THE ART OF SEXTING

BY DEVON GRANT

Copyright 2012 by Devon Grant This work is copyrighted to the extent that all information contained herein shall be attributed to the author. While I have priced it so that it is affordable across all economic strata I understand if you share it with others freely. Information and knowledge is to be shared and distributed and if you werent intending on paying for it, you werent going to pay no matter how hard I worked to protect this document. Lets face it, if you guys want it for free youll get it for free. With that being said, if youve paid for this guide, thank you you are allowing me to live the dream Ive set forth for myself: to get out of the rat race and live the life I want to live and not the life others would see me live. And for that I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I put it together in the hopes that it could help hundreds maybe even thousands of men improve their lives in a small but significant way. Thank you.

Foreword First off, thank you for purchasing this guide - I am sincerely grateful that you believe this was of enough value that you would spend your hard earned money for it. Ive worked hard to make it thorough and filled with useful information. I know what it is to spend my money on educational materials only to be disappointed in their content and so in writing this I wanted to avoid that all together. While it addresses a niche subject I have made it as comprehensive as possible so that you get the most for your money. Now, I believe congratulations are in order. Your purchase shows to me that you are a man who recognizes he can stand to improve. Furthermore, it shows that you are willing to invest in yourself and take a risk in doing so. When you purchased this guide you had no idea whether or not this information would be of use to you. In fact, you were taking my word on faith that the information contained in this guide would help you in this very specific area. Because you have given me your trust in making this purchase I will be as thorough as I can possibly be in addressing the topic of sexting. If you implement the knowledge found herein you will differentiate yourself as a man who knows how to capture a womans mind through her imagination. As you put into practice what you learn here you will further refine your skill set allowing you to adapt to any situation that presents itself. It is my belief that this is the essence of mastery, but its going to take practice. Please, do not be afraid to fail. You have no idea what great accomplishments you could achieve, so dont stop yourself short. Now, before going any further I need to make this disclaimer: This is NOT a guide on how to pick up women. This is meant to address a very, very niche part of the entire game. For pick up frameworks and knowledge that address the ENTIRE process Id energetically encourage you to seek out that information elsewhere.

Introduction
Its clich, yes, but the mind IS the most erogenous organ of the human body. It allows you to imagine scenarios playing out that have a distinct emotional effect on your internal chemistry. Whether we fantasize about a woman we want to sleep with or remember a woman weve already slept with, thats the imagination at play. If you use your imagination effectively it can have a devastating effect on the woman youre trying to arouse. And it isnt just sexual arousal either our imaginations allow us to escape to foreign worlds filled with adventure, mystery, and allure. This is why romance novels do so well they key in to the imagination of the reader, taking them on an emotional roller coaster they wouldnt otherwise find in daily life. If you dont believe me go ahead and Google romance novels sales statistics. If you search for that youll pull up the Romance Writers of America website which shows that in 2010 alone the market for Romance Novels was at about $1.358 BILLION. Thats a B, not an M. Believe me now? Growing up I had a 56 kbps dial up internet connection. Remember those? It would take FOREVER to load a single picture so I had to find another way to get my me time in. I eventually found myself at Literotica.com where I would read these amazing stories that would fire my imagination in a way that a simple picture couldnt. Why was that? Because of the words. You see, our words have the power to transform the most mundane of occurrences into fantastic tales and if we are going to arouse a woman deeply and passionately, we absolutely must know how to put our words together. Ill give you an example of what not to say (at least not at the beginning) Im going to fuck your brains out like a monkey high on meth (ok, maybe you wouldnt say this ever well at least the monkey high on meth part) Now, an example of what you should say As I gently caress the silky smooth skin along your face I push you up against the wall Do you see the difference? Theres a time and place for each type of text and thats governed by the circumstances. At all times youll be gauging what to say based on what she says to you. If shes says she wants you to pull her hair while you ride her from the back, you wouldnt respond with gentle caresses. You have to match her and at the same time push it just a little bit further. The information found herein is provided with one goal in mind: To give the girl an orgasm before you actually sleep with her and in doing so have her associate a tremendous amount of pleasure to you.

