYCHOANALYTIC MARITAL THERAPY
Life-Cycle Considerations
Ifthe interventive style of a particular piece of pryshoanalytic paychatherapy
is determined by the major motivation for therapy, then considerations of20 cose
who is to be engaged in the therapeutic sessions ie determined by the life-
Je location of he person or persons presenting with difficulties or requests
for help.
suggested an approach to the problem of determining
idus! or a conjoint therapy was indicated, She ideatified
the optus using cate, smught around the world by pscbeana ie
training institutes, asa young adult, separated fiom and living telatively
independently of the fanily of origin, whose presenting problents could be
understoud to have prevented the development of tice into a family of
creation, By the contrary argument, the more a poteutial paticit is closely
involved in, and by implication “heuratically” snasled intu, a fauuily of
ics origin or a faguily of creation, the less psychoanalysis ig predicted fo take a
Go straightforwaid course (and hence to be a “suitable training case"). By the
paradigm that Martin suggests, family therapy is indicated for problems
presenting in people, notably children and adolescents, who are living with
and elosely absorbed in their families of origin, Individual therapy is indicated
for young adults who have psychologically separated from their families of
origin sufficiently to live independently, but who have not yet settled into
Jong-tern cohab ting love relationships.
u By this unalsis, marital therapy is seusibly conteinplated in all cases
‘when the presenting problem is located within somicone whe isin a partnership
{hat has not yet produced children. Fora married ar cohabiting couple who
ve childien, the indication for maritat therapy must be determined by
& the estent to which the children are or are not actively and persistently
drawn into the marital interactions. Clearly, no therapist is likely to believe
that any child czn be exempted froin some psychological participation in
his or her parents’ marital arrangement, and so the juginent has fo do with
the degree of invalverent, My rule of thumb has to do with symptomatology.
{Ifa child is symptomatic, then the therapist should assume that a whole
| funily investigaticn is esvential, however niach the parents proclaim a mutital
* problem, Marilal therapy should not be prescribed on account ofthe therapists
observations of marital disharmony when the presenting problem is ascribed
to a child of the fumily. Marital cherapy may well be indicated when a
couple who have childeen complain vigorously of their relationship problems,
Marital Therapy with Childloss Couples
‘The most likely indication for marital therapy is for those couples (married
- ‘or not) who have not yet had children. This is, indoed, the most common
occasion for mantal therapy in my practice. These couples present in two
wats, The first node of presentation is that the parters come jointly, asking
for help because of marital tensions and rows, ‘The question whether to
break up or stay together and have childien is apparent immediately or
rapidly. In family life-cycle terms, the couple is trying to decide whether
to enter the next phase, that i, to become a trce-person, parenting structure.
2 PSYCHORNALYEIC MARITAL THERAPY a
‘The alternative is to separate and start again in onder to reach, eventually,
the parenting phase with another partner.
‘The second mode of presentation of childless couples i that they come
via one partner asking for individual therapy (eithet, by uy definition, for
psychotherapy or psychoanalysis}. The initially presenting partnes may have
a sanely of symptoms tanging from persisting depressions ot atisictics toa
lack of success and satisfaction im wotk. The partner leading the request for
help may be in professional training thal carries with ita eadition of receiving
Personal therapy, that is, in a helping profession that uses counseling of
psychotherapeutic skills, However the refertal is organized, whether it be
a1 overt sequest for symptomatic relief or a training experience in which
insight is sought openly, 1 try, fist, to see the partners together. Even with
diverse requests, located in the individual, its often quite explicit that the
sue between the couple iy whether to have children. Fur example, when
fone partner fo @ mactiage requests an analysis fox training purposes fas patt
of an institutional requirement or ouit of persunal interest), there is often a
discussion about whether their joint financial zesources should be used on
having a baby or for une of them to have an analysis. This comes out,
usually in a shaightforward way, when the thetupist asks direct questions
about their plans to bave children, ‘To my mind, there is an ethical isue
in not seeing the couple when one partner requests an analysis unless itis
fairly obvious that the decision not to have children has been very fully
worked out by the couple. There is also aut efitical dilemuna for me in taking
info analysis ou individual who is mazried or in a long-term partnership,
Knowing, a8 do, that a pychoanalysis is a potentially powerful intrusion
into married lite, For this reason, most of the manticd. people T have in
analysis have had a previous marital therapy.
In summary, thers are three indications for psychoanalytic mcital Uierapy
ina couple who have not yet liad offspring: «aj when both members of a
partnership are asking for an understanding ofthe nature of their relationship
and of the problems that trouble them withit it; (b) when one member af
the marriage is secking “insight” therapy, but there is not good evidence
that the implications for his or her marriage have becn seriously worked
though: and {c} when one member af 2 partnership lias syinptoms for which
psychoanalytic psychotherapy is indicated; that is, there are symptoms for
which there is neither an uegent elamos for telief noe an obviously efficacious
but as yet unpreseribed safe medication, or a behavioral technique that is
Bkely to be effective.
Marital Therapy with Couples with Children
The main indications for pyychoanalytic psychotherapy in a couple with
children ‘is fos serious marital problemas, especially with people who come
from a miliew in which a reflective evaluation of personal relationships and
selFunderstanding are expected and appreciated. ‘The therapist has to be22 pane
dren in the ma
cither
sure that there are no significant invohemonts of ch
problem, as demonstrated by their sympiomatic states.
fone or both members of such couples are also members
a culture in which individual psechoanalytic psychotherapy is the custon
resort for all personal and relationship problems, and for whora therap
without accompanying offers of insight development from the therapist
would be alien ane umacceptable
THE COURSE OF PSYCHOANALYTIC MARITAL THERAPY
‘The Setting and Subject Matter of Therapy
THE STRUCTURAL PROBLEM OF MARITAL THERAPY
In marital therapy. a consistent difficulty that is an inevitable concomitant
of a three-person group has to do with the danger of alliance formations
and taking sides. So strong is the problem of asymmetry—a couple consists
ofa man and a woman, and the therapist has tn he either male or fewiale—
that it may be an indication for co therapy. ‘The relative tive
nature of psychoanalytic marital therapy is itself commpatihle with a. co
therapy mode, provided the two therarists have a basic aligrmet
theoretical orientation and in their tecknique (Rice, Fey, & Kens
I find co-therapy congenial in marital therapy (for reasons of th
countertransference isms raised in a subsequent section), bul t alse think
that there ate many problems inherent in working out the co-therapy re
lationship. and 20, in practice, f rarely engage in co-therapy except with
my wile as therapeutic partner
In the absence of co-therapy as a colution to the inherent structaral
problem of marital therapy, the therapist must exercine constant surveillance
of all the practices of the therapy in oder to counteract the attendant risks
The hour arranged fr the therapetic meetings should be aoranged wth
strict regard for equalizing the importance of the activities of both partners.
always ty to negotiate with both members of the marriage, asking them
to use hyo telephone © if possible, in scheduling ont initial session
In the therapy room. the chairs shoud he located so that there is no apparent
favoring of one partner, and social graces should be deployed symmetrically
in, for example, deferring politely on the threshold, For patients seen in
private practice, | find it important to leave the bill in a neutral spot in the
room so that the comple can decide who picks it up. rather than hand it to
one or the other of them. It is crucial tc be symmetrical in body orientation,
tone of voice, balance of affective responsiveness, and s0 on. At every session,
and many times in each session, the therapist has to review the interaction
pattern between therapist and couple lo identify any iishalance, hth as a
2, PSYCHOANALYTIC MARITAL THERAPY 2B
ce of information about the current state ef the couple and to avoid a
bias in the therapeutic relationship (see Gurman [1981] for further discusston
of establishing early therapeutic alliances in marital therapy},
As to the frequency of therapy a week or once a fortnight
fs the most customary. Each session Ja lytic hour fe, 50 minutes).
