How to Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships in 2024
5 things you should never do to keep people in your life
If you’d told my younger self that I would be in 9 different failed relationships by age 19, she would never have believed you.
I had bought into the fairy tale that I’d be ugly for a while. But like the ugly duckling, I would transform overnight into a beautiful swan. Then I would meet my handsome prince, and live happily ever after.
There was no room for meeting and losing several Prince Charmings and even less room to realize that I was the problem.
5 Things I Was Doing Wrong
#1: Needing external validation
Imagine meeting an amazing person. But all they do is look down on themselves. That’s how I was.
In one relationship, I kept asking my partner, “Do you really love me?”, “Do you think I’m pretty?”, “Would you love me if I were a worm?”
At first, he found it cute. But over time, anytime I asked, he would sigh. My incessant need for validation was exhausting him. But I was too blind to notice. Eventually, he reached his limit, and so we broke up.
The truth is, no one likes overly needy people. That kind of energy is draining…
