ETELVINA SANTANA CARVALHO
I continuously write various papers and articles on private progression with a growth mind-set development through the incorporation and inculcation of hygge on a regular basis. I find rustic living by the beach completely irresistible, and I'm very much a country girl at heart!!
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Address: Sapana Habitat, CHOGM Rd., Porvorim - Bardez - Goa
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Depression of a 'situation' isn't something to be taken lightly. It is an experience that everyone goes through almost daily. Be it in our relationships, daily responsibilities, professional scenarios, or whatever the case maybe, everybody experiences a 'forbidding' situation at some point or the other. The fact is to actually hygge through those gutwrenching painful moments, patiently. Difficult?? Yes!! Extremely!! Impossible?? No!! Different people have diverse behaviors of processing sorrow, dejection, agony, etc. Some go for long walks or play basketball or have their own particular way to overcome that 'temporary' heartache.
In today’s fast paced world where technology rules and its endurance of the fittest, when and/or where can you have the opportunity to slow down and breathe through the ongoing chaos?? What can you do for yourself, to actually slow down the ‘hygge’ way?? Is it even possible, with this enduring contemporary trend, speed, and pace of technological development?? Yes, off course!!! Anything is possible, provided you have the intention, mindset, and the focus to accomplish what you’ve set out to do. Hygge is all about perceiving and appreciating your modest preferences and luxuries you come across every single day. And, by that same token, along with your personal daily desires, also follows that daily grind.
Hygge-ing through that daily grind is your personal choice. Or else, you can choose to deal with your issues, calmly or otherwise. Focusing on the optimistic side of an undesirable situation, in calm concentration is, kind of ‘a trying moment’, ‘to really accept’, at first. But, with your Favorite beverage and your calm and undivided attention to detail, there will be a ‘solution’ to your questions. Understanding the technicality of your glitches, in the comfort of your thoughts, and in silence, sorts out a major portion of your issues. The rest is a matter of explaining the impact and sustainability of negativity, positively.
Hygge-ing through certain challenges of the technical part of your job is something not so very easy to do or follow. It’s up to each individual to emphasize concentration with calm and clear positivity on finer details and fine tuning your ‘delicate’ situation. To follow the hygge way of living, you have to slow down, which simply means that calm and clear, mindfulness and awareness of your ‘situation’. It’s your mindset – totally and completely.
Furthermore, differences of opinions can be accepted or rejected with in-depth explanation, focusing on collaborative understanding of issues presented. Slowing down your thought processes, clearly makes you mindfully and consciously aware of your situation, and those around you, and/or those involved, to the point where every little intricate detail can be dealt with your presence of mind, over your presented situation.
So, try hygge-ing through your ‘technical’ issues and complications, to gain better clarity, easy solutions to those ‘assumed’ ‘serious imaginary’ pressures, and you’ll simply realize for yourself, that nothing is/was really that ‘momentous’ after all.
It’s only with passage of time and in retrospect over the past years of memories, you not only realize all the good times you had and shared with others, but also realistically speaking, the not so very pleasant times as well, and in saying that, also, the pranks and giggles, you had fun with all along. Remembering those ‘good times’ you realized today, are your very own hygge moments. YOU have to give ‘hygge’ ‘your’ personal touch. Just the way reminiscing over those pleasant memories of the past brought joy and a smile to your face, so also should be your current thoughts, every time. Difficult sometimes?? YES!!! Impossible?? NO!!!
Currently, the way in which our world is functioning, anyone would wonder, what difference would it make to reminisce over past memories, and how would those ‘thoughts’ change anything as of right now. Honestly, NOTHING. Reminiscing over memories of yesteryears and enjoying a little chuckle over those intricate details, will not change what the current moment holds for you. But by that same token, it does bring you a certain amount of PEACE from those thoughts, for the moment. And who knows, you might even try to ‘live a little’ and may even give you some ideas or hints to ‘relive’ those memories for ‘yourself’ for your private peace of mind. Those ‘memories’ may trigger you to probably visit old friends, have a chuckle with them occasionally over meals, or drinks, talk to someone you haven’t heard of or met in ages, who knows…technology hasn’t failed us!!