There are a few very important reasons for doing so which well cover later. For now, I think we can both agree that doing so has several positive effects. Ive found that if I am able to bring a woman to orgasm before we sleep together (and when Im not there physically) that my close rate is damn near 100%. Your texts should be so powerful that she begins to please herself as you send them or saves them so she can do so later. This is a tremendously powerful ability to have and this guide is here to help you to develop this ability.

Anchors, Perceptions, and Associations

In all of my relationships I strive to ensure that the other person associates me with positive feelings. Doing so ensures harmony and results in a positive perception of me in relation to them and our relationship. This requires that I anchor myself to these positive emotions via repetition so that they come to associate me with these positive feelings. These 3 concepts alone, when adapted to your relationships will help you achieve the outcome you are seeking - whether thats maintaining a friendship, developing your business network, or pleasing a woman.

Associations
My goal, like I said, in any relationship is to create positive associations for myself in relation to the person Im focused on. What this means is that when they think of me, feelings of happiness, satisfaction, respect, and so on are what the other person feels. For example, right now take a moment to think of your best friend. When you think of them, what comes to mind? Possibly the great weekend you had last week, or the first time you met, but regardless of the memories you have, what underlies those memories are what you felt at the time. In all likelihood if theyre your best friend you associate them with positive feelings. If not, well, then you should reevaluate your friendship with this person. As with all endeavors, its best to start with an outcome in mind and work your way back from there. For the purposes of this guide your outcome will be this: for a woman to associate the thought of you with having an orgasm. In order to do this you will be using your words to construct a reality/fantasy for her that leads to a powerful orgasm. When youre able to do this without physically being present you inevitably become associated with the pleasure that you have given her. Since an orgasm is a very strong emotional reaction, youll only need to do it once or twice to anchor the association in her mind. But lets be honest, the more times you do it the better.

Anchoring Positive Emotions

What is anchoring? Anchoring is the process by which a stimulus becomes associated with a specific response. If youve ever studied psychology you may have heard of Pavlovs dogs who would salivate every time they heard a bell because they associated the bell with the food that was brought to them. Before Pavlov would bring the dogs food he would ring a bell. With time and repetition he anchored the appearance of food to the sound of the bell which resulted in the dogs salivating any time they heard the bell. Now, how amazing would it be if you could give a woman an orgasm with just a few words? Humans arent so different. We are as susceptible to

this type of conditioning as the dogs are and knowing how to employ this knowledge can be of tremendous value if used properly.

Her Perception of You

So what does giving a woman an orgasm have to do with perception? The short answer is this: everything. Her perception of you is the combined experiences, emotions, situations, etc. that she has had with you, or as a result of you, fused with the interpretation she attaches to them. You must be careful to deliberately construct the emotions you want the other person to feel because if you dont get it right the first time, it becomes more difficult for you to change the perception they have of you later on. How so? Well, when you first meet someone your perception of who they are is based on limited information, which makes your perception of them easily pliable as you learn new things about them. If youve known someone for a long time your perception and opinion of them is less likely to change because of what you know about them. This is why I strive to be deliberate in the way I present myself. In all your relationships (well, at least the ones you want to keep around) your goal should be to create a positive perception of yourself in the other persons mind. This is why the more pleasure you are able to give a woman, the more she will perceive you to bepleasurable and the more likely she is to keep wanting you. Why do you want to be perceived as pleasurable? Well, do you know that really annoying person who just irritates the hell out of you? You probably dont like hanging out with them and you dont want them around period. Thats the opposite of pleasure and thats what you should be avoiding at all times. Summary From this section you should have gained a basic understanding of anchoring, associations, and perceptions. They work together to create the foundation from which you should approach not only your text conversations with women, but with all your relationships. The overall structure is this: 1. Strive to create a positive perception by 2. Anchoring pleasurable and positive emotions/feelings 3. So that the woman will associate you with these emotions/feelings If you can understand this youll have no problem implementing the knowledge that will follow. Now, this was a very basic overview of these topics. Ive tried to distill them as best I can so that the essence of these ideas is more easily digestible. If you are like me and you like to take in a lot of information, Id encourage you to read up on these topics.

