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    Brave: Being brave through the seasons of our lives
    Brave: Being brave through the seasons of our lives
    Brave: Being brave through the seasons of our lives
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    Brave: Being brave through the seasons of our lives

    By Deborah Duncan

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    Hollywood's definition of bravery often centres on superheroes and death-defying feats, and the Bible also includes acts of incredible courage. However, these examples can often feel far from our day-today lives. In Brave, Debbie Duncan assures us that God's definition of courage is not limited to liberating a nation like Moses or fighting a giant like David. Indeed, facing everyday situations requires bravery. Perhaps you're facing redundancy, ill health, or strife in your family. Giving examples from her personal life. Debbie takes us on a journey that will help us endure the challenges that come our way with our heads held high. Understanding what real-life bravery looks like will encourage you to step out of the boat like Peter, or simply to get out of bed when you're struggling. Brave will help to reassure you that God is with you in every season of life, and that you are braver than you think!
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMonarch Books
    Release dateMar 23, 2018
    ISBN9780857219008
    Brave: Being brave through the seasons of our lives
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    Deborah Duncan

    Debbie Duncan is an advanced nurse practitioner and lecturer in nursing; a church leader and minister's wife. She is married to Rev Malcolm Duncan and has a busy family life that includes being mum to their four grown up children. She is the author of Brave, The Art of Daily Resilience, and The God Cares series. Debbie is also an author of over fifty professional nursing journal articles and two text books in nursing. She writes on a range of issues that often reflect her professional life and personal faith.

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      Brave - Deborah Duncan

      INTRODUCTION

      I am a film buff – I love going to the cinema and also love the fact that in recent times there have been so many films based on real-life stories. They really encourage, enthral, and challenge us. I have certainly used a lot of hankies on my trips to the flicks. I am so glad that on occasion I can watch certain films in the comfort and seclusion of my own home!

      There seems to be a trend just now for films based on real people where the main characters seem to show extraordinary bravery. Many of these films are true stories or based on some measure of historical fact. One example is the 2016 Scorsese film Silence, starring Liam Neeson and Andrew Garfield, which tells the story of Christian missionaries who face the ultimate test of their faith in seventeenth-century Japan. Although it is based on a book by Japanese author Shusku Endo it does seem to be historically accurate. Liam Neeson plays the part of Cristovao Ferreira (1580–1650) who was actually a Portuguese Catholic priest and missionary who was tortured for his faith. The priests were so brave. I don’t know if I could have gone through what they did.

      A couple of years ago I was off work recovering from a period of illness. I flicked through the programmes on TV and came across a 2009 film called The Courageous Heart of Irena Sendler. Sendler was a Roman Catholic social worker and humanitarian who ended up working for the Polish underground in German-occupied Warsaw during World War II. She died in 2008 at the grand age of ninety-eight years old. Working with the underground, Irena rescued 2,500 Jewish children from the Warsaw ghetto by pretending to be a nurse (social workers were not allowed in the ghetto). She rescued the children by issuing them with false identities and smuggling them out to safety in suitcases, sacks, or even coffins, and saved more children than any other person during this war. But in 1943 she was captured by the Nazis and tortured for her actions, enduring broken feet and legs. The Nazis were looking for jars that she had buried in her neighbour’s garden; the jars were full of the real names and details of those she had saved. She never gave them up. Latterly she was nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize but lost out to Al Gore. It was only in 1999 that she first came to the public attention after her story was dramatized in a play in New York.

      When I watched this film I was stunned. I would like to think that I would try to do as Irena did, but I just don’t know. I don’t know if I could have been that brave in those circumstances.

      Recently I was preparing for yet another funeral of a member of our close family. It had been a tough couple of years marked with the dark stain of death. I got up the day before the funeral and wondered if I could cope with all the grief of the following day. Crazily I had popped to the chemist to colour my hair (as the greys had started to reappear) and stood looking at all the boxes. I felt I could not even make a simple decision. I ended up colouring my hair a deep auburn/red. I did not do it to stand out or because I wanted a change. Red was my new colour because in that shop I knew I had to be brave just like Merida in the 2012 Disney Pixar film Brave.

      In that film sixteen-year-old Princess Merida lives in the mystical kingdom of DunBroch. She is torn between what is expected of a Scottish princess and following her heart. I did mention crazy, didn’t I? Sometimes we have to be intentional – to make a choice and stand by it. At this time I had to be brave; my hair colour was a nod to my Scottish heritage and an outward sign of my inward decision to be dependent on God and be brave. Although I made an intentional decision I did not share this with anyone apart from my husband. He even bought me a Princess Merida doll!

      Several months later a member of the congregation came and spoke to me. He had something he wanted to share. He told me that he was to tell me to keep on being brave. The hairs rose on my arms. I knew God was telling me to be ready for more. Within weeks we had another family death and I was in hospital with an asthma attack, pneumonia, and possible heart failure. I had to be brave as I coped with my emotions and waited for test results. I may no longer have red hair, but I am learning about bravery and courage in the face of everyday circumstances.

      Many of us find it hard to step out into the unknown. How can we be brave to take those first steps? We are on a journey that consists of lots of steps. Some of us have to change direction, journeying through unknown lands, heading towards places we have never been before.