Life goes on!! All those happy memories of yesteryears, will not only bring joy to our senses, but will also bring a tear or two to our minds as well, simply through comparisons of those beautiful past memories of yesteryears, and the current situations of life. Appreciative thoughts of gratitude towards those memories, brings peace to your mind. It will not bring the past back but it will certainly bring ‘PEACE’ to your conscience. Keep those yesteryears ‘hygge’ thoughts alive always!!
Everybody is human and capable of making mistakes, occasionally in life. It should not be something that should condemned the doer for life. It’s a mistake. A genuine mishap. People all over the world additionally have a diverse range of temperaments. What is to be understood is that, whatever be your situation, approach it with a mindset of understanding the circumstances causing those issues.
Your ‘approach’ towards the people involved, in any given situation, is what is of utmost importance to the people you’re dealing with. Those you’re dealing with, will naturally expect and hope that you will/can/may have a solution to the issues at hand. They hope that you will/can/may make the problem go away on its own, with or without a huge hue and cry over it.
On the other hand, if you intend to name and shame them, due to their lack of information on the subject, think about this first. How am I going to share common knowledge or teach this person right from wrong?? Is my approach to the people I deal with a healthy one?? Will they learn effectively from me?? Or am I ‘spoon-feeding’ my colleagues?? Will my approach be respected and accepted with gratitude?? If I snub them, what will my ‘behavior’ accomplish?? Will this ‘project’ we’re working on, matter ten years from now on to my colleagues?? How do I want to be remembered?? A leader or a snob?? What sort of ‘impression’ about myself am I leaving behind?? When I ‘cross paths’ in future with those familiar faces, will they come up to me and say a friendly hello?? Or would they think of me as the ‘one with the undesirable behavior’ upon seeing me in a social setting??
There are millions of questions that you can continue asking yourself over and over again. But, at the end of it all, it is up to YOU to figure it out for yourself, and to understand the lasting impression, you want to leave upon the other person. If you can change your ‘mindset’ from being ‘the one with the undesirable approach’ to your colleagues, to the one with a ‘desirable approach’ and with a problem solving mindset, you have not only done yourself a enormous favor, but also conquered a very ‘humanistic’ title for yourself, in the minds of people who knew you. Every little detail about you is remembered by those who knew you. Whether it’s a simple hello, how are you, or to guiding people on important ‘projects’ in hand.
People evaluate every ‘move’ you make. Your mannerisms, gestures, your genuineness in the tone of your voice, so on and so forth. It’s simply because people desire to ‘learn’ from another – knowingly or subconsciously. It’s as simple as following or favorite celebrity. You’ll never know whether YOU are someone’s ‘celebrity’ or not. Always bear in mind that when your friends and /or colleagues, recognize you from past collaborations, they should remember you for your compassion, support, the ‘real guiding light’ who they not only have learnt from, and encouraged teamwork, but also someone they trusted in times of dire need, to ‘come through’ for them, knowingly or unknowingly. And who they can share a laugh over a beer with in future.
Sometimes we can and can’t keep up with tête-à-têtes in ‘practical’ situations, which then turns into ‘judgmental’ thinking, and can then go spiraling ‘downhill’ from there on, in our minds. When you’re mindful of your visualised situation, the ‘other path’ to take, should be to ‘deliberately encounter’ those ‘judgmental thoughts’ with silence. Silence your thoughts by keeping quiet. Try not to react to what you heard or saw. Remember that what you witnessed does not necessarily require your reaction or attention, unless asked for.
Awareness of a situation through intentional consciousness is very much an integral part and essence of Hygge. Whether you’re with friends, family, or acquaintances, your very ‘being’ should invoke ‘Hygge’ in the minds of those around you. And this requires something as simple as your ‘mind-set’. It requires deep and sincere empathy towards the other person. Reality bites all the time. The essence of your conversations should be such that, no matter how painful a perceived situation may be, compassionate conversations will guide the other person to think clearly.