Basics

The Devils in the Details

The more vivid the picture for her, the more intense the experience shes going to have, so it plays to your favor to create a masterpiece for her. For example, lets say you wanted to tell her that you want to suck on her neck, how would you say that? Take a second, think about it, and write it down. Have you done it? Yes? Great. Ok, now compare what you wrote to this: As my fingers wrap themselves around the hair at the base of your neck, I give it a gentle tug to expose the skin of your neck to my lips. Do you see the difference between the statements? When you throw in details like the ones Ive included its going to drive her imagination wild. By focusing on the smallest of details, like the sensation of hitting a spot of skin she missed with the moisturizer, you add a layer of detail that solidifies it in her mind as real. You see, for the mind it doesnt matter if it happened or not, the image evokes the same types of emotions. (DISCLAIMER: Yes, you being physically there is vitally important as it works to solidify your pair bond. What these texts are meant to do is help you get you one step closer to making that a physical reality.)

KISS Breaking it Down

Keep It Simple, Stupid. Thats what my math teacher would beat into our heads in AP Calc. It worked in Calc and it works everywhere else. You are going to take sentences like the one above and break it down into bite sized pieces for her Remember the above example? As my fingers wrap themselves around the hair at the base of her neck, I give it a gentle tug to expose the skin of your neck to my lips Sometimes we dont necessarily want to send this whole text as one text; we prefer to send the text in chunks:

Text 1: Ill wrap my fingers into the hair at the base of your neck, pulling your head back. (characters:84) Text 2: When I pull it back Ill slowly bring my lips down and gently bite your exposed neck (characters:84) Why Do This? When we cover the hot spots on her body we dont always want to lay it all out there in one text. It might be too much. Just as if we were there with her, wed work slowly never allowing her to anticipate the pleasure were going to give her next. Creating this uncertainty works to heighten the effect of the texts and the feelings they evoke. It makes her wonder where and what youre going to do next, in a good way. Since you would do it in person, you would do it via text, right? Youre painting the picture of what it would be like to sleep with you and if you arent selling it in a way that appeals to the way she likes things, youre going be in for a rough time. This means you need to know how you make love to a woman. Identify the things you would normally do and try and gauge whether theyve gotten a good reaction. If its pleasurable, describe it in detail for her. Paint the picture for her. How to Do It? Your imagination: Using your imagination is damned easy. In fact, if you havent used it in a while it isnt too late to start again. Your imagination is an amazingly powerful tool that can help you do anything you want to do if you use it wisely, of course. Picture in your mind what it would be like to have sex with this woman. What images do you see? What sensations do you feel? Can you imagine what it would feel like to feel the warmth of her leg as they intertwine with yours? See it clearly in your mind, zooming in on the tiniest of details, and use this as inspiration for the pictures you are painting. Romance Stories: If you want to understand what drives these women to buy these novels in droves, giving 1.4 Billion dollars to the industry, then you have to do reconnaissance work. Buy one of these novels, check some of the stories out online, see whats out there. By doing so, you get to learn the stories that these women flock to. These storylines can serve to inspire your texts as well as provide the basis for them. Assignment: Find 5 different short romance/erotic stories online and read them. What makes them good? What makes them bad?

Doing this one thing will point you in the right direction when it comes to developing your skill set in this area and I would highly recommend checking out as many stories as possible to truly get a feel for what you are trying to accomplish.