A longer time is necessary for some enuples in crisis, but a shexter tine is
too brief to establish a theme and sce it through to a sense of having done
a clear piece of work
RLY STAGE OF MARITAL THERAPY
‘The comple is us
left to begin the session, commonly starting
of a conspicuons disagreement in the time si P
mtact or, iFone or the other is symptomatic and the
thereby, a description of symptoms oceurting in the in qu
beginning of the therapy, the couple can be “trained” to talk to each other,
for the most part, rather than to the therapist, both by being told so te de
and by the therapist's ooking toward the sileni, listening member of the
couple when one spouse is talking, By this means, the therapist can observe
the couple’s interaction and is less often put on the spot by attempts cn the
part of one or the other syne lo gaint alliance with the theaapst. As the
couple get under way in the session, the thernpist may have to re'kiess the
balance of utterances pouring from one spouse by urging the speak
member of the couple to get a response from the silent sponse
to obtain symmetry is a consistont feature and zn ex
need for a ditective clement in marital therapy. The therapist has to avoid
being treated as a witess to grievance, or worte, as a judge in the marilal
disagreements, The attempt by a spouse to gain the therapist as an ally hay
to be countered by: openly disavewing any intention of taking sides and by
confronting the couple with each attempt to get the therapist in alliance
against a spouse,
mple of the constant
LATER STAG
(OF MARITAL THERAPY
Later in therapy, an exploration of childhood experiences of one or the
other spouse in being a confidant, a helpless obicrer, or a scapegoat of a
parent in interparental marital disputes may be undertaken and made the
subject of reconsinuctive interpretations. However, the therapist rr
attention t6 Ensuring a balance between the exsloration of the ori
des and roles within the marriage out of the spaxses individual child
experiences and attending to the hete-and-now interactions. Reconstruction
af childhood origins of the macriage is important litle way into the thentpy
in order to take the heat out of a persisting quanelsome episode and invite
some sympathy an the part of each spouse for the other. A formal genageam
is wseful for this purpose. Part of the insight that will ustally be evolved i
the therapy is some understanding of the pats of their childhond thata cake 2. SYCHOANADTIC HARITAL THERAPY 25
the marriage, both insofar as there are aspects of childhood that injunetions, or interpretations, or by straightforward task setting. ‘That is,
vein compelled to repeat in the manniage and paris that they attempt there is no “ideal” interpretation as the preferted mode of intervention that
ip tleanai aveaeanise is “pore” and, therefore, right. The task of the therapist is to help the couple
of any discussion about current ennflicts, or in th alter patterns in their marriage that they dislike aud that prevent then
amination of past influences on the present, the therapist ean be Wentifying achieving current satisfactions, and of taking advantage of individual life-
processes between the couple. The say into process is by noting, frst, the vele possibilities. Interpretation may give the couple the freedom they seek
affective tone of both partners in an inteichange, seeing hhow it moves in to be more fully together or to separate (if that seems right), but so may
ihe course of discussion, and identifying repetitive sequences. The couple's tiger 3 sraightonyd or paradoxical tak (see Gunman (1982) fora discussion
jendencies tu get into pattesns (e.g., of attack and defensiveness, defeatism of the use of paradoxical interventions in psychdynamic marital therapy).
wer ant jy aie aucogt are observed. Once wet, We therapit AA tash or patadosical prescription ean be given because i may be @ mote
has the option of pinting out the sequence; of amplifying the pattesn by ful communication of the psychodynuamies of the couple than an explicit
encouraging more open expression of the affects, of urging one member of ; ynner, 1981) To tell s coupe te techs wekebal haiti
the couple to help the partner to break the pattern by noticing what is have “happy” dreams, which, of course, contain seenes of graceful swooping
happening, of exploring what reminiscence of family of origin is represented movements in the warme sun and sea, may be as good a way to get then
in the sequonces, or of encouraging exploration of the personal psychdy namics in a mood for mutoal sue as explicit sexual therapy or an
of the pattern. These options show that directive and interpretative possibilities interpretation of the origins of their sexual inhibitions. The dynamic meaning
reside in roost of the material, and the therapist, at cach poiat in the session of each of these interve the same. The form is chosen according
and in the overall span of the therapy, must make decisions about where to the couple’s culhal and intelectual style, the inventiveness and preference
the balance should lic, in uxging more interaction, encouraging mutual ‘of the therapist, but, above all, what seems ta be liberating for the couple
rellectiveness, forcisly opposing compulsively repeated sequeticess, or in~ atthe monica
terpreting individual conflicts and patterns of attitudes.
The fssues of Transference and Countertransference
"| The Balance of Digctive and tntepretative Interventions
"Del Ashas been made clear here and elsewhere (Gunman, 1978, 1981}, however aanaes
much the therapist uses a psychoanalytic understanding of the individuals
of the marriage and their interaction, psychoanalytic marital therapy cannot In psychoanalstic psychotherapy of the individual, the dyadic natute of the
be a5 exclusively interpretive as a psychoanalysis seems to be. The sepatitive ruceting and the cclitive neediness of the patient ot client cnbances the
sequences between the spouses are likely to be se foreeful and compelling development of trinsferences of a parcnt-child sort. Fur this veason, in the
that interpretation alone will ncither imtervupt them in fall ight not elisninate psychoanalytic literature the evolution of technique has emphasized working
them. Within the session, the therapist may have to block thera by open with archaic mfantile tcansferences, seemingly revealing aspects ofthe ea
piohibition while encouraging the couple to undertake their own control, phases of psychological life, The setting of couples therapy 1s, by it thre
thithin the session, of unproductive patterns of nagging and intimidation, person nature and by the presence of the couple with theit actual or potential
on the one hand, (x collusive, ansicty-reducing “assistance,” on the other sexual life, much kely to give rise to oodipal transferences, with all
For patticulasly rigid and intensely conBictua! aspects of married life, pushing the jsucs af allimees, coalitions, rivalries and jealousies, boundary fostnations,
the couple o discus: solutions to out-of session. areas of conflict ov symptomatic and triangulation that that slage impiies. But it must be noted that although
activities may be necessary, and it is essential to return to these areas in ihe couple as individuals may, in thetr neediness, have potential child |
pttotheir agreements. Failure
subsequent sessions to see if the couple have
to keep to agreed-cn salutions is a rich source of material for enlight
pist (und this certainly occurs}, the major inherent
i¢ therapist a3 an intrudiug child or adolescent, as a rival
transference is to
{the couple as to their unnctting commitment to painful pattems that, at sib, oF as a parect who will resext the oedipal child's closers to the other *
\ conscious level, they would like to avoid and is therefore a way into and a parent. These tansferences need to be observed (and produce complea
val for further exploration of the unconscious origins of marital disharmony <3), bl their interpretation is rarely therapeutically indicated.
“There are no fixed rules about whether a patter ean best he handled They are best managed by ensuring thal the spouses interact with each other
by the therapist by
1 aud exploration; by reconstructive interventions and are pushed into having as symmetrical a relationship as possi
about interactions or personal dy i
arnies; by prescriptive ur prohibitive directives, the therapist.
le with26 pane
Nevertheless, the concept of transference, althongh siictly concerned
with the relationship of patient fo therapit, is relevant to phenomena occurring
between the spouses. Indeed, Gutmar (1981) has noted that the husband
wife transferences are the central transferences in, marital therapy tequiting
the therapist's actixe attention and intzwvention. The relationship between
a couple always contains elements of child to parent (especially to mother)
features derived from the infaney and childhocd of the partners in their
Exmilies of origin. In this sense, 9 great deal of “transference” intezpretation
goes on in psychoanalytic marital therapy as the therapist unfolds the infantile
Origins of qualities of married life
CCOUNTERTRANSFERENCE,
Most of the manuevers to gain a syrrmetrical relationship described thus
far deal with the complex countertransferences that evolve in. marital therapy
Inevitably the therapist, especially if tained in individual therapy. will be
put in the position of the helping adult to the needy client or patient. This
position is comfortable and gratifying. To be drawn into the positian of
intruding child or parent, or of disruptive adolescent, is hewildering and
can lead to poor technique. Commonly, when the therapists viewed positively,
he or she wil find that there isa sort of “grandparent” transference, whereby
the couple attempt to use the therapist (cerhaps appropriately} to goin Freedom
from superego prohibitions and ideals
This complex web of cuuntertransferences iy compounded by what is
the most spocific and uncomfortable aspect of marital therapy for the therapist,
namely, the secursing theme of the thrsat of divorce (Gurman, 1983, 1985)
Few marital therapies, whether initiated for overt cuartal disharmony: or on
account of the symptoms of one spore, will avoid coming up against the
possibility of separation, Indeed, mos. couples seem to need to get to the
point of realizing that divorce is possible for them to make significant movement
in their relationship. This produces very painfal and disequilibrating coun
tertransferences in therapists, who so often have, fran) their backgrounds,
persisting parentified child selfexpectations. To oversee a couple who are
likely to partis, for many therapists, 2 disabling reenactment of vivid childhood
fears. It is one reason why personal pychotherapy, in which counterttans-
ferences from current therapeutic work are examined, is such a valued
concomitant of training in marital theraps. Similarly, regular supervision,
inchiding review of video or audio tapes af sessions, is also valuable,
CONCLUSION
[As described in this chapter, psychoanalytic marital therapy is oot a pase
form. The main stress lies in the concepfnal framework wherehy individual
psychodynamies are postulated as strvcturing the marital relationship by
tunconscious family-oForigin motivations of transference-like qualities. These
2. PSYCHOANALYTIC MARTAL THEREPY 7
processes can by interpreted, and thus clements and variations of paychoanalytic
poychotherapeutic techniques are employed. The major part of the therapy,
like all marital therapies, is dominated by the need to gain a symmetrical
relationship with the couple. ‘This is all the more important the more the
therapist tends to passivity, Because all activities on the pact of the therapist
have meaning, interpretations can be expressed explicitly as verbal staternents
communicating the therapist's understanding of the couple to the couple;
for the meaning can he communicated analogically by fasks, injunctions,
ar enactments by the therapist (expressing rage, pain, hopefilness, restlessness,