Sometimes, to pick a suitable time to have meaningful conversations with friends, may not be possible, due to your personal reasons. Therefore, if you’re caught momentarily ‘off-guard’, give yourself a few moments in silence, to reconnect with your thoughts, before you say anything. An essential part of hygge is to be ‘mindfully present’ in the presence of the company you keep. This allows you to be completely ‘down to earth’ and ‘extremely reliable’ towards the other person. You exude total faith and trust to others, wherein they feel completely hygge and ‘un-judged’ in your presence.
Life throws lemons at everybody, occasionally. How we react and hygge through those ‘situations’ without ‘loosing’ it, is what remains of paramount significance, to be noted in your mind. Silence!! Quietude!! ‘Understanding’ the other!! Oh! That is a hard one to accept – YES!! Big Time!! Temperaments flying through the roof!! Well, look at it this way – it’s a diverse culture of human nature. Extremely difficult to think, but not impossible. And, the anecdote to your thoughts should be - Go for a walk in the woods. Have a cup of your favorite beverage, even with all those ‘painful thoughts’ on your mind. Look out the window and into the sky. Cry, if you have to. It releases the negativity within you. Then ask yourself in silence - Will all or any of ‘this’ matter to me or to anyone I know, six months from now??? Look back on the big picture ‘silently’. That is YOUR REALITY – YOUR HYGGE MOMENT!!
Processing the perception of Hygge every day, is what YOU as an individual, make it out to be. There is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ for hygge-ing with friends, family, or acquaintances. Whether you’re dining with people, or spending time alone or gardening, your thought process on hygge, and the way you feel, makes an extensive transformation to your mental health. Hygge is mentally processed differently by everybody. Hygge basically embodies your attitude, focus, and attention towards different ‘situations’. The more mindful you are towards diverse cultural understanding, the less significant is the ‘hype’ around you.
Practicing hygge regularly doesn’t take much out of your busy day. You’re bound to do whatever it takes, to feed yourself and your family. You would then usually slow down towards the evening with your favorite drink or a snack or perhaps visit a friend or even have friendly barbeque fun evening. In anything and everything you do, the ‘hygge process’ that exists in it, is the ‘concentration’ on whatever you do. Savouring each moment in quietude encompasses that deep hygge feeling. It’s best when you make moments similar to these, personal to you.
Every ‘characteristic’ in the process of hygge lies completely in the ‘concentration’ of your ‘intentional mindfulness’ of what you do. Whether you’re cooking, baking, dining indoors or outdoors, walking in the woods, visiting someone in hospital or at a rest home, and so much more than just the daily grind of life, the point is to be ‘consciously’ and ‘mindfully’ present in those moments. Making hygge your ‘intentional way of life’ and an excellent habit, will simply bring out in you, empathy towards others, and even improve your mental health. You will soon realise that nothing out there is more important than your daily composure.
When you’re in harmony with your thoughts, you automatically slowdown and begin to focus, and deeply comprehend, with sensible reasoning, over the ‘who, when, why, what, how, and where’ of what your ‘situation’ is or was. You realise the ‘hype’ around those daily ‘issues and situations’ that can’t be controlled, don’t need ‘your’ extra fuel to the existing fire. You begin to realise that though cultural differences will always exist, you will walk away graciously and unscathed. This should be your hygge process and the slowing down of your thoughts, bringing you to that much needed awareness, to realise that nothing matter ‘after a while’. Everybody moves on, no matter what had happened in the past. Not to say – and so should you, but it inevitably happens whether you choose to accept it or not. So slowdown mindfully and Hygge away happily!! Cheers!!
