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This FREE eBook: The 10 Commandments of Pickup and
The 7 Deadly Sins of Texting by Dating Metrics is your
very own crash course Bible to pickup and phone game.
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Introduction
Rules are made to be broken. But not in this case
The 10 Commandments of Pickup must be obeyed if you want to have
success with women. Period.
This biblical guide reveals the 10 BIGGEST no nos of pickup, to help you
realise the mistakes youre making when hitting on the ladies.
We take you through the whole process of an interaction from selecting your
target right through to the very first kiss.
After each commandment we provide expert advice so you can learn the
difference between right and wrong when picking up girls.
So take note of the following 10 Commandments of Pickup and make sure
you play by the book. Dont break the rules!
1. Thou Shall Not Choose the Wrong Target
Choosing your target is no simple task. Choose wrongly, and you could end
up wasting the whole time chatting up a girl who, in terms of your intentions
that night, is clearly on a different wavelength.
A girl who looks overtly happy within her entourage is probably not on the
prowl, or isnt the type of girl to take a step on the wild side! Similarly girls
wearing flats are often dressing un-showy for a reason - theyve got a
boyfriend.
Advice: Look out for girls who have wondering eyes i.e. their focus isnt
100% with their own group. These girls are often looking for more than just
friendly company on a night out. High heels are also a good indication that a
girl is on the pull.
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Once you have selected your target, ensure to break free if the conversation
isnt going aware. Dont waste your time. Remember there are always going
to be plenty other girls in the bar to choose from!
2. Thou Shall Not Suffer from Approach Anxiety
Fear of rejection is single-handedly the biggest obstacle preventing men from
having success with women. It prevents 90% of guys from ever getting
experience at picking up girls.
After all, practice makes perfect - if you cant approach, you will NEVER
experience the proceeding fun stages like the first kiss.
When guys see a girl they like, panic sets in. The same old questions spring
to mind Do I approach? What do I say? What if she rejects me? What if my
mates see me getting rejected?
Once these questions flood your brain, the overwhelming build up of nerves
turns the approach into a living nightmare. Or worse, through being too
hesitant, you miss the opportunity to approach and see another guy beat you
to it.
Advice: Abide by the 3-second rule. If you see a girl you like, count in your
head 1,2,3 and then approach! This cunning tactic prevents the build up of
nerves associated with approach anxiety so that youre already talking to the
girl before those niggling thoughts come back to haunt you.
The more you practice approach, the more comfortable you will feel.
On a night out, its good to get a couple of plutonic approaches under your
belt before chatting up a girl you like.
If approach anxiety is a massive problem for you, fear not because you can
learn a rejection proof art of approaching here.
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3. Thou Shall Not Approach Directly
Many guys make the mistake of approaching a girl face on which is pretty
intimidating for the poor girl being hit on. She will spot the approach a mile
away allowing her enough time to quickly think up an excuse to get out of
the situation.
Approaching head on displays way too much positive body language and
makes the girl feel trapped in your presence. Not only is this an intimidating
way to approach, but it also shows youre overly keen.
Advice: Girls love to feel like they stumble across a guy by chance.
Approach indirectly at a 45 angle and say a few words over your shoulder
whilst walking on by. Appear like you are not stopping to talk to her, she just
happens to be in your line of fire en route to the bar.
If she responds well to your initial opener, utilize body rocking to reward her
attention i.e. allow her to stop you in your tracks.
This method of approach will allow the target to perceive you as being both
laid back and unthreatening. And more importantly feel like she has won you
over rather than the other way around. It is a sneaky tactic because girls love
to chase!
4. Thou Shall Not Ignore Her Friends
One of the biggest rookie mistakes is to ignore the targets friend. In bars,
girls are rarely unaccompanied. So when you approach dont direct all your
attention towards the target whilst completely blanking her friend.
You might be lucky to get a kiss close and a number exchange but chances
are the friend will hardly be fighting your corner to encourage the target to
go on a date with you!
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Advice: Look out for the mother hen. This term is used to describe the
female leader in the group of girl friends. If you fail to win over the mother
hens acceptance, she will do everything in her power to prevent you from
hitting on the target. So respect the mother hen!
5. Thou Shall Not Perform Pecking
When chatting up girls, the ugly art of pecking involves leaning in at the hips
to talk, whilst returning to stand normally once finished speaking. The same
applies for when the girl is speaking, the pecker will lean towards the girl to
listen. The act resembles a pigeon head bobbing back and forth.
Why is this bad? Pecking screams low value as it implies that you are
putting in all the work for the girls attention. Your over eagerness will not
only be obvious to the target, but to all the other girls in the club watching
on.
