Are You Hurting Your Own Feelings?
Don’t hold onto a person when the signs say they aren’t interested
Something I learned from my therapist is that it’s very possible to hurt your own feelings. To misinterpret a situation, or to hold onto something — like a relationship or love interest — when all the signs are clearly pointing to the fact that the other person isn’t interested.
What it means
Let’s talk about what I mean by “hurting your own feelings.”
Something happens and you get offended — but are you offended because what the person did was offensive, or are you offended because the other person is not reacting or behaving in the way you want them to?
Let’s do an example.
I’ve been pursuing this guy for a few weeks now. Normally, I don’t put so much time and effort into chasing after a man. But I like this one, and so I’m willing to run after him a bit.
But lately, I’ve been wondering if he’s even interested in me at all, or if he just likes the fact that a woman is after his affections. He’d flirt with me and respond well to my advances, and then the next day, he’d not reply to my messages or completely blow off plans we’d made.