Well then, the fun part starts now. How do you maintain your ‘calm’ when you just had a harsh/hard day at your workplace?? How do you hygge after going through an unexpected tough day at the office?? How will you hygge it out, when you know that the implications of that ‘unexpected’ incident are still playing heavily on your mind?? How do you enjoy a candlelit dinner, or sit by a roaring fireplace, when you know that the ‘incident’ has not been resolved, yet, is playing on your mind?? Situations seem tough, especially when things don’t go according to desired plans. So how do you hygge in anxiety??
All these thoughts over unexpected situations that blow up in your face, probably from time to time, can be combatted!!! Yes, you read that right!! It can be dealt with. And again, with hygge. In all sincerity, when you’re calm and relaxed, even with concentration on all those disturbances encountered, you immediately become mindful of the ‘unexpected events’, you encountered all along.
The simple practice of actually slowing down your thoughts and evaluating all aspects of your unpleasant encounters, gives you a fresh perspective on how to have a better grip over similar situations in future. This quietude should be valued because without slowing down your thoughts, you would not have been able to come to any sort of ‘structural’ realization.
In retrospect, all that transpired and got sorted out, is your special hygge moment. Give your personal value to yourself of mindfulness of that hygge moment. Remember its mindfulness that is the crucial ingredient of hygge. Practicing mindfulness in every situation, tough or otherwise, will automatically become a habit when it’s done with alertness and consciousness. Give a deep and quiet thought about ‘feeling the value’ of those hygge moments, for yourself.
Nobody else can or has to feel and value hygge the way you do. Your approach of experiencing hygge should be and will always be personal to you. You know best for yourself how to hygge through your day – tough or otherwise. Value the time you spend alone, and/or with company. Be mindful about your ‘impressions’ of others and their approaches to enjoying a hyggeligt moment. May not be the same as yours, but its fun all the same, for them. Value those thoughts, appreciate the experience, and move on with your life.
The simplicity of hygge lies far more in mindfulness and gratitude among many other aesthetic factors. Give hygge your personal value, by being honest with yourself and also with those around you. Remember, nobody’s perfect. Ask yourself again – will this issue matter to me in about six months from now on?? What value did it bring me for myself?? Did it improve and diversify my approach toward thoughtfulness?? Continue adding personal value to your impressions in this way, and remember, it’s YOUR hygge. Everyone else has moved on. So, enjoy your hyggeligt time with your favorite beverage, and hygge away!!! Cheers!!!
So what’s the point to all of this?? Hygge!! How?? Where’s the Hygge in it?? This part may be a bit challenging to explain, but it’s not impossible to understand. If you have an ‘intentional’ hygge mind-set, your outward appearance, actions, and gestures, reflect your personality. By that same token, there is the saying that goes – what you see is what you get. So how do you make a ‘difference’ to those who don’t know you?? It’s very simple – have a helpful mind-set. We all know that there is a bit of caution involved in that too. Have a ‘present’ mind-set. Be on your guard as well, so as to be aware of your surroundings and the people around you.
People in general are always on the lookout for ‘tips and hints’ from kind ‘strangers’. You’ll never know the ‘difference’ you make to a total stranger without even knowing it. If you ever receive a compliment from a stranger, who brings to your notice, what he / she may have felt ‘good’ about you, show your gratitude. There again, you made that person’s day, the hygge way. That intense feeling of gratitude may or may not be something that you even thought was of any significance to you, but to that person, it was. Something that may not feel hygge to you, may be of utmost and passionate hygge to another. The significant fact, is to practice pleasantries silently, calmly, and with utmost caution, with strangers who appreciate you.
Do you believe it’s really enough to be appreciated only by the people who know you?? Would you think it’s inappropriate for a total stranger to walk up to you and appreciate your kind gestures of perhaps, holding open the door for him / her?? Don’t worry, there’s nothing wrong with that. So think about it – would you like to make a difference in peoples’ lives, just by ‘being’?? The point here is, it all begins with ‘YOU’ - Yes, just YOU and your mind-set. How do you feel about yourself?? Your actions?? Your moves?? Your disposition… So on and so forth?? It all plays out on your external gestures towards those around you, thus making a positive impact on others around you or a negative one. So, being mindful all the time, will portray you in a positive light, which in turn leaves a pleasant hygge memory in the minds of those you cross paths with. Cheers and happy Hygge moments all the way!!!