Advice: Approach indirectly. This will allow you to lean in over your shoulder
rather than from the hip. When she is comfortable in your company, switch
roles, try and get her pecking for your attention!
If the target is pecking you, this will increase your social value to both the
target and all the other girls in the club watching on.
6. Thou Shall Not Be Mr Nice Guy
Attractive girls get sick of guys being overly nice and showering them with
flattery. A hot girl will know shes hot. She doesnt need some random
stranger confirming it for her!
Being Mr Nice Guy will not only cause you to blend in with the hundreds of
other guys trying to pick her up, but by sucking up, shell know you think
shes out of your league.
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By being nice, you are putting the ball in her court to decide if she wants to
give you a chance or reject you (like all the other nice guys shes rejected
before).
Advice: Speak to her like she is on the same level as you, i.e. not high up on
a pedestal! Yes, her outstanding looks are very distracting, but unless you
see her as any other human being, your default nice guy mode will kick in.
So instead of being nice, you should act playful and try to tease her. She
should be doing the chasing. Reward her with compliments and flattery once
she has won over your attention.
7. Thou Shall Not Talk Too Much
A lot of guys are guilty of having a motor mouth. A girl asks what you do for
work, and you end up reeling off a 5 minute-long life story.
Verbal diarrhoea is a default defence mechanism caused by the nerves
associated with chatting up a pretty girl.
Talking too much will bore her to death. Dating Metrics found out that poor
conversation happens to be the number 1 reason why women reject guys
trying to chat them up. Check out our pickup infographic to see the results
yourself!
Advice: You need to have an air of mysteriousness about you. Put the
emphasis on her give little back in return. You need to make her feel like
she has had to work hard to win over your attention. Reward her with
information about yourself once she has earned it.
8. Thou Shall Not Interview Her
Another fatal mistake is when guys grill interview style questions to a girl
they just met. What job do you do?, What are your interests?, Where did
you study?, Do you like sports? To name a few
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Remember, theyre on a night out. Girls just want to have fun! Enough with
the dull chat already. Remember poor conversation is the number 1 reason
girls will reject you.
Advice: Yes its OK to ask questions, but make them fun and interesting!
Rather than asking what they do for work, say something like - if you could
be anything you wanted in life regardless of qualifications and money, what
would you be? This is an open-ended question giving them the chance to
use their imagination, or better, open up to you on a deeper level.
9. Thou Shall Not Ask for Permission
Can I buy you a drink?, Is it OK if I sit here?, Can I get your number?
Asking for permission is VERY beta. Women like it when you make the
decisions and assert your male dominance. There is nothing worse than
being wet and indecisive. You need to fulfil your male gender role!
Advice: Be assertive. So rather than asking if your target wants a drink, say
Im buying you a drink or Whats that youre drinking? Ill buy you a new
one...
This is a great way of showing that you are both confident and a leader two
very attractive traits women look for in a man.
10. Thou Shall Not Fail to Make Physical Contact
There is a fine line with physical contact. Get touchy-touchy too early on
and you risk killing attraction and scaring her off.
However failing to initiate any physical contact will put you at risk of being
friend zoned and badly rejected if you suddenly go in for the kiss. Awkward
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Advice: In the early stages, physical contact (kino) should be subtle and
under the radar. So no awkward leg grabbing when sitting side by side
please!
By utilizing gentle kino you can prevent alarming the target. Gentle kino can
be as simple as a slight touch of the targets mid back whilst talking in her
ear.
Building physical contact will help you naturally lead to the first kiss. If you
want to learn how to escalate your physical advances like a pro, check out
Stealth Attraction where you can learn the secrets of micro-escalation to
never get rejected going in for the first kiss!
Be sure to check out our review of Stealth Attraction to see why.
So those are the 10 Commandments of Pickup!
Learn them, memorize them, do whatever you need to do, just make sure to
never commit any of the above. Please!
And now for the 7 Deadly Sins of Texting.
Its time to see where your thumbs are as guilty as sin
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Introduction
When it comes to texting girls, the smallest slip of the thumbs can have
biblical consequences.
There are 7 Deadly Sins of texting, the question is: what are you most guilty
of?
Committing any number of these sins will quickly make girls go unresponsive
and not want to date you.
This guide was made with the purpose of teaching you:
What the 7 Deadly Sins of Texting are
How to avoid them like the plague
What kind of texts you should be sending
Weve included plenty of text templates you can either start using
immediately or draw inspiration from to create your own godly texting style.
Youll discover how to stand out from every other guy, stay out of the friend
zone and even the magical powers of LOL cats!
So without further ado, lets get biblical...
1. Texting Without Purpose is a SIN
The ultimate purpose of texting girls is to meet up with them in person.
Thats it.