Composition
Word Selection
Ive always had a large vocabulary, to the point where I may have seemed like a bit of an ass whenever Id use words superfluously simply to show off. Hemingway once said, speaking of Faulkner, Does he really think big emotions come from big words? You dont need big words. Try and stay away from anything more than 2 or 3 syllables unless its absolutely necessary. The easier it is to read, the easier it is to visualize, and the faster she begins to feel what you want her to feel.

Progression
As when youre with a woman, you dont want to jump to the goods right away, you want to work up to that thats why theres foreplay. It plays a vital role in the process of giving her a mind blowing orgasm. It teases and creates anticipation. It builds the sexual tension and the bond between the two of you. Along the same vein you want to build all of that via the text. It can take as little as 4-5 texts or as many as 20-30. It depends on the woman and the circumstances. For most situations I would push to create the background in as few texts as possible in order to lay the foundation for whats to come next. If shes alone and able to please herself right then and there, and not under any sort of time pressure, then you can work a little more slowly, building up to the graphic description of what you would want to do. The sexting should generally follow the same progression that a normal seduction would, but just in written form. You begin with flirting, then touching, then kissing, then fondling, then foreplay, then sex, then repeat. As you progress up each level you would still want to incorporate the previous levels in the texts that you send. They do not live in isolation of each other but, rather, they work together to create the overall experience for the woman. Example:

Lets say your first text was the above example of pulling on her hair. You could then say later in the conversation: As my dick thrusts deep inside your pussy I pull back on your hair bringing your head back to me as I lean in and kiss you

Pacing
Setting the correct pace of the conversation is paramount to the overall effect. In order to determine what a good pace is, think of someone you love to hear speaking. How do they talk? How does their pace fluctuate? Does it stay the same? Are they dull and monotone or are they lively and energetic? These are all things to consider when communicating with someone. By alternating the pace, and lending an air of uncertainty, you imbue what youre saying with an energy that cant help but be attractive. You will guide her through this imagined world step by step in every text. Imagine you were taking her on a trip and narrating the entire story for her. Do you think she would get bored if you were monotone and had no energy? Probably. Do you think she would continue talking to you if you didnt arouse her emotions? Probably not. One method that works for me is the interplay between fast & slow. For example, describing situations which are sudden like flipping her onto her back or picking her up and throwing her against the wall, and then contrasting that with a description of how I would focus my lips on to hers as I caress her face.

Tone
This will be mostly determined by the girl you are talking to. If shes kinky and into some freaky deaky stuff, then its your best bet to push past what you would otherwise do with another woman in this scenario. The same thing would go for a more reserved woman. At all times you are adapting to the person you are with. Sidenote: This is a good time for a quick sidenote that has positive life implications as well a while back Bruce Lee did an interview where he said: Don't get set into one form, adapt it and build your own, and let it grow, be like water. Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless like water. Now you put water in a cup, it becomes the cup; You put water into a bottle it becomes the bottle; You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend Water is adaptable. It can change its form depending on its vessel. It is persistent. It can wear away mountains. It can give life. Always be like water.

With that being said, setting the tone is also determined by the visuals you provide. Before you start, picture in your mind exactly what you want to realize down to the tiniest detail. Ensure that its matched to her level and what she likes. For, example, if she is really conservative, you wouldnt want to talk to her about throwing on some cheek-less leather chaps and having her slap you. Always, ALWAYS match what youre saying to what shes saying, carefully probing to see how far you can take it. Dont worry if you bomb a few of the texts and sabotage your chances with the girl. There will be others. The point is that you learn, refine, and adapt.