Depression of a 'situation' isn't something to be taken lightly. It is an experience that everyone goes through almost daily. Be it in our relationships, daily responsibilities, professional scenarios, or whatever the case maybe, everybody experiences a 'forbidding' situation at some point or the other. The fact is to actually hygge through those gutwrenching painful moments, patiently. Difficult?? Yes!! Extremely!! Impossible?? No!! Different people have diverse behaviors of processing sorrow, dejection, agony, etc. Some go for long walks or play basketball or have their own particular way to overcome that 'temporary' heartache.
In today’s fast paced world where technology rules and its endurance of the fittest, when and/or where can you have the opportunity to slow down and breathe through the ongoing chaos?? What can you do for yourself, to actually slow down the ‘hygge’ way?? Is it even possible, with this enduring contemporary trend, speed, and pace of technological development?? Yes, off course!!! Anything is possible, provided you have the intention, mindset, and the focus to accomplish what you’ve set out to do. Hygge is all about perceiving and appreciating your modest preferences and luxuries you come across every single day. And, by that same token, along with your personal daily desires, also follows that daily grind.
Hygge-ing through that daily grind is your personal choice. Or else, you can choose to deal with your issues, calmly or otherwise. Focusing on the optimistic side of an undesirable situation, in calm concentration is, kind of ‘a trying moment’, ‘to really accept’, at first. But, with your Favorite beverage and your calm and undivided attention to detail, there will be a ‘solution’ to your questions. Understanding the technicality of your glitches, in the comfort of your thoughts, and in silence, sorts out a major portion of your issues. The rest is a matter of explaining the impact and sustainability of negativity, positively.
Hygge-ing through certain challenges of the technical part of your job is something not so very easy to do or follow. It’s up to each individual to emphasize concentration with calm and clear positivity on finer details and fine tuning your ‘delicate’ situation. To follow the hygge way of living, you have to slow down, which simply means that calm and clear, mindfulness and awareness of your ‘situation’. It’s your mindset – totally and completely.
Furthermore, differences of opinions can be accepted or rejected with in-depth explanation, focusing on collaborative understanding of issues presented. Slowing down your thought processes, clearly makes you mindfully and consciously aware of your situation, and those around you, and/or those involved, to the point where every little intricate detail can be dealt with your presence of mind, over your presented situation.
So, try hygge-ing through your ‘technical’ issues and complications, to gain better clarity, easy solutions to those ‘assumed’ ‘serious imaginary’ pressures, and you’ll simply realize for yourself, that nothing is/was really that ‘momentous’ after all.
It’s only with passage of time and in retrospect over the past years of memories, you not only realize all the good times you had and shared with others, but also realistically speaking, the not so very pleasant times as well, and in saying that, also, the pranks and giggles, you had fun with all along. Remembering those ‘good times’ you realized today, are your very own hygge moments. YOU have to give ‘hygge’ ‘your’ personal touch. Just the way reminiscing over those pleasant memories of the past brought joy and a smile to your face, so also should be your current thoughts, every time. Difficult sometimes?? YES!!! Impossible?? NO!!!
Currently, the way in which our world is functioning, anyone would wonder, what difference would it make to reminisce over past memories, and how would those ‘thoughts’ change anything as of right now. Honestly, NOTHING. Reminiscing over memories of yesteryears and enjoying a little chuckle over those intricate details, will not change what the current moment holds for you. But by that same token, it does bring you a certain amount of PEACE from those thoughts, for the moment. And who knows, you might even try to ‘live a little’ and may even give you some ideas or hints to ‘relive’ those memories for ‘yourself’ for your private peace of mind. Those ‘memories’ may trigger you to probably visit old friends, have a chuckle with them occasionally over meals, or drinks, talk to someone you haven’t heard of or met in ages, who knows…technology hasn’t failed us!!
