How to Ask for What You Want
Tips for how to better communicate your needs
I’m sitting on a hilltop overlooking the city skyline with my date as we talk about nothing and everything. It’s our first date and things are going well. A chilly breeze wafts by and I shiver.
“Can you just — ” I take his arm and put it around me as I snuggle into his side.
He smiles to himself and pulls me closer.
“What?” I say.
“You ask for what you want. It’s really nice. I like it.”
I frown in confusion. “Do most people not do that?”
My date laughs. “No. No they don’t.”
Asking for what I want wasn’t always in my nature. But now, it’s as natural as breathing. I don’t even think about it.
I’m a far cry from the girl I was just a few years ago — scared to speak up for myself for fear of being left. Now I’m a woman who asks for what I want and is not afraid to voice my needs.
It was a long road to get here. Here’s how you can get better at asking for what you want and communicating your needs.
Start small
You don’t have to jump right into asking for the “big things,” if that is scary to you. You can ease into it. Start by voicing…