Lose sight of this and you'll either end up becoming her text buddy or shell
lose interest in you and stop replying to your texts.
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To maintain purpose, you must NEVER
sink into idle chit chat
try to make a deep connection over text
Instead, focus on ONLY sending texts that:
spark her emotions
pump her desire to see you
Remember, the more you text her without purpose, the more likely you
are to piss her off or cool her desire to meet you.
So when it comes to texting, less really is best.
Make your intentions clear and dont beat around the bush - this way she
wont be confused about what you want and will be far more likely to want to
meet you for a date, or even for sex.
Ill give you some great examples of texts Ive used to spark emotion and
pump girls desire to meet me throughout this book.
2. Making Her Wait is a SIN
A shocking 21% of men still abide by the 3-day rule - a ridiculous rule coined
from the movie Swingers.
The rule states that you should wait 3 days to get in contact with a woman
youre interested in. But just because it was in a movie doesnt make it true.
We discovered 89% prefer guys to contact them within 48 hours of
exchanging numbers from this survey of 100 single women.
So...dont wait until the next day, or the day after that:
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Text her immediately after getting her number within fifteen minutes
after you meet her is good. Even better, text her when youre right in front of
her. Bobby Rio, author of Magnetic Messaging and texting guru swears by
this rule.
This way, when youre fresh in her mind, shell remember you right away
next time your number pops up rather than forgetting who you are and
replying with an awkward Who is this? text.
Shell feel more comfortable about your text interaction with her the next
day because you already began texting her when you were with her.
It will remove her anxiety about texting you and means itll make setting up
a first date that much easier.
Here are 2 templates of texts you can use to send her immediately after
swapping digits:
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Theres no magic text you can send to make her instantly fall for you, but
texts like the above will differentiate yourself from other guys and allow you
to continue a fun vibe the next day.
URGENT REMINDER: If shes a hot babe and goes out regularly shell probably
have at least 4 guys chasing after her. No joke. We also discovered that girls
in high demand will lose interest in you if you dont text her within 2 days of
meeting her from this survey. So always remember:
You are not the only one texting her. You need to stand out and you stick in
her memory. Get there first and text her immediately!!!
3. Failing to Maintain The Fun Vibe is a SIN
24% of women wont text you back the next day if you stop being funny.
No matter how much you make her laugh when you meet her the first time,
shell quickly forget the fun times as soon as you become boring.
Its actually pretty simple when you think about it. All you need to do is carry
on the fun vibe you had when you met her.
Inside jokes, a weird hobby she told you about you can break her balls over,
or anything that made you both laugh is a great place to start.
Before hitting send, take a step back and think - If I received this text, would
I be moved to reply back?
You need to send the kind of texts that make her put everything else on hold
to text you back. These type of texts are both different and exciting.
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If you cant think of anything funny to say, here are 2 examples that demand
a response:
Golden Rule: As a rule of thumb, if something makes you laugh out loud then
itll probably do the same for her. If it doesnt, then its probably not worth
sending.
If you love case studies and want a treasure trove of examples you can use
immediately, check out Magnetic Messaging - my secret weapon for
texting girls to get more dates.
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4. Asking Too Many Questions is a SIN
In the movie, The 40 Year Old Virgin, Cal advises Andy to simply ask
questions when talking to women, which Andy then uses to great effect and
seduces Beth (a bookstore clerk) by just asking questions.
In real life, however, girls dont respond well to being bombarded by
questions. In fact, it gets a little annoying after a while, even more so over
text.
Think about it like this: Does asking questions raise a womans attraction for
you? Does it make you sound like a high value male?
The answer is no.
It makes you sound desperate, needy and like you have nothing meaningful
to say.
Asking questions serves no purpose other than to validate yourself with a
response. If she replies to your questions, it doesnt mean shes into you, it
just means shes being polite.
So do you often go to Mix club?, why did you choose to study
English?, whats your opinion on Obama?. Urrrggghhh.
REMEMBER: you must avoid falling into the friend zone at all costs. Asking
questions will set you down the dangerous road of becoming her text buddy
and will sap any attraction she initially had for you dry.
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If you really want to find something out about her, or simply want to strike up
a bit of flirty banter, try making statements instead.
Here are 2 examples:
Youll find heaps more examples that are proven to work in Magnetic
Messaging.
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5. Giving a Shit is a SIN
When texting girls, maintaining an I dont give a shit" mindset is key.
You must never let your desire for her consume you to the point where
youre checking your phone every minute to see if she has replied, reading
into her texts too much, or staring at the screen for ages thinking about
what to reply.
As soon as you start giving a shit your thumbs will slip up.
Youll either stop being funny, become a needy texter or even worse, start
exhibiting jealous behaviour.