Life goes on!! All those happy memories of yesteryears, will not only bring joy to our senses, but will also bring a tear or two to our minds as well, simply through comparisons of those beautiful past memories of yesteryears, and the current situations of life. Appreciative thoughts of gratitude towards those memories, brings peace to your mind. It will not bring the past back but it will certainly bring ‘PEACE’ to your conscience. Keep those yesteryears ‘hygge’ thoughts alive always!!
Everybody is human and capable of making mistakes, occasionally in life. It should not be something that should condemned the doer for life. It’s a mistake. A genuine mishap. People all over the world additionally have a diverse range of temperaments. What is to be understood is that, whatever be your situation, approach it with a mindset of understanding the circumstances causing those issues.
Your ‘approach’ towards the people involved, in any given situation, is what is of utmost importance to the people you’re dealing with. Those you’re dealing with, will naturally expect and hope that you will/can/may have a solution to the issues at hand. They hope that you will/can/may make the problem go away on its own, with or without a huge hue and cry over it.
On the other hand, if you intend to name and shame them, due to their lack of information on the subject, think about this first. How am I going to share common knowledge or teach this person right from wrong?? Is my approach to the people I deal with a healthy one?? Will they learn effectively from me?? Or am I ‘spoon-feeding’ my colleagues?? Will my approach be respected and accepted with gratitude?? If I snub them, what will my ‘behavior’ accomplish?? Will this ‘project’ we’re working on, matter ten years from now on to my colleagues?? How do I want to be remembered?? A leader or a snob?? What sort of ‘impression’ about myself am I leaving behind?? When I ‘cross paths’ in future with those familiar faces, will they come up to me and say a friendly hello?? Or would they think of me as the ‘one with the undesirable behavior’ upon seeing me in a social setting??
There are millions of questions that you can continue asking yourself over and over again. But, at the end of it all, it is up to YOU to figure it out for yourself, and to understand the lasting impression, you want to leave upon the other person. If you can change your ‘mindset’ from being ‘the one with the undesirable approach’ to your colleagues, to the one with a ‘desirable approach’ and with a problem solving mindset, you have not only done yourself a enormous favor, but also conquered a very ‘humanistic’ title for yourself, in the minds of people who knew you. Every little detail about you is remembered by those who knew you. Whether it’s a simple hello, how are you, or to guiding people on important ‘projects’ in hand.
People evaluate every ‘move’ you make. Your mannerisms, gestures, your genuineness in the tone of your voice, so on and so forth. It’s simply because people desire to ‘learn’ from another – knowingly or subconsciously. It’s as simple as following or favorite celebrity. You’ll never know whether YOU are someone’s ‘celebrity’ or not. Always bear in mind that when your friends and /or colleagues, recognize you from past collaborations, they should remember you for your compassion, support, the ‘real guiding light’ who they not only have learnt from, and encouraged teamwork, but also someone they trusted in times of dire need, to ‘come through’ for them, knowingly or unknowingly. And who they can share a laugh over a beer with in future.
Sometimes we can and can’t keep up with tête-à-têtes in ‘practical’ situations, which then turns into ‘judgmental’ thinking, and can then go spiraling ‘downhill’ from there on, in our minds. When you’re mindful of your visualised situation, the ‘other path’ to take, should be to ‘deliberately encounter’ those ‘judgmental thoughts’ with silence. Silence your thoughts by keeping quiet. Try not to react to what you heard or saw. Remember that what you witnessed does not necessarily require your reaction or attention, unless asked for.
Awareness of a situation through intentional consciousness is very much an integral part and essence of Hygge. Whether you’re with friends, family, or acquaintances, your very ‘being’ should invoke ‘Hygge’ in the minds of those around you. And this requires something as simple as your ‘mind-set’. It requires deep and sincere empathy towards the other person. Reality bites all the time. The essence of your conversations should be such that, no matter how painful a perceived situation may be, compassionate conversations will guide the other person to think clearly.