bewilderment, or whatever). The actual pattern of therapeutic activities will,
be altered by the phase of a session or therapy. Preexisting cultural and
intellectual tendencies inthe couple, the pressure of ssmptoms and intercurrent,
life events, will also affect the therapist's tye; while the ever-present possibility
‘of separation. divorce, or other majer life charges will also have irmportant
technical implications
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The approach to marital therapy described in tif chapter hes evolved froin
ceaily vetsions of what has come to be known as behavioral mazital therapy
(BMT) Whereas behavioral marital therapy fias generally been defined as
the application of social leaming and behavior exchange principles te the
treatment of marital preblems Jacobson & Margolin, 1979), our version of
BMT has evolved to the pomt where a new label seems appropriate. Over
the last 10 yeats there has been a distinct tend toward broadening the
conceptual and technical domains of BMT to include an analvsis of cognitive
and affective variables, this has been true notonly ii our own work (FTaliawauth- *
Muritoe & Jacobson, 1985; jacobson, 1983a, 1984, Jacobson, MeDonald,
Foete, & Berley, 1955, Wood & Jocabson, 1985) but a in dhe work ot
icham & O'Leary, 1983; Margolin, Christensen,
& Wen, 1975, Margolin, 1953; Schindler & Veilmer, 198% Revenstorh,
1954; Doherty, 1951; Weiss, 1980, 1984). With the development of a
sophisticated clinical literatare on marital therapy from 3 behaviaral perspective,
ithas gradually become elzar that treating cauples is moze complicated that
early behavioral formulations would have had us believe (Jacobson, 1983a,-
1983b, Jacobson & Margolin, 1979, Liberman, Wheeler, deVisser, Kuchnel,
& Kuchnel, 1981; Margolin, 1985; Stuart, 1980). Moseovee, research findings
fave tended to point us avay fom parsimony, as ithas become apparent 7-73)
that nonmediational models account for relatively litle variance in marital 7"
satisfaction (Jacobson & Mouse, 1951). Perhaps what is most important,
one inescapable conclusion from the wealth of controlled-outcome research,
he patont andthe amas,
open ssn in physio and bihay. Siem 8,
Rail. Jacobein an Amy Holtzwrth- Manse, Department Pelelag, Univeral of Withington,
tl, Wathiaton
2930 [RS.JACORSON AND A, HOLTZWORTH: MUNROE
niques are not always effective
984),
vioral
in BMT is that standard behavioral
(acobson, Follette, Revenstorf, Baucom, Mabhveg, & Margolin,
x, With thi broadening and expanding ofthe mode, the term behav
Y seems to have been eclipsed. Yet the cormitment to empirical investigation,
7 hich has ustil new dstinguished behavioral from mosbehaviona model
remains unaltered
SOCIAL LEARNING--COGNITIVE (SLC! MODEL,
(OF MARITAL DISTRESS
Social learning theories have been characterized by a dual emphasis on the
social environment and cagnitive-perceplual processes as determinants of
behavior (Bandura, 1977). The SLC perspective on marital distress certainly
falls within that tradition. First and pethaps foremost is a continued belief
in the preeminence of the social envixonment as 2 determinant af maritat
satisfaction, Both marital stability and stbjective marital satisfaction are see
a: determined by the relative frequency of positive and negative behavior
exchanges between spouses (Jacobson & Moore, 1981; Skuse, 1969; Weis,
Hops, & Patterson, 1973). This model of marital satisfaction has been
described as both functional and hedonistic. Funetionality is implied by the
emphasis on the relationship between behaviors emitted by spouses in a
marital relationship and the environmental antecedents and consequences.
The model is hecanistie because i begis with a sraightorward proposition
that benefits received determine whether or no
tionships. Indeed, there is abiandant cvidence that nondistressed couples
exchange higher fequencies of rewards, and lowes Requencies of punishers
than do their distressed counterparts (Birchler, Weis, & Vincent, 1975
Gottman, 1979; Jacobson, Pollete, & MeDonatd, 1982; Margolin, 19
Margolin & Wampold, 1981, Marlanan, 1979, Vineent, Weiss, & Birch
1975; Vincent, Freidman, Nugent, & Messestey, 1979)
In addition #0 differing in the amount and degree of exchanged sein-
forcement and punishment, distressfd and nondistressed couples can be
distinguished by the pailem of reinforcing and punishing exchanges. Dishessed
couples are highly reciprocal in their exchanges of negativ behaviors (Goltnian,
71979; Margolin & Wampold, 1951; Schupp, 1984), whew one spouse delivers
a punisher to the other, the latter is ver Tikely to eeiprocate, which hegins
a chain of escalating coercive interaction (Hahlweg et al Moreover.
4, distressed couples are highly reactive to iramediate relationship events, whether
* they are rewarding or punishing (Jacobson et af., 1982), ‘This means that
unishers have an immediate impact that is more punishing, and rewards
have an immediate impact that is moze rewarding, for distressed than for
rnondistrescd couples. Thus, punishing achavior has a particularly deleterious
impact on distressed spouses and is highly Tikely to lead to escalation. In
contrast, happily marred couples are relnively unlikely to reciprocate pushing
Bast
behavior (Cottman, 1979). Morcover, couples sho are happy
less reactive to immediate events in a relationship (f
‘Thus, these couples exhibit both a r
from immediate contingencies that ay
1 to be
to cobson et al. I
nd a relative independence
bsent in couples who are not ge
wi? Pannitnbn de ave h aatunrsbienok
The expansion of the model has heen primarily in two directions: away
from a nonniediational and toward 2 mediational theory; and from a pu
finetional model that is basically content fiee to one that attempts te spec’
of the topographical parameters in marital satisfaction-distvese. More
alls, movement tonord a mediationa) model is reflected primar’ls
in an emphasis on the cognitive and perceptua.procestes associated with
marital distress (Baiicom, 1981; Doherty, 1981; Fincham & O'Leary, 195%;
Holtaworth Munroe & Jacobson, 1985; Jacobson, McDonald, Follette, &
Berley, 1985) and a more recent em
both fumetional and dysfunctional matatproeesie (Gottman, 1982, Levensorm
& Gottman, 1983}, ‘Cognitive rescarch has focused om the role of causal
attributions in producing, maintaining, and exacerbating marital distress
The research cited ahove indicates that distrcssed couples tend to attribute
their partners’ negative behavior to factors that maximize its negative impact
sued al the same time undermine the impact of positive behavior thretigh
causal attributions that deny the partner credit for it. This is simply one
cxample of an area of research that suggests itis not only the things that
spotses do and say that cause ther problems but also how those events are
construed and perceived. Attention to the role of affect even newer to the
literature, but recent research by Gottman and his associates appears to offer
some promising new ditections. For example, Gottman (personal co
munication, 1954) recently offered an escape cenditioning model to explain
why conflict-avoidant tendencies exist in distressad couples. This model is
based on evidence that husbands nranifest strong sympathetic nervars system
arousal during conflict exercises and that the duration of intense sympathetic
arousal is greater for men than it is for women. Gottman believes that there
may be scx differences in the aversiveness of negative affect,
{nals the undernousithed skeleton of traitional by
has been nourished in teeent years by altempis to craracterie the topography
of marital satisfaction and distress. Much of this work has iavehed The
specific kinds of deficiencies that exist in distressed relationships. As one
cxample, specific deficits in communication skills seem to characterize
distressed couples (Gottman, 19791. These deficiencies are especially evident
in strategies that distressed couples use for dealing with conflict, @ fact that
servesas the rationale for teaching couples confictesolution skills in marital
therapy (Gottman, 1979, Jacobson & Mangolin, 1979; Margolin & Wampold,
1981; Schaap, 1954), Moreover, topographical analyses based on spouse
reports of behavior in the home show that communication problems are
better predictors of daily manital satisfaction than complaints in other areas
Jacobson & Moore, 1981). In addition to research elucidating the sole of
ARRING-COCNTTIVE REREPECTIVE 3
hasison therole of affect in controlling f,
iasforal models
aWo: and egoliatio
~ as well as
32 NS-IACORSON AND 4, HOLTZWORTIEMUNEOE
nmnunication deficiencies in marital conflict, theoretical speculation exists
a a aumnber of arcas. Weiss (1990), for ene ae eee shall deficits
sinpainting, providing supportive and understanding communicatios
J ieeotiaen of bli ov changes he hay suggested that these sill dite
in the area of problem ing, best differentiate distress
from nondistressed couples. Jacobson {1983b) has identified traditional 30
role structures as conducive to matital distress and has provided recent
evil at ach pans rai negate spose fo nh therapy
(Jacobson, Follette, & Pagel, H. z
Sn ‘conceptual research and theorizing in the SLC area is occursing
in a number of different laburatories all over the world (cf. Hablweg &
Jacobson, 1984}. Itappeaty that the relationship between theory and practice
is reciprocal rather than unidicectional. Many exainples of theoretical de-
velopinents have produced clinical innovations, as the paragraphs belew
indicate. However, clinical observations have also been a plentiful source
of research findings Gacobsun, 1984),
A THEORY OF THERAPEUTIC CHANGE
Oar version of matital therapy is one of many that have beet: developed in
various clinical research laboratories around the world under the “behavioral
rubric. After te piorcering work of Richard B. Stuast and the collaborative
effort between Gerald R. Patterson and Robest L, Weiss at the University
of Oregon, marital ‘reatment programs from_this perspective have been
studied by K, Danicl O'Leary and associates at Stony Brook, Gayla Margolin
and Audy Christensen in Los Angeles, John Cottman at the University of
Whinois, Donald H. Baucan at the University of Noah Carolina, Kurt
Hallegg and Disk Revenstsf at the Max Planch fatty Mucich, Gaul
7 Koumnllamp in lla, Hosand Mutinan i Derser and csewbcge Por
the tcmainder of thischapter, we focus on our own version af marital herapy
from an SLC pesspective. Despite soine differeaces between the various
apptoaches cited above, some overriding technical and conceptual sintilarities
make the choice of which model to focus on sormewhat arbitrary. Since
> outs is the one with which we are the most familiac, it receives primary
attention. :
‘The SLC marital therapist derives treatment strategies from a number
of sources. Fle or she is Eamiliar with the conceptual framework discussed
in the previous section. During assessment phases, attention tends to focus
on behaviors and problems identified in research studies as those that dis-
criminate between happy and unhappy couples. In other words, although
these areas do not automatically receive attention in marital therapy, they
always receive close scrutiny during a marital assessment
Based on the rescarch findings that distressed couples actually exchange
fewer rewarding and agreater number of punishing behaviors that: nondistressed
3. A SOCIAL EABRING-COGAITIVE ASFECIINE Fe
ovale ne inal goal of maria therapy ito inetewe the rato of positive
{o negative behavior exchanges, ‘This is aecomplished mainly through focusing 72
‘9h increasing positive instead of decreasing negative behavior, ‘There &
evidence that positive-ahd negtative cvente are ielalively dependent Wills |e
Weiss, & Patterson, 1974) and that negative behaviors tend to diminish
sulomiatically duting succesful marital therapy, even if they are mol the
main focus of therapeutic interventions (Margotin & Weiss, 1978). ‘The j
assumption is that if « supportive enirunment can be created for the ae.