Priming the Pump

Before you even get to sexting you have to make sure shes willing to engage in that kind of talk with you. Now, if youre already texting her then there is a high probability that she likes you. Otherwise she wouldnt have given you her number right? Thats the first step. The next step is establishing a connection that allows you to segue to a sexual conversation. Creating that connection is what I call Priming the Pump. It creates a level of comfort between the two of you that allows her subconscious mind to pre-approve a sexual conversation with you. This pre-approval is absolutely necessary, and as such you must lay the foundation. In my experience Ive found that I always require a decent amount of conversation time before we get to the sexting. This, of course, will depend on your skill level and the type of woman you are dealing with. With some women Ive gotten to sexting within minutes and others within a couple of days. However, in every case it was absolutely essential to create that connection first and establish a certain level of comfort before she was ready to engage in that type of back and forth with me. I encourage you to work on creating that connection first. Creating that connection is not the aim of this guide so I will give you a brief overview of whats generally necessary. First off, there needs to be attraction there. If you dont excite her mentally, emotionally, physically, or spiritually then theres no need to even be reading this. Just stop here. Creating the necessary attraction will come down to how well versed you are in flipping a womans attraction switches. For me, humor has always worked wonders and a great book that has helped me is Comedy Writing Secrets by Melvin Helitzer. The act of laughing is pleasurable, so knowing how to be funny is a valuable skill to learn and I can think of no better place to start than that particular book. Since the aim of this guide is to give the woman pleasure, this is a great place to start. Once youve created that attraction you need to lead the conversation so that you begin establishing a mutual connection with her. This will require you to discover her interests, her likes, her dislikes, and then matching those to yours. If you share a lot of interests in common, in her mind she will think it was meant to be, or that theres something genuinely there between the two of you. A great tactic that I like to use is me too. If the woman youre talking to is really interested in poetry Id say something like GET OUT!! Me too! and then I would start talking about my favorite poets like Robert Frost or Pablo Neruda. Use this tactic for a wide range of different topics and youll be well along your way to creating the necessary connection. Its generally helpful if you actually do share similar interests. Sooner or later shell find out if youre lying to her. Now, once youve established the connection, you need to establish a level of comfort between the two of you. The best way I know how to do this is to allow yourself be somewhat vulnerable. By disclosing a personal fact about you that you dont share with everyone just

special people like her you appear vulnerable and willing to expose yourself and your feelings. If done correctly it will work to establish a more personal bond between the two of you, especially if she then follows suit and reveals something about herself that allows her to be vulnerable. Doing this communicates that you trust this person with your innermost emotions and establishes in their mind an ability to communicate things to you that she wouldnt be able to tell her friends or family. This creates a level of trust between the two of you, which is paramount to any relationship you have. If she can trust you with her feelings she can therefore trust you with anything else because her feelings, emotions, weaknesses, etc. are the treasure that she keeps guarded from the world. In the game of attraction, trust is everything. Without it how do you expect to sleep with her? Once youve created the necessary attraction, comfort, and trust you can then begin to probe her sexuality. When you begin doing so, you must pay careful attention to the words she uses as these will be your guide posts. They will help determine how you proceed and as such are vitally important. This is why listening is THE most important conversational skill to develop. As you notice the words she uses when it comes to sex you will then be matching her words with similar words that evoke similar connotations. If she speaks about sex negatively, so do you. If she talks about it positively, so do you. Get it? Good. Always match her and then push it a little bit further, constantly gauging her reactions to what you say so that you can adjust and change course if necessary. As you guide the conversation towards sex you are establishing the framework you will be using for the next part the Foresext. The way she talks about sex will tell you everything you need to know about how to introduce the first sext and how to proceed from there. A tactic that Ive used successfully in the past is seeding. This is the process of establishing a sexual seed earlier on, while creating comfort, but leaving it alone until appropriate. For example if I am working to create attraction with the woman Ill playfully tease and say if she does something wrong Ill spank her. Her reaction to this will determine how I proceed with all further seeding. If she says she likes it, then every once in a while Ill start adding spanks to her spank count every time she does something bad. Doing this every so often will prime the pump for future sex talk. Eventually shell either instigate the sexting or you will, depending on how she reacts to the texts you send. For example, if she says is that all youre gonna do, spank me? I take that as an invitation to begin the foresexting and tell her what I intend on doing when Im there with her. It becomes the perfect segue. If, on the other hand, she shies away from the seeding, I move away and start talking about something else that interests her. After a little bit Ill bring it up again to see where shes at. If shes more receptive then I drop more seeds more often. If shes

still hesitant, I take a step back and proceed along a different line for a bit. This process repeats itself until shes ready and willing to start getting sexual. Once were at this point I would then proceed with the Foresexting, which is the topic of the next section.