Jealous behaviour is one of the greatest attraction killers of them all.
In fact, our survey found that 24% of women will flake on you if you reveal
signs of being a jealous type of guy.
There are various extremes of jealous behaviour, but here are some classic
examples:
You send an unhappy face if she says she cant see you because shes
out with friends
When she tells you she cant see you because shes out with friends
you ask are your friends girls or guys? :S"
When she doesnt reply to your call you say are you avoiding me?,
or why didnt you answer my call?
Oh and then theres the super extreme jealous guy: I called you a few
times today to see if you are ok but you didnt reply. I hope youre ok.
Text me to let me know where you are.
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Weve all been there. Ive been a jealous asshole countless times in the past
and Im not proud of it.
But if youre not dating her, and shes not your girlfriend, you
have absolutely no excuse to be jealous.
Making a girl who doesnt even know you feel guilty is pure psycho
behaviour.
So if she sends a text that makes you feel jealous, or she doesnt reply to you
for a few days. Dont guilt trip her.
Show her youre a high value guy. Dont give a shit. Brush it off, ignore it and
change the subject.
Remember, you have other options because youre a cool guy. Who cares if
she doesnt text back?
Not giving a shit should also be applied to the way you arrange the first date.
Dont make it sound like a big thing, e.g. Are you free tonight? Theres this
special restaurant Id love to take you to.
Instead, dress it down, make it sound casual and fun, even caveman it if you
think you can pull it off!: Have plan tonight? Me want take Stephanie out.
6. Needy Texting is a SIN
Neediness is the deadliest sin of them all.
In our survey of 100 single women a shocking 60% said they would flake
on guys with needy texting habits.
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Make sure you eradicate all 11 of these needy habits from your texts:
1. Text back immediately every single time
2. Send photos of yourself and ask for her opinion
3. Send more texts a day than she sends you
4. Overuse emoticons, LOL and hahahaha
5. Flatter her repeatedly
6. Ask questions all the time
7. Send her regular updates on your day
8. Send text monologues (10 line+ rambles)
9. Send her meaningless texts like how are you?, whats up?, Hi
10. Text her when youre drunk
11. Ask her if shes still ok to go on a date with you
Remember: any texts that seek her validation are needy, so never text her
for the sole reason of getting a response, always text her something shell
actually want to respond to.
7. Falling Into The Friend Zone is a SIN
Falling head first into the friend-zone is your fault, not hers.
The dreaded friend-zone is avoidable, as long as you play by these golden
rules:
Never get sucked into idle chit-chat.
Learn to spot friend zone traps and escape them by either changing
the subject
Make your intentions clear and always be purposeful with your texts -
to arrange a meet up
Avoid sending more than 2-3 texts without proposing a meet up
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Classic friend-zone traps are when she:
Asks what youre doing
Asks if you like something she likes
Lets breakdown how to escape these traps by teasing her and building her
attraction for you:
She asks what youre doing - make sure your response conveys that you are
having more fun than her, are sociable and if youre at work, that you are
working hard and prioritise work over play (because youre a responsible
leader of men).
E.g. she says Im bored, what are you doing? while youre at work. Dont
reply back immediately like every other chump does and say: working on
some boring report for my boss. He wants it before 3pm. Urgh. Hows your
day?
Instead wait until 6pm (or whenever you finish work) and say: Sorry, I
couldnt text back earlier. Was teaching the new interns about the power of
LOL cats. Lets get a drink at (bar name in 2 hours). You sound like you need
one.
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If youre not at work, a simple text will suffice:
Both these texts show her you are not like other guys. You are keeping
things fun by teasing her and in the case of the first text, going for the meet
up. If she cant meet you then brush it off like it doesnt matter. Remember,
you have other options.
She asks if you like something she likes - when girls ask you if you like
something they are looking to see if you have common ground. The danger
of finding common ground over text is youll get into long conversations
about a topic that in no way serves your purposes of building attraction.
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Common ground is not hot, its the most dangerous friend zone trap out
there.
For example:
*Saying not for the same reasons you like it is not the kind of response
shes expecting. This will make her wonder what your reasons could be and
allow you to change the frame easily into a flirty and playful one.
Other common friend zone traps are when she:
Asks for your opinion on something
Shares a boring story about her day
Asks you for advice about something
If you want to become a master at staying out of the friend-zone and
pumping her desire to meet you for a relationship of even just sex, I strongly
recommend you get Magnetic Messaging. Its the one book I rely on to
turn my digits into hot dates (that almost always lead to sex straight after).
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So thats it! Now its time for you to take action.
The only way to get better at pickup and phone game is to put it all of the
above into practice.
Get out there, meet more girls and text them afterwards ;)
Cheers,
Ed Hudson and Rich James