celeration of positive behaviors, not only will behavior changes occur but |
cognitive and affective changes will xsult. Thus, in atteanpting to produce|
increases in the exchange of positive behavior, primary attention is focused 2.017
on creating @ context for the occurrence of suck chariges that will also
prosllice ignite SiC affective changes thal reinforce the behavior changes
Tx short, the SLC approach is hased in part on the assumption thal
behavior change is uot only important in its own right but offers a lever for
producing cognitive and affective changes. While a dierapist working within
this framework might be more inclined than others to insist on Behavior
change before being willing to designate a case as successful, this same
therapist would not claim success, despite fordamental behavior changes,
unless couples report that they ate happier with the relationship. ‘Thus, the
eonpliasi on beitvior change ia means to an end as enuch 96 it 'an end
A second premise of the SLC approach is that (Ls Ye required i
order to maintain a satisfactory intimate telationship overa Tong petiad. No
uatter how attracted two people might be te one another initially, and no
matter how “legitimate” the basis for attaction, love and altraction ave not
etiough to sustain a relationship across the nuytiad of obstacles and husdles
that life throws in one's path. Couples need a variety of sills, including
the ability to deal constructively with confiiet, provide support and under: |
standing to one SuotbeF, aiid perform a variety of instrumental and affectional
tasks. ‘The SLC perspective atfempts during the assessnent phase to identify
the areas of deficiency and target those for change ducing marital therapy. =
‘The area ol shall deticiency most commonly ctaphasized is that of conflict
resolution, When couples enter therapy manifesting dssfurictional strategies
for resolving conflict, the therapist usually has no way of knowing whether
these performance deficits bear a causal cclationship to other ruatital problems
‘Thus the categorization of these deficiencies us skill deficits is as much for
heuristic purposes as itis because the label is believed to be literally true,
The advantages of such a categorization are, first, that the reattibution of
‘mavital problems as manifestations of skill deficiencies is generally more
benign than the aétribustions made by the spouses themselves in attempting
to account for theiz diftculties; and second, it allows the thetapist to focus
qqasruning ip problem-solving and confiet-rsolution shill ting mata
thetapy. Problem-solving training is 4 very effective therapeutic technique +,
sshen usidas part of 8 marital dhesapy regimen, whatever the rationale ori NS IREORGON AND A. 10 ‘
! 5}, Among oiler things,
{Jacabson, 1984, Jacobson & Pollelte, 2965), Among oer things
See ee me lies and deal with conflict constructively with 7
anor they ae mac eter able to funtion as thet own sab when
conflict arises in the future. In short, Fesides the immediate therapeutic
impact of conflict resolution training stratogics, they also serve a prevental
a other mor category of itervention that follows from the SLC
gnc fomewh inoue an aerpl is overcome reife! esi,
which refers to the tendeney for spouses eo long-term " thst enol
satily ome another. The causes of reinforcenient
Seedon te nameteus Seat Sees abtuclign fe saiseutesporsion
be SLC marital theipy help eerie the effets of enforcer erosion
by teaching couples to tack telatinshig quality an a das today basis au
devote the me and stention to itequized fo maintain high levels of mata
satisfaction
Stages of Therapy ; :
7 itis antithetical to the SLC perspective to diseuss "stages
azul, which imglics an iiogaphic aprrach to asement ad treatment.
Conceivably, the stages of therapy could differ Secrecy ae couple
ip another fn practice, however, mart thenpy docs ted to follow a wel
defied structive that sflects 0 pants clinica research context in which
much of he fechnologs was devcloped and the common denominat
unite many kinds of marital problems despite divergence in content.
STAGE 1 ASSESSMENT ce
‘The SLO marital therapy distinguishes asensnent fom therapy. Unles
mipy in a state of act criss. two to three sessions ai
ned echoes aesmncnt ane Ssh, During the anced
ples are told that no commitrient has heen made by either side
Teiwcet together Rater the poe ofthe ulation
etermine whether marital therapy isthe optimal plan, and if wot fr the
Mhespvorcommandaemtic nutes ofan eg ous tp
forone ot hoth spouses), Couples are fartacr told nate eae improvement
i relationship during the evaluation, since the focus is on collectin
Inert er thin ifenenton ast a eeakorshiy cahacsment
The speciic lactis and states sed to conduc an SLC marta
assenment inclade a variety of slFtapot questionnaires, both eonjomnt and
india spouse intense, daly a fletion by sca, home, and
a gstematic evaluation of communication patterns, These techmues ate
eli descsbed cleuere Jacobson Ehwnd, & Dalla, 981; Jacobson &
Margolin, 1979; Margolin & Jacobson, 1981; Wels & Margolin, 1972)
3-4 SOCIAL LEARNING. COGNITIVE PERSPECTIVE 35
The important point is that many techniques can be used to achieve the
same goals, which are to understand what the determinants
Gounle’s current dissatisfaction. Assessment is comprchemsive and a the
Fame time focused on those arcas of relationship fanctionine the? veceing
Eat ular cinphasis within an SLC framework eotamunication and poblens
Soins sis both potently and actualy exchanged seinfareing werd punishing
havior: patterns of escalation and coercion: areas of inienmant wih
efiencys cognitive schema, belch, and atbutioral oceses and repel
interactional themes,
‘The process of assessment has several noteworthy features besides the
isformation-gathcring function, Fits, the informalion-gathcrngpreccaune
Gen bane a therapeutic eect, despite the therpis'sinsience toe contre
Since the focus is on relationship strengths a8 wall a problem ste aed
sacs every eflort is made to understand the basis fora given couples
attachment to each other, the questions asked by ths therapistClien Kactiaas
sPomes’ attention te snore positive aspects of the relationship. Civen thet
fauples often enter therapy selectively tracking negative aepeck ot thet
lationship, this refocusing of attention ean oRen bing salt and yas
Paritive fect. Moreover, the experience of being it thetapy and talking te
A cits! objective third party about relationship problems can inte Oe
‘tel mutigate feclings of hopelessness and enhanse positive expecrrcin
about the relationship.