Foresext
Before the sexting even begins Ive primed the pump that allows me to introduce the more graphic things later on. Laying the foundation allows you to avoid the shock that might arise if you opened her up with something like this: Im going to shove my cock so far into your pussy youll feel me in your stomach Is there a time and place for a text like this? Yes. Just not at the outset. You work your way up to that the same way you would work up to it in real life. Remember, youre showcasing your competency in the sexual arena and if you jump the gun via text what is she going to think youre going to do when the real thing happens? Remember, if you introduce anything sexual and she avoids it, match that and dont bring it up. If she initiates the sex talk, match that as well and keep pushing it a step further until you feel resistance, at which point you would tone it down a bit and then work your way back up. Its the classic one step forward, two steps back. Doing it in this way allows you to calibrate what youre going to say while putting her at ease. This is vital. So, lets say weve gotten to the part about sex. Youre both interested in doing it, otherwise you probably wouldnt be talking to each other, so this is a good thing. What is she saying? Is she talking about sex negatively? Is she talking about it positively? How do you know the difference? Negative sex talk looks like this: I hate it when guys just want to jump into bed. All they ever want is sex or Im not going to have sex with you

Positive sex talk looks like this: I love missionary position, it just feels so good or Whats your favorite position? In the negative situation shes framing it in such a way to discourage you, but dont be fooled. Whats important isnt that its negative, but that there is sex talk at all. If the sexual conversation is present, whether positive or negative, thats a good thing. With negative sex talk, again, you want to match her frame of reference, then push past it and get to where you want to go.

Example: Ugh, some guys just dont get it. Its like romance never existed She will then respond any number of ways. What youre looking for is agreement. When she agrees with that statement above, it indicates to you what shes looking for is a little romance. At this point you can then push in the romance direction, which is usually the best direction to go with most women. Again, some are different and arent afraid to get graphic off the bat. So, whats a romantic text? I miss the days when you could just make out for hours and thats all you needed This brings it back to high school days and allows her to regress to those moments in her life when making out really was all she needed. The text above would actually allow her to recall some of her memories when she just made out, evoking those emotions she felt at the time. However, because youre the one giving her the idea shell subconsciously place you in that position, and thus associate you with those early emotions. Then you could then proceed with the following: What happened? It was like all of a sudden the only thing that mattered was sex. What you are doing here is matching her initial frame of reference while at the same time introducing what you really want to get her thinking about. Depending on her response here you would adjust accordingly. Does she avoid the sex or move towards it? Match her at all times. Lets say she responds with something along the lines of: I know, I mean sex is great, but its the little things, you know? Here she would be intimating that there are other things she finds attractive and that turn her on. Your job is to then probe and find out what these little things are. By discovering what she likes it shows that not only are you interested in sex, but specifically what turns HER on, and in the long run this is very good information to have. The more you know about your lover the easier it is to please them. Now, you have a few options. You can continue the thread or you can drop it all together. If shes receptive, continue the conversation and get as far as you can. Alternatively, even if she is receptive, you could drop it. Doing so would indicate that you arent just interested in the sex but who she is as a person as well. Please, for your sake, be interested in

who she is. If theres no genuine interest she will sense this and blow you off. There has to be a solid balance here. Lets say you continue to talk about sex. Which direction do you want to take it in? I would suggest starting with questions. So, what little things do you miss most? Its always a good thing to be curious about what she likes because you can pepper those things in with the things you like and create a shared vision based on mutual likes or dislikes. By creating this shared vision you create a shared experience that links the two of you together. I put experience in quotations because at this point you havent had the actual shared sexual experience. When she tells you what she likes you can then spin those little threads into a tapestry that captivates her mind. For example, lets say that she tells you she misses the following: Being kissed gently Having the side of her face caressed When a man runs his hands through her hair Simply holding her in your arms

