Family Ministry
Family Ministry
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bring entire families togetherincluding singles, singleparent households, and children of non-believing parents who have been enfolded into believing families.
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The family-based model seeks to merge a comprehensive-coordinative vision for parents with the
segmented-programmatic perspective that remains
prevalent in many contemporary churches. Mark DeVries pioneered this approach in his book Family-Based
Youth Ministry after recognizing that the real power
for faith formation was not in the youth program but
in the families and the extended family of the church.
. . . Our isolated youth programs cannot compete with
the formative power of the family.15 DeVries indentified
two key priorities in creating and maintaining a familybased model. First, churches must empower the parents
to participate in the discipleship of their children. The
second priority is to equip the extended family of the
church so that the generations build relationships with
one another.
In this model, age-segmented ministries continue
with minimal change, but the congregation constantly
creates opportunities to involve parents and other
adults. The model that Reggie Joiner has dubbed supplemental family ministry would probably describe
the more programmatic side of family-based ministry.16
The difference between family-based models and typical
segmented-programmatic models is that family-based
churches intentionally include intergenerational activities in each ministry and consistently train parents to
function as disciple-makers in their childrens lives.
Proponents of the model are quick to assert that the
segmented-programmatic paradigm is neither faulty
nor broken. The segmented perspective simply needs
to be rebalanced so that parents are empowered and
intergenerational relationships are emphasized. There
are, Brandon Shields asserts,
no pressing reasons for radical reorganization or
restructuring of present ministry models. There is
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erational activities within existing segmented-programmatic structures and add family activities to current
calendars, family-equipping churches redevelops the
congregations structure to cultivate a renewed culture wherein parents are acknowledged, trained, and
held accountable as the primary faith-trainers in their
childrens lives. As in family-integrated churches, children whose parents are unbelievers are connected with
mature believers in the types of relationships that Paul
described in his letter to Titus (Titus 2:1-8). Every level
of the congregations life is consciously recultured to
co-champion the churchs ministry and the parents
responsibility.
To envision the family-equipping model in action,
imagine a river with large stones jutting through the
surface of the water. The river represents the Christian
growth and development of children in the church. One
riverbank signifies the church, and the other riverbank
connotes the family. Both banks are necessary for the
river to flow forward with focus and power. Unless both
riverbanks support the childs development, you are
likely to end up with the destructive power of a deluge
instead of the constructive possibilities of a river. The
stones that guide and redirect the river currents represent milestones or rites of passage that mark the passing
of key points of development that the church and families celebrate together.
Most of the authors whose contributions appear
on these pages view family-equipping ministry as the
ideal. At the same time, the principles that they present
will be useful far beyond family-equipping churches,
particularly in family-integrated and family-based contexts. Even segmented-programmatic and educationalprogrammatic ministries may find this journal helpful
as they seek to develop theological foundations for their
ministries to families.
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Before you make plans to launch a family ministry in
your church, a few words of warning about family ministry are in orderwords that may seem to work against
the success of this very journal! Our words of warning
are simply these: Family ministry is not the answer; fam-
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For the model as practiced by these ministers, see
Jay Strother, Family-Equipping Ministry: Cochampions with a Single Goal, in Perspectives on
Family Ministry, ed. Timothy Paul Jones (Nashville:
B&H, 2009); Brian Haynes, Shift: What it Takes to
Finally Reach Families Today (Loveland, CO: Group
Publishing, 2009); Steve Wright with Chris Graves,
reThink: Is Student Ministry Working? (Raleigh:
InQuest, 2007).
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Much that is found in Think Orange: Imagine the
Impact When Church and Family Collide (Colorado
Springs: Cook, 2009) fits in the overlap between the
family-based and family-equipping paradigms, at
least from an organizational and programmatic perspective; many of the associated publications could
be helpful in resourcing the development of familybased and family-equipping ministries, although
these materials provide little in the way of theological
foundations for family ministry.
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For the resource, train, involve principle as well
as the term co-champion, see Steve Wright with
Chris Graves, reThink: Is Student Ministry Working?
(Raleigh: InQuest, 2007).
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