Second, the outcome of this assessment process could be a decision nat
fo proceed with mavital therapy. The zecognition of"no therapy” asa rahe
opkion #8 Ye important for a marital therapist because ualess sich options
are actively explored, the danger exists that couples will be inadectenthe
maneuvered into marital therapy even when it is not in the best interests
of one: or bath of them (Jacobson, 19833}. For exemple, at the fee ae
Jack and Connie entesed mital therapy, Connie he already spent € monte
fsengaing fom the eelationship in various ways lachnding me indepenlene
actisties with other people, the acceptance of job that reqited more
Fayering, and some emotional withdrawal fom fick. Civen Jack's Tong
Ritory of ahssical abuse. the discngagement process seemed te the here
to be healthy and in need of suppot!. A treatment program oriented tncoad
enhanced intimacy would have required a greater degree of rehwrechoene
in the relationship than was warranted at present, given sll of the nocnmeee
information. ‘Thus it was very important that the option of contivacd aie
egngernent be thoroughly considered and explored during the awsesement
phase,
ofa pasticutar
ROUNDTABLE DISCUSSION
After the therapist has completed the evaluation, ste or he presents the
Souple witha formulation ofthe problems, an assesment of thet senate
364 couple, and a proposed treatment plan. If marital therapy is indicated,36 NSIACOBSON AND A HOUIZWORMENMUNROE
both therapist and spouses agree on a time-linnited course of treatment with
specitic goals. Quily once this treatment regimen has bees agreed upon can
it be said that thesapy has begun.
SSNGAHION OF SNCREASES IN POSITIVE BEHAVIOR
Very often therapy begins with an emphasis on the generation of positive
changes ia the natural environment. These interventions are designed to
have short-term but immediate effects on the lationship, to provide couples
vith, a shot in the am. Typically, the interventions feature directives from
the Hiotapist regarding assignments to be implemented at home, Following
implemontatien, the couple return for the subsequent session un the home
‘vor assignment is debricfed. The content of this next session is determined
by the outcone of the previous homework assignment. If the wsigament
went well, the couple are ready to mose on to the next step. If st went
poutly, some Houbleshooting might be necessity in order to remediate
whatever difficulties the couple had with the assignment,
The primary purpose of these instigative interventions is to produce
short-term increases in positive behavior exchanges. Relationship skills designed
to extend these benefits over time axe deemphasized. If the therapist were
to slup treatment fol owing a successful round of such instigative interventions,
the probability of relapse stould be great Jacobson, 1984, Jacobson & Follette,
1985). However, it not completely correet to Say that these interventions
are dewid of slill-‘raining components. As we claborate in the following
section, couples learn to pay daily attention to the quality af the relationship,
identify problem areas when they exist, aud inlervene in effisacious ways
to enhance daily marital satisfaction, These skills are offen novel wv couples
ssho enter therapy without understanding that celationships require cate and
attention in order to succeed.
SKILL ACQUISITION
‘The bulk of therapy session time in the typical case is devoted to. the
acquisition of new dchaviors generally conceptualized as skills. Most often,
the primary focus in this phase is on communication skills, especially problems
solving skills. Less offen, but not infrequently, other skills receive prismaty
attention, such as parenting or sexual enrichment skills, Dusing the skill-
acqusition phase of therapy, the therapist is quite diggstive, the sessions
highly stouctuced, and the techaiques largely pryshocducational
GENERALIZATION ANE MAINTENANCE
Since the ultimate goals of therapy involve changes in the relationship that
peisist independently of the therapist, itis important that his or her influence
hgins to subside oxce the shills have been acquired. The skills are designed
to allow the couple to function independently of the therapist; but in order
for couples fo acquite the necessary independence, stategies for generalization
and maintenance must be inserted into the treatment program. ‘The influence
2. SOCIAL LERRNING-COGNITIVE PERSPECIIVE 7
of the therapist must fade, couples must assume ineteas
, couples must assume inereasing responsibility
for managing theit own offs, and the therapy sesion ile! mut ptadally
GENE 10 Bethe focus of all important relationship ses. This las phase of
herapy atlernpis to foster couples’ independence through a var vc
aie lial precedes ee Gea ee
© attempt lo fran spouses to become their ovis therapists has been!
wonky partially successful, Recent evideuce indicates ft while the sil
laught to couples within the SLC framework do extend the benefits of therapy:
gxer time, even with this focus the efeets gradually fae foe mary couple
Phus we are currently in the process of experimenting with some clinical
innovations designed to enhance long-teu outcomes, Included among our!
caren efforts are the use of booster sessions beginning 6 months fallowing
formal tesination. The underlying principle behand our cuteent eles Is
that the former expectation regarding the permanence of our Lcabnent
elfcets was naive. Why should a shorter treatiient program result in
Bermanent changes in a relationship subjected to numeious influences olher
han thexapy? Livan atternpt to cope sith this debunking of our omnapotence ]
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myths, the concept of marital therapy is being gradually altered. Instead of
the ilea that thetapy isiatensive, disteie, and has specie terpnaln
daie, long-term relationship enhancement may be taore likely with a mode!
hat deemphasizes format tenmination. tn this model a telahonship is formed
between a couple and a therapist, but itis considered ongoing ven beyond
the end of weekly sessions. [Lis expected that couples will rete far periodic £
visits, much like the regular visit ta 2 dentist, a
ovexview
{0 clinical research settings, where a relatively standardized treaties package
is used, therapy consists of 20 sessions, 60 to 90 minutes cach, se
week, During the generalization and maintenance phase, sessions oceut
less fequently: ‘The sesions themselves tend to be highly stticturer, beginning
with ao agends negotiated between the therapist and the couple. After the
agenda js set for a given session, homework from the previsus session
discussed and debriefed. Most sessions inclade a tain body of “new business,
which to some extent falfows fiom the previous week's hontewouk, Sessiots
voually end with some sort of recapitalation of the events of the session.
and conclude with the prescutation of 2 new homnework assignment,
SPECIFIC TECHNIQUES
‘The therapist working within an SLC frainework has a wide assortment of
techniques from whieh to select. The assessment process and roundtable
session establish the specific goals to which both therapist and couple have
committed themselves to work in therapy. From that point on, techniques
can be chosen that ase most appropriate fo meeting those goals. The techniques38 NS.SACORON AND A HOU ZWORTHLARUNKOE
mmonty used, and they sill be
usually appear. N
nit plans are tailored to the new
uples. and we organize according to techn
and! case of presentation.
to be discussed in the present section
discussed in the order in which the
important to keep in mind that tream
individual
convenience
levestheless, it is
ds oF
Behavior Exchange Techniques
Therapy often begins with a few sessions devoted to instigating inereases in
the rate af positive behavior exchange. Aer months or years of focusing
selectively on the negative events in the relationship, un early ermphasis in
therapy on pinpointing and increasing positive behavior car: help overcome
this perceptual bias. {n addition, behavior exchange ‘BE} techniques can
be effective in countering spouses’ feel ngs of helplessness at the beginning
of therapy, which usually manifest thenselves in the expressed! conviction
that there is nothing they can do to improve the quality of the relate
‘One version of this conviction is the claim that the other's behavior is solely
responsible for how the relationship i going. Anothicr is that feelings of
satisfaction and dissatisfaction are inelfable and a
cmrelated to the occurrence
or nonoccurrunce of specific behaviors. ‘The BE
pinpoint the behaviors associated with their own and their partnets subjective
Satisfaction and dissatisfaction with the relationship, They also learn f0 1
their own behavior to enhance the quality of the relationship on a day-to=
day hasis. When the interventions have the desired effect. not only do they
result in short-term increases in marital satisfaction but also a sense af control
over the course of the relationship on a day-to-day hasis. ‘The concept that
maintaining marital satisfaction requites daily vigilance and atlention is
introduced, as is the notion that even small changes in heliavior can have
a major impact on marital etisfaction. Although itis not oneommoen for
couples to complain about the artificiality of some therapist
ean ustally reassie them by insisting that such premeditated attention i
pecessary when the goal is to medi long slanding, habitual behavior patterns
‘At the beginning of thezapy, couples are offen 50 entrenched in theie
habitual patterns of Blaming one another for the marital problems that the
callahorative set necessary for the successful resolution of tong-xanding
issues is virtually impossible to establish. Initially. BE does not focus of
major areas of conflict, and as a result i Tess demanding and therefore moe
likely to pay off during the carly stages of Uherapy. Tasks and assignments
are graded in such ay that partners can experience sccess without having
to change high-cor! behaviors, Subsequent fo their experience af enhanced
satisfaction, they are oRen more eallaborative and therefore willing te take
fon some of the demanding tasks that comprise the
Behavior exchange relies heavily om homewor
for enhancing telationship quality. tn fact, the tl
around the previous week's homewors assignmient.
celniguues help cuuples
atfer stages of therapy
assignments as a vehicle
sessions revolve
he beginning of a
5. SOCIAL CFARNING-COGNTTIVE PERSDECTIVE 39
session is spent debriefing the previous assignment; the middle of the session.
is often spent troubleshooting those aspects of the assignment that did not
work well; and the latter part of the session is spent presenting a new
assignment that emerges in part from the just-completed disctission of the
prior assignment, One of the underlying mesiages of BE is that marital
therapy is not simply attending a session for an hour a week; indeed. from
the beginning couples Jearn that the work at home is much more central
to the success of the therapy enterprise than what transpires during the
therapy session, ‘This may be one of the cental differences between the
SLC perspective and other theoretical frameworks. Other techniques, stich
as communication-problem-solving training, vtilize the session ‘self as a
vehicle for change; with BE, the vehicle for change is the home environment
The BE techniques typically begin with the request that both spouses
focus on themselves. This means that each spouse is asked, in a number
of different ways, how she ot he is contributing to the problems in the
relationship, and what power she or he has to improve its quality hy making
behavior changes. The commitment to focusing on oneself is sought during
the roundtable discussion and before therapy actually begins. By encouraging
hoth spouses to avoid blaming their partners for the paucity of gratification
currently existing in the selationsleip, and by insisting on solutions that
involve each spouse targeting his or her own behavior for change, the
therapist interrupts a long-standing and unproductive pattem involving bath
passivity, with each spouse feeling powerless and waiting for the partner to
hange first,” and excessive preoccupation with one’s own victimization
The sclffocus activates spouses and restructures their efforts to imp:
tclationsttip. Once couples have committed themselves to focusing on their
‘own behavior, time is spent teaching them to “pinpoint” be
repertoires salutary impact on daily marital satista
change directives are then delivered by the therapist, in whic
is asked to increase the frequency of some of hese pinpoin
and fo observe the impact of these inereas fers daily mar
isfaction, which is being continuously recorded. Each spouse. chy
this task independently hut simultaneously, and so the behav
directives are at once parallel and wnilateral, OF sp.