These 4 simple things allow you to create a series of texts that will excite her, if done properly of course. Given these 4 points I would set up a series of texts that say the following: Text 1: I would just love to hold you in my arms as I gaze in to your eyes Text 2: Pressing your body into mine so I can feel your heart beat against my chest and your breath against my neck... Text 3: As I lean down, brushing your hair from your eye, Id slide my hand across your face and to the back of your neck, pulling you in closer to place my lips on yours, kissing you slowly and passionately It describes, in detail, what you would love to do. Its simple and in actuality the whole thing would last 5 seconds but taking the time to detail each movement makes it more vivid and makes it more real for her. Shell begin to imagine all of these things in her mind and it will inevitably flip her arousal switch. At this point in the conversation she will be very likely to respond back to your texts. Shes just beginning to imagine all of these things and might even tell you to stop because its getting her horny and youre not there to do anything about it. Dont stop. You want to keep pushing it until she stops responding. Stops responding? Why the hell would I want that? Because when that happens shes probably begun to play with herself and its kind of tough to respond with one hand, dont you

think? BUT, it is real easy to read the texts with just one hand, which is why you want to continue sending the texts. Remember, its all about her pleasure at this point. You shouldnt care about what shes telling you because your goal is to make HER feel good. If you do everything right then you wont have to worry about your pleasure because when the time comes shell be more than happy to help you However, early in the conversation she will respond back to you. She isnt fully aroused yet and her responding actually helps her get to that point because she becomes a creator alongside you in this fantasy world youre creating. It allows HER imagination to inch her closer to that point of no return where she can do nothing but please herself. Now, Ive had women respond with just fuck me now and with slide your hand down to the small of my back and press me in closer or mmm, that sounds good, what else would you do? Whatever she responds with you can either match it or go in a different direction. By going in a different direction you are exerting your frame over hers and doing so displays dominance, which is always a good thing. When I say dominance Im not talking about the Im going to rape you way but in the Im a man and Im going to lead kind of way. Remember, theres a huge difference between the two and you always want to be in the latter group. I hate to be so extreme, but its imperative that you understand what it means to be dominant in this context. You are always leading the interaction, always, and as such you have to know which way youre going to go with it. If you make it at all creepy or uncomfortable she will suddenly have to go to sleep or take a call. If I get a just fuck me now text in response to what Ive written Ill say something like: Not yet, baby, I want to play with you a little more From here I would discuss how Im going to run my hands across her body, undress her slowly, savoring every inch of her body until no part went untouched or unkissed. It increases the anticipation and heightens her level of arousal to the point where shell really really want you to tell her what youre going to do with her. The more mmms I get, the better. Sometimes shell be very into it and will want to participate play back at her texts but always lead the conversation by pushing it in the direction YOU want to take it. This is the essence of the Foresext. You start slowly, describing in detail how youre going to pay attention to her body, slowly increasing the level of intensity. By progressing smoothly you are leading her imagination through a series of images meant to increase her arousal step by step until the point that you have her dripping wet with anticipation for the graphic texts that are about to come.