      I am obviously thinking of another film – actually three. Every good film originates from a book – for instance, The Lord of the Rings by J. R. R. Tolkien. Every Christmas season, for three consecutive years (2001–2003), the Duncan family headed to the cinema to see The Fellowship of the Rings, The Two Towers, and The Return of the King. These fantasy films directed by Peter Jackson share the story of hobbit Frodo Baggins and his friends as they carry out a quest to destroy the one ring, fighting incredible battles. Never did Frodo and his brave friend Sam ever think they would leave the peaceful beauty of the Shire. Bravely they step over the boundary of the Shire into worlds unknown.

      Whatever film I watch I am left amazed at the story and leave thinking, I will be braver. I often feel like that though, don’t you? I wish I were braver to speak up, to endure what challenges come my way, or step into something new. We hope we will be brave but often we have no idea how we will behave until we are in the middle of a situation.

      This books focuses on the different aspects of our journey, from living with chronic illness, parenthood, or providing care for aging parents. We will look at some of the different challenges we face on this road and ask ourselves, How can we be brave? At this point I want to remind you that bravery looks different for each of us. We are all different with different journeys ahead of us. Hopefully this book will encourage you if you are living through any of these seasons just now.

      We will also examine why we find change difficult and look at behavioural theories that can help us make decisions. One such theory is the cycle of change outlined in chapter 2; used by the addiction services to help people make life-changing decisions. We will at look how the Bible challenges and helps us to trust God during these times.

      In doing my research for this book I asked some friends on Facebook for their comments about this topic. What they said highlighted that not all of these steps are big significant ones, such as coping with an illness or chronic disease or the loss of loved ones. Most of our stories will never be made into films but there are many scenes in our lives where we have had to be brave in quiet ways. For some, it is stepping across the threshold of fear and intimidation; for those more introvert of us it is being brave enough to talk to someone new.¹ Being brave looks different for each one of us.

      This book is not just about those extraordinary people who challenge world leaders to liberate a nation like Moses or kill a lion on a snowy day like Benaiah.² This book is about bravery in those everyday situations that we meet sometimes on a daily basis. How can you be brave when your world changes on the spin of a pin and you are looking at unemployment or a serious health issue?

      COURAGE

      Give me a spirit that on life’s rough sea

      Loves to have his sails fill’d with a lusty wind,

      Even till his sailyards tremble, his masts crack,

      And his rapt ship run on her side so low

      That she drinks water, and her keel ploughs air;

      There is no danger to a man that knows

      What life and death is - there is no law

      Exceeds his knowledge: neither is it lawful

      That he should stoop to any other law.

      George Chapman (1559–1634)

      Prayer

      Father,

      As we step into this book and reflect on the topic

      of bravery – speak to us.

      Let Your words echo through the hills and valleys

      of our lives.

      Use them to help us make brave choices.

      Use them to challenge us when we need to be

      challenged.

      Calm our souls when we need to be still.

      Heal any hurt or pain that we are reminded of as

      we dig deeper.

      In Jesus’ name.

      Amen.

      CHAPTER 1

      WHAT IS BRAVERY?

      The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines brave as having or showing mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty: having or showing courage.¹ Perhaps a stronger definition is from the Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary: Showing no fear of dangerous or difficult things.² Wikipedia defines brave as an adjective for one who possesses courage,³ and bravery as the human condition to confront fear.⁴ The word is thought to have originated in the late fifteenth century from the French word meaning splendid or valiant, conjuring up in my mind a picture of a dashing French nobleman or a d’Artagnan-type musketeer! It is also found in the Italian language where bravo means bold. In addition, it has been suggested that its etymological roots come from the Latin bravus or barbarus, meaning cut-throat or villain. Taken together, these ideas paint a picture of a rash, rough, fierce, fearless person – possibly even someone with a poor moral compass. The word is also close to the Latin word rabidus meaning mad, frenzied, wild. According to my friend Dave, these ideas are also present in the word berserk. Berserkers (or berserks) were Norse or Viking warriors, frequently described in the Old Icelandic sagas as fighting in a trance-like fury, a characteristic which later gave rise to our English phrase to go berserk. These champions would often go into battle without mail-coats. It is perhaps not far wide of the mark to say that we would have to be slightly mad to jump into harm’s way.

      I’m sure that we all know people whom we consider to be brave. At the time of writing I am by the sea in Northern Ireland – one of my favourite places. The news programme last night recounted the story of a brave young man called Andrew Johnston who dived into the swollen Suile Burn near Lifford to rescue an elderly woman, Loreta McKinlay, from a sinking car. Philip and Loreta McKinlay had been driving home that night and for some unknown reason hit the kerb and careered down the embankment, landing in the river. Philip could not rescue his wife so sought help. Andrew was driving past, saw what was going on, and immediately dived into the river. It took four attempts to free Mrs McKinlay from the back seat. Eventually Philip and Andrew managed to get Loreta out of the water and between them they started CPR until the paramedics arrived. She is now in hospital recovering from her ordeal. Andrew thought nothing of his actions and in fact initially left the scene without telling anyone who he was.

      He was eventually located and, when asked about the incident, Andrew replied, What I saw unfolding before me was the scariest thing I have seen in my life.⁵ He still leapt into action despite the fear and anxiety he experienced. He left the scene to head to his hotel to change his clothes. It was not until a TV report during the day issued a request for him to come forward that he realized he should identify

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