‘v0 cimensions of this assignment that deviate fron
directives(Finsh dot
ypotheses)
char
‘al interest here
Iehavior exchange
< initially asked to come sp with their own
Bont what will be reinforcing for theit partner, as opposed Io
the umal-ricthod of asking each spouse what she or he wants from the
ther: eco spouses to change particular b
the the?apist delivers rather general instructions to increase the freq
of “some” behaviors from a poo! of potential reinforcers. ‘The rationale fe
both of these modifications is that they maximize the amount of chnice fe
spouse regarding what hehaviors to acccletate, Based on sociat-psv
chological reactance theory, choice should decrease the likelihood of resistin
to the directive on the part of the giver. More innportant, choice re40 RSISCOISON AND A. HOHZWORTHL MUNROE
mote likely that any behavior change that docs occut will be viewed by the
recipient as intemally mativated, voluntary, reflective of a poviive attitude
and likely to continue (Holtawoith-Munroe & Jacobson, 1985}. Thus, BE
isstiuctured, not me.cly to encourage behavior change, butalso to maximize
the likelihood that vecurring behavior changes will be supported by cor
responding cognitive and perceptual shifts.
hore are a number of variants on the basic BE themes. Stuart (1980)
asks spouses to bold “eating days,” where each spouse is to act as if she oF
he cared for the other and accordingly engage in behaviors designed to be
pleasing, Weiss, Ho2s, and Patterson (1973) instruct spouses to hold “love
days,” where on cevtaid days, withont announcement to the partner, spouses
double o tiple their ates of positive behaviors. Liberman, Wheeler, JeVisser,
Kuchiiel, and Kuchnel (1981) teach pinpointing by encostraging their couples
to “catch your spouse doing something nice” asan early homework assignment,
and foster accelerations in positive behavior using the “perfect marriage
j fantasy,” where partners generate ideas for posible ways of improving the
relationship.
To illustrate our use of BE procedures, we shall use an example where
hypothesized reinforcers and punishers are dexived from the Spouse Observation
Checklist {SOC}. The SOC is a daily checklist of marital behaviors completed
by each partnct once a day. It was originally developed by Paiterson, Weiss,
and their associates (Pacterson, 1976} and has been revised by Weiss and
Perey (1979). Our version (Jacebson, Follette, & McDonald, 1982; Jacobson
& Moore, 1981; Jacobson, Waldion, & Muore, 1990) consists of 409 items
Givided into 12 categories of marital behavior (e.g., Companionship, Sex,
Houschold Responsibilities}. ‘The task is to report retrospectively over the
past 24 houis whether or not 2 particular behavior has occurred and then
to rate ils impact (postive, negative, or neural) if occurred, ‘Thus. if each
spouse completes the SOC nightly for a week, you have a daily record of
the positive, negative, and neuteal events that ovcus. Furthermore, when
‘each spouse is asked to rate the overall marital satisfaction for that day on
~®a S-point Likert Seale, daily frequencies of pasicular types of events ean be
correlated with subjective satisfaction to generate hypotheses regarding the
potent reinforcers and punishes in the relationship. Couples can be taught
to generate hypatheses using the SOC. Later, they are asked to test those
hypotheses by inereasing their delivery of some hypothesized reinfozcers and
then observing their impact on the partner's marital satisfaction ratings.
‘Again, as we mentioned above, each spouse chooses fram a list of reinforcers
the behaviors to deliver; and each spouse generates her ot his hypotheses
regarding what behuviois would increase the partuer’s satisfaction cating,
without input from the partner. Later, when the couple return for their
nex! session, input fom the recipient s added regarding behaviors that she
or he would like to see increased.
‘Vhe following isa portion of an early therapy sesion where BE techniques
‘were utilized. The therapist is reviewing a homework assignment from the
2. ASOICIAC LEARNING- COGNITIVE PERSPECTIVE a
preceding week, which had involved each spouse's attempting to generate,
fiom the partner's SOG, a list of behaviors that appcated to be associated
with high martal satisfaction ratings. Later that same week, they were to
Increase the frequericy of four or Five af these hypothesized reinforcers
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ancl me have an anu ler cae she's et abot He Bght otha ent
ipren he time
reenatne Seite ike by asking ht etal yr ere able Yo prevert argument
tow Yeah, Tees 2
‘The session continued with a focus on Ann and the behaviors she tried 0
increase.
"This brief excespt illustrates many facets of BE, slong with many of the
clinical issues that generalize to other domains of marital therapy. First
the therapist keeps each spouse focusing on herself or hisasell. Second, the
emphasis is on increasing positive behavior and tracking positive aspects of
the homework assignment, although couples often tend to dwell wn the one
day when things did not go well or the ane argument they might have bad,
the therapist wants to maintain their focus on the positive aspects of the
relationship in order to build on those and modify their biased, negative
tracking, ‘Third, the therapist encourages the spouses to be specific so that
each person understands exactly what Fchavioss were atternpted and so that
Suecersfl experiences can be replicated, Fourth, the therapist normalizes
ifferences between spouses in their preferences, thus suggesting that people
do not have to be identical in order to he compatible. Fifth. the therapist
not only underscores and specifies the sucessful experiences but also attempts,
sshenever posible, to state the general principle underlying the specifie
experiences. In this case, the therapist poisted out that anew method for
dealing with the wife's stormy relationship with her mother may have emerged.
"These examples are in no way meant to be a comprehensive list of BE
techniques, The BF techniques can te used not only fo generate positive
exchanges at the beginaing of therapy but can also he extended to cover
major areas of discord. In short, BE nvolves any instigative interventiont
where the goal is to generate behavior change between spouses at home. TE
is to be distinguished fom the more procesrariented communication=
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problem-solving training to be discussed in the next section. For some
couples, BE will be a sufficient treatment. Most couples require tactics in
addition fo BE, however, because BE does not directly addsess the quality
of marital interaction. Thus it provides litle basis for weaning couples from
the therapy environment. What it does provide is reltef from the feelings
of hopelessness that often pervade the decision to seck marital therapy,
practice in pinpointing currently cxisting resources, and the important lesson
that relationship quality can he directly affected by charges i relatively
Jow-cost behaviors. Most frequently, itis designed to pave the way for the
more intensive process-oriented work to be discussed below.
Communi
jon—Problem-Solving Training
Pethaps the one therapeutic technique found universally in marital therapies.