Sometimes, to pick a suitable time to have meaningful conversations with friends, may not be possible, due to your personal reasons. Therefore, if you’re caught momentarily ‘off-guard’, give yourself a few moments in silence, to reconnect with your thoughts, before you say anything. An essential part of hygge is to be ‘mindfully present’ in the presence of the company you keep. This allows you to be completely ‘down to earth’ and ‘extremely reliable’ towards the other person. You exude total faith and trust to others, wherein they feel completely hygge and ‘un-judged’ in your presence.
Life throws lemons at everybody, occasionally. How we react and hygge through those ‘situations’ without ‘loosing’ it, is what remains of paramount significance, to be noted in your mind. Silence!! Quietude!! ‘Understanding’ the other!! Oh! That is a hard one to accept – YES!! Big Time!! Temperaments flying through the roof!! Well, look at it this way – it’s a diverse culture of human nature. Extremely difficult to think, but not impossible. And, the anecdote to your thoughts should be - Go for a walk in the woods. Have a cup of your favorite beverage, even with all those ‘painful thoughts’ on your mind. Look out the window and into the sky. Cry, if you have to. It releases the negativity within you. Then ask yourself in silence - Will all or any of ‘this’ matter to me or to anyone I know, six months from now??? Look back on the big picture ‘silently’. That is YOUR REALITY – YOUR HYGGE MOMENT!!
Processing the perception of Hygge every day, is what YOU as an individual, make it out to be. There is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ for hygge-ing with friends, family, or acquaintances. Whether you’re dining with people, or spending time alone or gardening, your thought process on hygge, and the way you feel, makes an extensive transformation to your mental health. Hygge is mentally processed differently by everybody. Hygge basically embodies your attitude, focus, and attention towards different ‘situations’. The more mindful you are towards diverse cultural understanding, the less significant is the ‘hype’ around you.
Practicing hygge regularly doesn’t take much out of your busy day. You’re bound to do whatever it takes, to feed yourself and your family. You would then usually slow down towards the evening with your favorite drink or a snack or perhaps visit a friend or even have friendly barbeque fun evening. In anything and everything you do, the ‘hygge process’ that exists in it, is the ‘concentration’ on whatever you do. Savouring each moment in quietude encompasses that deep hygge feeling. It’s best when you make moments similar to these, personal to you.
Every ‘characteristic’ in the process of hygge lies completely in the ‘concentration’ of your ‘intentional mindfulness’ of what you do. Whether you’re cooking, baking, dining indoors or outdoors, walking in the woods, visiting someone in hospital or at a rest home, and so much more than just the daily grind of life, the point is to be ‘consciously’ and ‘mindfully’ present in those moments. Making hygge your ‘intentional way of life’ and an excellent habit, will simply bring out in you, empathy towards others, and even improve your mental health. You will soon realise that nothing out there is more important than your daily composure.
When you’re in harmony with your thoughts, you automatically slowdown and begin to focus, and deeply comprehend, with sensible reasoning, over the ‘who, when, why, what, how, and where’ of what your ‘situation’ is or was. You realise the ‘hype’ around those daily ‘issues and situations’ that can’t be controlled, don’t need ‘your’ extra fuel to the existing fire. You begin to realise that though cultural differences will always exist, you will walk away graciously and unscathed. This should be your hygge process and the slowing down of your thoughts, bringing you to that much needed awareness, to realise that nothing matter ‘after a while’. Everybody moves on, no matter what had happened in the past. Not to say – and so should you, but it inevitably happens whether you choose to accept it or not. So slowdown mindfully and Hygge away happily!! Cheers!!
Well then, the fun part starts now. How do you maintain your ‘calm’ when you just had a harsh/hard day at your workplace?? How do you hygge after going through an unexpected tough day at the office?? How will you hygge it out, when you know that the implications of that ‘unexpected’ incident are still playing heavily on your mind?? How do you enjoy a candlelit dinner, or sit by a roaring fireplace, when you know that the ‘incident’ has not been resolved, yet, is playing on your mind?? Situations seem tough, especially when things don’t go according to desired plans. So how do you hygge in anxiety??