If she plays back at you by trying to lead you through the sext you can play along with her, using her imagery, but always push it one step further with your images. So if she tells you to press your hand against the small of her back play back and step it up. I pull you in closer and slide both hands to the small of your back as I press my lips against yours. As our tongues discover each other I reach down and slide my hands onto your tight little ass and lift you up and press you against the wall Youve included what she has said but stepped it up and increased the intensity level. It would be good at this point to go into extra detail. You could include, for example, the sound of the drywall creaking as you crash your bodies into it. Remember, its the little things that make the moment real for her. Quick Disclaimer: Listen, just because Im a huge advocate of detail doesnt mean you have to detail everything. Let her imagination do the work. What youre doing here is planting a seed. Allow her mind to let the image branch out however she wants. Its a give and take and if you try and detail every little thing its going to get tediously long and eventually boring. Progressing smoothly and quickly is key in this situation. If you linger too long on one area it will get boring and shell eventually drop it. So, while detail is very important, its also just as important to get to the graphic visualizations as well. Only time and experience can calibrate you as to the progression. I could tell you explicitly at what points you would need to move forward, but Im not Cyrano de Bergerac. Besides, this is meant to be a guide that helps you develop your own style. Yes, Im providing you with examples and things to say, but ultimately these are my words and not yours. It has to feel real for her and that means that what you say has to be congruent with who you are and what you would actually do and say. If at any point you feel uncomfortable shes going to pick up on that.

Transitioning to Graphic Images

There comes a point in the conversation where there is either a lull or a forward movement on her part indicating that she wants you to step up the intensity level. Be aware of these points so you can act accordingly. When the time comes youre going to want to get graphic. The graphic texts will begin to focus on her more erogenous zones and by this point you should have her imagining herself naked with you. These texts should also follow a steady progression moving towards the final act so to speak. Lets say youve told her that youve just ripped her clothes off and thrown her onto the floor. I would say something like this: Text 1: Ill throw you onto the floor and fall on top of you, feeling the heat of your pussy against my crotch... Text 2: I slowly slide the tip of my dick up and down your clit, feeling it throb against me... Again, were building the tension so that when you do put it in shes ridiculously wet. Youre teasing her just a little bit here while allowing her to imagine what it would feel like. Now, while youre in this phase you want to address what shes doing with herself every so often.

Address the Reality

If you know for a fact that shes playing with herself you want to direct what she does with her hands. So, for example, I would ask what are you doing right now? Always allude to the fact that shes touching herself. If she confirms that she is, you want to use that and build up her orgasm. How? Rub your clit for me baby. Rub it long and hard. Slide your fingers around it imagining its my hand on it In addressing what shes doing in the moment, and getting out of the fantasy world, you are now placing yourself in two of her realities. Before, you were just creating the fantasy for her, but now youre there with her telling her what you want her to do. It is vitally important that you direct her here as well. Tell her to slide her fingers inside and pump them in and out. Tell her to slap her pussy. Direct it the entire way while weaving yourself in and out of the fantasy world. The nature of your graphic texts can be whatever you want it to be, but the same rules apply detail and smooth progression are required all the way up until her orgasm. Now, she

may orgasm before you finish creating the fantasy for her. If that happens, just drop it, give her a smiley face, tell her she was naughty, and thank her for letting you make her feel so good. Whatever happens youve accomplished your goal. Once youve been able to give her the first orgasm it will be easier to give her the second, third, fourth, and so on until she inevitably cant help but link her orgasms to the thought of you and before you know it youll be the only one she wants giving her orgasms.

Wrapping Up
Its really that simple guys all you have to do is use your imagination and the right combination of attention, adaptation, and progression to get you to your goal. What you do from here is completely on you. You can choose to put this knowledge to use or you can let it fall by the wayside the choice is yours. Again, if you purchased this guide I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. It means a lot to me that youve trusted my words to help you along your path and for that I will be forever grateful. Not only because you are allowing me to live the life that Ive dreamed of for so long, but because you are allowing me in to yours to help make it better even if it is in a small way. Ive always wanted to change the world and I thought one day that I would do something BIG that would affect the lives of millions. After a lot of thought I realized that if I truly want to change the world then all I have to do is help people. Even if it is just one person, Ive done my part to make this life a better place for someone else. And that was my hope for putting this together to help you in this very specific area of your life.

Thank you. Devon Grant