regardless of theoretical orientation, is communication: training. Research
supports the widespread utilization of such techniques, Distressed couples
eshibit a variety of dysfunctional communication patterns (Gottman, 1979)
Moreover, there is some evidence that these fzulty communication pattems
‘not ony precede but actually predict subsequent marital distress (Maskman,
1979), Finally. recent studies shove spouse-teported communication to be
the content category most highly cortelated with daily marital satisfaction
gacobson & Moore, 1981). Thus, even if none of this rescarch proves that
commnication deficiencies are causally rlated to subsequent marital distress,
they show that both observers and spouses report pervasive deficiency in
communication dissatisfaction with communication, or both, in amounts
that are ditectly propattional fo the overall functioning of the marriage
‘The distinguishing characteristic between communication training from
an SLC perspective and that of other theoretical schools is its use of direct
teaching strategies to prominte positive communicetion. With the exception
af Guerney’s work ‘see Chapter 6, this volume}, no school of marital therapy
other than the SLC relies on behavior rehearsal as a primary component
of the training (cl. Jacobson & Margolin, 1975), The SLC method of
communication training is complicated and multificetedit involves didactic
instructions, practice by the couple, and feedback from the therapist based
fon the practice sessions, There is good reason to belicve that such tactics
are necessaty to promote the acquisition of new communication skills: Jacabson
and Anderson {1980} found that only the complete package produced in-
cremienty in communication growth relative lo no tcining: nether instructions
alone, instructions and rehearsal without feedback, nor instructions and
feedback without rehearsal produced any notable changes in interactional
performance
‘This section pays special attention to problem-solving training, which
is communication training oriented toward enhancing the ability of matital
partners to talk to one another about conflict issues in the relationship,44 NS. JACOBSON AND A, HOMIZWORTEL MUNROE
Problem-solving tesiniing (PS) has played a central cole in our model throughout
its history, However, before discussing PS, some attention wil} be devoted
te other forms of communication taining, patticulaily the teaching of
receptive aud expressive skills. These latter areas have been increasingly
tmphasized in out own work and have long been 9 maior coniponcnt of
both behavioral and other Kinds of mauital therapy (Cauemey, 1977; O'Leary
& Turkewitz, 1978 Weiss ef al., 1973)
‘TEACHING RECEPTIVE AND EXPRESSIVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS
istotically, behavioral marital therapists taught listening and expressing as
preludes to working on problem solving and behavior change. They once
played a subordinate role in our work. In recent years, however, we have
begun to focus more explicitly on these skill as important targes For therapeutic
change in their own right, There are two main reasons for this renewed
emphasis. Fizst, our clinical experience told us that the exclusive focus on
the more instrumental communication skills taught during PS nas cleatly
helping our couples to become better companions, but it was less clear that
it was producing geaater emotional closeness and intimacy ‘Jaccbson, 19§3b;
Margolin, 1983), Teaching couples to share feelings with one another ina
supportive, undersunding way seems to complement nicely the mute cational,
cognitive emphasis of PS. Second, we have begun to view communication
training as a powerful method for promoting egalitarianism. Since we believe
that relationships with unequal power are aimust guaranteed! to promote
continued distress to one if not both partners, the movement toward egal
itarianism is believed to be inherent in all our work with couples. Therefore,
anything that promotes it is clinically usefull to an SLC perspective
The techniques themselves are highly derivative and nt in any way
unique to our mods]. In fact, in large part they are the same skills emphasized
by Gucrney and his associates (this volume) in their relationship enhancement
approach. We have also been influenced by Gottman and his associates
(Cottman, Markman, Notarius, & Gonso, 1975}, Often, we begin by teaching
listening skills thar include paraphrasing, reflecting, and validating, Most
of the couples who come to us for therapy do not listen iv ote another
carefully, fal to indicate to the other that the later has been heard, or both,
We emphasize the value of these skills as ways to promote clarity uf com-
munication, but abo their utility in communicating care and concern, Most
people in matital -elationships find it gratifying to be understood by thels
spouse. The therapist discusses and models nuuverbal micthods as well as
the more obvious vebal ways to communicate attentian and interest. Nonverbal
emphases include the use of eye contact, expressiveness in the lace, body
language, and nodding the head as methods to indicate to the speaking
partner that she or he is being tracked. Verbal attention is taught using
Cucrney’s (1977) tactic of creating discrete roles of “speaker” aind "listener
and having spouses alternate those roles during training, Listeners are not
to interrupt speakers; listeners are fo listen carefully while the speaker is
talking and then rephrase or restate what the speaker has said. After para
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phrasing, the listenier asks the speaker whether the paraphrase was accurate
If so, the speaker can either elaborate or give up the float so that the listener
has an opportunity to become the speaker, if not, the speech is repeated,
followed by the paraphrase, with this eyele continuing Until the speaker is
satisfied that he or she has been understood
Expressive skills are usually taught afier listening skills. Speakers are
taught to use “I statements,” which qualify and emphasize the subjective
reality of thei: perspective (¢.g,, “As I see it, Mexico is a better choice than
Tacoma for a vacation, at least, | think thal T would have # better time in
Mexico”). The self-reference technique helps the speaker avoid presenting
the perspective as if i were objective reality. Otherwise, the listener may
lispute the truthfulness nf the message rather than simply listen and attempt
te understand the speaker's perspective. The use of these expressive techniques
promotes the idea that one’s experience of the world is subjective, and often
what are perceived a5 “facts” in relationships are perceptions that can un
derstandably diverge from the perceptivas of anather hunan being, whose
subjective experience of the world is bound to be unique, Speakers are alse
_shcouraged to identify theis feelings and communicate them to the listene:
as part of the “I statement.” By including aflective expressions whenever
appropriate, the speaker accomplishes many tasks at once, all of which
promote closeness and intimacy.
To illustrate the functions of including affective expressions as putt of
an “{ statement,” consider Jack and Clara, a couple in therapy. One of
theie sepeated argunicnis involved Jack’s menacing, intimidating manner of
speech. Whenever he grew frustrated or disagreed with Clara, he began to
rabe his voice and point his finger at Clara, At the beginning of therapy,
Clata would complain about Jack's behavior by saying, “You shouldn't act
that way; Im not going to tolerate violent behavior.” In response to such.
shtements, Jack would aise his voice, point his finger at her, and insist,
“Tarn not acting violent; am just disigreeing with you to make sute that
you understnd my point." Her “I statement” afier some communication,
faaining was, “When you raise your vice and point your finger at me,
get scared, probably because even though you may not intend violence, it
appears menacing and intiraidating to me.” In that one temark, Clara is
now disetesing something about herself that is probably going to make her
Position more understandable to Jack, that promotes intimacy through self-
disclosure, and that is almost inhercotly more likely to induce sympathy
than a remark that emphasizes the behavior of the other person. Here, Clara
is revealing something faicly intimate about herself, emphasizing that her
perception of his behavior is subjective and may actually be an inaccurate
reaction given his intentions. Intimate selé-disclosures involving atlective
expression’ are muck Tess Likely to lead to continued escalation than staternents
dexoid of such expression and that fail to acknowledge the subjective reality
Expressive skills training may also include leaming to make constructive
reyuests for behavior change. Couples can be taught to request change
without the typical overgenezalizations, character assassinations, and irre-
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levancies that so frequently contaminate the behav or change requests a
by people in dissatisfying marriages, Instead, the request is specific, oriente
toword. increas ng positive rather then decreasing negative hehavior, and
takes the form of, “If you would do X [specifically defined’, in situation Y,
T would feel Z [sharing feelings and positive consequences)." OF course,
even these very concise, polite requests will not always be accepted by &
pattner; thus, teaching couples palatable ways of saying no are also inaportant
fo this exercise
In training couples to use these communication skills, modeling is often
used. Spouses sometimes find i easier fo try out these new strategies with
a therapist than with the partner, The therapist needs to be active, directive,
and persistent in stopping destructive communication while aiding in the
acquisition of these new communication skills. Once skills ate practiced
effectively in the therapy session, couples are givers homework assignments
to practice them at home. It is not suprising that home practice ofien
uncovers difficulties that either failed to emerge or had ostensibly n
resolved during the therapy sessions. We would almost never ask couples
to practice a skill that has not been successfully mastered in the therapy
it is often easier to begin with nonconflict issues. We often begin with
having couples talk about the time when they return home at the end of a
day. Neutra topics allow couples to focus on the process iiself rather than
become distracted by the content of am emotionally louded issue, tt should
also be pointed out, however, that neutral or make-believe topics without
emotional fallout may not provide practice that will generalize to the major
conflict areas. Moreover, too much time spent on trivial topics
disengagement from the therapy process, particularly for high-conf
who need some immediate relief
Refore conchuing this section, we ant fo mention ou
of communication training. As we said above, comn
be a powerful tool for restructuring relationships along egalit
Gur hypothesis ss that patterns of dominance and power offen manifest
then in the habitual rales that each spouse assumes during everyday
conversation. Often, when a thera
and encourages cach spouse to assum these new behaviors
have poweful ramifications for current patterns of dominance, and in fact
often ate completely inconsistent with those pattems. This creates the possibility
that the patterns will change, depend ng on how skillful the therapist ig in
promoting equal power in other areas of the treatment program.