All these thoughts over unexpected situations that blow up in your face, probably from time to time, can be combatted!!! Yes, you read that right!! It can be dealt with. And again, with hygge. In all sincerity, when you’re calm and relaxed, even with concentration on all those disturbances encountered, you immediately become mindful of the ‘unexpected events’, you encountered all along.
The simple practice of actually slowing down your thoughts and evaluating all aspects of your unpleasant encounters, gives you a fresh perspective on how to have a better grip over similar situations in future. This quietude should be valued because without slowing down your thoughts, you would not have been able to come to any sort of ‘structural’ realization.
In retrospect, all that transpired and got sorted out, is your special hygge moment. Give your personal value to yourself of mindfulness of that hygge moment. Remember its mindfulness that is the crucial ingredient of hygge. Practicing mindfulness in every situation, tough or otherwise, will automatically become a habit when it’s done with alertness and consciousness. Give a deep and quiet thought about ‘feeling the value’ of those hygge moments, for yourself.
Nobody else can or has to feel and value hygge the way you do. Your approach of experiencing hygge should be and will always be personal to you. You know best for yourself how to hygge through your day – tough or otherwise. Value the time you spend alone, and/or with company. Be mindful about your ‘impressions’ of others and their approaches to enjoying a hyggeligt moment. May not be the same as yours, but its fun all the same, for them. Value those thoughts, appreciate the experience, and move on with your life.
The simplicity of hygge lies far more in mindfulness and gratitude among many other aesthetic factors. Give hygge your personal value, by being honest with yourself and also with those around you. Remember, nobody’s perfect. Ask yourself again – will this issue matter to me in about six months from now on?? What value did it bring me for myself?? Did it improve and diversify my approach toward thoughtfulness?? Continue adding personal value to your impressions in this way, and remember, it’s YOUR hygge. Everyone else has moved on. So, enjoy your hyggeligt time with your favorite beverage, and hygge away!!! Cheers!!!
So what’s the point to all of this?? Hygge!! How?? Where’s the Hygge in it?? This part may be a bit challenging to explain, but it’s not impossible to understand. If you have an ‘intentional’ hygge mind-set, your outward appearance, actions, and gestures, reflect your personality. By that same token, there is the saying that goes – what you see is what you get. So how do you make a ‘difference’ to those who don’t know you?? It’s very simple – have a helpful mind-set. We all know that there is a bit of caution involved in that too. Have a ‘present’ mind-set. Be on your guard as well, so as to be aware of your surroundings and the people around you.
People in general are always on the lookout for ‘tips and hints’ from kind ‘strangers’. You’ll never know the ‘difference’ you make to a total stranger without even knowing it. If you ever receive a compliment from a stranger, who brings to your notice, what he / she may have felt ‘good’ about you, show your gratitude. There again, you made that person’s day, the hygge way. That intense feeling of gratitude may or may not be something that you even thought was of any significance to you, but to that person, it was. Something that may not feel hygge to you, may be of utmost and passionate hygge to another. The significant fact, is to practice pleasantries silently, calmly, and with utmost caution, with strangers who appreciate you.
Do you believe it’s really enough to be appreciated only by the people who know you?? Would you think it’s inappropriate for a total stranger to walk up to you and appreciate your kind gestures of perhaps, holding open the door for him / her?? Don’t worry, there’s nothing wrong with that. So think about it – would you like to make a difference in peoples’ lives, just by ‘being’?? The point here is, it all begins with ‘YOU’ - Yes, just YOU and your mind-set. How do you feel about yourself?? Your actions?? Your moves?? Your disposition… So on and so forth?? It all plays out on your external gestures towards those around you, thus making a positive impact on others around you or a negative one. So, being mindful all the time, will portray you in a positive light, which in turn leaves a pleasant hygge memory in the minds of those you cross paths with. Cheers and happy Hygge moments all the way!!!