We have recently experimented wits interventions that wed the discussion
of the couple's day as a vehicle for both observing and altering patterns of
dominance. When spouses reunite al the end of the day to exchange in-
formation and cormmmnicate about wat has happened to cach of them in
the time they have been apart, two prtterns af dominance tend to emerge
-sest application
cation training cam
onwersation process
the dominant
mee throu ing" (DT) patiern shows a speaker
absorbed in details of his or her day, with little apparent interest in
eliciting information from the partner's day, When the listening
does bring up an event front his ar her day, the speaker either dex
attention or quickly returns to his or her own day. The listener reinfo
this self preoccupation by seldom offering infotmation shout Iie ot her daw
and by encouraging the speaker to elaborate. The expreisions of
the undivided attention, and the requests for elaboration all serve to pr
for the speaker a gicen light to debrief thoroughly all events that have
transpired in his or her day, It is as if everything that happened to the speaker
is important and worth recounting én detail, while both spouses seem 19
agtec that the events in the Tistener’s day were trivial, Hushands are more
commonly speakers in this patte
‘The second dosninance pattern that manifests itelf in discussions regarding
ccvonts of the day if the “dominant listener" (DL) pattem, Here, the listene
dominates the conversation by a lack of interest in what the other ss saying
and by coucorsitant witholding of any information. The listener is disensaged
slic or he leans away’ from the speaker, daes not lock diseethy at the speaker,
and appears bored and uninterested in the conversation. ‘The speaker falke
ahout a variety of topics, but there is the sense that the speaker could be
talking to himself or herself, in this pattern, wives are usually the speckers
During training in receptive and expressive commmnication skills, the
therapist's directives shitt the interaction away from these habirial patte
of dominance, For esample, the therapist might say, “Now [ would ike
you {the dominant listener! to paraphrase everything she says with vour eves
maintaining contact with hers, while sitting up in your chair and leaning
slightly forwavc.” Usually, bot partness are at least somewhat uncomfortable
with such directives, and the key to success with this tsk is fr the therapist
to be bath persistent and willing to exptore each spouse's inhib
engaging in the task Cognitive and affective explorations often reveal cognitions
such as, “Nothing that happens to me is important” or “My job is to clevate
the self-esteem of everyone else in the family; that is all Lam good for,
and affect involving fear of change, of ambiguity, cf becoming vulnerable
The pornt is that the task provides a vehicle for exploring and tater madiing
rigid, stullfving pattems of interaction that seem to have implications beyond
those initially intended in communication. training evercises
part
PROBLEM-SOLVING TRAINING
Conflict-resohution skills ate typically taught after couples have master
basic listening and expressive shill. The focus is on facilitating. spou
ability and willingness to discuss conflict areas constructively and teach
viable solutions io them. ‘The hope is that they ww
therapy is over to deal with future conflicts that ative.
use these skills aff48 NSCINCOBSON AND A. HOLTWORTH MUNROE
Conflict-resolusion skills taught in the SLC framewark represent asteuce
tured, higlily specialized kind of interaction, There atc specific concepts for
couples to learn, rules for them to follow, and a format in which problems
are to be discussed. As an introduction to the format, the sules, anrl the
concepts, they read a manual watten for couples and taken from the Jacobson
and Maxgalin (1979) book. The manual provides a detailed discussion of
the problem solsing process
Then the skills are taught during therapy sessions, with the therapist
playing the role of teucher aid cach Often, the therapist will begin by
modeling the SMesphining the principle involved, and providing the
couple with fecdback as they practice the skill. When the skill is performed
incorrectly, or wher spouses lapse into their destructive, mnalalaplive putters,
the therapist interrupts them and provides them with farther feedback. Once
spouses can perform a particular skill adequately in the therapist's office,
they ate given horrework assignments to practice the skill at honte
The problem-solving process is divided into bvo distinct phases: the
definition phase and the resolution phase, Couples are taught first to define
the prublem, during which time they avoid suggesting possible solutions,
and then te focus exclusively on solutions and avoid further elaborations on
what the problem js. ‘This distinction is maintained because couples often
falter in their con Bit-resolution discussion through a contamination of these
processes: If solutions are suggested prematurely, that fs, before the problem
hhas been properly defined, often the wiong problem is being discussed;
conversely, by confinuing to redefine the problem during the discussion of,
solutions, Couples effectively avoid the more difficult ask of decidingavhat
they are going to do te solve the problem.
Problem definitions are characterized by the following rules:
1. Problem identification should be preceded by expresions of eppreciation..
‘These expressions place problems in perspective. Mest peuple find it easter
to accept eriticiam when itis placed within the context of overall appreciation
for one’s positive altribules and qualities, Thus, for example, “You forgot
to empty the garbage” is more likely to clicit a defensive, noncollaborative
response than “I really appreciate the help you've been giving me around
the house lately, even though I do get arigry when you forget to take out
the garbage.”
2, Problerns should be identified specifically, in behavioral terms, and
without derogatory adjeetives or personality-trait labels. Instead of “You are
disgusting and inconsiderate,” the PS format would favor, "You often fail
to call me to tell me what time you'll be home.”
3. When defining problems, include divect expressions of feeliag. When
one or boil spouses pinpoint problem behaviors to the other, Wey are
encouraged to- make explicit the affect associated with the behavior, For
example, inslead of saying, “It is not nice to ist with other women at
pariies,”” partners are encouraged to include expressions such as, “When
you flist with other women at parties, I feel hurt and angy.” Peeling
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expressions tend to be disaciings the recipient of a complaint that includes
a fecling expression is ess likely to countercomplain ot desty responsibility
and moie likely to accommodate to the fecling
Validation, Collaboration, and Acceptance of Responsibili
‘Condlictresohution discussions are most likely to break down shortly after
the problem is fist defined. ‘The habitual response toa complaint is to
defend oneself through denials, eross-complaints, excuses, or justifications,
‘The problem-solving format precludes such responses and substitutes one
‘of many possible collaborative responses; empathy, admissions, apologies,
and recognition of the ather’s feelings are possible alternatives, itis equally
inmportani that spouses who have identified problem behaviors in the partner
are willing to acknowledge whatever zole they play in cither creating. main-
teing, oF exacerbating the problem.
Vhen defining problems, the rules in the training program are design
tg civcummognt all ofthe habitual maneuver tut heal tea hrekdone
the diseussi’m. The definition phase is where problem-solving discussions
tusually die in distressed telationships. Most of the rules are designed to
promote engagement and collaboration in the couple by generating changes
in the way complaints are expressed and received. Complaints are expressed
in such s way ay to maximize the likelihood that the recipient will teceive
the complaint in a0 exgaged and collaborative manne; in addition, spouses
ae encouraged to receive complaints not as challenges or thyeats, bul a3
sclutionship problems that are inthe interests of both of them to solve.
_ Hae is an exanple of a couple, Ed and Sue, defining one of their
remaining probleme at home ducing the latter stages of thexapy
SU: Ed Lave been delighted by the way yuu've been vending to the ebiddsen fe the
sven, The lve On the weer ll mak i ant Dt ou dat spend
moze tive wath them
eo: So yuu'te saying that yon do apotecial thot U spend sone of
that eclaty that T spend sone of any evening time with
‘Toro an Kathy, but since T don't spend time with then on weekeuds you Tel anges
fs tha ight
su Veab
0: You've sight that {don’t spend much weekeud tine with the bid gn {can understand
vohy that wou be upsetting te sou
sve fe panapanp Tralee of the pn ‘
ale rh ont of the espns nese an gt
nour ee about eng shes Jeeves hie ke say fone
Juco he pend sth he eile
1 [after paraphrasing: Let's figuce out what we eas do about this,
After the problem has been defined, the couple moves iata the solution
phave of the discussion, where they mdve sequentially through three tasks:
brainstorming, identifying the components Of a carat ead Eee ee
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BRANSTORMING
During brainstorming, a list of solutiors is generated, from which a contract
will eventually be formed. The instructions to the couple are to generate a
ist of possible solutions by verbalizing all ideas that enter their consciousness,
without censoring anvthing. Evafuative comments are not allowed during
the brainstorming exercise, ‘The purpose of this exercise is te allow partners
the opportunity to generate ideas without having to evaluate them. They
are told not to worry about the quality of the idea at this point in the
discussion, and in fact the therapist reinforces this luck of concer with
quality by suggesting some absurd, ard probably humorous, solutions. This
exercise is designed tu counteract the couple's tendencies to censor themselves
and evaluate ail ideas negatively before seriously considering them.
Here is the list of solutions generated by Sue and Ed regarding the
problem identified above:
1. Sue could sean the newspaper and come up with a Tist of children’s
activities available for an upcoming weekend and then ask if Ed
would like to take the kids to any.
Ed could agree to spend every Saturday afleruan with the kids.
Sue and Ed could give the kid ap for adoption
Ed and Suc could take the hids to the park together on Saturday
aftetnaons,
5. Ed could take 30 minutes on Friday night to think of home activities
{svelt as puzzles or drawing) and then play with the kids sometime
over the weekend, in the activity he chooses
6. Sue could accept Ed's limitations as a father and withdraw the com
plaint,
7. Sue could help Ed with some of the weekend chores so that he would
have more time for the kids.
8, Ed could give up his Saturday moming baseball games to make sure
he has more tine to spend with the kids.
IDENTIEVING THE COMPONENTS OF A CONTRACT
From the list of proposed solutions generated during brainstorming, the
partners elininate those that are patently absurd. Then each ofthe remaining,
proposals are discussed from each of two perspectives a) Were this proposal
tobe adopted, would it either salve or cantrsbute tha solition to the problem:
and (6) were this solution to be adopled, what would be the benefits and
costs to cach of the spouses. After each perspective is considered, a decision
is made regarding the disposition of the proposal imider discussion, “Three
dispositions are possible. Ener the praposal is to be included as a component
fof a contract, eliminated because the costs outweigh the benefits, or labled
for roconsidctation after other proposals on the list are eoasideted. Eventually,
this process generates a set of compenents to be combined systematically
into a change agreement or contract
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FORMING § WRITTEN CONTRACT
is fina! step in the pinblem-solving process involves sunthes